it's quite likely that you suck at dates how do I know this because almost every guy sucks at dates how do I know that because in 23 years of experience teaching guys and doing dates myself I've seen pretty much every mistake you can make and I actually made a lot of them particularly early on in my dating career so what am I going to do today I'm going to tell you the 10 biggest mistakes that I see guys make over and over again and these are absolutely tragic errors these are the type of errors that if you make one of them they can turn an otherwise good date into a Never Gonna See You Again date you're probably doing some of these wrong here are the top 10 biggest mistakes guys make in dating foreign dating mistake number one most guys put a lot of time and effort into planning a date they want to take a girl to the most amazing place and show her the most amazing time they want to emulate the dates they've seen on Hollywood movies that everything just goes so perfectly and Angels shower down magic pixie dust on you okay that's a beautiful idea and it's very sweet of you but it's tragically flawed because the very best most amazing thing to do probably isn't right near you and if you do the date half an hour away or an hour away or even 15 minutes away and you both drove separate cars the odds of the date ending back at your place are tremendously lower so by all means go do that amazing thing with the girl you're already dating and she's already your girlfriend and enjoy it but on a first date or on a date before you have consummated the relationship and you're clearly together before that please please please do the date near your place because the biggest thing that's going to get you a second date is hooking up on the first date okay whatever else happens the date is primarily about you and the girl and what happens between the two of you if you can't possibly do the date near your place do it near her place the last thing you want to do is far away from both and especially again if you both drove separate cars it is brutal to have an amazing date and then have it go nowhere simply because you chose the wrong damn location ideally you want the place to be within walking distance of where you live at a minimum you want there to be a clear path from that place to your place that you can execute on a continual basis and it is okay to go to the same place over and over again you can take different girls to the same bar it's completely fine common dating mistake number two Pop Quiz if you have a date at 8 30 PM or 8 30 a. m which date do you think is more likely to go really really well you're right 8 30 p. m why because as human beings there's this cultural expectation that evening is when fun things happen night time is when sex happens it just is culturally more viable at 8 30 PM also the types of venues that are open at 8 30 PM are a lot more conducive to a date right at 8 30 a.
m it's like breakfast places at 8 30 p. m it might be bars and other establishments that have more of a sexual adult vibe to them but the fact of the matter is going on the date at the right time of day is absolutely huge also Pop Quiz Number Two if the girl shows up for a date and she has five or six hours as a window or more to see you or if she has half an hour or an hour to see you which date's likely to go better that's right the date where she has more time and so common dating mistake number two is setting up dates that are just not the right time of day or not enough time in the date if a girl wants to meet you for breakfast if it's the only day you can possibly see her you're leaving town the next day and it's the only way okay then maybe take it but under any other circumstances turn it down have the date a day or two later and do do it at a time when something can actually happen between the two of you similarly if the girl says she can meet up with you but she only has an hour you know what unless it's the absolute only possible way you will ever see her logistically postpone it do it another day and by the way when girls have said they only have an hour and I've actually said you know what it sounds like you're really busy let's do it another time when you're free a lot of times they actually get more free right then and there I've had many times a girl says she has an hour I turn down the date and say let's do it when we have more time she says you know what I canceled my other plans now I have the evening free for you so that can actually work right then and there as well but the bottom line is this if you only have an hour to go on the date you're not going to get much interaction on the date you're not going to get far enough along in the courtship process and far far enough along to build connection to have a date that's going to be memorable to the girl that she's gonna consider a really great date and also obviously as men we do like dates that end in sex that's a lot easier when you have more time as well and one is at the right time of day as well okay so we talked already about setting up your dates in the right location how about setting up your dates at the right time and with the right time window like I don't ruin you for all men for like the next two years or something dating mistake number three also happens to be the single biggest mistake guys make with women across the board in all contexts ever which is simply not flirting just having boring platonic conversation over and over and over again until the girl just leaves out of like boredom and frustration in cold approach we'd call that the half hour conversation to Nowhere on a date we call it the four hour torture to Nowhere you have to flirt you have to make it man to woman on a date and it's even more inexcusable on a date than another context because the very fact the girl showed up to meet you on a date means she already understands that it's likely to be man-to-woman it likely is a date right the very fact that we call it the fatted communication the event-based communication that you're on a date with the girl says to her this guy's gonna make it man to woman if you then show up to the date and don't flirt and don't show any interest and don't tease and don't you know get physical at all if you don't do these things she's going to think that you are a little wussy pathetic man who does not have the balls to do it and she's going to lose so much respect for you okay you need to make it man to woman it's so frustrating when I see this because I do see it from students over and over and over again and I want to pull my hair out every single time and if on a technical level you don't know how to do this watch literally probably every third video on this channel is about flirting or teasing or man to woman in some way so the information is out there do it make it man to woman please for me and for yourself major mistake number four is an outgrowth of major mistake number three but it's one specific very important outgrowth and it was also my biggest sticking point personally when I learned dating and it was this for about the first year that I was doing game I actually learned how to talk to girls I learned how to get phone numbers I learned how to get dates I learned how to flirt a little bit in like very safe ways but I did learn how to flirt a little bit but the thing I didn't do was get physical specifically I didn't go for the kiss I went on date after date after date and I didn't go for the kiss and I had so many frustrations around this I remember one girl in particular I went on three dates with her they were absolutely beautiful incredible dates the tension was there it was incredible and like there were moments where she was literally like right in my face almost begging me to kiss her and I didn't go for it and then to add insult to injury after it didn't go anywhere with us a few months later I was in college at the time she was dating some guy at my college that was so lame and so pathetic and so much lower value and less attractive than me but I guess he went for the kiss so there you go and this girl was absolutely beautiful too it was frustrating and then the first girl I ever actually did get up the nerve to kiss guess what that was the first girl I slept with now granted I had learned a lot of other things and and that helped in that transition but look you have to go for it if you don't make the move it's very rare the girl will make it for you as nervous as you are about getting physical she's much more nervous because she will be judged much more than you will okay so if you're nervous like five out of ten she's nervous 50 out of 10.
