Do you know someone who is always complaining about their problems, the circumstances and life? And always put the blame in the government, their mother, their boss, their church. Do you know a person that collects a life of failures but always tries to put the blame on someone?
Is it really someone else fault? What are some of the characteristics of a victimhood and what are the damages that come with it? On the other side, what are the virtues in a protagonist, and how your steps could contribute to the life of many!
Sadly we live in a society where the numbers of victims increase each and every day. What are the risks that you could get from that? How to protect yourself, and how not to turn into one.
In my opinion, being a victim is the worse infirmity, sickness that someone could have full of melancholy that drag all of those who are around. I will start by giving the example of Facebook, that there are good things, but that 70% of all the posts are sad and melancholic and talking about other peoples’ problems when in reality they are actually hiding a personal dissatisfaction. Facebook is just becoming unbearable, because people can’t stop sharing tragedies and scandals, as if that would contribute anything to someone’s life.
And as a justification, they would write: I don’t agree with this, but I will still share it! Honey, if you share it, you propagate, if you propagate, you are part of it. What people are not noticing is that they are sharing hate, and bad news, instead of love and good news, and as a consequence, we are having a skeptic and victim society.
There is a book that says: And because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold. And do you know where you can see that? Today you can see that almost everywhere.
Facebook propagates that all the time. You watch people die all the time. People videotape other people dying.
And that is happening all the time, the love is dying out. Back in the day, when I was in high school, if someone started a fight, people would immediately separate and tell them to stop. Now if a fight start, everyone start to get their cell phones out, and start to record it!
That is such an imbecility! But that’s the path that society is walking to, towards imbecility! And imbecility takes you to skepticism, that is lack of love and compassion, lack of sensibility towards that which is happening, understand that a society that sees that all the time will turn themselves to be more skeptic and melancholic.
You will understand where I want to get. Love is the beginning of the inspiration and creation of something new. Love is the base of the passion for you to walk in a business, is the base of your relationship, in your family, for your animals, with everything.
Everything needs love to create inspiration, passion, a sparkle in the eyes. If you kill love, you walk in with skepticism. People that don’t love, don’t produce, so they keep giving excuses or blaming other people and that’s when they get melancholic.
Melancholic are people that are constantly emotionally ill, they are always trying to spread their disease, even without noticing. Do you know how to identify a melancholic? I will give you some of their characteristics.
A melancholic personality is sad, dramatic, and theatrical. They are an easy prey for strong emotions, and they dream a lot with whatever is unattainable. But Leandro, isn’t dreaming a good thing?
Of course! A prudent guy, that dreams, that plans that creates his step by step, he works with others to get it. But not a melancholic, because he would buy a bike but want to have a Ferrari.
Those are different feelings, it’s a melancholic dream, and not a reality that could be built. A Melancholic person is moved by jealousy that is camouflaged. What do others have that he doesn’t have?
What do others know how to do, that he doesn’t? He doesn’t want to walk the path of success. He looks at someone, and wants to have what that other person has, he doesn’t want to know what is in their heart so he could do step by step what they did to get there too.
He wants to be the person, have what they have. He feels insecure with their own identity, he doesn’t have his own DNA, he is a copy! And someone who is melancholic and insecure will have problems in every area!
We could talk about relationship. The women who already got married 10 times and they problem was always the guy! It’s the guy who already worked in so many businesses, and the problem was always the boss it’s the guy who will try to fool someone else.
In other words, there will always be artificial and wiles. Why? Because that is a reflection of insecurity for him not having an identification that he accomplished on his own!
Sad people with problems should be confronted and helped, and not conformed they should be thought, and not a fake compassion that keeps them trapped in the abyss. A melancholic person knows how to act like victims and they are constantly looking for saviors, they know how to self-sabotage. They are dramatic, and they invest in having problems.
They like to be appreciated, they reinforce their individuality. They like to attract people by showing them their weakness, so people might feel bad for them. With that he turns into someone who is consequential, but becomes someone completely unproductive.
Just so he could get a good image, he invents stories after stories, just to try to cover the result of their incompetence. It is just a fanciful dramatic melancholic that only attracts people alike. And when a melancholic sees that his story is no longer efficient where they are, it’s not dramatic anymore and it doesn’t attract people, what does he do?
He switches to another group, another place so he could attract other people, other victims, and other saviors. So why are the numbers of victims increasing day by day? Because the voice of the defenders of the pitiful ones is making more noise than letting people overcome their limits, instead of letting people confront their problems to win.
We are living in a uptight society, everything is considered bulling, everything you try to do they say you can’t. Today the teachers are not allowed to correct or discipline the children in many aspects. How’s that?
What type of society will you be forming? Who are you forming? A spoiled person?
A person that doesn’t know how to get away from a problem? How many times during school did you get into a fight, a problem, or someone insults you and you insult back? Those are things that happen during childhood that teaches the kids how to overcome themselves so they won’t turn into an uptight victim who is melancholic and dramatic.
Why do you say that Leandro? Because when he gets a job and his boss says to him, this here is not good, he will cry! Instead of saying: It´s not good?
Than tonight I will not sleep because I will do it better! Excellent people do not victimize themselves, excellent people are protagonists, which is something completely different. So we have to change this concept that we can´t do anything, that everything is fragile.
Creating excellent people requires having the attitude of making others win. Making others go through a test so they will be approved. We are living a society where a guy that’s successful is a problem; he should have done something wrong.
A guy that got rich probably stole from someone, so they prefer to criticize the guy that will open up doors for new jobs, they prefer to feel pity for those who are not winning. It’s not about having pity or something alike, it’s you getting this person and giving them confidence to win, and not keep leaking their wound because that won’t help in anything. A guy that is winning and conquering went through difficulties too, but people like to point out problems because in reality they don’t have the capacity to do what they have done.
It’s a victims and melancholic society. If you are like that understand that you will be just another reflection of how most people are, in other words, you won’t do anything. A protagonist is someone who knows how to feel the weight of pain but he knows how to conquer it.
He knows that it’s not time to cry, or put their head down and say: “Ohh I couldn’t do it, poor me”. He doesn’t think like that. He says: “What did just happen?
Than I will overcome it! I will do bigger, and better! ” No matter what happens, they know that the circumstances could not stop them.
They know that nothing is going to happen if they keep making up excuses, so they get focused, they keep focus. We can talk about a Feline. When a jaguar is about to attack someone of some animal, they focus on their prey, and during the attack there could be other preys in the way that are even easier to catch, but they keep going until the end because its focus is in one goal.
A protagonist knows where they want to get. A protagonist is moved by challenges, do you know what they mostly love? Their enemies.
Really Leandro, you will talk about enemies? Yes, because it’s true. Look at soccer, does Vasco exist without Flamengo?
No! They are opponents, they are enemies, they fight to win and that is what puts fire in peoples hearts. It could be other soccer teams too, the point is: The opponents show us in what parts we should get better so we could be better than the ones that passed by us.
Take me for example, I am extremely grateful for my enemies and haters that taught me how to be better, because they showed me how to grow in life. Ever since I was a sales man, my coworker would challenge me to who would sale more. I love to be challenged.
But there are people that you would give a challenge and they would say: “I don’t think I can do it and stuff. ” Dude! Stop with the pity, stop with the melancholic feeling, stop with the dramatic friendships, stop hanging out with people who put you down.
Believe in your dreams, believe that you can it, when someone tells you that you will not win, get that as an impulse to tell yourself that you will, and that if other people try to drag you down with words, tell them that they can believe and have faith in whatever they want but that I know where I will get, because I am the protagonist who will always win! I will give you a recent example, there is a soccer player called Cristiano Ronaldo, everyone probably knows him. This guy could have told a pity story of him growing up in a poor and dangerous place, with a lot of family problems and everything.
But he turned the story that could have been another sad one to a story of overachievement. For those who knows his story knows that Cristiano was used to overcoming himself during his childhood. So parents, stop defending your children in everything because you’re creating a spoiled child who won’t get anywhere in life.
Because he knew how to conquer difficulties and keep going even with problems he got to a place where he is right now. And you know what’s funny? Try to see a game where the opposite team hostiles him, that is the worse thing they can do.
Because when they hostile him, he gets mad and angry and he starts to have this glow, this will power to win and make goals so he would prove to them that he is there to win. That is a characteristic of a protagonist. And that is not about jealousy or whatever.
It’s about overcoming, it’s you saying: I need to win so others would look at me and be inspired and have their own victories, create a story of winners and not losers. The great mission of a protagonist is to leave their mark on people, to leave inspiration for those who will come after them, and a legacy of everything that they have done. Think about that.
