Mastering Body Language The Art of Nonverbal Communication - Speed-Read What Everybody Is Saying

Chapter 1 introduction understanding body language in different activities we communicate not only through the spoken language but equally through the way our body expresses itself through mimic gesture touch and physical proximity bodily Expressions reinforce and emphasize the spoken word often they can stand alone and tell more in a single Gest Than aund words just think of the smile and the little nod you can send to an older fellow who just got on the bus which means right now I'm sitting in this room but I can see that you might need to be able to sit

down during the trip more than myself therefore I would like to offer you this seat please take a seat when the little child in the middle of a conversation with the mother suddenly turns his head away a gesture That can mean I'm tired dry safe and well behaved it has been nice to talk with you but now I have become a little tired of all the communication and presence if you could give me a little break that would be nice nonverbal communication is essential to our ability to express ourselves as nuanced and diverse as possible

much of the non-verbal communication is universal the friendly and welcoming intention of a smile is Understood by everyone whether you are thin Malay or from Eric strobing jestic and mimic come first stitching mimicking and the ability to say something with our body comes to us before the spoken language is possessed the kind of communication stays between the spoken language and the motorist Williams and hagor has researched non-verbal communication and found out that gesture and mimic have a significant role as the building block In children's language acquisition in her PhD Mary baj Wang has dissertation researched

the relationship between children's motor skills and their language one of the specific mechanisms that are very directly associated with both motor skills and languages is our non-verbal Communication in her dissertation Mary vaj Wang points out among other things that a large proportion of children who have a late language development often Have a very poor unaccompanied or completely missing body language their ability to use gestures and mimics fingers hands arms face and body positions and thereby their ability to make themselves understandable nonverbal and emphasize the spoken is inadequate however Mary vaj Wang's research does not reveal

whether it is the inability to use her body to talk with that affecting the verbal language Or whether the delayed verbal language is due to the lack of body language but she argues that the children's life is already early in the children's life this is done by the fact that the adult is aware of his own body language and by playing encouraging and showing children that their own signals are read and by showing them how to use their gestures mimics and Body Language themselves to actively participate in interaction with Others we remember recall and understand

better words when accompanied by gestures mimics and body movements therefore by being aware of our body language and using it actively with the children we can make it easier for them to acquire the spoken language Recent research has shown that children and adults with a well-developed and nuanced body language have a greater impact on other people it's the state of a positive Circle for the feeling of being listened to understood and acknowledged motivates us to seek out more situations and experiences with others curiosity and the desire to take the world are inspired by the success

we experience when communication Works encouragement and understanding of others our innate emotional preparedness is the direct path to empathy and understanding for others this preparedness was first Mapped in 1989 by risala Fage and galise with the findings of mirror neurons the mirror neurons act as small mirrors that capture the sender's emotional and intentional signals they respond by initiating and tuning for a signal they receive a signal that can both be a concrete physical act like when an infant imitates the facial expression of a wax by opening and closing the mouth when the adult makes Grimaces

or when a child in the playroom shows how to touch a bernes or put a pie in the oven by depicting the movements of the parents when they cook in the kitchen just as most of us have experienced how our complete uptake of the needs of the young child has made us copy the child's Behavior so that we are sitting open mouth when the spoon is carried towards the child's mouth the signal may also be of an emotional nature and and convey a particular mood Or emotional expression the presence of other people invites invitations and

interaction through innate networks That Tune us into the counterparty's emotional signals from here the signal proceeds to the brain surface where mirror neighbors are activated as if we performed the physical or practical action the nerve cells in the brain that are first activated are the cells that plan an action without performing it this brain Area is called the premotor range that is the pre motion range pre before engine motion one could say that in this brain area a program is stored that contains information about which movements can be performed and how if the action is

to be performed for example stretching the arm and grasping something the mirror neurons provide information to another brain cell area the motor that then sends specific signals for Activation of Certain muscles the premotor cortex therefore saves both movements we have performed as well as patterns of movements we have seen others perform some of these movements are the little child able to copy on the spot other movements May lie out outside the child's current stage of development but will be taken into use on the day that the child is engineered and cognitively developed to vibrate the

movement with this knowledge in mind Therefore do not be afraid to initiate activities as all the children are unable to participate correctly the gap between what young children aged 0 to2 are capable of is enormous in the three years children develop rapidly in some periods almost with new skills and Conquest from dayto day hitting the entire child group from 0 to 2 years with the activities you start is therefore an almost impossible task the common important thing is that They at each stage of their development benefit from the doctor in different ways common attention educational

staffs are language role models for the children and from a social interaction angle all the conversations stories outbreaks comments and all non-verbal communication are the collaboration between the adult and the child it is a common language work both of which contribute to the interaction and common desire to Exchange which is so important for the child's language acquisition common attention is is drawn to the ability of the will and persistent attention while sharing this attention with another the child must be able to search and select significant stimuli exclude the insignificant and shift focus when appropriate in

the interaction and dialogue gaining common attention means that you are able to follow the other's Direction of attention to share the other's attention focus to take on the other's attention perspective the ability of common attention already begins when the child is about 7 months old at this age it is possible for the well stimulated child together with an adult to simultaneously look at a particular subject such as the cat the turmoil or the child's foot the adults and the child align their eyes with the same subject the Child looks at the subject and then looks

at the adult to read his actions and words the child is simply waiting for an explanation what is it what is it called what can it be used for what do you think of what we see what happens the important thing here is that the child has the opportunity to read The Gaze of the adult's facial expressions mimics gestures intonation and thus the emotional reaction that accomp companies the words the common Focus and the ability of the adult to elucidate the purpose and meaning of the object or action is to expand the child's vocabulary and

create a language scaffolding about the subject or the action the adults thus give the language to the child and the more senses involved in this process the faster and better the words and their meaning are stored in the child's small dictionary and the more situations of common concern the better the child acquires New words and understands their meaning the emotional relationships between child and adults thus influence both vocabulary and the quality of this chapter 2 using body language for your development body language affects how others see you but it can also change how we see

ourselves and how we think in addition the study used salivary samples to prove that expansive body positions actually changed the Hormone levels of participants in Just 2 minutes decreasing cortisol and increasing testosterone and behavior became more confident and comfortable either stressful or uncertain it is clear from research that our body language has more to do with our mind that we may have thought and in fact our body seems to come first when we change our posture and Body Language it unconsciously affects our thinking And decision making this is something that you occasionally think about but

rarely acts actively for a long time at a time like eating more vegetables however there is some research that suggests that it might be a very good idea to use some more effort to adjust on posture and body language as it affects how our life forms and how to get it Behavior researcher Eric pepper who has also conducted extensive research in The field regularly lets the participants in their classes rise and reach their arms Eric pepper is convinced that we should keep an eye on our posture and Body Language so it does not spoil our

mood and chances without realizing it many of us have jobs that require us to spend time working at desks so it is certainly important and beneficial to our health and well-being at all to know how to sit and stand with a good Posture that said the human body was built to move not to spend 8 hours in front of a computer as Amy cuy points out in the video it's not about fake it to you make it but rather about fake it until you become it as with all exercise Learning and Development if you do

it long enough it becomes a natural part of oneself thus changing your chances and happiness appearances contribute to Reality as a wise man once said it apparently contributes to reality worth thinking about and not least it is worth trying out some of the methods and ideas that are presented in the video do yourself a favor to watch this video with Amy cuy it is the knowledge that is worth spreading chapter 3 body language in relationship a smile a shrug blistering eyelashes crossed arms you send out signals to your surroundings without Delay about your mood and

intentions similarly you are constantly bombarded with the silent character of other people those who send their facial expressions cropping and movements popularly one says that the body's language accounts for 90% of the communication that others catch up with us your body language can substantiate what you say but it can also betray you or or directly contrast the words that come out of your Mouth step one find out if he is single can you see if he is single is it a stranger you'd like to approach you it's nice to know if he's busy and without

asking directly a wedding ring is a disappointing but clear signal in addition it's hard to know who's already in a relationship especially if the guy is alone or with other men if he is with a mixed group there are ways you can check if one of the women present is his girlfriend it is not quite easy to Distinguish between friendship and love but notice hoden is he touching wom especially younger women may find themselves sitting on the lap of a friend so a lady at the lap does not mean they are couple keeping your hand

for longer however is a clear love Mark likewise you can peel and tie a little to each other in different places but if a woman's hands dwell on the guy's goal or constantly lie on his upper arm they probably have something Or are on his way to it how close are they placed friends can often sit very close without anything but friendship but if your eyes are stuck and your legs are wrapped in another woman or leaning his head off her you should use your energy elsewhere so he is already involved how does the guy

temporarily leave the group when you are a boyfriend you would like to give your partner a praise before going to the bathroom and the like keep an eye on how he leaves The group and how he does his entrance is there anyone just to know that he's gone 5 minutes and is there a special woman he checks in with again when he comes back step two control your posture and mimic make him clear that you are attractive and interesting if you want to make a good impression on a man it's about looking open and welcoming

it's a good idea to put your own posture and mood underneath you can clean your body language for Errors By Practicing in front of the mirror stand go and face the mirror and notice if you send the signals you want would you like to approach a person who had organized body and face in those folds otherwise you have to arrange your posture is one of the things that tells you the most about you the way you stand on reflects our past our personality and philosophy of Life a rank position equals High self-esteem and in fact

you can go from signaling bad self-confidence to Signal High status just by straightening your back boost your gate by adding extra energy it seems hugely attractive get up push the pelvis a little and go with long strides you may wake up a healthy and competent time has a strong appeal to both sexes get the best of your bosom by stretching your shoulders back and running if you simultaneously push the elbows towards the waist so that the wrist arms protrude the breasts with a larger waistline appear to be Slimmer are you shy and you are having

difficulty keeping the guy's eyes long at a time instead straighten your eyes to his forehead or nose tip he will not notice the difference but for you the contact is far less intense when you get safer you can see him straight in the eyes in short sequences and always return to the cheating points if it's overwhelming step three how are you placed in relation to each other is he interested take the territory test are You out to eat with someone you want a relationship with you have good chances to take the temperature if he he's

ready for you mentally we have to share things and spaces around us into territories that is your page and my page and we will automatically feel ownership and guard over our own area do you sit and the man on each side of a table you will each have a part of the table that is yours in other words the table becomes a scene you can read a lot choose a thing On the table for example a salt tank arrange and move it as randomly as you speak when it does not seem too striking push the

thing forward and over on his half of the table take your hand while talking on if he is uninterested he will feel a bit uncomfortable in fashion over this intrusion into his room and unconsciously find some way to move things back to your part of the table if he has the thing he is fine with your approach if he touches it directly it is A sign that he is completely wavelength with you and would like to intensify the contact step four imitate his body language blow him up with your body language in him you have

made yourself intensive in his body language in fact with a little finesse you may have the luck of wiping a close guy up if you master The Mirror's art by simply imitating his body posture in general it is not a good idea to mirror closed or negative body language but if the guy You want to make an impression on for example standing up a wall with crossed arms then you start in the same position that way you show his subconscious that you share his feelings now you speak peacefully about Loosely and firmly probably he will

start relaxing a little more have patience and wait for him to feel comfortable if his convulsively formed arms become a bit looser you are well on your way you can test whether he Is opening You by letting your one arm hang loose down the body while the other is still over the chest elbow grip is he with you he will follow suit if he holds the close position you must also take it again and spend some more time warming him up try again to let one arm hang down once he has copied and you still

talk together you can open further by letting both arms hang down the side perhaps it takes a long time for him to do the same if he Cannot loosen up at all you can arrange him a drink or similar to wipe his arms out of the lock position when you finally stand breastless against breast without parades between you do not be able to hurry quickly Keep Calm do not approach you further or start touching him wait for at least 10 minutes if you want to make sure he is thought up chapter 4 the process of

understanding the body Language would you also want to look into your husband's head to find out what he thinks a place to start can be with his body language which can interpret you some of the ways but never bring you to aim in general be sure to over interpret not even the professional frames are right and it gives bad odds for amateurs it can be easy to figure out how people have it but why another case is immediate a consultant and ating expert specializes in body language to Alive the expert gives you some suggestions on

how to track what happens inside your husband in relation to psychology and Body Language he is lying a lie can be hard to understand because one can learn to figure out what people feel the challenge is that you may see what they feel but not why if your husband is lying he may tend to too much himself at the nose but be sure to overinterpret men in many contexts are Not as socially watchful as women are in the way they go out women often think about what looks stupid for others but it does not make

men as much therefore men often touch the face without considering sending a signal if it's a little white lie that he's fine with he probably will not show any emotional response for example if you have asked him if you look too thick in the pants you have just taken on if he likes lying For example if he says you are looking forward to giving your self confidence he will not show some typical signs of Lies but rather Joy if on the other hand he is in pain with the lie a little dust may come between

the eyebrows which are a sign of sadness which you may see through he must confess something bad some men can serve the unpleasant message directly and it may be a relief for him to have said that if he has been thinking for a long time exactly what he Should say he has no doubt been very nervous and suddenly it may fall out of him you may find that there is too much of him and it may seem overwhelming this may be a sign that he has gone up and build something and that therefore means a

lot to him survival can thus be a sign that he confesses something that is bad for him he has a wounded ego when men have a wounded ego they will often try to gain more Self-esteem and it turns out in several ways for example he will criticize other people especially stereotypes there may be groups he usually has a relaxed relation ship with for example foreigners who can bring some bad Prejudice to the surface it may be a drain to be allowed to criticize others and look for things with those who raise one's own ego it

is the same mechanism that applies to the fact that you really drink the full evening before The exam to take reservations that you can dump once it has gone bad you have an excuse that it went as it went there can be a way to get rid of it if you generally have low self-esteem you're better off that someone has shot one because you are being held in that way he doubts about your relationship here it can be really dangerous to start interpreting because it's hard to see General signs that your relationship is Falling downhill

some men are very boldly although they doubt what they have with the woman but do not say words that confirm her in the relationship other men may be very verbal but hardly boldly it is for the woman to look at changes in his normal pattern of action to Take It on the Run if the problem is that you do not grow enough sex your husband might have had so many rejections that he has Removed the attempts to get sex from you it can be a frustration which is the start of big problems in your relationship

and you can get something uncomfortable if you solve the problem how do men talk about sex among each other it is very different depending on who it is and what the level of trust is most men are significantly more bluffy more loyal and more discreet than most women are many men would die if they listened to a Friend's group and heard how women speak quite hard about sex and especially about men including the present man as they noted in parentheses themselves men are typically more careful and most women would be surprised at how little a

scooter actually is there can easily be a man's hearing but there is no doubt that it's only surface oral and hey hey when it comes to the real conversation about what actually happens or does not happen At at home men are loyal and discreet and men are much more willing to do something if I just knew what the hell I should do to make her understand open up relax many men are unaware of how women work and not least about how their own woman Works they do not understand the indirect communication and they do not

understand the connection between what happened on Saturday And the missing Wednesday is there a particular kind of sex that men dream and Miss yes both the wild porn sex and the slower sex what porno really is about is that she releases her inhibitions guilt and shame and gives it gas the slower close sex is much about the fact that when women call for more foreplay and so on it's typically that he gives her some forf very few women perceive that it is mutual and that men also want to be Moved overall she requires him to

drive the candles massage oil rose petals and long time even when they like it to get him in the penis for 30 seconds it's about to be right now so it must be good enough it's not men also want to be spoiled cheated thrown up for a long time at least once in a while my rule of thumb is that for each time she gives time to give him sex including forl and the big trip she can easily get three Four five times of the same return but she never does it and that's why it

eventually becomes what he does to her because he never gets upset do you think men have easier to distinguish sex and love than women that men are less likely to fall in love with sex yes or rather the masculine has easier to separate it while feminine falls in love with the lover much more often and much faster the sex then triggers the crush but because men more And more come into contact with their feminine side and women are getting more masculine access to their sexuality it is becoming more and more obscured there are still more

women who get a wham bam thank you ma'am approach to sex while men increasingly want the whole package the user would be if both parties allowed both approaches to sex both and instead of either or do men discuss our bodies between each other and if we are good at bed not To any particular extent it is mostly on the HEI HEI plane there is much more to the overall plan she looks good good good ass good breasts about women in general or her from the TV commercial movie when it comes to their own woman at

home it is much more discreet if the item has been a stupid bch she does not share in loyalty but the present boyfriend or her still in Emotion is rarely dissected or dissected in Public chapter five how non-verbal communication Works in business communication is a complex sociopsychological achievement of mutual understanding between people its most important tools are the verbal and non-verbal means of communication verbal from Latin interpretation means that's it with this more or less clear but we communicate not only with the voice most of our Message we pass through non-verbal communication mode non-verbal communication

body language or includes our facial expressions subjects eye contact posture and even functions in The annotation of our voice you do not even realize it but when vital to someone our non-verbal signals have a strong influence on the interviewer leaving more than half of their impressions of our speech if your particular profession is such That you often speak in front of groups of students or just to communicate with people at work knowledge of body language can greatly help you the ability to understand and apply non-verbal communication is powerful tools that will help you interact with

people and will help to create the right business understanding you will realize that your conversation partners really will be able to better Express and emphasize Their thoughts want a better understanding of complex situations and be able to build better relationships in the workplace in business and in the home nonverbal and verbal communication tools to help you create a better impression of yourself create forms of effects on the source which will help achieve their goals more effectively what is non-verbal communication and body language nonverbal communication or body language Is the most important form of communication it

is a natural unconscious language broadcast of our true feelings and intentions and the true feelings and intentions of those around us when we interact with others we are constantly serving and getting wordless signals functions in our non-verbal behavior mean that everything hand gestures how we stand or sit how fast and how loud we speak how close we are To the other party as in this case is our opinion we send becomes a message to the conversation partner the flow of these messages does not stop even when we stop talking even social dialogue we continue to

communicate on a nonverbal level often what we say and it gives us a call there are two completely different things verbal and non-verbal means of communication can provide completely contradictory information when The Listener receives such mixed Types of signals he must choose what to give priority to to receive verbal or non-verbal signals in most cases each of us consciously and unconsciously in this situation believes that it is non-verbal information words often play a lesser role times are verbal and non-verbal communication between humans it may seem incredible but what we say carries only 7% of the

information far more important for expression of our face 55% and tone of voice 38% and other forms of expression in relation to body language verbal messages are an intrical part of human communication accompanying the words they point to our current mental and physical state non-verbal communication can perform five functions controversy they must not coincide with what the man says and even completely contrary to what has been said for example the human eye may cause him grief even though he tries to joke Replacement they can replace a verbal message for example shrug replaces the words I

do not know update they can add or supplement the or message the head which is subordinate to the shoulders in addition to praise thereby increasing the efficiency of a positive message accent they emphasize the words for example you can slap a hand on the table emphasizing their resistance says the slap no it is especially important align to Unite all forms of communication if you want to build a successful business or make a good career if you cannot remember the five functions of non-verbal communication and do not start to follow the language of the body you

will not be able to make a good impression on others will not be able to create business relationships based on Trust on the other hand you will also always change signals in order to better focus on these signals you have to learn To read that is to perceive Behavior as the communication partner non-verbal expression in connection with the situation most people are visual unfairly their perception so that the contacts help with an i for them the most important ways of non-verbal communication when you look at a person you can see more affection hostility interest and

more seeing the conversation partner in the eye is also very important to maintain a Conversation even generally speaking longer eye contact than someone listening caller's eyes can tell us many things for example enlarged pupils indicate that the person is lying or he is unsure or neurotic facial expressions and gestures the human face is extremely expressive it is in a state without words to express innumerable feelings unlike some forms of non-verbal communication facial expressions are Universal Functions of facial expressions for Joy sorrow anger surprise fear disgust are exactly the same in people from different cultures which

are not true for example Phantoms your facial expressions instantly tell others what you think of this moment the most advanced weapons at all times and Lasting Smile it does not cost anything but much can smile opens all doors if you smile at the beginning of the business then your words will Cause a positive response people tend to imitate an expression on the face of the conversation partner so try using a smile as often as possible it's able to help you if you smile your mood is always improved but beware of inappropriate facial expressions even a

small crooked smile can lift all your efforts on the negotiations which lasted several hours and your reputation as a business person will be hopelessly spoiled in front of Your partner movements and positions in many ways our perception of other people dictates in the way we sit walk stand held his head the way we move and hold provides comprehensive information about the world we have and they cherish and even literally woven into the substance of our daily lives often we use our our hands when we argue or eagerly say something and do not even think about

it however the importance of phantoms may Be different sometimes even having the opposite of our usual meaning in different cultures so it is important to be careful to avoid misinterpretations non-verbal ways of communicating using Phantoms this is the visual part of what you really are in the present many hand movements such as rubbing your hands raised your finger can be uncomfortable to your friend excessive hand movements can be quite alarming and will also have a negative Effect on your colleague creating a favorable environment teaches to use open gestures this will mean that you are open

to the conversation partner and your intentions are not a threat to him particularly important is the gesture of business communication because it will cause your companion credibility the distance between callers have you ever felt uncomfortable during talk for the fact that the other person was too close to you this feeling is Well known to many of us we all need personal physical space though it may have its own characteristics depending on culture situation and proximity relationships distance value can be used for non-verbal communication of proximity aggression dominance or devotion and you should never violate the

personal intimate space of that person 50 cm we often communicate through touch think about how much information you Give us a firm handshake a terrible blow on your shoulder a warm bare hug and other verbal and non-verbal communication is Rich during a conversation because we not only listen to the words but also respond to the tone of The Voice it is not always crucial that you speak far more important than how you say it after all even her short yes can have quite different meanings if you say it with another innot we can say it's

Affirmative but you can inquiring uncertain sarcastic and so on show in your voice better than words can show dyslexia anger devotion insecurity or on the contrary self-esteem in notation includes voice speed volume fluency all of these elements serve to make sure that others can understand each other more clearly non-verbal signals cannot be forged you can remember tips on sitting talking or entering the room to look Confident but the truth is that these tricks are unlikely to work if the person does not want to feel really confident no one can control all the signals that tell

the person to understand all of these thoughts and feelings of the conversation partner it is therefore very important to learn to understand these non-verbal signals to control their own and be able to read other people we want to give you some tips non-verbal communication has become Easier for you be aware of inconsistencies non-verbal signals should strengthen what is being said do not you have people one thing at a time saying she thinks something completely different for example it tells you yes while almost imperceptibility shaking his head no merge all nonverbal signals do not attach too

much attention to a single gesture notice all the verbal characters including tone eye expression posture and other body language Signals together they will give you a complete picture you will be easier to understand if they are relevant to what your partner says trust your intuition do not dismiss from its unconscious attitude towards this person or person it is possible that your sense of someone's dishonesty or obscenity is based on the instinctive reading mismatch between verbal and non-verbal signals Person you need to understand the importance of verbal and non-verbal meaning of communication the way you listen

watch speak move and respond to the words of the conversation partner shows how sincere you are and how you are interested in the conversation when your non-verbal signals agree with what you say it's increased credibility Clarity and understanding if there is no match it creates tension distrust and confusion if you want to build a career Or successful in business and generally communicate better with people in all areas of your life learn to be more sensitive to body language and other nonverbal characters of others you should also understand what kind of signals you send when you

understand non-verbal communication your ability to connect with people will go to a higher level chapter six what is better verbal or non-verbal communication nonverbal communication is all that is Untrue and conveys a parallel message with our speech flow through emphasis mimic breaks regulation and posture thus summarizing our body language all this constitutes an important meaning forming part of human communication helping to shape the image of ourselves and to Define and possibility developer relationships with the people we are in contact with throughout our lives non-verbal Communication in Connection with non-verbal communication you can already learn something

new about yourself for free did you know find out if you are predominantly either auditory visual emotional or logical in your way of understanding the world non-verbal communication greatly supports the verbal communication so so the cender of a message will be understood correctly the body language also largely helps to say something about our state of mind and what we Sincerely mean and feel at the moment conversely our state of mind also reflects in the body language as the outside world reads did you know that you have one of the world's most advanced computers between your

ears although no one has been given or has re searched the final manual for the brain we know that it processes many more information in the subconscious the unconsciousness of your Consciousness and much more than those used for External communication between you and other people Recent research has also shown that there is a correlation between your psyche and your physical well-being in the body or the opposite a precise relationship that with subsequent therapeutic treatment has shown that symptoms and diseases can be alleviated or completely disappeared in special cases non-verbal communication follows The 738 55% rule

non-verbal communication constitutes a trial prepared by Professor Albert Mahar rain in the 1960s 7 38 55% rule approximate 55% of the communication we use in the daily so not knowing about non-verbal communication really means you will fail and get misunderstood in your communication with other people about half the time you have probably experienced that Because you have had to say things up several times until the majority of the audience has perceived your message exactly as you meant it therefore you can become much more effective and get the message through the first time by studying and

learning what tools you can use when you want to convey your message and make verbal and non-verbal communication coherent rather than contradictory Albert mahaban found out 7% word what you say 38% concern the way You say it 55% body language nonverbal communication and although the survey has been reversed and turned several times and some think the experiment was about something else you can still use the numbers as a good rule of thumb when communicating in the future non-verbal communication via the body language body language that is congruent means that it matches and fits your verbal

message that it expresses The same as what you say the best and only way to get a congruent body language is that really you think it's true that you believe it 100% that you are convinced that what you are saying is important true and good to the counterparty if this is the case your body language will help you in your communication by being congruent one example is that most people look upward or straightforward With a back rest and smile when they are Happ happy while looking down and hanging shoulders and curling their backs and smiling

very little when they are depressed or sad these signals from the body language also send a message back to the brain to produce the appropriate hormones for the mood condition that the body signals so use your body language active to change your mood of course it's normal to be sad or depressed for a short period of time There's no need to your hormone production unsuccessfully if you can just change your body language and improve your condition awareness of the body signals by understanding the origin of the body language and gaining the ability to decode other

signals you can be better at understanding yourself and others ways to use non-verbal communication and avoid getting into one Conflict Management you will become more aware of the signals you Emit and be able to control your expression thus communicating more accurately and effectively you will be a better conversation partner conflict Soldier leader Etc by using knowledge of the body language it is possible to create positive mental States within yourself thus preventing you from coming out of particular stress symptoms hereby the next step in an upward spiral can mean That you become more confident effective balanced

Etc because your Consciousness and subconsciousness also becomes congruent I.E you get processed the challenges you've been exposed to so they stop draining you for energy destroying Your Sleep Quality and instead generating a sense of calm and balance in this way congruent non-verbal communication acts both outwardly against other people and inwardly against your own values and Convictions body language and non-verbal communication Never Lie the body language reveals you discrepancies in the body language occur in those situations where we try to conceal our feelings we do everything we can to tie our bodies and yet talk the

body over it may be that our little lies can cope with an inattentive counterpart where whereas a trained and focused Observer based on non-verbal communication can see signs of hiding something we can Control some bodily signals better than others the easiest to manage is of course the ones we are most aware of EG our knowledge of body language is greatest when it comes to the face and therefore it is also easiest to lie with the face the hidden feelings you may be more or less aware of did you know that the body reacts to your

thoughts and feelings in the subconscious mind and can from particular life situations Provoke symptoms and diseases however verbal communication as opposed to non-verbal communication takes place through conversation however words are far from completely clear it is therefore by no means certain that the sender and receiver understand the word alike our way of interpreting words is based on a prior understanding knowledge and experience in order to reduce misunderstandings it is therefore Necessary to express clearly and accurately adopt the language's severity and know how The Interpreter interprets a given word and ask for feedback how did you

understand what I just said then again when you streamline your body language and thus your non-verbal communication with your verbal communication you optimize the chance of being understood if you connect an additional simple questioner with your purpose of being understood you multiply Your chance to be perceived as an excellent communicator and genuine intermediary chapter 7 Things to Remember in non-verbal communication non-verbal communication also known as body language is what happens when you or those around you communicate without saying anything therefore contradict and convey a parallel message along with our speech non-verbal communication is important to

you and my ability to Express ourselves as nuanced and accurate as possible much of the non-verbal communication is universal the friendly smile is understood by everyone whether you are Japanese American or from Tils your brain automatically Compares what is said with the body language that appears when there is a mismatch between speech and Body Language it is that our intuition tells us something is wrong it is also through the body Language shown that we feel whether we are welcome in a group or not by seeing and reading the non-verbal communication it is possible for you

to navigate better with other people it allows you to customize your way of acting between other people but also to get an idea of what they think a cluster or cluster in body language or non-verbal communication is a cluster of Expressions this means that there is more than one feature or signal That deals with the same when reading body language with others there is a rule of thumb that says that you must see a cluster of three signals before you can count it this means that you will see three signals that mean the same in

relation to speaking untrue it could be pull on the shoulder pitch in the voice raised eyebrows these three signals will be denoted as a cluster or cluster of signals in relation to untruth I call it that the body does not Agree with what the mouth says they are the worst thing I know as business owners sellers who do not know when to stop and say thank you for today but in fact there's a simple technique to read when to stop it's about body language for business that you see the signals as a software architect in

the IT industry for 20 years independent for almost a decade proprietor of several gazel and specialist in body language I have gradually learned to figure out When to stop talking and releasing other people because that's what it's about is it not to let people go free you know it yourself at some point you stop listening at that time there is only one thing in your mind to get away hold your mouth heck you think while trying to indicate that the call is over but he does not understand and him if you changed the situation you

have also been be the one who talks and talks while your customer lead has been Completed for the longest the situations do nothing good for you as a seller there you are from being interesting because that's why you are meeting to be annoying personally I do not invite annoying sellers to visit again because they annoy me how to use body language for business once you've learned body language for business you've got some methods to see what other people actually think it can be as if what they want but it can also Be to see if

they avoid the truth the latter is very useful in contract negotiations but you can already read the body language it's already part of your intuition your stomach sensation you're just not actively aware of it but I can teach you and we start right now has your customer been mentally gone because that's what it's all about has your customer gone we can see that from the client's body language in the body language we say That feet Never Lie feet is a great tool both to join but also to see where the person's thoughts are as the

focus changes the feet also change direction that means it's easy for you to see when your customer is done with you when you talk to a customer you can look at your feet if they are with you or they have gone if it's with you both feet will point to you in several your feet will stand in a V against your group but what happens when someone has Finished the conversation yes one foot moves away and most often towards the end this means that you can keep an eye on whether your one foot moves away

from your conversation do it it is a strong signal that you must round the conversation or change the subject something you should do because what you're talking about is Trivial now it is also seen that people's feet Begin to change direction a little away looked back at you and looked away again again I interpret it as a form of wall blind where I am not really exciting anymore and maybe a little anyway here I know I'll renew the conversation or stop in those situations where you see a foot shifting toward the door you can as

well stop the person is mentally gone this is where you use what you know how to look comfortable let them stop their Interaction with you feeling like a comfortable person instead of an annoying person who is not going to get anyway are you smart you say you have plenty of other things to do with you I do not disturb you anymore may I contact you next week here you use your new knowledge to create a next action for that he will say yes because he can move on you have both shown understanding and given him

a cat telematic to get Away does not it get strange if you constantly look at your customer's feet then yes yes that would be strange but you will not you can peel away or down once in the middle of your conversation when you look away to think about something your customer is saying we'll do that let your eyes circulate past his feet before looking back at him again then it will be a natural round down trip back to him therefore women have easier to see it are you female you do Not have that big problem

you can review your customer from head to foot even if you are close to him that's how you are created but we cannot do that to Men We are made with tunnel vision which means we are good at Framing and looking far but horrible called to look over the refrigerator when we open it that's why you like a man cannot find what's on the Shelf while your wife soothes and takes what you need off the shelf are you a man I'll give you a Little tip if there is something you Cann not find then step

two steps back then you expand your field of view considerably and have a better idea of what you're looking at try it yourself are you a comfortable seller next time yes yes of course you are now you know that you can see if your customer is present on the feet you also know that when the customer's one foot faces the door it's time to run then you will be the cool seller who he or she will also Visit next time chapter eight improving non-verbal communication skill strong communication skills can help you in both your personal

and professional lives while oral and written communication skills are important research has shown that non-verbal Behavior represents a large percentage of our daily interpersonal communication how can you improve your non-verbal communication skills the Following tips can help you learn to read non-verbal signals from other people and improve your ability to communicate effectively we pay attention to nonverbal signals people can Comm communicate information in many different ways so be aware of things like eye contact gesture posture body movement and tone of voice all of these signals can convey important information that does not Match by paying

more attention to other people's unspoken Behavior you will improve your ability to communicate nonverbally look for in congruent behaviors if any words do not match their non-verbal Behavior you should be very aware for example someone can tell you that they are happy while frowning and staring at the ground concentrate on your tone when speaking your tone of voice can convey a wealth of information ranging from Enthusiasm to lack of interest in Anger begin to feel how your tone of voice affects how others react to you and try to use a tone of voice to emphasize

ideas that you want to communicate for example if you want to show real interest in something Express Your Enthusiasm by using an animated tone use good eye contact when people fail to see others in the eye it may seem as if they are circumventing or trying to conceal something on the other Hand too much eye contact may seem confrontational or threatening while eye contact is an important part of communication it is important to remember remember that contact good eye does not mean gazing into someone's eyes how can you tell how much eye contact is correct

some communication experts recommend eye contact intervals lasted 4 to 5 Seconds steep questions on non-verbal signals if you are confused with another person's non-verbal signals do not be afraid to ask questions a good idea is to repeat your interpretation of what has been said and ask for clarification an example of this could be so what you say is that sometimes just asking such questions can lend a great clarity to a situation for example a person may be giving off certain non-verbal signals Because he has something else on his mind by asking further into his message

and purpose you can get a better idea of what he really tries to say use signals to make communication more effective and meaningful remember that verbal and non-verbal communication work together to convey a message you can improve your spoken communication using body language that strengthens and supports what you say this can be especially helpful when Making presentations or speaking to a large group of people for example if your goal is to appear confident and prepared during a presentation you will want to focus on sending non-verbal signals that ensure that others see you as self-confident and

capable standing in one place shoulder back and your weight balanced on both feet is a great way to find a confident attitude practice practice practice some people just seem to have an ability to Use non-verbal communication effectively and correctly interpret signals from others these people are often described as being able to read people conclusion understanding nonverbal communication verbal communication it is the mutual communicative action that takes place between single multiple topics or more that involves a variety of broadcast information orientation and its Reception when communicative verbal interaction as a communication mechanism used by a speech

that is represented in linguistic systems and is divided into a written and oral the main requirement for verbal communication is Clarity pronunciation Clarity content availability statement thoughts verbal communication can cause a reaction positive or negative emotion response therefore every single person just needs to know and correctly apply The rules norms and techniques for verbal interaction for effective communication and success in the life of any person should Master the art of rhetoric verbal and non-verbal communication as is known the human is a social being that is the subject can never become a person without Society interaction

with Community entities takes place via communication tools communication which is verbal and Non-verbal verbal and non-verbal communication interaction of individuals around the world although the primary human thought but her expression and understanding of the other people needs an instrument of verbal communication as speech which exposes thoughts to words after all for an individual phenomenon or concept comes into existence when the acquisition of the definition or name the universal means of communication between people is the Language which is a basic system encoding information and important communication tool with the words of a man it makes clear

value events and reasoning events in order to express their own thoughts feelings attitudes and views of Life personality her tongue and mind are inseparable but the vast majority of people speak the language to the air I.E he uses it without notice languages are often thought forward and do not obey Them during communication of human interaction at all stages there are barriers that prevent effective communication often on the way to Mutual understanding it becomes possible to use the same words bonics and other communication tools to determine completely different phenomena objects such barriers occur as a result

of social cultural differences psychological and other factors individual differences in human needs And their value systems often make it impossible to find Common Ground even in the discussion of universal themes violations of communication process human interaction cause errors errors or failures in in data encryption underestimation of ideological professional ideological religious political age and gender differences furthermore for the human communication extremes important are the following Factors background and undertone style for example an unexpected confidentiality treatment or nausea behavior Can abolish all the information wealth of the convers however most of the information about partner communication is

not transmitted by verbal tools and by nonverbal means it is an idea of the true feelings of the interlocutor and his intentions are not subjects derived from his speech and the Direct observation of the details and the way in which his behavior in other words the interpersonal communication interaction primarily performed through a variet of non-verbal tools facial expressions and Phantoms symbolic communicative signs temporal and spatial boundaries the rhythmic and intonational functions of speech as a general rule nonverbal communication results are not conscious behavior and unconscious motives verbal Communication mechanisms are rather difficult to fake which

is why they need to trust more than the wording verbal and non-verbal means of communication during communication are perceived human interaction at the same time they should be considered as a single complex in addition without the use of speech Scouts are not always wealthy and it's empty without mimics types of verbal Communication verbal communication refers to dialup speech which is divided into written and oral and internal directed speech speech can be dialogue or monological indigenous speech is manifested in preparation for the oral conversation or in particular the written word written speech is immediate and delayed

direct voice occurs when the exchange of notes for example in a meeting or lecture and delayed with the Exchange of letters when it may take quite some time for an answer terms of communication when writing strictly mediated texts it is also a unique form of verbal communication this includes Manual Alphabet which is a substitute for the spoken language and serves to communicate deaf or blind to each other and people familiar with finger spelling feedback effect the accuracy of the understanding person perceives the Information the importance of the the speaker's Expressions feedback is only installed on

the condition that the communicator and receiver will be switched alternately the task of the receiver is to use his statements make it clear Communicator he took the feeling of the information it follows that the dialogue is a series of communicative interaction roles in conversation revealing the meaning of a Verbal surface ring a monologue speech on the other hand can last for a long time while not interrupting another conversation keyword it requires prior preparation for the speaker monologues include lectures presentations Etc important components of the communicative aspects communication is the ability to accurately formulate their own

thoughts and listening skills since the wording of fuzzy thinking leads to misinterpretation spok toen a Hearing invisible transforms the meaning of the translated information verbal communication refers to all known forms of interaction conversation interview debate and discussion debate meeting Etc talk is called the verbal exchange of ideas opinions knowledge and information conversation suggests the presence of two or more members whose task is in the relaxed atmosphere to express their own thoughts and ideas about a given Subject the interviewers can ask each other question to get in close contact with the location of the interviewer or

clarify the unclear points that arose during the discussions the conversation is particularly effective in case of need to clarify any questions or lighting issues the interview is a specially organized discussion on social academic or academic subjects dispute referred to public Discussion or debate on socially important or natural science subjects refer the discussion to a public debate whose outcome is the identification and correlation of different views attitudes speech for an identification of the correct opinion to find the right solution to the conversational question the dispute is the process of opposing views exchange that is it denotes

any clashes between positions differences in beliefs And attitudes a kind of struggle where each of the participants defends their own right also verbal communication divided into verbal and interpersonal the place between several people it is the result of the occurrence of mental contact and a certain connection between communicating verbal business communication is a complex multilateral process generating in the professional in human relations especially verbal Communication the most important element of verbal communication is that such communication is unique to man verbal communication is a prerequisite implies acquisition of the language because of its communicative potential is

far richer than all forms of non-verbal communication although it is not able to completely replace it the formation of verbal communication initially necessarily depends on non-verbal means of Communication the main component of communication is words that were taken by themselves verbal interaction is considered the universal way to radio and television ideas any message constructed using non-verbal character systems it is possible to translate or translate a verbal human language for example red light can be translated as no entry or stop verbal communication aspect has a complex layered structure and can Function in different stylistic variants dialect

speech and writing languages Etc success or failure of the implementation of the communicative action contributes everyone to to speech components or other characteristics the man during a dialogue between a wide variety of tools for verbal interaction chooses the tools that seem to him most appropriate to formulate and express their thoughts in a particular situation this is called Socially important goal such a process is infinite in their variety words in speech communicative interactions are not common characters that serve to name objects or phenomena mental communication has created and shaped entire verbal complexes systems of ideas religions

myths characteristics specific to society or culture what the subject says can be the presentation of the other participants in the interaction for who a person really is this usually Happens when the device plays a social role installed such as the Director of the company the director of the school the Captain's Team Etc facial expressions appearance Inn notation will correspond to the status of the social role speaker and his presentation of such a role choice of verbal tools helps creation and achievement of certain social situations for example a compliment does not always show that a Person

looks good it could just be a kind of communicative course course the effectiveness of verbal interaction is largely due to the level of Master Communicator speech art and his personal quality features today possessing competent speech is considered an essential element in the professional development of the individual with the help of speech it's good not only a motion messenger but the Interaction of participants in the communication process which specifically touches each other directly Orient each other in other words they seek to achieve some transformation behavior in spite of the fact that it is a universal instrument

of communicative interaction it makes sense when you turn into action it must necessarily be supplemented by the use of non-verbal character systems for the effect of the interaction the communicative process Will be incomplete if you do not use non-verbal means