cheating wife got her karma when the affair partner turned out to be a scammer and stole her savings my wife Anna 36 female and I 39 male have been together for 7 years and we've been married for five we've had our fair share of ups and downs like any couple but I believed our relationship was built on a strong Foundation of trust and love we both had regular jobs and while we weren't wealthy we were content and happy about a year ago Anna's interest in personal finance let's call it a passion took an unusual turn
she started reading books watching YouTube videos and even attending seminars on the subject I was supportive of her Newfound interest and believed it was a positive step toward improving our financial well-being and securing a better future for us to be honest I have very little knowledge about Finance aside from basic Investments like mutual funds I have limited understanding of financial matters even when it comes to mutual funds my understanding is quite surface level and I don't invest in them apart from a mandatory tax saving scheme I come from a marketing background with minimal exposure to
finance and for tax related matters and exemptions I rely on Tax Consultants like many others with the emergence of new age Finance influencers on social media Anna also developed an interest in learning about Finance she wanted to understand the stock market and cryptocurrency while I have some grasp of the stock market as it has been around for a long time cryptocurrency is a realm far beyond my comprehension initially I did join Anna for a few virtual seminars but the concepts discussed were utter l ly alien to me as time went on Anna began spending an
increasing amount of time with a wealthy investor she had met at one of these seminars whom will refer to as Dylan she described Dylan as a mentor who was guiding her through the intricacies of investing and wealth accumulation the concept of mentoring has gained popularity in America with many individuals now identifying as mentors furthermore Anna eventually ceased her contributions to our household expenses asserting that she was investing in our future and that I shouldn't complain about it I took her at her word and continued to manage all our household bills on my own initially I
didn't think much of it but as time passed their relationship began raising significant concerns Anna started devoting an excessive amount of time to Dylan often late into the night her explanation was that due to her day job evenings were the only time available for pursuing her passion when I expressed my disapproval she became defensive and demeaned me for my limited understanding of Investments she taunted me stating that one day she would make us wealthy and I regret not supporting her I was providing her with support in every way I could she wanted me to refrain
from questioning her whereabouts her return times or her activities I tried to avoid interfering as much as possible but when she displayed obvious red flags I had to stay vigilant she also began changing her attire opting for more provocative outfits but I refrained from addressing the matter I had never commented on her clothing choices before so I maintained my silence this time too however she she began neglecting our relationship prompting me to address my concerns with her as usual she dismissed them claiming that she was doing all of this for our future security and that
I should be supportive rather than judgmental gradually I grew distant from her because I was tired of carrying the relationship's burden on my own I thought she would notice the change in my demeanor but she remained preoccupied with learning the intricacies of Investments effectively forgetting about my existence we had become nothing more than housemates and spoke only when it was absolutely necessary despite living under the same roof we rarely spent time together after her day job she would head out to attend seminars or her mentorship class one evening I passed by the seminar Hall where
her supposed Finance Mentor Dylan conducted classes I had a gut feeling to enter and investigate the seminar upon entering I realized it was an entirely different event I inquired with the security Personnel about Dylan's company's seminars and their frequency they informed me that such seminars were infrequent with the last one taking place months ago when when I left the hall I noticed several young men wearing t-shirts featuring the name of the finance influencer I approached them and learned that they were promoting enrollment in the finance master class for everyone I collected all the relevant information
the influencer himself conducted the seminars every 2 to three months whereas the mentorship classes were led by mentors like Dylan and cafes they also clarified that it was not a daily class but a weekly one taking place from 7: to 9:00 p.m. Anna consistently returned home after midnight I obtained the caf's details and left the following day I asked Anna if she had the class that day she replied curtly I have classes every day I didn't say anything based on the information I had gathered the class only met on Saturdays and that day was a
Thursday in the evening after finishing my work I dropped by the cafe and witnessed her sitting intimately close to Dylan with his hands on her waist and his lips on her cheek they whispered into each other's ears and my heart sank as I observed them exchanging flirtatious glances I remained at a distance allowing myself time to process what I was witnessing I attempted to capture video clips because I anticipated that she might downplay the situation I stayed there until they engaged in more intimate activities he was playfully teasing her even licking her ears and engaging
other inappropriate behavior I recorded everything when they were on the verge of kissing I approached and took a seat at their table sitting opposite them Anna froze while Dylan appeared confused I introduced myself as her soon to be ex-husband and he chuckled Anna offered to explain and I encouraged her to do so she claimed it was a one-on-one mentoring session to which I sarcastically replied that he was certainly providing hands on mentoring Dylan left the table laughing off the situation his demeanor resembled that of a player I directly asked Anna if she had slept with
Dylan and she admitted that they had but she argued it was part of an investment deal I couldn't comprehend what kind of deal that was she tried to rationalize it by asserting that it was all related to her personal Finance education she stated that Dylan had assured her that she would earn significant money after completing the classes and fulfilling his requests I questioned what he had asked of her specifically if it involved sleeping with him she responded with a yes I sensed that she was attempting to save face so I urged her to provide any
random excuses instead I played along for a while inquiring if she had done it against her will she clarified that it was consensual I accused her of deriving pleasure from it and she countered that she had but had only done it to secure our future I lost my temper and shouted at her demanding to know who gave her the authority to secure our future I informed her that she need not concern herself with mine as I was perfectly capable of managing it my Outburst drew the attention of nearby patrons causing them to stare at us
I stood up and left the cafe and she followed me outside attempting to grasp my arm I Shrugged her off and told her she could continue her involvement with her mentor and was not welcome in my home I returned home feeling devastated my trust in her was utterly destroyed and it was hard to accept that she had concealed her infidelity behind the guise of learning personal finance a few minutes later Anna returned she asserted that her involvement with the other person was not for pleasure but rather a means to acquire Financial knowledge I asked her
to leave the house but she pleaded with me insisting that it wasn't infidelity she claimed there were no romantic feelings involved with Dylan and it was simply a business transaction I was baffled by the type of business she was engaging in I informed her that there was no need to engage intimately with her mentor to learn about personal finance she could gain Financial knowledge without such actions she grew angry and asserted that she would prove me wrong entering a mode of wanting to demonstrate her earning potential she declared her intent to venture into influencer marketing
and criticize my lack of understanding regarding the significance of early age investing she predicted that I would retire with minimal savings relying on State Pension while she would become a billionaire and I would regret my decision I told her she was free to pursue her Ambitions but not while being with me she packed her belongings and left 2 days later on a Saturday she returned I was reclining on the couch engaged in some online activity she addressed me stating I'm not here to apologize or beg I've come to collect my remaining possessions I remained silent
she gathered her belongings and drove away her actions showed a complete lack of remorse for what had occurred prioritizing her Affairs over our relationship I've been in discussions with my attorney to initiate the divorce process I hope it proceeds smoothly without unnecessary complications since we don't have significant assets to dispute it should be a relatively straightforward process but we'll see I'll provide updates once it's all concluded now I'd like to offer a brief update regarding my divorce there haven't been many noteworthy developments aside from the divorce proceedings so this will be a concise update many
people had commented that Anna's so-called Quest To Learn personal finance didn't seem legitimate it appeared more like a scam than a genuine investment while I may not be well-versed in finance one thing is clear when someone promises quick and substantial returns it's often a sign of something am Miss earning money genuinely is a challenging Endeavor that doesn't yield instant results nonetheless I've put that chapter behind me my divorce was finalized last week and it went relatively smoothly as I mentioned earlier there were no significant assets over which we needed to dispute the house we lived
in was a rented condo in terms of alimony our incomes were quite similar moreover since she was the one who cheated I wasn't obligated to pay any alimony we closed the joint account and divided the money between us given that we don't have any children there was no need for child support I'm relieved we didn't have children it would have complicated the situation significantly I Now understand why many Americans hesitate to have children due to the uncertainty it can bring nevertheless it's not as straightforward as it may seem I'm still struggling to move on from
her infidelity she's been telling everyone that I'll come crawling back to her seeking reconciliation when she becomes wealthy after mastering personal finance strategies to that I simply say good luck she's been spreading the word that our divorce resulted from my insecurity about her progress painting me as controlling and jealous among other things I endured those comments with a smile as much as I could and then I showed everyone the video I had recorded of her being affectionate with Dylan her face turned red after that and common friends quickly reconsidered their loyal loyalties the last I
heard she was residing with her mother during the divorce proceedings she shows No Remorse for the damage she's caused I'm uncertain whether she's genuinely studying personal finance and investing or if it was merely an excuse to engage in an affair with Dylan if she succeeds in getting her finances in order good for her I have no interest in wealth obtained through infidelity by the way I recently started watching numerous videos on investing while I might be jumping to conclusions I think there are plenty of free online resources that provide sufficient information for beginners I strongly
doubt that having a mentor is necessary for this right now I'm striving to distance myself from conversations involving her they were taking a toll on my mental well-being I've reignited my hobby of painting to keep myself occupied I've also joined a fitness club to shed some extra pounds focusing on healthy eating and reducing my alcohol intake I had been drinking excessively During the pre-divorce period and gained a significant amount of weight hello everyone I have an intriguing update to share first and foremost I want to express my gratitude for all the support and the valuable
links you provided about investment knowledge it was incredibly helpful as many of you pointed out it wasn't a finance class it was indeed a scam so true the highlight of this update is that Anna fell victim to a scam remember the finance influencer who was conducting those seminars it turns out he was a fraudster he swindled people out of their hard-earned money promising them substantial returns Anna had also invested around 30% of her income in that scheme with hopes of substantial gains not only that I heard she even sold some of her valuable assets like
her family heirloom diamond ring and her Platinum necklace to go all in on this investment Endeavor it appears that everything was nothing but a deception the influencer is now on the lamb while his associates including Dylan have been apprehended and an investigation is underway once this news surfaced Anna became the target of ridicule from all the people she had been bragging to about her impending wealth she had been flaunting her Newfound knowledge to everyone and belittling those with limited investment expertise in the aftermath of this Revelation all the individuals whom Anna had mocked are now
turning the tables on her and poking fun at her it's only natural one of our mutual friends informed me that she has blocked most of the people who were making fun of her she also deactivated her social media accounts because people were tagging her in posts related to that Finance influencer she had been endorsing so it's no surprise that people are doing this to her it's a lesson in not counting your chickens before they hatch which is precisely what she had been doing all this time as for me I've made significant progress I've shed those
extra pounds currently I'm focused on muscle training and I'm enjoying it as I mentioned earlier I've rekindled my passion for painting and it's been a very fulfilling experience I haven't rushed into dating just yet it's not about getting over the past I'm simply not ready for it things took a highly dramatic turn last month only a week after my previous update I had an unexpected visitor it was Anna and she appeared utterly despondent she explained that she had fallen victim to a scam Dylan and his fraudulent influencer boss had defrauded hundreds of people and absconded
to a different country with their money I asked her about Dylan's supposed arrest based on the last update she informed me that no Dylan and a few other so-called mentors were Close Associates of the influencer and they managed to escape at the right moment the remaining team members were apprehended in the absence of the main culprits I inquired whether she had come to me because Dylan had fled she insisted it wasn't the reason she claimed she still loved me and wanted to sit and talk I reminded her that we were already divorced rendering any conversation
pointless her response was I've already been punished by Karma I've lost a significant amount of money in all respect people are ridiculing me making fun of me you emerged Victorious from this situation what more could you want what more could I want I wanted peace I had wanted her out of my life and in that moment I wanted her out of my house that was what I wanted she continued by saying now that you know there was nothing between me and Dylan we can get back together if there were anything he would have taken me
with him right I replied with affirm no I explained that he wouldn't have taken her because he had numerous women like her sleeping with him to learn some dubious money-making tricks after all he couldn't take all his promiscuous partners with him could he she implored me to consider reconciliation a asserting that she had not been emotionally involved with Dylan she admitted to being drawn to the idea of getting rich quickly I made it clear that reconciliation was not an option I had moved on considerably by that point so her please had no impact on me
if she had begged for forgiveness when her Affair was exposed I might have contemplated it I can't be sure however after witnessing her true character I'm no fool to trust her again she returned to me only after losing everything during the divorce proceedings she had shown no remorse and now she came to me unbelievable I informed her that I had to leave for my fitness class and that she needed to go she commented that I looked much younger and fitter and inquired if I was dating someone I told her it was none of her business
she began crying accusing me of being rude I retorted that she should be grateful for my Civility and for hearing her out after what she had done to me I Used To Love Her deeply but I had moved beyond that emotion she left when I became cold towards her please a few days later her mother called me and requested a meeting I asked for the reason and she said it was something urgent and important inappropriate for a phone conversation I met her the next day for coffee she apologized on behalf of Anna I embraced her
and assured her that it wasn't her fault so she didn't need to apologize she had always been kind to me in contrast to Anna she refrained from speaking ill of me during the divorce proceedings she asked if I would consider reconciling with Anna because she deeply regretted her actions she was constantly crying and falling into depression she feared that Anna might end herself due to her loss of savings part of her monthly salary and some valuable jewelry pieces as mentioned in previous updates I was unaware that Anna had lost her savings as well Anna was
always a saver and I was certain she had at least $100,000 saved up losing such a substantial amount of money could lead anyone to mental distress I inquired how our reconciliation would help her cope with the depression resulting from the financial loss she argued that Anna genuinely loved me and even in her dire circumstance es she could at least find happiness in having me in her life I'll admit I felt some sympathy for Anna I briefly wavered towards considering reconciliation but it was shortlived I quickly reverted to my decision of not taking her back I
informed her that I couldn't do it I no longer loved her it led to another round of crying and pleading to help her daughter overcome her depression I remained Resolute in my decision and advised her to take Anna to therapy she required counseling more than a husband my ex-mother-in-law was disappointed that I declined her request but understood my perspective another factor that could have further upset Anna was my investment journey I started following genuine Finance YouTubers who significantly aided my comprehension of personal finance and investing at macroeconomic and fundamental levels this knowledge played a crucial
role in building my Investment Portfolio surprisingly I'm already sitting on a substantial profit currently I ventured into the stock and bond market crypto trading Still Remains beyond my grasp and I prefer not to explore unfamiliar territory I'm not rushing things I'm taking it one step at a time learning about the stock market has reaffirmed my belief that making money is not something that happens overnight it requires patience as well as courage I'm hoping to emerge from this experience stronger as for dating I believe I'm still not ready for it all right that was a fun
story now let's move on to another exciting one stay tuned and let's dive in story two I'm a 40-year-old woman and my parents my father aged 63 and my mother aged 60 have been married for 43 years I have six siblings A 42-year-old sister a 38-year-old sister a 34-year-old sister and three brothers aged 20 20 and 18 I've been with my husband a 39-year-old man since we were 15 I became pregnant at 17 and we moved in with my parents I gave birth to my now 22-year-old daughter and we got married at 18 shortly after
our wedding my dad's father passed away and left his ranch style house to my father my grandparents built a house next door to my parents when they retired my parents decided to let us live in this house and informed us that it would be my inheritance my husband and I had no issues with this Arrangement and we went on to have three more children two boys aged 20 and 14 a girl aged five and I'm currently 7 months pregnant with my last child a boy due in April I believed I had a strong marriage we
were intimate more than twice a week went on regular date nights exchanged gifts and rarely had fights however my world came crashing down on New Year's Eve when I returned early from a girls trip with some friends I walked into my bedroom and found my mother having intercourse with my husband my mother yelled at me to leave their bedroom which shook me up even more unfortunately my eldest daughter was also home getting ready for a party in her bedroom across the house she ran out and saw my nearly naked mother running out of our house
into hers slamming the door my daughter was devastated and went to my sister's house I asked her not to say anything until I had spoken with my my husband I confronted him and he confessed that my mother had seduced him when we were 18 and living in their house they had been having unprotected sex at least once a month for longer than we were married I calculated the timeline and was horrified as it meant my twin brothers and youngest brother could be fathered by my husband I immediately called my dad and asked him to come
to my house without my mom my husband confessed in front of my dad who was devastated since he and my mom were high school sweethearts my mother's screams were audible from her house as she was confronted I then confided in my older sister and we decided to host a party for the whole extended family inviting my ex's family as well at the party I had my 22-year-old daughter take all the kids to the basement to watch a movie leaving only the adult children and siblings I proceeded to explain exactly what had been happening the majority
of my family is supportive of me except for my three youngest siblings my 38-year-old sister and my ex's entire family they all label me as an a hole for making this matter public news spread and and my mom's best friend who holds a leadership position in my childhood church called me to confirm the story consequently my mom was removed from her role as the children's pastor at the church and she claims I've essentially destroyed her reputation and life my dad has asked her to leave and she is currently residing with my 38-year-old sister furthermore my
dad has insisted on a DNA test for the three youngest boys before he will consider any reconciliation with my mother it turns out that the twins are indeed my husband's biological children in resp response I've kicked my husband out and he is now living with his parents my father and I are in discussions about my potential move into his much larger house while he sells my grandfather's house and provides me with the money to purchase a new house elsewhere to create a fresh start without the lingering memories my husband is outraged and Furious because I've
exposed that he's actually going to be a father of seven children instead of five and I will be entitled to half of his business my husband started his HVAC company a few years ago and for the first 5 years I played a significant role in establishing it managing the office entirely and temporarily stepping back from my teaching career to help him get it off the ground in our state all marital assets including businesses are divided equally since the house was still under my father's name my husband will receive no money from its sale and neither
will my mother as inherited assets are not subject to division and divorce my mother is also unlikely to receive any alimony as our state doesn't follow a no fault divorce system over a month has passed and I'm still deeply bitter and angry with my mother particularly because of her hypocrisy and calling me names and shaming my family when she's engaged in far worse Behavior I also have strong feelings of resentment toward my ex as he was intimately involved with both my mother and me sometimes coming to our bed minutes later he impregnated my mother less
than a week after I became pregnant and while I initially thought it was cute and fun to share a pregnancy experience with my mom she was carrying my children's half siblings this situation has shattered my trust in men and their ability to remain faithful I've already secured a proficient lawyer from The Firm that handled our financial matters with support from my dad in covering the costs two of my twin brothers one of my sisters and my entire ex's family have cut off contact with me and my minor children consequently my children have essentially lost all
of their grandparents except for my dad two uncles and an aunt on my side and my husband's Three Brothers due to this unfortunate situation I've developed ulcers and digestive problems so I'm planning to see a doctor soon additionally I've been attending therapy sessions since the first week of January I've also extended the offer of family therapy to my two adult children but they are currently undergoing individual therapy my 14-year-old daughter is aware of our divorce and the reasons behind it she's understandably angry with her dad which makes it difficult for me to send her to
his house on weekends while I believe she's old enough to have a say in this matter I don't want to harm her relationship with her father I've told all my children that it's okay to love their dad even if if he hurt me however my two eldest children have completely cut off contact with him I won't reveal the true reasons for the divorce to my younger two children until they reach their teenage years and everyone has agreed not to disclose anything until they are old enough to comprehend regarding how I remained oblivious to the ongoing
Affair my husband admitted to me that they had sex at my mom's Church office in their cars at a motel and when we established the business they began regularly doing it in his office once I resumed my teaching career they also did it in our homes when my father was away on business trips or when I was out of town the most distressing part for me is the sheer Coincidence of coming home a day early from a trip due to pregnancy discomfort and this is how I discovered the affair knowing that they would have continued
this affair if I hadn't caught them is what continues to upset me I find it hard to get past the fact that my children's grandmother and father showed so little concern for the impact on our families what's particularly challenging for me is the realization that my own mother could betray me and continue this behavior for years without caring about the consequences when it all unraveled in her face my husband confirmed during one of our mediated conversations that the affair began when I apparently upset him instead of talking to me he vented to my mom when
they were alone she consoled him and they became intimate he enjoyed it and pursued her from that point on he even mentioned he would have divorced me but knew he'd lose her and that she was better in bed than me so he stuck with me he told me that I was just a temporary place holder among all the betrayals and low blows this statement is what keeps me awake at night update I made extensive efforts to pursue immediated divorce but my ex informed me through his legal Representatives yesterday that he doubts the paternity of the
baby I'm currently carrying he insists on a DNA test as soon as the baby is born because he refuses to support a child he believes is not his own furthermore he alleges that I had multiple Affairs throughout our marriage and that I was aware of his ongoing Affair which he claims I used as an excuse to engage in my own infidelity none of these allegations are true but part of me almost wishes they were as it would simplify the divorce process my attorney essentially cautioned me to prepare for a protracted contentious divorce characterized by various
ruthless tactics on my ex's part making an already difficult situation even more painful I will address some of the questions raised here and in the previous post my twin brothers strongly resemble my maternal side of the family particularly my uncle and grandfather they do not bear a strong resemblance to my dad but interestingly they don't resemble my husband much either on the other hand my son clearly takes after my soon to be ex and is the only child who visibly appears to be his although my 14-year-old daughter has inherited his nose in jaw shape while
I was undoubtedly Furious on the day everything unraveled my father talked me down from my initial rage and reminded me to consider the well-being of my baby and my other children before taking any actions that could deprive them of both their parents it was this realization that spared them in the days that followed I still felt a lingering anger which ultimately led to the Revenge party looking back I wish I had privately informed my brothers about my egg donor's infidelity as for my 38-year-old sister's alliance with my mother I'm not entirely certain of her reasons
we haven't gotten along with each other or my other sisters since high school but I'm not overly concerned about her position in this matter my twin brothers are understandably upset that I disclose the news publicly according to my dad they are currently undergoing therapy and my dad has advised me to give them time suggesting that they may Simply Be directing their anger at me the messenger while I didn't explicitly tell them that my ex might be their father they can do the math and have deduced that they're the same age as my son and he's
younger than the length of the affair my dad had a candid conversation with them explaining that the DNA test was intended to prove infidelity and not to disown them to him they are his sons regardless of whose sperm fertilized the egg I don't believe that my egg donor and my soon to be ex waited until he turned 18 to have sex but I'm leaving my dad to address that issue and manage it in the context of their divorce proceedings I do have contingency plans in place in case they decide to move in together but my
attorney doesn't believe my ex is foolish enough to do so given the escalating hostility of the divorce proceedings I neglected to mention earlier that my husband is 4 months younger than me my birthday falls in December and his is in April he will be turning 40 soon we were in the same graduating class from kindergarten through high school so he's not a full year younger than me as some have speculated at this point I'm focusing on my pregnancy my kids and moving forward I may provide an update after the divorce is finalized but I want
to express my gratitude to everyone for their support and advice update I had a telephone conversation with my aunt today who happens to be my egg donor's sister she shared with me that there's a history of infidelity within our family particularly on their side My Grandmother Had engaged in infidelity for a significant period but she and my grandfather eventually reconciled my aunt herself had experienced multiple emotional Affairs but remained married to my uncle she made an attempt to attribute my mother's Affair to genetics I found her explanation so absurd that I couldn't help but burst
into laughter as a result of my reaction my aunt is now upset with me for not taking my egg donor's side and considering her justifications for cheating both my dad and my lawyer have advised me to listen to her perspective so I'm still contemplating whether to do so possibly right before our meeting in early March to establish custody edit I should note that I asked my aunt whether my mother had inherited the infidelity Gene which child she might have passed it on to and how my grandmother managed to pass it on to both her daughters
in hindsight that's likely why she's upset to be honest I've lost all sympathy for cheaters after this update in previous updates my ex accused me of infidelity and requested a DNA test for our unborn son my aunt revealed that infidelity runs in our egg donor's family and and tried to argue that it's genetic and hereditary my dad and I were encouraged by our lawyers to meet with my egg donor for evidence en closure this update delves into the answers we received from her regarding her choices I had a meeting last evening with my egg donor
dad and our lawyers essentially my egg donor confessed that she knew her actions were wrong but enjoyed the attention found the sex exciting and liked the thrill of it she continued her affair with my dad because she valued their financial stability and carefree life wanting to remain married she admitted that she intentionally slept with him after each encounter with my ex to see if she could pass off any potential child as my dad's she also acknowledged taking pleasure in the knowledge that my ex enjoyed sex with her more than with me she then announced that
she's moving in with my ex to his new place and invited the boys to live with them the twins visited once since the affair was exposed and informed her that they don't like my ex and won't treat him as their father she believes they'll eventually come around once she's married to my ex and then she'll have her family back I couldn't help but laugh and told her she was delusional needing psychiatric help I also informed her that I would be obtaining a restraining order to prevent her from having any access to my minor children she
called me a jealous and ungrateful person saying I should be thankful that she didn't terminate me and let me live she claimed I should appreciate that they didn't kick me out when I became pregnant she even had the audacity to suggest I should be grateful she kept my husband content when I couldn't preventing him from divorcing me and leaving me as a broken damaged single mother she then told my dad that she experienced postpartum depression after my birth and he ignored her leaving her to feel alone which she believed Justified her hatred for me and
her Affairs she admitted to having multiple affairs from 6 months after my birth until New Year's Eve and stated she would still be doing it if I hadn't exposed everything so my 38-year-old sister and 34-year-old sister may not be my dad's children either my dad is even more devastated and angry but we had our lawyers present and we recorded her confession my dad is already reached out to my siblings but unsurprisingly my 38-year-old sister already knew it was a possibility because my mom informed her about both Affairs when the Twins were born and she knew
they might not be my dad's children but kept it from us my dad is more heartbroken about this than losing his relationship with my mom I'm not sure their relationship will ever recover I genuinely have no idea what's wrong with my 38-year-old sister my 34-year-old sister has declined a paternity test and affirmed that our dad will always be her father my dad is perfectly fine with that decision I've informed my ex through my lawyer that I intend to file an order of protection tomorrow ensuring my kids won't have to go to my ex's house if
my mother is present neither of them has made any efforts to secure new housing so it seems like she might be planning to move into my ex-in-laws house I genuinely don't want my kids exposed to that chaotic situation he has yet to respond but honestly I'm not concerned about his wishes PS my family and our lawyers are aware of the social media posts but my ex and egg donor face very unfavorable odds in the divorce proceedings I'm being a bit Petty and reving in their discomfort at being exposed so I'm leaving the posts up they
can dwell in their predicament and know that not only does our local community view them negatively but so does the entire world additionally I've obtained permission from my younger sister to share what transpired last night I'm not particularly concerned about my 38-year-old sister's opinion update I gave birth to my son in early April and I'm relieved to say that he's healthy and I didn't encounter any health complications during the process by the end of March I succeeded in obtaining temporary full physical and legal custody of my children my 14-year-old daughter approached me with a request
for family therapy involving her and her dad initially I was opposed to the idea putting up resistance however I eventually decided to go along with it for the sake of my daughter recognizing her need to process everything and hopefully move forward during the therapy sessions I gained significant insights into the relationship between my ex and my egg donor thanks to the assignments the therapist provided my ex disclosed further details which I belied to be true my mom had actually attempted to seduce him well before we were of legal age according to my ex's recollection this
happened when my egg donor assumed leadership of the youth group I was 15 and he was just a few months shy of turning 15 at the time the grooming process began then with her offering private counseling because he supposedly needed it they shared a kiss at some point when he was still 14 and that was the extent of their physical interaction meaning they engaged in making out during these secretive sessions until he turned 18 it was right around the time of their first kid that my mom convinced him to ask me out and date me
so that they could continue seeing each other without arousing suspicion upon learning this I experienced a mix of emotions Devastation realizing that my entire relationship was built on a lie and my husband never truly loved me yet also relief knowing that I had no part in their Affair the reason I find this believable is that when he asked me out I had to seek permission from my parents to date at that time the rule was no one could date before the age of 16 my mom seemingly supported me or so I thought we began dating
immediately after he turned 15 fitting the timeline they did not engage in full intercourse until he turned 18 and I suppose that served as his birthday present from her my 22-year-old daughter and 20-year-old son are still not communicating with him a fact that he has come to terms with understanding that they may never reestablish contact with him as for the Twins and me we have managed to fully reconcile now turning to my egg donor following my last conversation with my aunt I decided to cut off contact with both her and my grandmother I had grown
weary of my aunt's persistent attempts to guiltrip me into communicating with my egg donor unfortunately my grandma is facing her own issues showing early signs of dementia and senility while I can tolerate her labeling my egg donor in derogatory terms some of her other actions and comments have only added unnecessary stress to my life my 34-year-old and 40 2-year-old sisters were the ones who assisted me with the labor and delivery plan my ex was aware of the plans but he also knew that I preferred him not to be at the hospital until after I had
given birth and was in a better state for him to meet his son he agreed to this on the day I went into labor my 34-year-old sister took my 14-year-old and 5-year-old children to her place while my 42-year-old sister stayed with me in the delivery room surprisingly my 14-year-old child needed something from their school and reached out to my ex to pick it up because he was still on the official pickup list although not anymore he was supposed to drop it off at my sister's house my egg donor accompanied him when he took the call
however he declined to have her come along as I preferred my children not to be around her apparently she followed him in her car to the store and then to my sister's house where she threw a temper tantrum on the front lawn my ex decided to break up with her stating that she brought too much drama and it wasn't worth it anymore she flew into a rage physically attacked him and began vandalizing things in my sister's yard the police were called and my egg donor was arrested for domestic violence consequently my ex my sister and
I all obtained orders of protection against her due to her instability and the situation my ex relocated to an apartment near his HVAC company my 14-year-old daughter has chosen not to forgive him and express that she doesn't want to be around him at the moment thus only the 5-year-old visits my ex he comes to my dad's house and spends time with her one week night and one weekend evening while I take my other kids and twin brothers out for dinner we've established contact through a custody app and plan to revisit the custody Arrangements in June
I intend to pursue full legal and physical custody until my ex can demonstrate that he has undergone the necessary therapy and treatment I still Harbor strong negative feelings toward my ex for what he put me through from the time I was 15 until recently however my disdain for my egg donor is even more profound for the harm she inflicted on all of us despite my emotions I do have some sympathy for my ex and I genuinely want him to recover for the sake of my younger children regarding the other divorce proceedings my ex has agreed
to immediate uncontested divorce and I'll be receiving half of everything including the business I've decided to sell my shares to one of my ex's employees who wishes to become a partner my ex is content with this Arrangement and I'm eager to sever all ties with him my dad successfully sold my old house without even listing it on the market because our realtor knew a family looking for a home meanwhile I've started searching for houses about 45 minutes away from my dad's location as for the egg donor she has gone into hiding after the twins made
it clear that they would never live with her and wanted nothing to do with her particularly after her arrest she began guilt tripping and blaming them she is currently contesting the divorce for my dad and only communicating with him through her attorney concerning my 38-year-old sister she had a reality check during this whole ordeal when my mother called her and scolded her for not helping her get out of jail during a 45-minute conversation apparently my sister has been experiencing fertility problems which I was unaware of because we don't communicate leading to stress anxiety and a
decline in her self-esteem this vulnerability made her susceptible to manipulation by our egg donor who boosted her self-esteem with positive attention however when my sister declined to bail her out due to saving money for another round of IVF with her partner she recognized the manipulation and reached out to me we have slowly started talking again and she supports me in this situation additionally she has res resumed communication with my dad which I'm glad about for his sake as it allows them to reconnect welcoming my son by the way we conducted the DNA test a few
weeks before his birth confirming that he is indeed my ex's child has brought immense joy and Delight into my life with my other kids and the support of my dad and siblings I've been able to navigate through this challenging time and I believe they will continue to help me I hold hope that at some point I can address my ex without the burden of anger and bitterness considering the trauma he endured due to my egg donor's actions I believe I'll be fine as I mentioned before this will be my final update on this matter so
I want to express my gratitude for all the kindness love and support