Michael Singer - Learning to Appreciate Every Experience in Life

[Music] chra G Masters eventually if you grow you will realize that there is no difference between a spiritual life and a beautiful life a life that everybody wants to live what it boils down to is you have a decision to make and it's not what your career is or who you want to marry or anything like that the big decision which very few get their head around is do you want to live your life here on this planet by making up what you want and what you don't want and then trying to make it happen

or do you want to pay attention to what's unfolding in life and try to serve it try to participate in it try to help life going where it's going those are two very very different lives and like I said very few people get clear enough comfortable enough to even know what those two lives are and that they have a decision the normal state of one's being is not okay it is not okay no reason to lie about it lonely scared insecure self-conscious embarrassed needing things expecting things I got all kinds of problems from the past

things didn't happen the way I wanted and so I have scars inside and issues and problems and things I have to suppress and push away otherwise they bother me that is what's called a normal human being that's your starting place so you admit that you know how you know you're not okay inside because of how hard you're trying to be okay it's as if every single thing we do every word we say every piece of clothing we put on every car we buy everything is an attempt to be okay you're trying to find somebody you're

trying to have a career that will make you okay you're trying to have a relationship that will make you okay you're trying to eat what will make you okay you're just trying to impress people so you'll be okay you're trying to be accepted so you'll be okay it's so big like a fish doesn't know they're in the water it's so big that we don't even notice what's going on on so truth reality starts with I'm in here and I'm not okay in here trying to be okay in here I'm not depressed or anything right that's

really not okay that that's I'm not okay and I gave up all right that's all that is so I'm not okay but I'm trying that's very nice but you're still not okay so that's your starting place is this not all that comfortable in here I have to work at it and there are times when things don't go the way I want and then I'm not okay there are times when things do go the way I want then I feel more okay but there's this constant pressure this constant need to make things be the way I

want so I can be okay and to make things not be the way I don't want so I don't be not okay all of that sounds so rational but what it misses what the Buddhist say the root it misses the root which is I'm not okay if I need things to be a certain way for him to be okay then I'm not okay if I need things to not be a certain way so I don't get worse I'm not okay that's the starting position so there's nothing you going to do about that that's the starting

position what you can do something about it what you going do about it what are you going to do about the fact that you're not okay it's like hey you have to start off by admitting you're an alcoholic you have to start off by realizing I'm struggling in here it's tough even when I do well I worry if I meet somebody I worry that I'll say something wrong or that they won't like me later or whatever it is there's this constant not okayness the Buddha said it the first Noble Truth of Buddha is that all

of life is suffering what does that mean I'm not okay he didn't mean you know someone's cutting your arm off and it hurts a lot he just said all life is suffering in other words we have to struggle we have to try to be okay so how does one go about trying to be okay it's a perfectly normal thing you want to be okay why would you not want to be okay just like your body wants to be healthy your psyche wants to be healthy you in there want to be happy and healthy and whole

perfectly normal but you're not it's not that way so we struggle when you get clear you start with that okay fine I see there's issues in here how am I going about my business of trying to be okay that's the only thing I want to talk about it's your business there are two ways to do it and like I said it's not whether you want to be a doctor or a lawyer whether you want to get married or not those are not the choices those are not the choices that's way too little the choice is

do you want to continue letting your mind make up that's all it's doing is just making up what you think needs to happen outside for you to be okay and making up what better not happen outside so you don't feel worse those are not inherent things in the nature of things what makes you happy makes him sad what made you happy yesterday makes you miserable today it can change it's not that the thing outside inherently has a nature to it that makes you good or not it is the fact that you've had past experiences and

they've left Impressions on you that this particular type of thing makes me okay that particular type of things makes me not okay if you had a different past experience believe it or not you would be different about it it is just an impression that got made upon your mind because of a past experience you had if when you were in 12th grade you dated a redhead and it was just the most perfect relationship and then he or she moved away because her parents left and you didn't even have one fight then you like redheads they're

very special if on the other hand you got really taken around the block by a red head then you have you know a tendency away from you to have a proclivity against this sort no no no I ain't going out with redhead I did that before you do talk like that do you understand that and you don't understand how stupid that is cuz the red head you went out with has nothing to do with the one you're about to go out with period nothing zero and that's true of every single thing in your life you've

had these past experiences maybe they happened in California they happened in New York maybe they happened when you were six they took your blankie away was blue now you don't like blue or you do like blue I don't know but you got something going with blue don't you so it it's all very simple and easy to understand you are in there you've had these past Impressions and one life you can live and I'm going to talk about the other one life you can live is sort of like by default permit your mind to create these

Tendencies and preferences and Concepts and Views and opinions and hopes and dreams and Rights and Wrongs and likes and dislikes all that's mental stuff create that based upon your past experiences if you grew up in a Jewish household then Judaism is right if you grew up in a Catholic household then Catholic is right or if it was pushed on you then Judaism you don't have nothing to do it you don't do Catholicism it doesn't matter the point is these past Impressions have totally run your life you're not making any decisions for yourself these Impressions have

been left upon you now events start to happen and they stimulate those Impressions don't they you start to feel good about oh I'm so attracted Ed to him I don't even want to know why his glasses look like Uncle Charlie's and he was really neat there are reasons for this and it's not chemistry right it's just past Impressions that take place and they leave them inside of you it's just such an important thing to grasp because it's running your life if you're not careful these past Impressions will run your entire life and they have no

meaning how can they have meaning you could have had a different impression there's nothing special about the Impressions you've had it just happened to be where you were looking at the time I always tell everybody here's a story when you were 6 years old you were riding in a car with your sister in the back and your parents were up front and you're driving down this the street on a highway and there's been a major accident up ahead and you kind of like turn your head and look out the window and you see something terrible

someone's been decapitated or something and it's like a tremend atic thing to you you get all weird that moment forward and you don't want to drive you never drove you never got a license you never did anything you're scared could it happen it's called a traumatic experience we made a really deep impression on you now I want to know this at that moment when that accident was up there and that car is driving by at one moment for you turned your head to the right your sister said hey look over here and you look the

other way now your life totally different totally different you're a race car driver you grow you like that's offensive to me that some random thing that you're looking one way versus another way and all of a sudden your whole life is different that's not a meaningful life that's some random stuff going on there isn't it that child didn't get to decide what his life wants to be it was decided because he turned his head to the right or the left that is insulting isn't it come on we're the highest species on the planet there's something

drastically wrong with that and I'm telling you that's true of every single impression inside of you it could have happened a different way maybe parents didn't get divorced maybe your stepdad was really neat or really bad who the heck knows anything can happen it has nothing to do with you they're just the unfolding of circumstances that are happening around you and now you don't have your own life now you have all this stuff inside you got to be afraid of if it happens again they have all these things inside that you really want to happen

again and next thing you know you're a robot your life is not yours it belongs to these Impressions that are going to react when the world unfolds in front of you if you grew up in California and you had all Impressions from there and then you moved to Florida how dare you bring those Impressions with you they have nothing to do with the moment that's unfolding in front of you do they what's unfolding in front of you wasn't even in California with you it doesn't even know what you have inside of you does it it's

a totally different situation how can it be that the situation that's unfolding in front of you now the reality is going to hit this stuff that you stored from before that has nothing to do with it and cause reactions inside of you that determine how you behave wow where what happened to Freedom what happened to Free Will what happened to Choice what happened to anything it's an insulting way to live and some people decide that I ain't living that way but very few but that's what we're here to talk about there is an entirely different

way to live but let's make sure we have that one down because you deal with it every day don't you every moment of every day things unfold outside I'm telling you those things outside have nothing to do with you any ever study Physics you ever heard of the thing called the quantum field that when they studied down there and looked all the way down they found atoms and then when they got past the atom where they find quarks and leptons and Bon and these subatomic particles and they're kind of popping out of this field isn't

that what creates what's in front of you if you ask any scientist in the world they going to tell you that's what creates what's in front of you which one of you are making the bosons leptons and quarks pop out of that field the way they are not one of you are you then how in the world can what's in front of you have anything to do with you the atoms have nothing to do with you the subatomic particles nothing to do with you and since what's in front of you is nothing but the subatomic

particles put together I really I want to blow your mind I want to challenge you to understand how lost we are you can go into a science class and study this and then walk out and argue with somebody who's walking across the street you're arguing with bons and leptons and quarks you're arguing with what's coming out of the quantum field aren't you because that's all that's in front of you so a wise person wakes up and realizes what is unfolding in front of me has absolutely nothing to do with me I'm in here I've been

in here my whole life that hasn't been there my whole life that doesn't even know my whole life it has absolutely nothing to do with me it is the result of the forces that caused it to be the way it is you ever hear something called cause and effect all the causes that ever happened culminated in the moment in front of me I wasn't even there therefore it has nothing to do with me doesn't seem like that does it it seems real personal doesn't it it really get get you upset either get you going or

get you upset I'm telling you that's all illusion delusion and error in the yoga in least Sanskrit they call that Maya it's Maya the fact that it seems as though that that's unfolding in front of you is very personal and has a lot to do with you is illusion It's Just an Illusion it has nothing to do with you it belongs to itself like there are certain people here tonight there are reasons that everyone of you are here here and there are reasons why the other 7 billion people aren't we could study every one of

them find out why they're doing what they're doing and study your past and everything and find out why you're doing what you're doing has nothing to do with me I want more people I want less people here I want so and so here what are you doing has nothing to do with you so to take things personal is absurd it's also very difficult isn't it walk around this world taking everything personal so this difference between the Impressions you've had over the course of your life those are very personal only because you had them they weren't

personal when they happened they were like everything else but the fact that they happened to you means they're your impressions they're your experiences and so those are the Impressions you had and now you bring them with you for your whole life 203 years later what mommy did when you were five is still affecting you it shouldn't even be in there it's over why are you carrying that in there what happened to you when you were five what's that got to do with what's happening now nothing absolutely nothing so one life is you have these Impressions

you're going to have Impressions they going to unfold in front of you you have these Impressions they leave Impressions on your mind and now you build this whole model inside your head about what you like and what you don't like and how things should be and what's acceptable what's not acceptable and everything right down to the tiniest detail I liked them a lot that he showed up in a bow tie are you kidding me I'm a God I guy a bow tie there you go you just left your soulmate standing on the street corner cuz

he had a bow tie on and the reason he had a bow tie on is cuz he loved you so much and his father proposed to his mother in a bow tie and he always thought that was so romantic that's why he put the bow tie on we just miss it don't we woo it's so funny it's ridiculous therefore someday you wake up I hope it's now and you realize what's going on inside your head it's ruining your life because you're walking into a moment that has nothing to do with you with a mindset that

says it better be the way I want and it better not be the way I don't want fair enough that's why all life is suffering that's why there's no way what you made up in your mind is going to happen out here have you ever noticed that it doesn't come out the way you want who's notice that yet you know want to know it doesn't cuz it's not supposed to it's supposed to be what it is it's supposed to be the result of the causes that caused it to be that way it's not supposed to

be the way you made up you just made it up one day I saw a movie I liked it so I made up however it was supposed to be I read a book wow it really changed me what do you mean it changed me made a big impression I used to not like motorcycle now I like them and I used to wow weird totally weird and not only did it change me it better change the world in front of me otherwise I'm not happy as simple as that and so now you have this friction it

makes me I am telling you that's why life seems so difficult life is not difficult life is beautiful life is amazing but it's not amazing if you've decided how it should be and you're getting upset if it's not that way and you know you're doing that all right all the time the driver in front of you the weather how somebody talked to you how close they're standing next to you in the elevator you just realize I am making a complete mess out of my life not life is a mess I am making a complete mess

out of my life why cuz you made up how it's supposed to be when in truth it has nothing to do with you and therefore you're getting upset that it's not the way you want every little thing so what's the alternative there is another way to live very few know about it the other way to live is truth the world unfolding in front of me belongs to itself belongs to physics belongs to the corks and leptons and the four fundamental forces all right if you change the voltage the power of an electron just change it

by .1 nothing is here the way it is now the Cove valent bonds won't bond together the way they are atoms won't put together the way right or wrong the world belongs to itself the moment in front of you is the way it is because of every force that ever happened before and because of the forces that are causing it to be the way it is and none of them have to do with you there's not one of you that wake up in the morning and the world comes you and says excuse me ma'am how

do you want things to be today with the weather you forgot to tell me about the weather what about Paul how do you want him to act how close you want him to stand should he call you two or three times the world isn't doing that it's behaving in accordance with the forces that cause it to be the way they are and it's not you who's willing to look at the truth and live it so somebody who's not willing to look at the truth I'm telling you and I won't belor it they're going to go

through their entire lives not like you get older you get wiser you get older you get more stuff you've had more Impressions you have more stuff that freaks you out more stuff that didn't happen that you're resentful and sad and oh my God it's weird so basically you're going to collect this stuff you have no choice the stuff's going to happen you're going to collect it you're going to store it based on how it hit you I liked it I didn't like it which is all going to be based upon your past Impressions so you're

constantly piling Impressions on top impression on top imp depressions yoga we call them some scars they literally talked about this stuff thousands and thousands of years ago in the aanas and the VAS and the Buddha talked about it so basically you have this stuff stored inside and it creates a veil it creates a mental Veil the personal Mind through which you look and then the world when it happens you don't get to experience what's actually happening you only experience what happened how it hit your stuff so there's this reaction every single thing you see or

hear something goes on inside doesn't it the mind has something to say about it something going on you're interacting with yourself you're not interacting with the world the litmus test I always give people lot of you new I'll give it again next time you're having a conversation with somebody doesn't matter who it is friend lover parent I don't care you're sitting there talking now it's their turn to talk I want you to honestly watch from inside and see whether you're actually listening to what they're saying or listening to what your mind says about what they're

saying I don't agree with that I can't believe she said that it's ridiculous she but lab that point this is crazy right oh I agree with that yeah I had a situation that's what's going on while you're listening to that person that means you're not listening to that person you're listening to you you understand that and then the worst because I've checked it out it's embarrassing then the worst is you're not listening to them you're not listening to what your mind is saying about what they're saying you're thinking about what you're going to say when

they finally stop talking check it out okay you're going to find out we're messed up so one way to live is you have all these Impressions and now you have to struggle to try to be okay and I'm telling you when you live in that personal mind the only way you're okay is if things happen the way it wants had to be exactly the way it wants including the weather how how many times the weather got you upset because it rained when you didn't want it to because it was hotter than you want it to

be how far can we go here that we're letting things that have nothing to do with us mess us up so that's one way to live another way is completely different the other way is to wake up in the morning and say I am not the creator of the universe news flesh I always say to everybody God is science is I don't care whatever your flavor is makees no difference to me later we can talk about that if there's a difference but from what I'm talking about this is the day the Lord has made this

is the day the quarks and leptons and bans hath made fine with me maybe it they'll turn out to be the same thing but the net result is it ain't me I didn't make this and so when I wake up in the morning I'm going to be excited to see what happens next what do you mean I'm just happen to be on the planet Earth and there's going to be stuff unfolding in front of me and I'm going to get to see it do you know the moment you're experiencing has never happened yet like right

now this has never happened yet and it will never happen again so every single moment in front of you is a gift it is the most unique experience that could ever happen so instead of judging it and making it try to fit these past Impressions you have a great being and it is a great being is conscious and puts their Awareness on the moment that is unfolding and they are grateful that they get to experience the moments unfolding let's just start that way and that sounds like a lot more fun doesn't that a lot more

fun than having decided how it should be it's bad enough you decide how it should be but I already told you has nothing to do with you it's not going to be the way you want is it so isn't that silly it's silly to make up how it's supposed to be when it's not even up to you to make it be that way there's no way we have some influence we'll talk about that later but not much maybe you've noticed you know you're not the god when I say that people have trouble with that right

now I'm experiencing the moment in front of me I'm not experiencing the moment to my right I'm not experiencing the moment to left I experience the moment behind me or above me or below me or anywhere else in the entire universe but I'm trying to influence what's going on well we understand it's a whole you understand it's all connected together it's not like the part I see the atams don't touch the rest right it's a system it's called the universe an equilibrium system so if I have no control none nothing I don't know what's going

on at 999999999999999999 per of the whole thing how exactly do I have control over the part that's in front of me I want you to challenge you to look at that your mind is driving you crazy it's just sitting there making up how it wants to be and it's thinking it's supposed to be that way and the answer is no it's not it's supposed to be the way it is so wise person wakes up and says I got to do something about this crazy mind that's driving me crazy and what I'm going to do as

in practice I'm going to start paying attention to what's unfolding in front of me be here now mindfulness something's unfolding in front of me I want to experience it that's my starting position okay but then you're going to say to me it's very important I'll give you your own argument back yeah but what if it's not nice what's happening in front of me what if it not pleasant yes is absolutely true that not pleasant new Flash it is absolutely true that just because you decide to experience what's happening in front of you instead of complain

about it or make up how you want it to be it doesn't mean that it's going to be a pleasant experience there I was honest wasn't I so what's wrong with that that's most important thing I want to talk to you so what's wrong with that you know things unfold it rains on your birthday you have supposed to have something outside okay there's nothing you do about it you sit there and realize okay this was not pleasant we'll do something about it change your plans just harmonize with reality however about have I said it that

way you are the highest species on the planet the highest species is the most adaptable you can live in the arct you can live in the Wayne Forest you're amazing you can be a vegetarian you can be a carnivore it's just amazing how adaptable you are you can live alone and some people got a whole bunch of people living with them other species can't do that you're a very high species but you're telling me you can't handle the rain you can't handle the color red you can't handle somebody who got divorced you can't handle somebody's

driving in front of you slower than you want you oh my god what happened to adaptability so a wise person wakes up and says I'm going to enjoy my life that's the only thing I want from you I want you to enjoy your life you're supposed to have fun it's a beautiful place it's awesome the Earth is a neat Place why don't you go check out another planet and see if you'd rather live there that's how you need to look at it don't let your mind do this you have to learn how to enjoy the

life that is unfolding in front of you it does no good to say oh but I'd rather it doesn't matter that means you don't get what you'd rather and you miss what's happening there is no I'd rather be sanding take off that bumper sticker I don't want to see it anymore I wanted to say i' rather be doing what I'm doing okay but listen to It's So logical the only experience you're having is the one you're having you're not having the experience you're not having so if your mind is creating an alternate reality and you're

lost in there then you are missing the experience you wish you were having and you're missing the experience you are having therefore you're empty that's why you feel empty that's why you feel lonely that's why you feel lost that's why you don't feel you know what's going on you don't feel you don't know what you want to do because you got got lost betwix and between your mind making up an alternate reality and you missing the reality that's happening so where are you now nowhere so this life says no I'm being gifted with the moment

that's unfolding in front of me I literally tell my mind those of you who are into astrophysics and stuff it took 13.8 billion years of everything to be exactly the was was for this moment to be in front of me it used to be just these gases thick clouds of hydrogen gas didn't the big bang and they made themselves into this just for me and it took 13.8 billion years to get here Heck if I'm missing it every moment in front of you is a once in a-lifetime experience it's not going to happen again and

it's not happening to anybody else either the moment you're seeing nobody else has ever seen and ever will wow if you want to feel special that makes you pretty special remember I'm doing all this talk for what reason I would like you to enjoy your life I care about you I'd like you to enjoy your life it's a reasonable thing let's say you have kids you want your kid to enjoy their life or be suffer no enjoy your life you only got one here it is you know you born you die would you please have

fun in between will you please enjoy your life not be neurotic and fight with it and get depressed all of it every problem you have is because you decided how it's supposed to be and you get upset it's not that way this is the alternate lifestyle you don't decide how it's supposed to be you're honored to to get to experience what's in front of you respect honor appreciation you look at it and say thank you you are better than nothing I'll tell you that I'm glad to be enjoying this to be experiencing this and you

go from moment to moment open receptive appreciative now things are going to happen just cuz you got that way and you got open and you're not making up what you want there are still going to be things that happen that don't feel good when they come in I would use the example of a rattles snake and a butterfly it doesn't matter if you ever saw a snake before you get that rattlesnake coiled up rattling those fangs coming out that is not a nice experience you have a butterfly fly over here and land on you different

things have their own nature as a Buddhist talk about everything has its nature so a rattlesnake has a nature a butterfly has a nature this person has a nature that person has a nature doesn't mean it can't change but when it comes into you it will pass its vibration into you and you will experience in accordance to the nature of what is in front of you what's wrong with that the universe is made of many different things don't you want to experience them don't you want to have lots of experiences don't you want to learn

things don't you want to you know be mature at this process of life so different experiences unfold in front of you they come in but what if they're not pleasant then they're not pleasant then they're not pleasant you know so you're driving your car somebody ran a light you had to raming your break and spin around that's that's not fun but then they're gone and you're there go keep driving I had an unpleasant experience it was fun that's how I want you to be how unpleasant was it my heart was dumping out of my chest

I was really far out now what happened I came to work it's over it's over then why is it still going on inside of you because you're not willing to let it go that's the only reason if it is not going on outside anymore it should not be going on inside anymore I'm challenging you why would I keep hanging out with moments that happened 20 minutes ago I got the moments that are happening now I I'm busy sorry I'm busy you guys you all got TVs right nowadays you have pause buttons when I grew up

you didn't pause the TV you just kept going nothing you can do about it right now I like you got pause buttons when you pause it the thing stops on the screen what if it was set up to where you could stop on the screen whenever you wanted well you can you got p and stuff like that you know get a whole bunch of those stopped ones on the screen at the same time and then try to watch a movie on top of that how would that be that's what you're doing inside you pushed the

pause button to the event that's already over didn't you and so it's stayed inside of you and now you have lots of those and now you're trying to experience a movie the movie of life with all that stuff stuck inside your head makes no sense it's a totally illogical and ridiculous thing to do and I I am telling you you do not have to keep that stuff inside of you how do I know that it doesn't want to be inside of you what do you mean doesn't it keep trying to come up stuff you stored

in there you see something you hear something smell something all of a sudden you're back with Mommy anything can stimulate it what is a raw shock test youall know what that in plot test why would they give me that because it makes the stuff come up Oh you mean the the psychologist drew the pictures perfectly cuz he knew what your stuff was no this is an ink flot has no shape or meaning to it but when you see it here comes Mommy here comes daddy Here Comes Your First Love experience it didn't work so good

right or wrong right whatever is in there is coming back up what are your dreams whatever's in there coming back up it doesn't want to stay in there what do you do when it comes back up what do you do if you had an experience that wasn't comfortable and then something stimulates it what do you do you push it back down don't you you have hands in there don't you what just a second all right I'm all right I need a second to do I push it back down or you yell at somebody I told

you not to talk about that I'm not comfortable talking about that do you hear me I'm telling you that stuff is not supposed to be in there it's in there because you keep it in there you use your will to push away from you things you don't like so if you had a rattlesnake in front of you you didn't like the experience now you won't go into reptile exhibit even if they're in cages and Aquariums you won't go see them if you did that with that rattlesnake in fact you won't walk in the woods you

want to go to the Rockies come on you you're dating somebody we go are there snakes there yes I'm not going really I'm telling you people are like that why is that rattlesnake that you saw seven years ago running your life the poor rattlesnake he crawled away a long time ago he's gone why is he still inside of you it is not supposed to be in there you're supposed to have had the experience so now you're an experienced rattles snaker everything's that way until you make it not be that way until you store it inside

of you and it becomes disproportionate and it rots in there doesn't it and it grows and you end up with all these scars inside of you so a wise person does the following they sit there and say I'm going to enjoy my life thank you not things have to be exactly the way I want for me to enjoy my life cuz then you'll never enjoy your life and nothing bad better happen to me or I'll never enjoy my life I'll resent it forever then you'll never enjoy your life a wise person says I'm going to

enjoy my life period no matter what unconditionally that's my goal and that's my career right everybody has to pick a career I picked one I'm going to enjoy my life and that's a good career isn't it why do you want to pick a particular career because you think it'll help you enjoy your life Why not pick the career that says I'm going to enjoy my life you want a relationship why do you want a relationship so I can feel love why not say I want to feel love you want to share in a relationship fine

but a relationship is not going to give you love love is something you experience inside yourself so all of a sudden you start catching on to this we just playing the game the wrong way and you sit there and say I am going to enjoy my life I'm going to enjoy my life no matter what there's abolutely nothing you want to get really high there's nothing that will ever happen that will ever make me stop enjoying my life whoow that's high I like that that's strong stuff that's beautiful like you make vows to each other

I want you to make a meaningful vow to yourself if I have but one life to live it is going to be the highest thing that anyone ever lived in the history of the world I'm going to enjoy every single moment of it I'm going to be an experienced liver so basically you come down and you make that vow to yourself you wake up in the morning first thing you realize is moments are going to unfold in front of me today I am going to enjoy them why CU I said so and I'm the only

one in here so I win out here there's all kinds of competition try to make everything be the way you want to be okay nobody agrees with you you got to fight for everything don't you in here you're the only one in there everyone I'm pointing right at you you're the only one in there if you decide that things are okay in there then things are okay in there it's called unconditional we're talking about unconditional happiness unconditional love unconditional well-being I am going to feel love because love is inside of me I'm going to feel

enthusiasm because I'm turned on by everything I'm going to feel excitement and joy and would that be neat every day every minute okay I'm telling you it can be like that the only reason it's not like that is because you're a party pooper you go to eat something and they serve it it's not as hot as you want it to be it's not exactly the size portion you want it to be somebody's smoking and the be next door the music isn't what it was last time you're ruining your meal you're the one who is doing

it you're ruining your relationships you're ruining your meal you're ruining your classes you're ruining everything by that mind deciding that has to be exactly the way I want or I am going to throw a tantrum and make myself suffer and so instead you wake up and you say I'm not going to do that anymore I'll teach you how to do it but you wake up and you say I am going to enjoy the reality the moments unfolding in front of me they took 13.8 billion years to get here they are the quirks and leptons of

reality folding in front of me and man I am going to say thank you I am going to appreciate it I'm going to enjoy it I'm going to be open to it and I'm going to learn that's the difference every experience I have is my teacher if you never touched a stove before you don't know anything about it you touch it once you know doesn't mean you don't buy a stove doesn't mean you don't cook ever again it means you become a knower of the hot stove if you're a knower of the hot stove you

don't have to worry about it anymore do you if you let it all the way in it becomes part of your being it's like the difference between playing a piano where you have to memorize every note and playing by heart once you learn it same thing in sports you better not be there trying to hit the ball you better just be there gets RA in doesn't it you better become one with the ball that's how the great ones talk about they say they go into the Zone there's just this Oneness with whatever is happening I

want you to live every second of your life that way so the experience comes in and it doesn't touch your mind it touches you you you in there I without the static in between you become a knower of that experience I see it as Rivers flowing into the ocean it's happening all the time isn't it they merge right into the ocean experiences are flowing into your soul into your being and you're becoming wiser not smarter wiser it's wisdom you're now a knower I was ask everybody would you rather go on a hike with someone who's

never seen a rattlesnake or somebody who's seen plenty of them there not even close would you rather have no experiences in Life or have experiences and so it's everything's the same you see life like a sport you're practicing you're learning it's making you holer and greater every single experience you have is a gift and it makes you a greater being are you're not greater because you now had another experience the only way you're not better is if you resist the experience but you did that if I sit there and push it away and no I'm

never getting married again this didn't work out I never wanted to get get divorced and my parents were divorced I swore I would never get divorced I can't believe I'm never going to date I'm never going to go you did that you had an experience you learn from it you'll probably be much better in your next marriage if you have another one because you saw where it went South and you catch on you come into the moment and you appreciate it and you say thank you if it comes in and it's Pleasant you say thank

you for sure you enjoy it you embibe it you let it touch your whole being if it comes in a moment it's not pleasant you say I want to learn I want to learn how to handle all the different moments of life and so you open you don't resist you don't push it away you open up okay so now you're living a life of appreciation of gratitude and of total learning every second of your life as your teacher because you're having an experience you didn't have before and so you let it in now what now

you come to the next level which I know you want to hear does that mean life is completely passive I don't do anything I just sit in here and experience the UN unfolding of the reality in front of me yes you sit in there and experience the unfolding reality in front of you now you interact with it not while you're reacting not while you can't handle it I can't handle what you said now I'm going to deal with it no you won't deal with it you'll deal with the fact that you can't handle it if

I can't handle what you said to me I'm not going to be dealing with you I'm going to be dealing with me aren't I everything you do from that moment forward will not be about fixing the situation outside it will be about fixing the situation inside I'm freaking out inside cuz is what you said or what I think you said or what you might say and everything I'm going to say is to protect myself from myself it will have nothing to do with the situation outside it will have my reaction to the situation and you

will do terrible you'll make a complete mess of your relationships of your finances of everything because you're living based on the wrong thing so now I've not done that I've let this moment come in and I'm experiencing it fully now what even if it's unpleasant I'm present I'm here I'm experiencing it now look to see if there's something you're supposed to be doing not because you want to fix yourself not because you can't handle it you can handle it called being centered you're present I'm present in the moment now look and see is it asking

something of you so if somebody walked by and didn't say hello to you A friend of your say hi they kept walking you don't know did they not hear you are they mad at you you know did somebody tell them something that wasn't true you know I like I don't know your mind will go crazy don't act on that please don't go running after them don't call them with the phone don't it's like basically if you can handle it then open your eyes and see if there's something you're supposed to be doing no they're gone

but I don't know why they didn't do it well you don't even know they heard you what are you going to do make up a reason but there could have been six different reasons that happened I'll pick one and act on it no just let it go if it comes back deal with it then it always works out better once you learn to do this you'll you come come to me and say wow I am so grateful I would have made such a mess out of so many things the way I was before now they're

gone and nothing even came back it wasn't anything next time you see the person you don't even ask why did you not say hello to me last week you just find out they're friendly and you okay I tell I him all the time well thank god nothing's wrong okay I'm glad I didn't say anything no I don't even care why why what do I care why I just care that we're fine and there's no problem maybe they're in a bad mood fine they get to be in bad moods but the point is now it's fine

if it's not fine the next time then we'll deal with it then I'm telling you it works how fine there are times where you don't have to interact all right there are times when you do have to interact something happens in front of you if if somebody calls you on the phone says your kid 16-year- old kid was found with drugs in his locker or something like that right you freak out what did I do why would he do this to me blah blah blah that's not going to help the kid that neosis doesn't help

anybody now that you let it go and you honored and respected the moment it's still there you need to deal with it you need to go down to the school and meet the principal you need to deal with the kid do your best bring your best game don't bring your neurotic self don't bring your mess bring your best being into the moment you're dealing with so I always get down to the highest way to live is let go of your personal self there's no use for it don't even bother deciding what you like what you

don't like they're just a problem it's it's unfolding good it comes in honor it respect it and then do everything you can everything you can heart soul your whole being to raise the moment as it passes by you is there something I can do so that that moment is better off because it passed before me and I mean every moment no moment's bigger than another one each moment is what life is creating at that moment for you it's all equally as important you start by saying I owe the moment that is in front of me

my whole being and so I give myself to it if I'm sweeping a floor I do the best I can if I'm studying for a test I do the best I can if there's a car accident I stop to help the people that are in the car accident eventually it gets so easy it's ridiculous when you put aside your personal self you just do everything you can to serve the moments that are unfolding in front of you and you will find out then the next moment comes the next moment comes and you're not doing anything

but yet everything's happening you're participating in life and you'll find out that if you participate in life the combination of you your will your Consciousness and life do a way better job than life is unfolding and you're fighting it you're doing everything you can to make it be your way which it never will be anyways and so most people have no idea how harmonious that what we just talk about right there is what Lau meant by the da if any of you ever studied the da without aching the da that balance where you're merged with

the moment in front of you where there's no disharmony okay that doesn't mean everything's the way you want it means you are in harmony with what is the down means the way the way it is okay and you've come into harmony with that all of the deep teachings exist exactly where we just talked all of them including mystical Christianity and the cabala they're all about letting go Christ said you must die to be reborn that's I just talked about you have to die of the person all this junk and if you do you're going to

find out that the person who's left is a very great being you are a very great being not only is there nothing wrong with you it's way past that you in there hi hi you in there who's struggling to be okay are so okay I can't even talk about it you're a very great being very great being so those are the two lives do you see them they're both open to you they don't cost money they have nothing to do with how smart you are or how tall you are they have to do with you

did you catch on yet this world out here is not here for you to manipulate your problems and try to solve them your little psychological problems with the world outside you're in here and you can be of service you can do something beautiful with your life and then when you harmonize with life great things happen it seems like you're doing nothing and all of a sudden people come to you say God you helped me so much it was amazing you said just the right you don't even know what you said happens all the time because

you're in harmony with what's unfolding you will be in harmony with what's unfolding that's the spiritual life and I started by telling you the spiritual life is exactly the same as the beautiful life and the Beautiful Life is exactly same of spiritual life you don't have to read books you don't have to do any of that kind of stuff it's about what you're doing inside yourself most of you are very young you make a decision early in your life do you want to suffer do you want to suffer do you want to go through your

life fighting with everything and everybody to try to make them be what you want cuz you never will nobody has ever made it be what they want or do you want to enjoy appreciate and serve and raise the Beautiful Moments that are being given to you that are unfolding in front of you you have to work with yourself because now we're caught in our personal stuff that's what meditation is about that's what all this stuff's about is learning to extricate your being your Consciousness from this mess that's going on inside your mind and if you

do that it will fall off naturally it'll just fall off and what will be left there so beautiful ch