for all of our Die Hard fans we've recently released our first ever limited apparel drop with a high quality comfortable graphic city the city will only be available while quantities last and it's perfect for working out staying warm this winter in just Everyday Use head over to shop.motiversity.com to grab yours today a lot of people it's the expectation that destroys their ability to be successful because they expect to win on the first shot and no one does and so it's like are you asking the universe to be unreasonable for you by expecting to be good
on your first try with 20 hours of focused effort most people can be pretty decent at something but most people spend years waiting to do the first hour how can I decrease that action threshold and get someone to just embrace the suck you should expect to suck and it would be unreasonable for you to be good if you haven't done it before I think that most people know to get in shape or to lose weight whatever they know they need to eat fewer donuts and move more in general but they don't right because they're afraid
of getting started or they don't have the discipline to keep God which is they can't make the short-term sacrifice for the long-term achievement once people understand you're going to fail and you're going to fail a lot if you can't deal with that failure then you won't do the things you need to do to ultimately be successful most people had a graveyard of failures before they had their actual first success is this the path for me well if I started something I would be more likely to be successful than if I did not start anything like
when you squat first time you squat you're you're orienting yourself to your environment you're barely actually squatting you're just looking like you have a bar on your back but you learn so much between that first rep and your ten thousandth rep you have to be in my own language willing to stare nakedly at your inadequacies yeah and if you can stare nakedly at your inadequacies then you can actually get better I think most people have a dramatic underestimation of how much volume it takes to be successful right they're like okay I should go on five
dates and find the girl I'm gonna marry like what if it was 500. [Music] do not cast power to your excuses own your circumstances because no one else will I think the difference between rich people and poor people successfully people not successful people is the degree to which they give power to their circumstance when I say these beliefs I don't say these as a an affront to anyone who shares different beliefs to be clear um but for me a very core belief that has been I think intrinsic to at least the material success that we've
experienced has been a belief that meeting is self-ascribed [Music] there is no inherent meaning in the things that we do um or the actions we take or the outcomes that happen but only that which we ascribe to it so because of that I feel like it's allowed me to achieve the things on the other side I think it's allowed me to reframe a lot of the discomfort into what if this just is how it always has been or what if this is actually amazing and what if this is exactly what it should look like and
so I think a lot of times it's the it's the discrepancy between our expectations and reality that shape the emotions that we have in response to any given situation bad good Etc and so I think a lot of people can't control their state and we deal with this with a lot of the portfolio companies is you know there's a big percentage of time where they are stressed and they think there's something wrong with that so I feel like a lot of people feel like there's something wrong with experiencing human emotions it's my belief it's contrary
and I accept that that it's it's the beliefs we have about our emotions that are the things that drive us mad and so somebody's sad and then they tell themselves they're bad because they're sad or they're wrong to be sad or they're a piece of [ __ ] because they're sad rather than saying isn't this a beautiful thought about him existence if I could not be sad then I would not experience Joy so like if I say that I don't want to be sad anymore then I would also have to give up Joy am I
willing to do that no well then this is just a part like I can't say that I want sunny days if there are no rainy days like we don't say weather is good or bad it just is and so I think to the same degree The Human Experience is also that way too at least how I Define it and so I think having that as my backbone frame in terms of my worldview has helped me a lot in dealing with the things that often derail entrepreneurs on their path to getting what they want they were
trying to find Habits of Highly Successful People and when they actually pulled apart it's not you know and I hope I'm not contradicting anything um but there's people who are really rich who wake up really late and work really late and there's people really rich who wake up really really early and there's people who really read to eat really healthy and there's people really rich who drink Coca-Cola and eat french fries every day and so there's all these things that we want to make as truths but there there's easy examples that counter those things so
it's like what are the few things that are true or at least that seem to be present in all of the situations it seems as though they were surprisingly fit and so the three common traits that they have that they had found were one that people have superiority complex they believe they're better than others and they believe that they deserve more than everyone else does and that they can accomplish big goals right so they have a bigger Vision because they believe they deserve it or whatever it is that they were able to identify that the
second thing they're identify is that they had crippling insecurity and which which is a paradox of paradoxes they feel they'll never be enough and they'll always be measured against the things that they've achieved and so you've got this crazy dynamic between they they think they're better than everyone they think they deserve more they want to go after this big hill and at the same time they fear they'll never be good enough they'll never actually achieve it and they actually suck and then the third piece which kind of adds the beautiful like mix of this is
impulse control and so they're able to control their actions and focus on a single thing for an extended period of time and so if you put those three things together it's like you've got a big goal that's pulling you this way you've got this big fear that you are running away from and then you've got impulse control to keep you focused on the one thing that matters and if you do that if you are the type of person who has those traits then you are very likely to be successful there's this this Con this competition
that I used to feel towards like the older classmen you know like think about it like entrepreneurial grades I should be like I'm going to be further faster or whatever by that time than that guy is but those guys helped me so of course it would make sense that I get there faster and there are guys in their in their mid-20s with nine figure companies that and they're killing it and that wasn't it just wasn't I don't say it wasn't possible it was extremely extremely extremely unlikely but because of the access to information the information's
out there and so somebody who's 26 can have the experience of somebody who's 60. so they can be as good at the game Real Talk as good at the game as somebody that much older is because they've had Warren Buffett videos they've been able to watch their whole High School about finance and investing and Charlie marker talk about character traits and all these things that you wouldn't you didn't have [Music] and here's the thing the older guys owe it to themselves to to be thrilled that business is a sport that you don't have to age
out of my knees going bad doesn't [ __ ] matter in business yeah [Music] a lot of times we think like I want to be the greatest of all time I'm sure a lot of people right whatever but if I did my job I won't be because somebody else will be better than me if I did my job yeah yeah and so that was like a really interesting point that I feel like shifted inside of me in terms of the competition and thinking like I shouldn't be competing against these guys who are ahead of me
I should be thanking them because of course I'm going to be there sooner faster than them I was like because I had them and they didn't have them foreign [Music] [Music]
