Welcome to Lesson 1 Of The Bee Friend Course. This is a course that will teach you how to befriend others. To become more likable.
And to gain the ability to form deep and meaningful relationships wherever you go. We're going to start off the course by discussing the 5 types of people in our lives. Also known as the tiers of friendship because, just like a pyramid – the majority of the people will fall into the lower tiers while only a select few make it to the top.
Make sure you watch this video till the very end because the rest of the course will be built upon the concepts we discuss here. You will have an extremely hard time understanding what we talk about down the line if you do not watch the entire video. Ok?
Let's get started. The first tier is the stranger. Strangers make up the majority of people that we encounter in our lives.
You may have seen them passing by during your commute to work, in front of you in the supermarket, or they might even be someone that you happen to share some classes with. What makes someone a stranger is the fact that you've never really interacted with them before. You might have exchanged glances, you might know their name, but you've never had a conversation with them.
Both of you may acknowledge each others existence, but that's about it. Strangers do not fulfill our need for human interaction at all. The tier above this is the acquaintance.
Most people have a couple dozen acquaintances. These are people that you've interacted with a couple of times in the past. You've probably had a conversation or two with them.
Most of the time it's nothing special, just small talk. You say hi if you bump into each other, but that's it. You never hang out with these people, and if you do it's because a mutual friend invited them – not because of you.
Acquaintances do very little in fulfilling our need for human interaction. The tier above this is the friend. Most people have just a handful of friends.
Friends are people that you've spent a fair amount of time with. You've shared a couple of enjoyable interactions. You invite each other to hang out at events and parties.
These are people that you've had many conversations with. Mostly surface level stuff but you've shared a decent amount of good laughs together. These are people that you feel somewhat comfortable around.
Friends fulfill our need for human interaction to some extent. The tier above this is the close friend. Most people only have a couple of close friends.
Like 2-4. Close friendships are friendships that have stood the test of time. These are people that you've interacted with over the course of at least a year or more.
Close friends are the first people that you think of when you want to hang out. They are almost always invited to any event or party that you host. These are people that you feel extremely comfortable around.
And because of this you've likely shared some deep and personal secrets with them. Close friends fulfill our need for human interaction by a lot. In fact if all we have are a ton of close friends we'll be pretty well off.
Now - very few people in our lives will make it into the last and final tier. That of the significant other. With the exception of our families, Most people only have just 1 significant other.
Significant others are the people that we value the most in our lives. They the ones that we spend the most time with. The ones that we have the deepest conversations with.
The ones that we trust the most. These are the first people we think of when we host any sort of event. And for the most part these are people that we share a romantic interest with.
Somebody like a girlfriend or a spouse. Of course there are exceptions to this rule, but they are very rare. And because of this - it's very important to note that we're not going to spend too much time talking about how to get into this tier.
See - developing a romantic relationship and getting a significant other is a bit different from developing your typical friendship and it would probably require it's own course. But this doesn't mean you should not pay attention, because what you're going to learn in this course will absolutely play a huge role in getting to this final tier. Now I know I said that there are only 5 tiers of friendship but the truth is there are actually 2 more additional tiers.
But before we get into that I do want to mention something very quickly. See - I've been coaching people for quite some time now and I've noticed something very concerning. The large majority of people who go through courses like the Tamed Course or the BeeFriend Course do not take action and reap the benefits.
In fact it's estimated that 80% of the people who purchase a course will either not finish the course or not take any action. Only 20% of people actually get something out of it. Once I realized this I decided to create some sort of service to help those of you that really want to make a change.
I've been working on a coaching program to go along with the Tamed Course for about a year and have just started working on an educational program to go along with the Bee Friend course. If you are someone who is very serious about making change and you're willing to invest money in yourself - please sign up for my mailing list in the description box below. Full disclosure, if you join this email list you will receive emails about future programs and services that are NOT FOR FREE.
These are services that will cost money (and we're talking about a decent amount of money) but will be worth every penny. They are designed to significantly increase your chances of making lasting change. In fact - I've been testing out the first program for close to a year and so far we've had amazing results.
So again if you're interested and you're willing to invest in yourself - the link is in the description box below. Ok, so what are the two additional tiers? The first one is a tier that I like to call the Neutral tier.
If you've never seen someone before – if you've just met someone. They will initially fall into this tier for a couple of seconds. The reason people only stay in this tier for a couple of seconds is because that's how long it takes for our brains to sort out whether this person is a potential friend or a potential foe.
If the person is someone who doesn't seem like they will pose a threat then we will automatically sort them up into the stranger tier. However, if they are giving off the wrong signals or they come off a certain way we will automatically sort them into the foe tier. The foe tier is reserved for people that we think could potentially hurt us.
You've probably come across someone who looked out of it. Maybe they were wearing rags or looked like they were on drugs. Maybe they looked very angry or looked like they might be hiding a weapon.
The way our brain see's it, someone like this is a huge potential problem. Potential to physically or mentally hurt us. And because of this we will subconsciously try our best to avoid them.
If someone is forced to interact with what they consider to be a foe they will enter a flight, fight, or freeze state which is extremely uncomfortable. We're not going to dive too much into that but what's important to note is that this is a tier that you want to stay out of as best as possible. And we're going to cover exactly how in a future video.
Now that we've learned about the different tiers of friendship, a very important question remains, How exactly do we move up the pyramid. Right? because in order to build strong meaningful relationships with people we need to develop the ability to climb this pyramid as effectively as possible.
Which is why in our next lesson we're going to learn about the 4 key factors that determine how fast we can climb up these tiers – also known as the Formula Of Friendship. Remember to subscribe and hit the bell icon. Because the best way to help the channel out is by completing the course, reaping the benefits, and helping us make this world into a better place.
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