My Cheating Fiancée Lost It When I Publicly Exposed Her And Her Affair Partner At Our Wedding.

my cheating fiance lost it when I publicly exposed her and her Affair partner at our wedding all right today I'll tell you all how my wedding came to a sudden stop when I read my vows so my fiance and I met through coo workers in a group setting we had a friend named David who happened to be my best friend it was great that he got along well with the girl I started dating and later proposed to so I asked him to be my best man at the wedding my fiance was really happy when she

found out and thought it was a perfect choice I had a slight suspicion about her excitement but since she was also friends with him I didn't think much of it now fast forward to the week before the wedding my soon to be bride seemed really excited and was on her phone a lot I assumed she was just busy with wedding planning she would stop and ask me about Minor decisions and I didn't mind as long as it made her happy but now knowing what I know I feel like she might have made up things to

keep me from suspecting she was communicating with another man my best man to be precise we had our Bachelor parties on the same night which I thought was cool however I was really disappointed when my best man called me to say he couldn't make it to the party he had planned for me he told me his mother was unexpectedly in the hospital and he needed to be with her you know I really should have given him the benefit of the doubt right I feel so bad now for being heartless and suspecting him anyway that night

I had a bunch of friends with me we're an active Bunch so before heading to an upscale Lounge downtown we played some basketball outside and then cleaned up nicely I was feeling like a king and I hoped my fiance felt the same way it's it's interesting because at that point we were already living together but we decided to wait until after the wedding for closeness let me tell you it was tougher than I expected we took turns sleeping on the pullout bed in the living room each night when I got back home after the party

my fiance was already asleep in our bed looking like an angel who had a great time I tucked her in but as I glanced around I noticed a Shiny Gold cufflink on the floor by the bed it caught my attention because my woman didn't have any cuff links and I only had one pair that looked different from the one I found that got me thinking you know could this mean another guy was in our bedroom I started rubbing my face and neck in frustration it was stressing me out and right at that moment my fiance's

phone buzzed it was set to vibrate but I could hear it on the nightstand so I took a peek at her messages and one conversation with my best man stood out to me all right so the most recent text I saw from him was sent 4 hours ago at 9 00 p.m. as I kept scrolling up I realized she invited him to her bachelorette party even though that's not how things usually go but it got worse when I saw their earlier messages she told him that tonight was going to be their night because the next

day she would be with me he asked if he could have her again sometime and she kind of teased him saying he might if he tempted her enough and then there were messages from months ago where they went from being just friends to getting flirty he started asking about her body and she sent him pictures they even made plans to hang out one day when I thought she was at work later he messed messaged her asking if they should have done that and she replied saying she was sure about it in just one hour I

went from being happy about getting married to feeling heartbroken and wanting Revenge I took six screenshots of the worst messages they exchanged and I planned to read them during the vows it was going to be awful just like what she did to me I deleted all evidence of collecting those messages and then took some NyQuil to knock myself out the next morning she was already gone she left me a handwritten note saying she left early to get her hair and makeup done but I knew what was really going on picture this you're all dressed up

excited for a great day and then someone drops a bombshell calling you a cheater in front of everyone what a way to ruin things right at that moment I was feeling bitter I didn't miss her or want her to apologize I was done with her because I couldn't believe how much I loved her while she had someone else on the side I put in so much effort to look good smelling great and my hair was on point part of me felt like it was pointless but I convinced myself it was still worth it I thought

about telling my dad what I had planned to do but I didn't want him to talk me out of it or warn others just then my best friend texted me asking if I was heading to the venue when I got there he greeted me outside looking all sharp but I had one thing on my mind cufflinks as a bit of a gamble I pretended to notice he was missing one even though I couldn't really tell he was taken aback and I could see he felt embarrassed he said he must have lost it somewhere that it

got caught on something I asked to take a close look at the one he had and in case I somehow found its match his heart was pounding and he was sweating like crazy it was so entertaining to see him like that but I acted clueless about it all so he showed me the cuff link and guess what it was an exact match to the one I had in my pocket in that moment I looked at him dead serious for a few painful seconds I was trying my best not to scream or punch him he could

tell something was up and asked if I was all right I snapped out of it and put on a fake smile telling him that everything was fine because hey I was getting married today right then I smacked him hard on the back making him jump a bit after some mind-numbing mingling in the grand procession I walked into the venue but I couldn't help but think that I never wanted a traditional wedding again it all felt so dumb and meaningless and just when my almost wife walked down the aisle looking stunning as ever all those memories

of how we met and our time together flooded my mind it was so damn unfair and I couldn't hold back my tears people around me noticed that these weren't happy tears I was devastated I managed to keep it together until the celebrant asked if I wanted to read my vows that was the moment I started reading messages between James and my fiance mentioning the date and time of each one at first people were probably wondering what I was up to but as they listened they realized these were flirty messages not something they'd be proud of

things got pretty awkward as they started to fidget uncomfortably and look around realizing that everyone in the building was staring at them my bride asked what I was doing and what I was reading on my phone when I got another text she told me to stop but then I went ahead and read those really inappropriate messages out loud he was saying some explicit stuff about wanting to be with her again and she was inviting him over because I had left the house as I read those messages people started whispering and talking among themselves and my

fiance tried to snatch my phone from me my best man suddenly walked out followed by five of my groomsmen and there I was shouting that I had pictures and videos of the messages they had sent each other offering to share them with anyone interested that made some folks get up and leave the celebrant had the nerve to ask if we were still going to get married and I couldn't help but laugh loudly and sarcastically my ex was now on her knees crying in her white dress at the altar her bridesmaids were clueless just standing there

Frozen maybe some of them knew about her affair with him or saw them being all flirty it was satisfying to see that no one rushed to console her I had enough of the whole drama at this point my head was throbbing from it all I stepped outside to check on my best man turns out he was cornered by those Five Guys yelling and screaming at him in disbelief for betraying me like that at that moment I was just done with it all my head was pounding and I had enough of the whole mess I got

the revenge I wanted and all I wanted to do now was take a nap I told those guys to back off and let my best man go saying that keeping him here wouldn't help anything as they stepped back my almost bride came running out of the venue being chased by her bridesmaids who were giving her a hard time and calling her terrible names she ran behind my best man's car for about 10 yards before he saw her in the mirror and stopped she got in and they drove off I turned around and saw a bunch

of our wedding guests watching the whole scene it was like they were in some grief counseling session offering me hugs and words of advice it was weird but at least they were there for me and well those people weren't her friends anymore they both lost the support and contact they used to have from our circle of family and friends they ended up moving out of state together but their relationship didn't last long they lived together for just a year before my ex moved back in with her disappointed and critical parents what a waste of time

it all was after all this mess she had the audacity to ask me out again and I just called her crazy as for my best friend he never reached out but honestly that's fine I can't be friends with him anymore anyway luckily my friends and family were there for me never letting me give up hope or get too down I haven't started dating again yet but I have my eye on a good girl I'm thinking of asking out it's crazy to think that someone would be committed to only me but my ex planted a seed

of doubt in my mind so now I take my time getting close to people I ask them anything I want to know and share my past experiences with them so they understand where I'm coming from Second Story my wife and I had been married for 10 years our anniversary party was approaching and I couldn't believe how lucky I was to have found someone to be with for so long we knew everything about each other and were best friends we believed our zodiac signs were soulmates and maybe that's why our relationship was so strong I did

notice that her sign was associated ated with cheating but I ignored that and trusted her for the past 10 years we had a daughter 3 years into our marriage my wife worked in the same career all those years and she was about to get her biggest raise right before our planned summer family vacation it really felt like I had found true love and I thought she would always be there for me the night she got home after getting her raise she seemed flustered and Blown Away by the good news but there was something in her

expression that made me think she was worried about something else I asked if she was having trouble believing her own success and she forced to laugh saying yeah but I could tell she wasn't convincing me I sensed that something else was going on but when I tried to ask she brushed it off and said she was fine just pleasantly surprised cheating didn't even cross my mind at that point then before she went into our bedroom she said something weird about her boss being incredible and how lucky she was he really likes her a lot and

that caught me off guard it sounded strange and I think she realized she slipped up saying it like that the next day was our anniversary party as we were getting ready she got a phone call from her boss she excused herself to take the call in her office something she usually did to jot down notes for later little did she know I sneaked up close to the door to EES drop on there conversation At first she thanked him again for the raise but then things got Hush Hush she whispered how glad she was to thank

him properly calling him amazing and said she wanted to be with him again then she asked him about security cameras in his office making sure they wouldn't be caught doing whatever they were doing or they'd be fired it was all coming clear in my mind I felt like bursting into the room and telling her I overheard everything but instead I decided to make an announcement at our anniversary party I needed to do something that would push me to confront her and go through with a divorce I was pretty certain she just confessed out loud to

sleeping with her boss in his office I was frozen outside the door waiting for her to come out she seemed really worried when she saw me standing so close trying to act like everything was okay I forced on a fake smile she asked if I was ready and we left I felt like a zombie and she was Restless lighting a cigarette because she gets that way when she's stressed out during the drive she tried asking again if I was okay and I knew she wanted to know if I heard her conversation we arrived at the

venue and I turned to her saying let's go celebrate our 10-year marriage wife my voice sounded robotic lacking any anger she knew I overheard them but she couldn't bring herself to talk to me about it inside she sat there sweating while I took my time to calmly greet our friends and family pretending everything was fine our seven-year old daughter was there too as my parents had given us some time alone for our anniversary seeing all our loved ones and our daughter made my wife start itching and looking really uncomfortable her face turned red and people

started noticing circling around her and saying she didn't look well even though she insisted she was fine it was obvious to everyone that she was sweating like crazy I saw this as my chance to speak up I raised my voice and told everyone that my wife was having an affair with her boss everyone was shocked and she ended up fainting thankfully our family and friends weren't heartless and they rushed to help her by Fanning her and using a cold cloth on her forehead the oldfashioned way I guess when she came to she looked so ashamed

and couldn't say much she finally managed to say she wanted to go home and I asked which home she meant she broke down in tears and ran to the bathroom I thanked everyone for coming and then took my daughter home with me we went to bed and my wife tried calling a few times a couple of other people called too but I was already asleep and didn't hear any of it I felt relieved that I found out the truth and followed through with kicking her out later on I learned that one of my wife's cousins

let her stay at their house but that wasn't all that was going to change I decided to email their company's HR department about what had happened a week later they got back to me thanking me for the information and letting me know that they took appropriate action after that my wife called me she started by calling me a low slime bag for ruining both her and her boss's careers that they had worked towards their whole lives I called her a low slime bag for ruining our marriage after I put in 10 hard years for her

and our daughter how could she do that and still expect our daughter to look up to her as a mother she didn't reach out to me until visitation with our daughter started after the divorce but you know what I've already found a woman who has her own daughter and does things for me that my ex would never have even considered it's bittersweet though because I realize I wasted a lot of time trusting her third story I guess I should call him my ex-best friend now but it's tough to accept that our friendship is over just

like that we spent so many years building a strong bond and now it's all turned to dust we've known each other since high school about 15 years ago he was like a brother to me and even like a son to my parents we practically lived at each other's houses back then and our families were really close we went on trips together and had so many memorable experiences he was the best man at my wedding and I was supposed to be his best man at his wedding too we've been through a lot together helping each other

out in tough times and having deep conversations about life love and everything else he was always there for me when I needed him giving me solid advice and being a true friend it's hard to put into words how much it hurts to lose him because he was such a significant part of my life losing him might be just as painful as losing my wife it's a huge blow to lose someone who was always there for me and who I considered a true friend only to find out he betrayed me like this I've been married to

my wife for almost 5 years but we've been together for seven I still remember the day we first met it was love at first sight she was absolutely stunning with her piercing blue eyes and infectious laugh I was surprised when she agreed to go out with me because I thought she was out of my league but as we got to know each other I fell even more in love with her she had this incredible passion for life and helping others her kindness and warmth toward everyone just made me love her even more being married to

her was amazing and I always felt like our marriage was more than just good it was great I made sure not to let myself go as a husband I took care of myself and ate well I never never forgot our anniversaries and special dates when she spoke to me I genuinely listened and paid attention I took a real interest in her life because she was important to me but at the same time I gave her space and didn't become too needy or clingy I pulled my weight around the house cleaning just as much as she

did our bed life seemed great too as far as I could tell I loved her and cared for her the way a husband should always showing her how much she was appreciated I even made an effort to keep dating her after we got married I can honestly say I never took her for granted but despite all of that I still find myself wondering what went wrong I've asked myself over and over if there was something else I could have done did I do too much did she think I was a pushover did she lose respect

for me it's hard to figure out what happened I'm not saying our marriage was Flawless we did have arguments but they were never serious ones the trouble began when my best friend broke up with his girlfriend he took it pretty hard and was feeling upset I talked to him about about it but then my wife asked if I'd mind if she went out for a coffee with him to talk and give him a woman's perspective I told her it was okay with me after all she and my best friend were also friends we used to

do couples trips with him and his girlfriend and they'd hung out together a lot because he was always around me at that time I didn't think anything of it because their friendship seemed totally appropriate I do remember him complimenting my wife's looks when we first started dating and got married but it was nothing more than that there were no inappropriate jokes or anything like that my wife might have said he was good-look at some point but it didn't raise any red flags for me even now when I think about it I still don't see any

signs that they could be more than friends when my wife returned from the coffee meeting she seemed a bit off she was really angry with his ex and said he deserved better I tried to console her saying he's young and will heal with time but she seemed really upset by that she insisted he needed time and any girl who ends up with him would be really lucky and his ex was foolish for leaving him I might not remember every detail of that convers but the main idea was that my wife was being vague and not

giving many specifics however it didn't seem strange to me back then I thought she was just being protective of my friend which is how I would have acted as well since he's my buddy after that night my wife's Behavior started getting odd she wasn't doing anything overtly suspicious but she became vague about her plans when she said she was going to see a friend or run an errand she wouldn't provide many details I'm not a controlling person and she had never given me a reason to doubt her so I didn't make a big deal out

of it at the time it didn't strike me as strange my friend was acting weird too but I attributed it to his recent breakup and feeling down I would invite him to hang out but he kept turning me down which was unusual he never gave a specific reason just said he was busy I saw less and less of him and when we did meet he seemed different it's hard to describe but he didn't seem as comfortable as before one day he messaged me asking to visit his house saying he needed to talk and get some

things off his chest I went over there without suspecting anything I knocked on the door and he answered I tried to make some light conversation and jokes but he completely ignored me he then asked me to go into the living room and there I found my wife sitting on his couch at that moment I may not have fully realized what was going on but a sense of dread started creeping over me as soon as I walked in she started crying and he wasted no time telling me that there was no easy way to say it

they were in love and wanted to be together I was completely shocked and felt like I wasn't even present in that moment when I finally started to gather myself they both tried to apologize saying they still loved me and regretted what happened they insisted it was an emotional affair that just happened not something they planned they knew they were wrong but their feelings for each other couldn't be ignored they promised nothing physical had occurred between them I don't know if that's true or not and honestly I'm not sure it even matters anymore and that's where

we stand now since that day I've received numerous texts from both of them filled with apologies my wife has been asking if I'm okay and ass ing me that she still cares for me but I mostly ignore those messages now and they've become less frequent she decided to move out of our house and I didn't bother asking where she was going later a friend of mine revealed that she moved in with my former friend as soon as she left that was just a few months ago a few days back she stopped by the house to

pick up some things I tried to avoid her but she asked if she could talk to me for a moment she then told me that she and my former friend are trying to have a baby together she wanted to give me a heads up so we can handle it as we go through our divorce she felt it was important to tell me herself because I deserve to know it really hurt to hear how quickly she's moving on we had plans to have kids together but she wanted to wait until she turned 30 now he's going

to be the one to Father her children and I have to witness it I'm here seeking any advice you can give me I don't know how to cope with her getting pregnant I feel like it'll be a constant source of pain once it happens and I'm so jealous of him because he's living the life I wanted with her I also know that her pregnancy means it's really the end for us won't be any chance of reconciling after that I thought about suggesting counseling but I doubt she'd be interested since she's set on being with him

I also don't know how to process all of this I can't wrap my head around how they both did this or how I didn't see it coming I don't understand why she left when we seemed happy it's making me question everything if you can't trust your wife and best friend and even a marriage that you worked hard on doesn't last it feels like nothing is real and life is just a big lie life can be so un Fair sometimes the past few days have surprisingly been better for me since my wife left I'm starting to

think about what the future holds I don't have much of an update but I wanted to keep you all informed about a few things I've decided to reach out to my former friend's ex and hear her side of the breakup maybe I'll find out something useful maybe not but I feel like I should try I talked to one attorney but I need to get serious about finding a good lawyer next week I'll start searching more actively thankfully my friends and family have given me some some recommendations to consider I don't know exactly when but I'm

pretty sure I'll start counseling soon my mental state is not in a good place right now and I know I need professional help to get through this I'm thinking about writing to my wife and ex-friend some of you asked why I didn't confront him when they told me about their Affair it bothered me because I realized I never expressed how much they hurt me and how I feel they need to know even if they don't care many of you gave suggestions on how to cope with the situation I'm going to make some changes around the

house to create a more comfortable environment until I can move out I'll also keep myself busy but the hardest part so far has been the nights when I'm alone and everything gets quiet like right now update a lot of you suggested that I should contact my ex-friends ex-girlfriend let's call her EF for convenience to see if she knew anything about his affair with my wife I did reach out to her but she confirmed ef's story about the reasons for their breakup I asked if she noticed anything strange or had any suspicions of him being involved

with another woman before they split and she said she had no reason to ECT anything I believe her because she seemed genuinely shocked that they ended up together and I don't think she has any reason to lie to me in my previous post I mentioned writing a letter to my EF and wife for closure many of you advised against it and I decided to follow that advice I wrote the letter for myself but I didn't send it I think you guys were right that they wouldn't care anyway so there was no point in sending it

a few weeks ago I finally chose an attorney to represent me he was recommended to me and I trusted him to protect my interests and Ensure Fair outcome in the divorce last week I officially filed for divorce it was a tough day but I knew it was necessary there's still a part of me that Daydreams about her coming back and admitting her mistake but I know that's not realistic I can't base my life on a fantasy that will never come true I felt a bit better leading up to filing for divorce but the actual filing

took away that boost and I've been feeling more depressed again I considered personal counseling as you guys suggested but I decided it's not the best time for it luckily I started a new project at work and with the changes I've made in my life I've been keeping busy which helps it might sound crazy but there's a part of me that doesn't really want to feel better I feel like this sadness is natural when a marriage is ending regarding the alienation of affection suit I decided not to pursue it even though many of you wanted me

to my attorney explained it wouldn't be easy and there are no guarantees besides I don't care about the money even if I won it wouldn't change anything my main goal now is to wrap this up as soon as possible so I can move away and start over the only other interesting thing is that after my wife got her papers she contacted me asking to meet and talk I haven't responded and I'm not sure if I will I don't think there's anything left for us to say to each other and I doubt there's anything she could

tell me that I want to hear in terms of what I've been up to I've been running more doing some reading trying out yoga and meditation yoga was cool but meditation wasn't really my thing work has kept me busy which is a good distraction I considered learning French but for now now I'll put that on hold as I have other hobby projects going on I picked up fishing again too I'm just trying to stay occupied so I don't have too much alone time with my mind wandering regarding changes around the house I got rid of

lots of trinkets that reminded me of my wife I got a body pillow for my bed which surprisingly helped me relax more I'm still in the guest room but I might move back to the master bedroom soon it doesn't make much difference at this point though as I'm still having trouble sleeping that's pretty much it I've been reading more about failed relationships got some good advice from recommended sites in a YouTube video the guy in the video said that if someone moves on quickly after the breakup they probably weren't the right one for you it

made me rethink how I saw my wife I used to think she was the one but maybe she wasn't if she could do all this he also had some great insights about memories and accepting when someone you cared about becomes just a memory that's all for now it's not the happiest or most eventful update that that's life I guess