I Suggested An Open Marriage With Another Couple, But My Husband Raged When He Caught Us Cheating.

I suggested an open marriage with another couple but my husband raged when he caught us cheating I'm a 24-year-old guy you can call me Jeff and my fiance is a 22-year-old woman let's call her Julie I first met Julie at a fast casual restaurant where she works as a cashier and serves beverages right from the start I found her extremely attractive and would always find reasons to strike up a conversation with her if she happened to be busy with another customer I'd let them go ahead of me just so I could place my order with her gradually I began frequenting the restaurant for lunch about two to three times a week just to chat with her but I never quite Found the courage to ask her out then one day while she was ringing up my order she wrote her phone number on the back of my receipt and encouraged me to call her that evening expressing how much she enjoyed our conversations I did just that and we talked for a solid 2 hours toward the end of our conversation I mustered up the courage to ask her out on an official dinner date the date went really well and she opened up to me about her life revealing that she is the mother of a 4-year-old boy she became a mother during the beginning of her senior year in high school as she told me the child's father was never a part of the child's life he moved to Georgia after graduation and she hasn't had any contact with him since she also mentioned casually dating a few other guys in the past but nothing had turned serious on my end I had two previous girlfriends before Julie when I learned about her child I expressed that I'd like to maintain our friendship but wasn't interested in pursuing anything more given her existing responsibilities as a mother she was understanding and agreed with this arrangement we continued to hang out meeting up once or twice a week just enjoying each other's company this Dynamic continued for nearly 2 months until one day she surprised me with a kiss from that point our next three dates gradually became more passionate and eventually we took our relationship to the next level it was an amazing experience and from then on I was fully committed we started spending every evening in weekend together and after a couple of weeks she introduced me to her son whom we'll call Josh Josh and I IM immediately connected and he started joining us almost every time we were together even though I initially had reservations I ended up falling in love with Julie and her son when I discussed the situation with my parents they had their doubts they believed that given my recent graduation and stable job I could find someone else my mother questioned whether I truly wanted to take on the responsibility of raising another man's child I clarified that we weren't at that stage yet but would consider it in the right circumstances a few weeks later I introduced Julie and Josh to my parents and their opinions began to shift they found Julie to be very nice and quickly developed a fondness for Josh afterward they expressed their approval of our relationship but advised caution since I had only known Julie for a few months at that point I assured them that I would proceed at a comfortable Pace during that period Julie had a roommate named Jane Jane also worked at the restaurant with Julie and was engaged to be married after Julie and I had been dating for8 months she informed me that Jane wanted to move in with her fiance fance but Julie couldn't afford the rent without Jane after some consideration I decided to move in with Julie and Josh allowing Jane to make her move I had lived with my parents throughout my entire life even during my college Years and I felt it was time for me to become more independent Julie and Jane supported my decision but my parents strongly objected they emphasized that it was ultimately my choice but Express their concerns I reassured them that it wasn't a long-term commitment and I wouldn't be signing a lease I was simply taking over Jane's share of the rent payment when I moved in there were still 7 months left on the lease fast forward Julie Josh and I have been living together for almost 5 months now and everything has been going smoothly I had developed strong feelings for Julie and I had grown very close to little Josh we were so close that he once told me he wished I were his dad even though I suspected Julie encouraged him to say that I knew he genuinely liked me as I mentioned everything was going well until an unusual incident occurred about 3 weeks ago one night after J had fallen asleep Julie and I were talking she mentioned that one of her K workers jimie found me attractive and expressed interest in being intimate with me shockingly she also revealed that Jaime's husband wanted to have an affair with her I was completely taken aback and disgusted by this Revelation I informed Julie that I appreciated the compliment but had absolutely no interest in being intimate with Jaimie I also inquired about Jaime's husband and this was the first time Julie had mentioned anything about this situation to me which left me quite upset rather than than addressing my question directly Julie proceeded to ask if I was aware that Jaimie and her husband were by and involved in an open relationship I responded no how would I have known that unless you told me Julie then wanted to know if I thought any less of them to which I replied that I didn't judge them I mentioned that as adults they were free to make their own choices but that such a lifestyle wasn't something I personally embraced and I hoped it wasn't something Julie was considering either we concluded the conversation there but Julie's demeanor left me pondering this matter intermittently over the past few weeks now let's fast forward to yesterday or more precisely last night when everything took a dramatic turn Julie's former roommate Jane and her long-term boyfriend got married they had a civil ceremony at 5:30 p. m. followed by a lively reception the party extended into the early hours of the morning I typically don't consume alcohol and I was the designated driver for Julie and several of her friends due to my large SUV the group consisted of Jamie her husb husband and another cooworker of Julie Jess who attended the wedding solo these three friends had plans to indulge in drinking and get intoxicated Julie mentioned she would limit herself to only one or two drinks claiming she didn't get drunk anymore in fact I had never witnessed her drink prior to last night as the night went on everyone was enjoying themselves em bibing and dancing around 11:30 I noticed that Julie appeared slightly Tipsy which struck me as odd since I had only seen her nurse two drinks all night I asked her if she had consumed more alcohol and she replied in the negative by this time it was nearly 1 a.

m. and the last of the party goers were leaving I gathered everyone who had ridden with me into my vehicle our first stop was Jess the single attendee whom I dropped off the next stop was at Jamie and her husband's apartment when I pulled over Julie mentioned that she needed to use the restroom she exited the car and followed Jamie and her husband whom I'll call Joe up the stairs to their apartment I remained in my vehicle with the engine running assuming she would return within a few minutes after waiting for about 10 to 12 minutes I turned off the engine and decided to check on the situation upon reaching the door I knocked and entered inside the living room stood Julie along with Jamie and Joe all visibly intoxicated from their conversation without any prompting for me Julie suggested letun sleep here tonight I nervously chuckled and replied no letun go but what she said next left me stunned Julie continued saying they've got two bedrooms you and Jamie can sleep together and me and Joe can sleep together hearing this disbelief and anger welled up within me I reiterated let's go however Julie retorted I'm not going anywhere and you can't make me you can stay here with us or you can leave frustrated I approached her gently reaching for her hand she pulled her hand away abruptly and snapped get off me in response I said okay turned and exited the door I was burning with anger at this point thoughts racing through my mind at lightning speed I drove back to to our apartment briefly contemplating returning to see what was happening then I realized I no longer cared about her actions at this point I was done I made the decision to pack all my personal belongings into my SUV and move out so from around 1:45 a. m.

to just before 3:00 a. m. I went in and out of the apartment loading up my vehicle subsequently I drove to my parents house and called them on the way to let them know I was coming over they were not critical or judgmental but my dad offered his perspective saying son it's best you found this out now the following morning around 9:30 a.

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Julie called me but I allowed it to go to voicemail she left me a message as if nothing had occurred saying hi babe it's me I hope you slept well I fell asleep as soon as you left come get me as soon as you can I love you she called again 15 minutes later and once again I chose not to answer she continued calling repeatedly her voicemails becoming increasingly frantic and she also started texting me in one of the texts she admitted Jamie just told me what an a-hole I was to you last night I'm so sorry I didn't mean it please come get me I did not respond to any of these messages approximately an hour later she left me another voicemail realizing that I had moved out of the apartment in this message her desperation was evident as she asked why I had left and claimed that she was drunk emphasizing that she didn't mean anything she had said she also reassured me that nothing had happened between her Joe or Jamie she concluded by saying I know you're at your parents place and I'm coming over upon hearing this I did didn't want her to create a scene at my parents house so I quickly sent her a text she immediately responded with a text pleading for me to come back home I replied simply no we are done she texted back claiming it was all a big misunderstanding again I responded firmly we are done she then texted back saying she was coming over to my parents house I messaged her letting her know that I was leaving for the day and wouldn't be there when she arrived I informed my parents about her impending visit and expressed my desire to avoid seeing her and any potential scene she might create at this point I had no idea how she would react as she had been a completely different person last night from the woman I had known I left the house and headed to a coffee shop planning to stay there until she left I asked my parents to call me if she showed up about half an hour later my dad called and informed me that Julie had been there and had left he had greeted her at the door and informed her that I wasn't at home and that he didn't know when I would return this all transpired just a few hours ago and I'm still here at the coffee shop typing out this lengthy post which has been quite cathartic by the way now I'm experiencing some doubts regarding my choice do you believe I reacted too strongly or was my decision Justified Julie has been a fantastic partner until last night will this be something I'll reflect on in 10 years with regret or celebration final update hello everyone I've received several requests for an update so I wanted to fill you in on the current situation Julie and I are officially no longer together the whole ordeal with her turned out to be a massive deception it's incredible how naive I was I want to clarify that I haven't spoken to juliean person or on the phone since the day everything came to light we've only communicated through text messages right after my last post Julie kept texting me insisting that nothing happened between her Joe or jimie she even had both Joe and jimie call me and leave messages claiming they were all just friends and nothing else had ever occurred between them they swore on their lives and more to this fact well I've since learned that this was far from the truth recently I joined an ax throwing class offered at a local pub in my class was the single girl who had ridden with us to the wedding Jess after our first class I asked Jess if she had time to grab a drink and catch up and she agreed we were chatting and she inquired about the reason behind my breakup with Julie so I told her the first thing Jess revealed was that Julie jimie and Joe were Downing shots at the wedding every time I took a break to go to the bathroom or get some fresh air what she disclosed next shook me to my core Jess mentioned that Julie Jamie and Joe have been engaging in threesums regularly for the past two years she assumed I knew about it since Julie had told everyone we were polyamorous according to Jess this unconventional relationship was common knowledge among the restaurant staff and I could confirm it with Jane or anyone else from there my initial thought was when did they find the time to do this Julie and I were rarely apart except when we were at work what a fool I've been but I've certainly learned my lesson I've become a much wiser and stronger person through all of this regarding Julie being by and polyamorous if that's her preference fine but why did she have to deceive me like that what a terrible thing to do from now on I'm strictly into casual dating on that note Jess and I have started a Friends with Benefits Arrangement and it's been fantastic so far Julie has no idea she still reaches out to me every few days pleading for me to return I've never responded and I never will all right that was a fun story now let's move on to another exciting one stay tuned and let's dive in I'm a 27-year-old guy let's call me Marvin and I've been married to my wife who is 25 will call her Mary for a little over 6 months our journey began about 4 years ago when we met at a wedding reception which almost didn't happen for her Mary attended the wedding as a last minute guest with a friend who was part of the bridal party I noticed she was spending some time alone while the bridal party was busy with photos so I decided to strike up a conversation we clicked right away began dating fell in love and eventually moved in together a year later everyone around us thought we were the perfect couple in terms of work Mary holds a staff position at a large company and I work in a professional role at a company's headquarters I won't delve into more specifics to safeguard our privacy our entire relationship felt like a dream and I woke up each day looking forward to it however just a few days ago my once perfect marriage shattered into countless pieces it happened on a Thursday and I arrived home around the usual time approximately 5:30 p. m.

to my surprise Mary was already there wearing a mini skirt and an apron normally she doesn't get home until 6:00 p. m. she welcomed me at the door with a warm kiss and hug mentioning that she left work early to prepare my favorite dinner she had even picked up our favorite wine and a cheesecake we both adore Mary wanted to pamper me to show her love I was so excited that I carried her into the bedroom and things heated up before dinner after our passionate moment we sat down to eat she sat on my lap and we shared hugs and kisses in between bites and sips once we finished the meal she stood in front of me pressing her lower chest and stomach against my face I wasn't sure what she was up to but I played along she then asked me to look up at her and dropped the news we're pregnant I couldn't have been happier I stood up lifted her and twirled her around we both laughed and I must admit shed tears of joy as we had been trying to start a family since our wedding night we loaded the dishwasher and sat down to enjoy our cheesecake that's when I suggested we do a three-way call with our parents to share the news together Mary liked the idea so we used her phone on speaker mode to tell both sets of parents about the exciting news they were Overjoyed as this would be the first grandchild for both families afterward we cuddled on the couch and discussed getting ready for the baby I felt incredible words can't express it but then things took a sudden turn Mary left for the bathroom and when she returned she had an envelope in her hand which she handed to me she asked me not to be upset with her I reassured her telling her how could I be mad when you had just made me the happiest man in the world as I opened the envelope I found a two-page handwritten letter from Mary to me she began by expressing her love for me more than anything else in the world followed by a string of all the wonderful things a wife could say about her husband then came the bombshell she revealed that on two consecutive days just before Christmas she had a romantic encounter with a co worker from her company she went on to say it was the biggest mistake of her life and that she'd spend a lifetime making it up to me naturally I was in Shock by this point and asked what's going on she simply looked at me tears streaming down her face and said how deeply sorry she was I questioned is this for real she confirmed it and broke into tears again expressing her sincere apologies I pressed her for the identity of the man but she refused to answer insisting it didn't matter since it was in the past and would never happen again I asked once more but she still refused so I stood up and headed for the bedroom to start packing I didn't just pack clothes I also gathered some of my personal belongings because cheating was a deal breaker for me while I walked toward the apartment door she was on the floor clinging to my left leg crying I continued walking slowly gently trying to free myself from her grip as I reached the door and opened it she let go and stood up and there happened to be a guy coming down the hall whom I greeted as I opened the door after that I drove straight to my car and traveled 20 M away to stay in a hotel for the night on the way I phoned my nearby living brother and explained what had unfolded and he couldn't believe it he remarked that there might be no recovering from this to which I replied that I wasn't certain because I felt utterly devastated and didn't want to dwell on it he suggested that I come to his place but I declined saying I wasn't in the right State of Mind to drive so he insisted on coming over to the hotel to talk to me the first thing my brother inquired about was whether the child was mine my response was oh man I didn't even think about that my self-esteem plummeted and I started venting my frustrations with my brother patiently allowing me to let it all out once I had calmed down my brother advised you need to devise a plan for how to handle this situation I'll assist you I initially expressed my desire to find a way to salvage the marriage but my brother reasoned with me he explained that I had a unique opportunity to walk away from this without major consequences as an enement of the marriage could be a possibility he cited an example from our childhood where a neighbor cheated on his wife just 3 months into their marriage and the wife was granted an an nment by the end of our conversation I still felt terrible but I had a clear plan for my next steps the following day which was Friday I had chosen to take the day off since I had worked 4 10hour days the previous week earning me a day off I spent that day researching attorneys and managed to secure appointments with three different law firms throughout the day Mary bombarded me with non-stop calls and texts she didn't go to work and her voice sounded frantic I chose to ignore her calls but did reach out to both our parents to explain the entire situation I also called her best friend and canel the double date we had scheduled with her and her boyfriend for Friday night perhaps I shouldn't have disclosed our personal issues to everyone but I was consumed by anger and a desire for Revenge at that point later in the afternoon my sister-in-law called mentioning that Mary had been trying to contact her all day she informed me that Mary had driven to their house twice to see if I was there which was a 30-minute Drve illustrating her frantic State my sister-in-law told Mary that I wasn't there and that they knew my whereabouts but couldn't divulge the information the messages from my wife were essentially incoherent filled with frantic pleas amid sobs containing all the things you'd expect from someone in her situation on Friday evening I treated my brother sister-in-law and parents to a lovely dinner at a nice restaurant it was a kind of celebratory dinner for my brother and sister-in-law since their 10th anniversary was just around the corner we had an enjoyable time Although our conversation mostly revolved around Mary and me they all believed it would be best for me to seek an analment move forward and start a new however I wasn't entirely convinced they proposed that I meet with Mary the following day to break the news to her my sister-in-law also insisted that I request a prenatal paternity test to determine the biological father of her baby I had no prior knowledge that such tests were possible I assured them that if the baby turned out to be mine I would wholeheartedly love and be the best father to to the child if not that would be Mary's responsibility to address throughout the meal Mary called me four times while my brother mom and sister-in-law each received two calls from her before leaving the restaurant I phoned Mary and arranged to meet her the next morning at my brother's house she had suggested meeting at our apartment but I declined I preferred a neutral location with other people nearby when she arrived I immediately informed her that our marriage was over and I intended to file for an analment I also expressed my desire for a paternity test she became very emotional and distraught she immediately fell apart and knelt before me swearing that the child was mine she claimed to be certain based on the conception date I insisted on the paternity test and assured her that if the child was indeed mine I would be the best father possible however if it turned out otherwise I would not have any role in the child's life she cried and I sat with her for over an hour while she sobbed eventually I asked her to leave and though she did so reluctantly come Monday things took a strange turn around 10:00 a.

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