good afternoon Dwayne here Dry Creek Wrangler school um just want to talk I had another thought on my mind today actually my wife uh said few days ago she said you know this might be something you want to think about talking about this month and I thought no I don't I don't really want to uh but it's been on my mind and I think I think I will um y'all don't mind me while I fire up my cigar um this is this is a subject that only applies to those that it applies to okay doesn't
apply to everybody doesn't apply to every situation so I don't want you getting on here and saying Dwayne yeah but yeah but you don't understand I do understand so Deanna's gone this week and she'll be gone for another couple of weeks she's traveling around visiting family now that school's over before the weather gets too bad this winter so I'm here by myself now generally speaking I love being by myself all right I love the quiet I love the solitude but it's getting to be a little bit sometimes a little bit more than I want I
get tired of cooking for myself I get tired of washing dishes and uh so I'll go to town or I'll go about Four Mile up the road here to the wno bar and grill we in Wyoming it's not this way everywhere but it's common to have an establishment that's a family establishment where you get hamburgers and um chicken strips for the kids and and then they have a bar and everything's together and it's all good that's this place it's just down the road uh good folks I went in there today and uh got me a
Mushroom Swiss burger and french fries and I committed the sin of all sins uh I had a doct pepper I just been hankering for a Dr Pepper so I had one now I'm going somewhere with this okay um his there was a guy sitting there um and he's he's he my favorite guy in this whole area um he uh he's the hardest working man in W know incredibly he's just topshelf people all right he was sitting there and I had heard that he had had kind of the crud and uh and he was looking for
some soup checking to see if they had some soup he's going to take to some of his family that had the flu and he was looking and so I was reminded oh yeah it's flu BL season and I got you know I got to thinking and just things started turning around in my brain like they do it it's flu season it's cold season if I get a cold if I get the flu if I become ill I don't go to the hospital I don't go to the doctor I absolutely do not get the flu shot
and I positively do not go and take their antibiotics for the flu and for the cold if you do that's fine I'm just telling you me what do I do and I don't do that if I start feeling ill I do two things first I stop going down and getting fries and Dr Peppers all right and then I will take a glass and I will put two oz of bourbon usually uh Buffalo tray um an ounz of lemon juice a huge heaping tablespoon of honey and finish filling it up with another 8 oz of hot
water and I'll make me a hot totty and I'll sip on that and if I feel really bad I'll take that in and I will fill up the bathtub with water as hot as I can stand it and I will slide down into that hot tub of water and drink that hot totty and then I'll go to bed 99% of the time I'll wake up the next morning and I'm fine okay Dwayne what where is all this going when I feel physically ill I remove the things that are not good that are hindering and handicapping
my health and I will pick up some temporary things that do help the situation and I will deal with it if I go into the doctors and get antibiotics the antibiotics actually weaken my own immune system and the more antibiotics I take the more my body depends on an external source and the less able I am to deal with my own illness did the light bulb just come on I think in many instances today we we and I hear this more and more um about men's mental health and when I first heard it I'm like
well okay that's reasonable and logical of course um and of and I have two sons have been in the military and so I know about that side of things that's definitely a situation over there but like everything else I see come along it's been taken too far it's taken too far now I did I don't know two or three weeks ago I did a podcast with Chris Williamson it hasn't been produced hasn't come out yet we we talked about this very subject um it's one of the things that we talked about I think the more
that you seek help dealing with your problems that you could deal with yourself the weaker you become and the more you will require outside assistance to dealing with your problems when the truth is and again I know there are other situations I said at the beginning that does not apply across the board to everybody you have to determine what applies to you and what doesn't Okay um but it's become a thing today that because men are feeling um that they're not being heard they're feeling that life is hard they're feeling depressed they're feeling um whatever
men should go all men who are feeling they should go get therapy they should deal with their mental health I don't agree I think they should man up I think as much as they can when it is possible they should deal with it they should deal with it now I'm not talking about getting help with addictions I'm not talking about any of that okay I'm talking about just because you feel bad just because you feel bad does not mean you need to go pay somebody to hold your hand so you can whine and complain to
them because you feel bad suck it up now this is a very this is going to be a very very unpopular controversial video out there so what I don't care um this is something that there are some guys out there that need to hear you need to man up you need to man up you need to quit whining to your wife quit whining to your wife you are her anchor you are her foundation you are her strength and of all you do is go to her every time you feel weak and lay out before her
every weakness that you feel that you have now if she has any natural mothering Instinct in her at all she'll be there for you but how much are you cracking and weakening and damaging her Reliance on your strength and in the long run what kind of damage is this doing to your relationship not to mention what kind of damage is this doing to you as a man as a man man the more antibiotics you take for the flu and for the cold the less able you are to deal with your flu and cold the more
antibiotics you're going to have to have they weaken you and we have a society today every time they get the sniffles and the colds they run to the emergency room because they know in most cases legally the emergency room cannot turn them away and they're not going to have to sit there for 3 hours to see a doctor to get checked look if you got the flu if you got the cold deal with it stop taking in the poisons that has weakened your body taking the things that are strengthen you taking what you need to
get you through that time through that illness and just deal with it and the next time cold and flu season comes along you will be stronger that works with our mental health as well you say Dwayne I I'm I'm depressed do you think that is something that's just today do you think that is something that is just uniquely you depression is a part of human reality now depression that gets so bad it leads to taking one's life um depression that never goes away depression that's there forever but but usually depression that's there forever is there
forever because they've always had someone to come along to cheer them up to encourage them to tell them you are wonderful you are kind you are this you are that you are that to pep them up and pick them up and they've come to rely so much on external emotional antibiotics that when the antibiotics are not available they can't deal with it look I have been depressed I still get depressed from time to time I have been suicidal there was a time I spent a number of weeks sitting on my front porch planning out my
end you didn't expect that did you and I had it planned out ultimately in the end I didn't go through with it because I said I cannot let my new grandbaby grow up with that this was her Grandpa so I got to come out of Dwayne did you go to therapy I did not I called two pastors I called One Pastor good man but he was too busy his schedule was such he he couldn't talk my wife contacted another Pastor who I had known years before who I had trusted and he said Dwayne hadn't suffered
enough Dwayne's too arrogant if Dwayne ever wants my help he can call me she had said will you please call Dwayne he's in a bad place he said no I'm not going to do it so when I went to get antibiotics there were none to be had so I dealt with it didn't go to therapy not anti- theapy okay but I didn't go to therapy I dealt with it you said Dwayne I I feel so lost dude welcome to human nature man welcome to manhood who in the world wants to live a life where every
single thing is laid out in front of them you're supposed to feel lost that's how you learn and that's how you grow that's how you discover different roads and different paths and different ways of doing things you said Dwayne I feel so alone who told you you were never supposed to feel alone all right most of the time when people feel horribly alone it's because they don't like thems elves that's who they're with all the time and they don't like who they're with all the time all right A lot of these emotions are chemical they're
exacerbated by the chemicals that's in our food and the chemicals we eat the chemicals we drink that doesn't help the situation any a lack of exercise doesn't help the situation any if you go to the doctor you say Doc I'm I'm physically ill I'm physically ill I need you to give me a pill I need you to give me a shot I need you to give me some medicine doctor says well what are the symptoms of your physical illness well I have no stamina I'm out of breath when I walk across the floor and my
heart beats irregular and and my knees hurt all the time and I'm sluggish in the head and I can't think now the doctor can do one of two things the do doctor can say hey here's a pill or the doctor can look you in the eye and tell you the truth and say your problem your illness is because you're fat you're fat you eat garbage you eat too much of that garbage and you don't exercise this is not an illness that you need a hospital or you need a medicine or you need a doctor to
fix this is an illness that you need to suck it up and you need to man up and you need to put that damn cookie down and you need to go for a walk this is an illness that you you fix yourself by becoming a man of discipline and determination a man of some self-respect isn't that what we do we intake garbage we intake garbage from the people that we hang around we intake garbage from movies we intake and it's garbage it's it's just it's just garbage garbage we intake garbage from television and we intake
garbage from our music and there's so much anxiety and so much hopelessness and so much depression and so much Yammer and it's like the world's coming to an end and and we we take garbage in from the news source I mean if you don't believe me just look at the cycle of the news source right now ever since Trump was elected it's it has become his hysterical is become hysterical the garbage that people are spouting out hysterical to the point that even the people saying it don't believe it anymore but we consume that we consume
all of that doom and all of that Gloom and all of that it's an end of the world and all of that oh it's fascist it's socialism it's it's this it's that um and and we don't intake healthy stuff we don't read uplifting stuff we don't read good material we don't listen to good people we don't hang around good people we don't take in healthy stuff and we don't exercise we don't study we don't think for ourself we don't research we don't look stuff up and gets to the point that we can't drag ourself through
life anymore so we go to the emergency room and we sit down and we say I'm mentally ill and so they'll happily hand us some pills because they're making money off of it and they'll happily sit there and talk to us every week for 200 bucks an hour but they won't sit there and say your problem is you are emotionally fat you eat garbage and you do not exercise you don't expel this filth out of your system this is not an illness that can be cured by a therapist the therapist most of times is paid
to help you find someone in your past to blame all your problems on tell me if I'm wrong how many therapist out there that you go to look at you and say this is you've brought this on yourself I know this is unpopular guys I know but some of you you need a swift kick in the pants right now because during this month everybody's going to Pat you on the head and they're going to rub your hand and they're going whisper in your ear and they're going to tell you it's it's because of the women
the women are toxic it's because of whoever we have president now or whoever we used to have president or because of how your parents raised you and they're going to they're going to be willing to point out everybody in your ever existence who's probably to blame for the emotional baggage you carry right now and the problem is you're emotionally fat from eating garbage and not EX exercising you don't need an emergency room to give you antibiotics you need to stop eating the garbage you need to start eating good stuff and you need to start exercising
and I'm speaking metaphorically and physically again because some people absolutely do not listen to what I'm saying I'm not saying that there's never a point and a place for therapy but we're just like the society today that every time they get a cold they go to the emergency room and that's where men are heading today if they keep following down this path look do you not understand that something in this Society has been attacking masculinity for years and has been trying to destroy men now you can squawk about that and you can say Dwayne that's
not true it's very true all right men are blamed for everything everything and the razor industry is a billion doll year industry shave those whiskers off we want you to look more like women look at how much soy is in the food that is produced today and soy is it's it's estrogen heavy okay um it's and now this this this thing of men's mental health n health nut sorry about that men's mental health month there's just a another deal that says we are afraid of strong men we don't want strong men we want men who
are what it there's a phrase today that is absolutely starting to drive me crazy we want emotionally intelligent men I'm beginning to think that's a dog whistle that says we want men who act like women there's nothing wrong with being strong there's nothing wrong with sucking it up there's nothing wrong with handling your emotional issues until you win until you get victory over them now I'm not talking about okay the you know I'm a very very very strong proponent of like military First Responders police firefighters ambulance drivers paramedics PTSD I've had PTSD I know what
that is and I and I'm not speaking towards folks that get over way over there and and need help I'll I'll help pay for your getting help I'm not against that I'm not fighting that okay I'm fighting us normal guys us working guys us fathers and US husbands and us working men who are just living life and it beats the hell out of us and I'm saying don't tuck your tail between your legs and go whining and crying and fall with your head in your wife's lap and weep about how life hard is how hard
life is suck it up be a man and be her rock you figure out what it is that's making you weak and fix it and fix it talk to a buddy because I'm sure he's going through the same thing in his own fashion figure it out for yourselves all right but suck it up and be a man there's enough weak weak men out there who cannot get through life without somebody holding their hand and I got news for you things aren't hard yeah life is hard okay life is hard I've talked about about that before
but things are not as catastrophic at this point in life as they're going to be and if you can't handle things as bad as they are today what are you going to do when things get really really really bad ask for advice go to other men for counsel ask absolutely do that all right but don't go to somebody who's going to take your money and try to help you find where you can place the blame for what is actually your lifelong consumption of emotional garbage and your lack of exercise your lack of consumption of the
healthy and the good and the wise and the sharp and the strong you want to be strong you can't be strong if you're only strong physically but you're weak emotionally as a man you have to be strong physically you have to be strong mentally and you have to be strong emotionally and if you take a strong physical man who can bench press 300 lbs and can do this and do that and if you can make him weak emotionally you've got a puddle you've got a puddle because the body's nothing without the emotions and the body's
nothing without the mind all right so that's my take on men's mental health month if you have I if you are thinking about ending your life get help if you need help I want to make sure I clarify what I talked about earlier I don't want you to take it wrong all right if you're an alcoholic and you need help get help I'm not saying um suck it up and just deal with it okay all right do not deliberately misrepresent what I'm saying so that you have an excuse to keep being weak but I'm saying
if you're just just not happy if you're depressed and I don't mean suicidal I mean just depressed dude that's life that's life it comes and it goes it comes and it goes figure out what you're doing to feed that and stop all right I don't know why I needed to say this but I did I started to say I don't know why cuz I can tell I know I've gotten uncharacteristically scratchy in this video that's passion that is Passion that is genuine concern for the state and the condition of the men in this world today
I I can't tell you how many emails how many comments on the channel how many Instagram posts I can't tell you how many I get um from men mostly young men who are just saying I'm going through I'm going I have a mental illness and and nobody I can't get you know any help and but the more they go on I'm like you're not mentally ill you're suffering the emotions of every man you're dealing with life and nobody has told you that this is just life and you don't run to the emergency room every time
you hit your thumb with a hammer you suck it up and deal with it nobody's ever told you that and this I'm concerned and I care and sometimes I think the passion comes out and if it does anything it proves to you that I'm not on here trying to make a buck I'm really trying to save your life and save your state of mind and help you figure this stuff out because Society isn't going to do it society's not going to do it all right we do it I do it you do it and we
do it together all right I'm going to catch all kinds of grief for this I don't even know if I'm going to have the nerve to post it but I probably will cuz I mean what are they going to do all right um I wish you the best I hope you can discern how much I care and that's what that's my whole purpose for being here that's my whole purpose for putting these out is because there is an answer and the poison that they're pushing on you isn't the answer and I'm sick and tired of
the lies that society's putting on you men and I'm sick and tired of the underhanded means that do do everything they can to make you weaker and weaker and weaker you've got everything you need inside of you all you've got to do is get rid of everything that you don't need and strengthen what you already have that you do need you need a hot TDY you don't need an antibiotic all right so I hope I genuinely hope this helps you and we'll catch you guys next time
