long long ago something very interesting happened pay attention for what happened a long time ago will happen here and now a group of men and women rode on their horses climbing a steep Mountain on a dark night from the sky came a voice Dismount your horses pick up rocks and fill your bags then Mount again and continue the journey tomorrow morning you will be happy and sad at the same time some dismounted from their horses others did not some took many rocks others few put them in their bags mounted again and continued the journey when
daylight came as the voice had said they were happy and sad at the same time happy because in the light of day when they looked into their bags they saw they were not rocks but diamonds and sad because they did not take more I hope that as we finish this video you feel happy and sad I'm here today to show you the true path of diamonds hoping you will be happy for taking some diamonds and sad for not taking more so shall We Make a Deal let's make these minutes a video the best we can
so disconnect from everything and connect exclusively to this video and to show your interest type like this I will pick many diamonds just comment I will pick several diamonds when I see this comment I'll give you a heart because I know you're someone who truly focuses on what you do and that's why you'll become rich now that you've commented let's continue I want to start our study with a very important phrase please jot this down if possible never let what you can't do interfere with what you can do the main reason for this video is
to renew your hope this is crucial because we begin to lose life when our memories become stronger than our aspirations when someone starts talking about the past saying I did I was it's a sign sign that person is bidding farewell to life therefore by renewing your hope you realize you can set new goals and dreams now I have a challenge for you watching I would like you to think about the three most important things that have happened in your life so far from the day you were born until now the three significant and good moments
if you had to choose three moments to represent your life on this planet Earth as the French Jesuit Theologian Pierre Ty the shardan said we are not human beings having a spiritual experience we Are Spiritual Beings having a human experience we are here on Earth to experience The Human Experience we have good and bad moments it's no wonder we are born crying because we know the challenges we will face in life this planet is not a paradise if someone expects to be happy 24 hours a day 365 days a year they are in the wrong
place here we have moments of happiness and moments that are not so happy it's part of the journey it's like a roller coaster in difficult times we know they won't last forever they will improve and in good times we also know they won't be Eternal they will worsen understanding this roller coaster concept can be helpful so back to the challenge think about three special moments in your life significant from birth until today choose one two three moments I'll assume you already have these three moments in mind I know one thing at least two of these
significant moments were not planned maybe the day you had children built a family or the day you met your husband or wife you didn't wake up one day thinking today I will meet someone I will fall in love with and marry did you on a day you didn't plan you met someone somewhere talked to that person formed friendships and later fell in love and got married when you look at your life you realize that magical moments were not planned you were doing something ordinary and suddenly something extraordinary happened these are the moments we call Miracles
although we don't always recognize them as such for example you go to the supermarket to buy a kilo of sugar and while waiting in line someone starts a conversation and you end up receiving a tip that results in a great financial success like earning a million dollar you went to the supermarket it for a simple reason and come out with an idea that can change your life however this idea will only materialize if you keep hope in your heart that things will work out if you expect the worst it's better not to start because you
probably won't succeed as Henry Ford said whether you think you can or you think you can't you're right if you believe you can you will work for it to happen and eventually achieve your goals but if you believe you you can't you'll be paralyzed and everything you said badly will happen just as a cake requires various ingredients life also needs several elements to be fulfilling one of these essential ingredients is the ability to communicate and dialogue however the first ingredient I would say is the respect you have for yourself your self-image and how much you
value yourself no one can give what they don't possess you cannot offer love to others if you do not love yourself you cannot offer intelligence to others if you do not possess it for yourself and you cannot offer communication to others if you do not communicate with yourself therefore the first thing God expects from us is that we have self-love that we respect ourselves this is called self-esteem it's how we see ourselves and here's some good news self-esteem and self-image are not Material like cement or steel they are built through language no one one is
doomed to remain as they have always been I repeat no one is doomed to remain as they have always been we are the only beings on planet Earth with the ability to transcend and do you know what transcending means it means starting over no matter what happened in your childhood no matter the suffering until today your past was a necessary step to get here your future is an opportunity to go wherever you want but if you don't realize this your future will be just repetition of past patterns what patterns in your family would you like
to change because just like any other your family is not perfect to become a doctor you need to study medicine to be a lawyer you need to study law and pass the bar exam to be a journalist you need to study journalism but to be a father and mother the basics are enough to have sexual relations and children are born so parents for the most part are not prepared prepared to be parents they learn from their children's mistakes just as their parents AED with them their parents AED with them and you ered with your children
that's the Dynamics of life don't blame yourself for it it's simply how life works we learn from our mistakes with the second child we make fewer mistakes with the third even fewer if we reflect on what we're doing wrong the second essential ingredient in life is communication in the agricultural era the land owners ruled the world and their power was lifelong in the industrial era those with money dominated but today my friends the currency has changed and many haven't realized it now the currency is knowledge you can be rich or poor in knowledge however knowledge
only holds value when applied when shared from one mind to another and this is done through dialogue through communication there therefore for the young ones watching this video communication has become crucial for both personal and professional success it's part of human nature to evolve you'll never find someone saying I'm going to ask God for something to make my life a bit worse because it's too good I believe the creator has never heard such a request from someone watching this video saying life is too good and wanting a bit of difficulty but difficulties come to make
us stronger it's part of human nature to grow to evolve just like someone climbing a mountain in search of the summit you young ones will see this in life you'll reach your goals attend college find jobs get promoted start your own businesses that's part of it as you progress in life perhaps the most important ingredient is dialogue the ability to communicate to express yourself to understand others of course I'll present to you a dialogue model I developed it's something Innovative that you probably won't find elsewhere let me explain the concept first if I give you
a pearl now you'll probably keep it in your pocket if I give you a second Pearl next week you'll also keep it and if I give you a third and last Pearl in 15 days you'll also keep it if we meet again in 6 months and I ask about the pearls you'll probably respond something like this the first one I put on the nightstand but someone who was cleaning didn't notice and threw it away the second one I forgot in my pants pocket which got washed and the Pearl got lost and the third one I
kept so well that I ended up forgetting where have you ever hidden something from yourself kept it so well that you couldn't find it later that happens to us now imagine if I gave you those pearls and a nylon thread and instructed you to make a necklace with them and wear it around your neck if we meet again in 6 months and I ask about the pearls you'll know where they are you'll say they're here I turned the pearls into a necklace my friends the pearls represent ideas the world is full of people who had
good ideas and didn't materialize them or Worse had their lives ruined by them did you know that a good idea can ruin a family or a company that's because more important than the idea is having a model to ensure its execution if you know someone with a good business model whether in sa poloo Tokyo New York or in Manila in the Philippines or anywhere in the world that person will succeed in business because they have a solid model so let's put together the dialogue model communication has three levels the first is mouth to ear the
second brain to brain and the third is called heart to heart before proceeding it's important to make a distinction hearing and listening are not the same thing we hear with our ears but we listen with our brain rains have you ever been to a restaurant and ordered sparkling water but the waiter brought Still Water you made a request they brought something else at that moment the waiter was operating at level one at this level no one gets promoted you don't win people over and you don't progress in life no matter how high your grades were
in school because school provides information but life requires competency to act imagine yourself in guos ready to board a flight to SA New York if the pilot said I'm not a pilot but I have a lot of opinions and have read many books about flying a plane would you stay on the aircraft no you want to know if he has the competence to fly and land safely in New York Life demands competency to act because what's on the test isn't necessarily what applies in life look around your city and you'll find people who were brilliant
in school but are now lost in life on the other hand you'll find those who were mediocre students but are now excellent entrepreneurs contributing to the community why because they know how to dialogue with the world with society and they've intuitively learned the power of communication so if you'll allow me I'll start working on this model starting with level one mouth to ear then level two brain and finally level three heart before proceeding I want to assert we only reach people's hearts by going through their brains there's no other way it's easy to like those
we already like the real challenge is liking those we don't deciding to like someone suddenly doesn't solve anything that decision is purely rational it doesn't touch the heart if we don't like someone it's difficult to reach their heart the path may be to understand the person their difficulties where they come from why they act in a certain way finally we accept the person when we can dialogue with them when when we're operating at the level where something happens an example of this is when a father is lecturing his son but his words go in one
ear and out the other the father doesn't realize he's been saying the same things for years with no results even causing rebellion in the sun when we speak without listening it's not dialogue it's monologue the saying goes the word convinces the example drags the best way to educate a child isn't with sermons but with examples they'll observe the example and over time incorporate it into their own psychological structure as I mentioned in a TV interview a 45-year-old father conversing with a 15-year-old son the father needs to understand that the son has never been 45 years
old while the 45-year-old father has already been 15 parents need to level with the teenager to establish effective communication I can only commun communicate with you if we address a topic that interests everyone if you have other preferences I need to take into account what interests you and start a conversation based on that not just on my own interests just like in a store I wouldn't organize the display window according to my taste but according to the taste of the customers I want to attract for example I have a store where my sister-in-law who is
a decorator did a sophisticated decoration but I sell popular products if someone who likes the sophisticated showcase enters they may not find what they're looking for and those who would be interested in my products may feel intimidated to enter in this case the sophisticated decoration may be hindering my business in dialogue and communication we must modify that saying many attribute to the Bible which says do unto others as you would have them do unto you this works very well when when it comes to something spiritual but when it comes to communication the phrase is more
appropriate like this do unto others as others would have done unto them for example if I invited you to dinner at my house I wouldn't serve you my favorite dish without first asking what you like in dialogue it's important to start by understanding what the other person wants to hear not just transmitting what we desire do unto others as others would have done unto them let me tell you a story that exemplifies this I met a businessman in sa Paulo who told me about his twin brother when he was 14 he had a falling out
with the family and went to Sao Paulo where he became a successful businessman 25 years later he decided to bring his brother to meet him he organized a party at a pizzeria because he loved Pizza however his brother started feeling sick upon entering the pizzeria because he hated Pizza he tried to please his brother in the way he thought logical but forgot to consider his brother's preferences this shows how it happens Among Us it always happens like this I want to show you what I think but I don't care what you'll think isn't it true
think about it nature gave us ears on the same level so what enters one ear exits the other then the dialogue becomes a monologue because there's no response to have a dialogue first I need to have a strong mage message you'll only keep listening to me if you like what I say I need to have something interesting to transmit to you second we need to talk figuratively how did Jesus teach he told stories how am I going to teach something to someone who has never left the place where they are how did Jesus teach about
spiritual things to those on Earth he used metaphors told Parables when he told a story you couldn't disagree with it because he was conveying an idea through the story pay attention to this important story once there was an important ship full of gold and suddenly the engine stopped the owner of the ship called the best mechanic in the region he worked all day but couldn't fix it then they called the best engineer in the country he worked two days but still couldn't fix it finally they brought in the one who built the ship's engine even
if it was far away he flew to the ship by helicopter listened to the noises touched the pipes and found a valve with a piece of red thread he asked if they had a hammer and they answered yes so he gave it a blow and the engine started working perfectly again the three workers who worked to fix the ship sent their invoices the first who worked for a day charged $100 the second who worked for two days charged $400 $200 a day he was more experienced than the first and and the third worker who fixed
the engine with a simple blow sent an invoice for $10,000 the owner of the ship agreed to pay but with one condition he wanted to know how the third worker Justified charging so much so the third worker explained to give a hammer blow to a screw is $1 and to know which screw to hit costs $9,999 it's not for the hammer blow but for the knowledge now imagine we're having lunch and I tell you this story if you understand the essence you'll see how it applies later in your office you think about hiring me as
a consultant and ask what my fee would be if I give a high price and you say it's expensive you'll realize that I'm charging for the experience not just for the service I prepared your mind to understand my point of view through the story using a metaphor those who know how to dialogue make use of metaphors politician s who win elections are good storytellers as are priests who preach sermons that everyone appreciates when you tell a story the critical mind calms down you convey the story along with the message you want to convey and that
message fits into the listener's Mind another important aspect of dialogue is using appropriate language for example if you're a doctor and start using complicated medical terms that only you understand and then your patient goes home and their family asks what did the doctor say and the patient will say I don't know I didn't understand anything he said you need to admit that you failed to communicate an intelligent doctor should use language that the patient understands similarly if you're facing a legal problem and visit a lawyer who uses complex legal jargon that you don't understand you
get lost it's like talking to the wind it's crucial to speak the language anguage of your interlocutor when dialoguing with someone it's not time to impress with difficult vocabulary dialogue should be accessible to intelligent people without requiring intellectual sophistication to understand use technical terminology only when speaking with someone who understands it another important point is perception what you're trying to convey may not be exactly what the other person is understanding if you consider yourself a good salesperson then your sales should reflect that if you're not selling well excuse me but your sales approach may be
wrong maybe your language isn't appropriate your message isn't strong enough or maybe you're not using the power of metaphors and stories recently a client came here and I said to him you may be talking to the current customer but you're really talking about what you did with last week's customer while the present customer listens this is a metaphoric IAL strategy that invites the customer to engage with your ideas like a father who dialogues with his son at the end of the dialogue the son feels encouraged to try what the father is suggesting it's an invitation
that life offers you now I need you to understand one more thing if you understand this you will be very successful in life so pay close attention we are judged by three things our appearance by what we say and how we say it and what we say in the part of how we say what we say the model I'm discussing with you comes in there's a level where nothing happens where you're just wasting time where communication is superficial for example when we order sparkling water and receive Still Water because the order wasn't understood correctly many
people are stagnant in life because they can't communicate effectively communication is essential nowadays if you remove communication from the world the world collapses because information only has value when it's shared among minds and that happens through dialogue I mentioned that life is like a cake with several ingredients we started talking about self-esteem and communication now let's address some of the other aspects a bit an important message for you young person watching us and for young people of all ages youth is a choice I may be 65 years old but I maintain an energy as if
I were an 18-year-old I'm always looking forward thinking about what I can still accomplish in life when I maintain this Focus my body doesn't age it remains full of energy not setting goals is a mistake do you know the concept of an hourglass it has the sand that hasn't fallen yet the future the sand that's falling the present and the sand that has already fallen the past the sand that hasn't fallen yet is the future the one that's falling is is the present and the one that has already fallen is the past let's focus a
bit on the present do you know why it's called the present because it's a gift from God no matter where you are it's always here and now have you noticed that life is an eternal here and now it's in this moment that you live if you can't be present it's like a cat crossing a Hot Tin Roof only feeling the heat many people are like that dominated by technology by the clock by the ringing cell phone they don't live in the moment and then complain about getting sick tired having trouble sleeping and being unable to
focus on something simple like reading a book let's go back to our discussion about The Hourglass the sand that hasn't fallen yet is the future the one falling is the present and the one that has already fallen is the past have you heard that the past shapes the present and the future that's true however Einstein proved the nonlinearity of time meaning time doesn't follow a straight line I'll show you now that the future also influences the present and the present can even recreate the past imagine you book a trip around the world for a month
from now and let's say today is Sunday I guarantee you Monday already becomes more interesting you have 30 days until your trip but you already feel happy in the present just by knowing you're going to travel see how the future shapes the present have you heard the saying that goes often the anticipation of the party is better than the party itself remember that Christmas dinner you prepared so carefully but it was ruined by an argument between your in-laws the anticipation of the dinner was better than the dinner itself sometimes the anticipation is more exciting than
the event itself so if you have goals for the future young ones please listen to me your present becomes more interesting if you have no prospects for the future then you're on the path to ruins like many addicts I've met during my life they've lost sight of Tomorrow thinking only of today those who live only in the present do not progress these addicts use drugs and only care about satisfying their desires today without even thinking that these drugs will cause harm to their health tomorrow I hope you understand that the future shapes the present I'll
prove to you now that the present can also recreate the past once an elderly lady around 70 years old came to me she was going through a divorce and heard that through my knowledge I could strengthen her emotionally she shared her story with me married for over 25 years she and her husband decided not to have children they had a routine where they spent the week traveling for work and gathered on weekends at a farm they owned near sa Paulo however a tragic event occurred when the lady's Aunt who raised her and came to visit
her in Brazil suddenly passed away at the farm since then she couldn't visit the farm anymore while her husband insisted on maintaining the tradition of visiting the farm every week this was causing a rift between them and consequently leading to divorce I asked the lady why she didn't want to visit the farm anymore she explained it was because of her aunt's death I suggested a new perspective perhaps the aunt chose to die at the farm as a gift to her to show her affection I began to dialogue with the lady conveying this different interpretation of
the situation she was attentive albeit eager to leave in the end she returned to the farm and has been married to her husband ever since I didn't change the fact that the aunt died at the farm but I changed the way the lady interpreted that event we cannot change anyone's past but it's important to understand understand that everything that has happened in our lives has served a purpose perhaps spiritual that has brought us to this moment our future is an open possibility and it's up to us to decide what it will be we are the
only animals on the planet with the ability to think about the future I suggest we focus on the future as that's where we'll spend the rest of our lives if we cling to resentment from the past we limit our future perhaps someone hurt you in the past and you still haven't forgiven that person and forgiving is not just an act of love but also of intelligence those who do not forgive are harming themselves not forgiving is like holding a hot coal in your hand and waiting for the other person to get burned by forgiving our
parents or whoever it may be we are releasing a burden from our shoulders and making room for a more promising future I want to finish by telling a story once a writer who lived by the seaside met a young man who was throwing starfish back into the ocean the writer questioned the effectiveness of it as there were many starfish on the beach he said with so many starfish here and you only managed to throw one or two back into the sea do you think that will make a difference the young man picked up another starfish
threw it into the sea and replied it made a difference to this one picked up another one and said again it made a difference to this one I want to tell you this video may not be able to help everyone but if it can make a difference in one person's life it's already worth it to me if it made a difference to you comment like this it made a difference to me I don't know how you're going to use everything you heard here today but remember all is worthwhile when the soul is not small I
hope New Paths open up for you and may God always be by your side illuminating your way now there are two videos full of wisdom appearing on your screen click on them and go watch it now