Success and Love — How to Have it ALL

do you have really big dreams but feel like something just keeps holding you back in this video you're going to learn the secret reason why you can't seem to break through to that next elusive level of success it's something so weird that most people never realize in just a moment I'll reveal exactly what it is and how to overcome it hey it's Marie forleo and welcome to another episode of the Marie forleo podcast and marietv the place to be to create a business and life you love speaking of love it's Valentine's Day which makes it

the perfect time to share something a little personal it's actually this destructive limiting belief that I had floating around in my noggin that I didn't even realize was holding me back and I've since learned that a lot of other people have this belief too or something super similar and For Me Not only was this wreaking havoc in my relationship but it was also causing me to hold back and play smaller in my business okay so here's what my limiting belief was somehow I I got it wired up in this brain of mine that if I

became more successful right so if my business got bigger if I had more notoriety if I had even more going on in my career that somehow increasing My Success would destroy my relationship with Josh and if you don't know Josh is the man I love and we've been together for 20 years now I cannot explain to you how real this fear felt to me and I don't know where I picked it up right or how I got it into my head that it was not possible for me to keep expanding in my career and also

keep expanding in the love and joy I had in my relationship and this fear this limiting belief had me thinking that I had to choose one or the other and that's just total BS now before I tell you how I totally turned that beat around right and how you can too I'm actually really curious do you ever feel like there might be some kind of hidden limiting belief inside your head or your heart or even as strange as it might sound maybe even a fear of success I mean I don't know maybe you're afraid that

you're actually not good enough to achieve your dreams or that if you do achieve more that people are just going to expect more from you and you'll never be able to meet their expectations or maybe you're afraid that more success will cost you your mental or your emotional or your physical health or that you're going to have to sacrifice your values or maybe you're like I was right and you're afraid that if you get way more successful that it's going to negatively impact your relationships and maybe even destroy them whatever your limiting belief might be

the first step is you have to face it which means I want you to say it out loud and most importantly you need to write it down so that's what I did and it really helped me so much first of all naming it stopped it from being this really vague and shapeless scary feeling that was just floating around in my head and my body right and more importantly when I wrote it down I could just look at those words on the page and I could distance myself enough from it to really see it objectively now

the Second Step was to get curious so I had to ask myself is this fear based in like scientific fact is it like the law of gravity or is it just one possibility out of many that could possibly exist now of course it was just one possibility out of many and look I've been with the same person for a very long time so I just stayed curious and I asked myself okay Marie has your relationship actually gotten worse the more successful you've become and my answer to that wasn't oh in fact when I really looked

back I realized that we actually used to bicker and we used to fight and argue a whole lot more in those early days and that's when I was just starting out and I wasn't nearly as successful then so then come step number three which I think is where the real magic happens at least that's where it happened for me so I call it the test the opposite step right meaning I asked myself okay huh is it possible that the opposite of this fear might actually be more true in other words could it be that the

more successful I become the more loving I become like what if more success actually makes all of my relationships a whole lot better including the relationship I have with myself the relationship I have with Josh and everybody else like what if the more expansive and abundant I become creatively and emotionally and yes financially that all of that expansion also positively impacts all of my relationships so I have to tell you the moment that I tried on that possibility right the moment that I really tested the opposite of my limiting belief man it rang so true

in my body it felt so good it felt so true and I felt this instant release and really an opening of my heart and then of course my mind said okay Marie this feels good and it rings true but do you have any proof for this right whether in your life or anyone else's life and I did I actually have my own damn proof so I realized that as I had become more successful in my business I actually had more resources to invest in things like couples therapy which we've done a lot of various relationship

workshops and all kinds of different learning experiences that gave us the tools that we both needed to have a super healthy long-term relationship I also realized that as I've become more successful I actually have more time to spend with Josh and the other people that I love and also as I've become more successful I've grown more confident right and more capable in my communication skills which of course communication skills are the foundation of all great relationships I cannot tell you what a difference it has made for me to be able to face that limiting belief

and replace it with something that's way more true and supportive of the life that I know I'm meant to live so now I want to turn all of this insight into action for you so I want to know if you got real honest with yourself right if you got real curious what fear or limiting belief might be holding you back from even greater success what's the first thing that pops into your mind or that rises up in your heart remember step one is just to face it so I want you to say it out loud

whatever it is and then write it down then step two is just get curious I want you to ask yourself so is this fear based in like irrefutable scientific fact is it like the law of gravity or is it just one possibility out of an infinite number of possibilities that could actually exist and then finally step number three is I want you to test the opposite so just try try on the inverse right what if the opposite of your fear were actually more true how does that feel in your body like is there anything that

feels right about it I just want you to play and be curious I promise you when you love yourself enough to let go of limiting beliefs you unlock the real power of your Highest Potential and look if you're a business owner or a creative who has some limiting beliefs or fears around being capable of having more success or abundance like being able to hold that capacity I do hope you're going to join us for b-school you know one of my gifts is helping people increase their capacity for success and I would so love the chance

to work with you registration is open right now and you can learn more at marieforleo B school.com you know whether you're watching this on Valentine's Day or any other day have a beautiful day with so much love and connection and please do the insight to action challenge in the comments below and if you like this video you gotta subscribe right so you don't miss a thing and until next time stay on your game and keep going for those Big Dreams because the world really does need that very special gift that only you have thank you

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