develop the ability to share sharing now can become a major part of your life process and life progress sharing is a unique human capacity everybody has the ability to share how much you share of course is a matter of attitude and the personal conclusions you've come to about your life and what to do about it but sharing is unique here's what's unique about sharing the more you give the more you become it's one of the paradoxes of life you give away but you become bigger it would look like if you would share you'd become less
but see that's not true it's one of those unique life processes it's like one of those questions you ask well you have your first child you love it dearly you say well if I have another child do I have to divide my love in half and the answer is surprisingly no from somewhere Comes This unbelievable capacity to love the other one as much as you did the first one [Music] what if you have three four or five children now are each one of them going to get less and less and less the capacity of your
ability to love and care and the answer is strangely no as the demand and the opportunity increases it seems as though your capacity grows and what you give away seems to multiply it's one of the Mysteries in the uniqueness of life so sharing makes you bigger now here's one of the reasons to share share on purpose so that you become bigger not only for the effect that it will have on other people but for the effect it will have on you see what we want to learn to be is intelligently selfish the golden rule is
a way to be intelligently selfish the Golden Rule says if you want this big flow coming from lots of people nothing wrong with that but if you want this big flow coming from lots of people here's what you must do here's the formula now that's sort of being intelligently selfie selfish isn't it this big flow of awareness and love and and profit and uniqueness coming from lots of people that's a bit selfish but it says the Golden Rule says here's how you get it it says what first three words do for others see that's how
you get this big flow coming your way and the more you do for more the bigger the flow that's called how to be intelligently selfish the guy says well about the best I can do is take care of myself well that's a poor man talking always will be poor in spirit and poor in money and poor every other way if you just take care of yourself you will be limited in every respect the master teacher said here's the key to wealth and Fortune he who wishes to be great the greatest Muhammad Ali notwithstanding he who
wishes to be the greatest whether it's in wealth or awareness or uniqueness or response or results here's the key to wealth Master teacher said find a way to become a servant of many that's the Key to Greatness finding a way to become a servant of many see the best way to cure your own bills is to be concerned about other people's bills the best way to get your own car notes paid is to worry about other people's car note not yours if you worry about yours it'll be hard to pay worry about others it'll be
easy to pay see when you get concerned for other people what can I do to help you and help you and help you and help you the more people I help the more in return I get even if it's only a small percentage people say well I'm grateful here thanks for helping me here you just can't believe one of my friends went to a another one of our mutual wealthy friends project William his name was William said William if I put this project together and it creates four million dollars for you will you give me
one if I put this together and it creates for you four million dollars will you give me one guess what he said yes if you put this together and it creates for me four million I'll be happy to give you one I'll be satisfied with three see that's part of the unique life process if you help other people guess what they will do share back with you it's one of those inevitables now once in a while somebody's mean ingredient upsets this process but there's not enough of them to make a difference incredible one of my
dear friends now Wayne Barnes Wayne is 32 years old I guess he's about 33 years old now he's a multi-millionaire he lives in Phoenix he's a builder commercial Builder has this beautiful home on the side of him about Camelback Mountain cost 1.3 million Wayne Barnes attended my seminar 13 years ago in Albuquerque New Mexico he was just a young kid 20 years old had just gotten married he and Rosie come to the seminar Wayne gets all excited takes all these notes and he comes up to me after the seminar and says Mr Owen my name
is Wayne Barnes he said I'll tell you what he said I'm excited about all this he said I've never heard about this before he said I'm going to start setting my goals changing my life get my library started I said Wayne nice to meet you I hope you will he said I will he said by the way where's your next seminar I said Denver he said I'll see you in Denver follows me to Denver to the next seminar he comes this time with his tape recorder tapes it yeah it was back before we had the
cassette tape program going and took some more notes him and Rosie are there saying this is really the greatest stuff and he comes up to him and he says remember me I said yeah Wayne I remember you he said this is great stuff he said I'll tell you what he said I'm going to get rich change my life I'm going to help a lot of people and he's just bubbling going he said where's your next seminar I said Phoenix he said I'll be there he follows me to Phoenix sitzer again takes some more notes this
third seminar well to make a long story short Wayne Barnes is now a multi-millionaire and uh he's done extremely well and he's become one of my very very dear friends Wayne probably has one of the finest libraries in the world that I know of especially somebody that age 33 years old he got the book Think and Grow Rich he got his journal started I mean he did everything just followed everything you know you just once in a while find somebody that just does everything that's what I did when I met Joe tell me when to
get up tell me when to go to bed right tell me what to do I mean my plan hasn't been working I'm willing to follow yours right to the detail or whatever and Wayne Barnes was one of those people that just did it all and now he's wealthy when he was building his home just before he had it finished just about finished he took me up on the third floor takes me on a tour through his home and he said Jim he said I can't believe it I've become wealthy he said we've done well haven't
we the less 10 12 years I said we sure have one he said I got to thank you for all of this he said by the way I got to show you something he shows me this unique looking room up on the third floor overlooking the city he said how do you like the view from here I said it's spectacular he said how do you like this room I said it's fabulous he said do you like the way it's furnished I said it's unusual he said well he said you might like to know that's your
room he said whenever you come to Phoenix now here's where you got to stay you got to stay with me he said I just want to show my gratitude for all the stuff I've learned now I'm wealthy and and I got you now a place in my house up on the third floor especially first so see that's part of the reward of Sharon I got me a room Phoenix right I'm telling you if you're if you'll share you'll get you a room and that's not the end of the story I got in fact I just
got a card I wonder if I put it in here somewhere I just got a card from Wayne Barnes says Dear Jim I called you when I was in town in late April we just sailed from Jamaica to the Bahamas and next is Nassau will you join us soon Wayne calls me a few months ago to come down to the Balboa Bay Club and when I get down there he said I got to show you something I said Wayne what have you got now he said you got to see my ship unbelievable he walked me
out on this 73-foot sailing schooner and this is the picture of it right here called Windhaven it's a famous 73-foot catch neat ship and he said I've got me a saline ship what are you gonna do with this thing right there's not much water around Phoenix no no he said he said Rosie and I have got the bug about sailing and he said we've got us a captain we've hired as a captain I said incredible so he finds his captain introduces him to me oars was his name which I thought was a good name for
a capital or I said Wayne what are you gonna do he said look Rosie and I and the two kids we're gonna take off a couple of years and we're gonna sail around the world he said you talk to me about lifestyle and said this is just part of our lifestyle and he said I want you to join us do a little sailing with us in the next couple of years so I promised him I went so he shows me the ship and as we go through it shows me the all the furnishings and everything
right and then he shows me this room he says how do you like this room I said it's fabulous do you like what's in it I said it's fabulous he said that's your room so I got me a room on a ship how lucky can you get see if you will share no telling what will come back your way if you'll share be concerned about helping somebody else with their language and help them with their lifestyle and help them with their philosophical conclusions help them with learning better the taste of life and the uniqueness of
Life help them with their financial plan ask a few questions Wayne Barnes is one of those people who shares Wayne gives away the book Think and Grow Rich and as a man thinketh now that I've got mine I'm sure he'll probably give mine away but he buys them by the Box as a man thinketh and Think and Grow Rich he buys them by the Box and every every person he meets that he takes a liking to he says hey I got a book for you and he writes a little note in it and hands it
to it and now there must be thousands of these books circulating around that Wayne Barnes has given away part of his way of just sharing part of his way of passing along um something that he's come into position with with that he thought was valuable but see that's what can happen to you if you share if you share what all of us want to do in Consciousness and awareness is become bigger okay this cup will not hold a gallon why it's too small what if you poured a gallon all around this cup see it still
will only hold this much because it's too small now see some people are so small in their thinking in their awareness you could pour happiness all around them they're not going to get any they're too little in their thinking and their awareness and their acceptance it doesn't matter how much happiness is available they're not going to get very much and you're not going to get very much happiness out of the next experience if you don't grow if you don't expand and one of the best ways to expand in your Consciousness is by sharing touch somebody
else's life touch somebody else's experience give somebody else some information right pass along a book or a recommendation or you know share what you've got and sure enough Your Capacity grows and grows and grows now when Joy is passed out you get three times as much as you used to and somebody wonders how come you're happier now this year than you were last year and it's simply because you're growing you know happiness is always available but you can only have what you can hold Prosperity is always available but you can only keep what you can
hold so what you want to do is create this capacity this awareness this growth experience so that when joy and happiness and prosperity and unique things are passed out you get to hold more now you must also understand that you can also hold more sadness but sadness is a life experience you can hold more disappointment but disappointment is a life experience but see now with the depths of awareness and understanding you hold it and it becomes not bitter but it becomes commodity it becomes experience it becomes valuable so that when you talk to the next
person that's going through some difficult times you can reach them with your experience because you've been there you've tasted it so we all want to grow in our awareness and taste and capacity sharing a major thing to do when this weekend is over is deliberately figure ways to share now there's a lot of things to share share your money share your time share your knowledge share your feelings don't be afraid to share those that kind of sharing has incredible value foreign and people who share with us see what great value that is my daughters and
I are very close Linda's especially she calls me just constantly she was going to take a trip she said Daddy I wanted to call you in case I didn't get to call the next two or three days just to tell you that you happen to be talking to your greatest fan she says have you gotten any Applause lately I said well I don't know she says well here's some Applause and on the telephone she's going like this she said just remember that when you take your next trip you have somebody who cares and remember the
Applause and I love you dearly just the words and the actions and the sharing and the capacity see that's what fills your cup that's what gives you this incredible uniqueness of living knowing what it's like to be human in all respects people who share incredible then one of the most important things to share is your philosophy your perception of life is bound to help somebody if you show somebody your Viewpoint your Vantage Point sure enough it's going to be revealing to somebody else you say here's what I've been thinking about life and about activity and
about money and about Commerce and about lifestyle here's what I'm thinking if you will share that with somebody sure enough somebody's going to come back and say remember that breakfast we had the lunch we had or when we got together that day three or four months ago and you talked about those things I've never forgotten that in fact I've started to make changes in my life already you can't believe the feedback you'll get because see part of the return is not just a room or some money or some percentages part of it is the thanks
one of the reasons I do what I do is for the letters and the stories and the people who come back and say let me tell you what's happening to me I'm using this stuff and it's changing my life see that's heavy you can't buy that with money it doesn't matter how wealthy you are you can only buy it by sharing you can only earn it rather by sharing and I go for that I go for the stories I probably get as much joy out of other people's success as I do my own the stories
you'll come back and share with me are the letters you write or the contact you make and say Here's what's happening to me I'll be just as excited about that as I will my own success and what's happening to me I Revel in that I take great joy in it one of the reasons I do what I do for that kind of experience of people who say what you said made a difference for me see that's awesome and guess how many of us can share our ideas everybody you don't have to have a class of
200 you don't have to have a seminar of a thousand start with one that's the way I started awkwardly with one let me tell you when I gave my first goal seminar when I was 25 years old I met Mr shelf one morning at breakfast he asked me let me see your current list of goals remember that story in the evening seminar so he gave me this little formula and goals work on your goals write them down you're right consider the size and what kinds of goals so that they will affect you properly he gave
me this little goal formula that morning at breakfast guess when I shared it at lunch I got a hold of Charlie Garrett I said Charlie let's have lunch Charlie was a good friend of mine we had a couple of projects going together I said Charlie I've met this man let me tell you what's happening to me he gave me this little formula for setting goals I've never heard it before I'm going to change my whole life I get together with Charlie and I show him all this I said Charlie write this down write this down
write this down let me show you what the man showed me I said I'm going to use it to change my life and why don't we do it together let's do it together you've been a Claude just like me right as I recall now that was my first attack I said gay we've been poor together we've been just you know knocking around together now's time let's get rich together Charlie said wow that looks interesting that was really when I first shared it was the day I heard it I passed it along it wasn't a seminar
of a thousand people it was Charlie Garrett and Charlie was a little startled by my enthusiasm and my excitement but uh at least I shared it so just share you can't believe what will happen as far as your life and your lifestyle if you'll share okay here's the last subject under personal development but it's one of the most important it's called lifestyle one of the major projects to work on is how to get joy from your substance [Music] lifestyle is figuring out ways to be unique and see uniqueness is that great challenge of taking what
you've got and getting pleasure Joy from it getting experience from it see some people have money but they don't even know how to spend it at least they don't know how to spend it for joy and remember it's not the amount that counts it's the plan that counts it's the thinking that counts a father wads up a five dollar bill throws it at his son and says here take the darn stuff if you need it that bad see same five dollars right same five dollars only instead of being dispensed with joy it's dispensed with animosity
now the father gets no joy from the five dollars by wadding it up and throwing it see that's not how you get joy from it it's the same money but it depends on how you spend it it depends on how you give it and how you give it is called lifestyle and shof taught me lifestyle in the simplest little ways show taught me how to be a two-quarter person I didn't understand what that meant he said well let's say you're getting your shoes shined and the shoe shining boys done a great job and he's whistled
and talked and kept you entertained and you looked down you got one of the world's great shines so you're reaching your pocket and you pay him now after you've paid him you're reach in your pocket and get a handful of change and the thought occurs to you shall I give him one quarter or two quarters for a tip for my fabulous shot said here's lifestyle if two amounts pop in your mind forgiving like one quarter or two quarters shof said always go for the higher amount he said become a two-quarter person I said well what
difference would that make he said all the difference in the world be in a one-quarter person versus the two quarter person now you got one quarter or two quarters so it's not the amount that's going to be the problem the problem is how you spend it see that was unique he said if you're thinking two quarters look at him I shine I better go for two chords and they say well no I'll just give him one he said that will affect you the rest of the day it'll bother you sure enough right in the middle
of the day you'll look down see your shine and say I got to be cheap one lousy quarter he said it'll affect you but he said if you go for the two quarters he said that'll affect you the rest of the day you'll be happier shof said you cannot believe the good feelings you can buy for just a quarter see I didn't understand that then I learned it's not the amount it's the thought it's the idea become a two-quarter person shelf taught me what the word tip meant so I didn't understand I'm from Farm country
Idaho what do I know about tip right says do you know what tip means t-i-p comes from a phrase what is it to ensure promptness should have said tip means to ensure promptness now he said if that's true if tip is to ensure promptness when should you give it up know that he said sophisticated people always ensure good service they don't take a chance I thought wow what a way to live I always thought when you waited till the meal was over see whether or not you got good service and then tip he said no
no no not sophisticated people you don't wait and see you insure wow makes all the difference in the world right you're taking a couple of people to lunch right you calculate let's see the tip will be about so much right you call Mary over and say Mary right arm around the shoulder Mary here's ten dollars would you take good care of me and my friends you won't believe oh they do what's known as hover I mean they hover head around your table otherwise you can never find them I mean where is my waitress where's my
weight all the difference in the world same money see but it's called giving it up front instead of behind now it doesn't mean you can do it every time but it means you just think think think of ways to be unique think of ways right it works wonders I took a neat lady well this has been a couple years ago we went to the Beverly Hilton Hotel to the Trader Vic's restaurant close by where I used to live and uh we're all excited about about going to Trader Vic's Beverly Hills nice place for to entertain
and when we get there we drive up in front of Trader Vic's and two attendants come out one opens one door one opens the other door and they let out my lady friend the other gentleman lets me out says Mr Owen nice to have you here and uh my lady's already impressed he said have a good meal I said we certainly will so we leave right go into the restaurant have this fabulous meal when we come out of Trader Bix as we walk out the door there is my car sitting right there both doors are
open and the motor is running my lady can't believe she said I've never seen a service like this I said hey this is really great so one attendant lets my lady friend in right on the other side another one lets me in they close the doors says Mr Owen it's been nice to have you here have a nice evening I say thank you very much and I drive away when we get to about the first light down on Wilshire Boulevard my lady friend looks over at me she says Jim hold it just a minute I
said what is it she said I just thought of something I said what's that she said you forgot to to tip them at Trader Bix after all that service you didn't give many money I said hey look it'll be okay she said don't no no no no we got to go back we got to go back go back I said hey take my word for it it's okay that's okay she said no no no we gotta go back I mean we're not going any further you gotta for that kind of service you got to tip
the money and then I had to tell him that I made my first trip to Trader picks that morning incredible [Applause] lifestyle somebody once said money takes no right out of the English language if money is no problem would you yes you don't have to go any further but it doesn't take that much you don't really have to be wealthy all you have to be is smart smart intelligence intellect is the measure of value it is said the Saints lived simply not because they were Holier but because they were smarter could be wise the simple
things of life many times be the most valuable lifestyle learning how to spend your money learning what to do with it anticipating versus waiting till the last minute it's called lifestyle a man in Detroit Michigan came to the seminar many years ago decided he was going to change his whole life said Mr Owen I I got some major changes to make and he said you're going to be happy with my progress I said I don't doubt that and sure enough when I came back a few months later he already told me some neat stories he
said one is I've just been living this narrow life he said I've got two teenage daughters he said it just hasn't been going that well and he said I can now see some of the major problems and he said I've been causing them he said let me tell you one little story he said my daughters like to go to the some of the rock and roll concerts right and he said sure enough when it comes time for one of these big concerts to come to town you know my daughters come and they beg and they
do all kinds of things to try you know finally get a couple of dollars out of me so they can go attend the concert and he said I'm give them all these lectures and reluctantly finally I part with my money and say well okay if you insist here's the money but I hope there's not another one in a long time so that's the way I operated reluctantly he said most of the time I even made him beg and he said now I can see that's not the way to live and then he told me the
story after he decided to change his life and change his whole lifestyle in his procedure he said I'm going through the paper one day and I found out one of the rock concerts is coming to town and it's one of the my girl's favorite rock stars coming to town so he said now with my new life in view he said I go down and buy the tickets and he said I brought him home when they got home from school that day he said I handed him an envelope and said here are your tickets to the
next concert he said the begging days are over he said my daughters couldn't believe what it happened he said they were so happy terribly excited so he gives them the envelope now he says don't open the envelope until the evening of the concert when you get there they said okay so comes the evening of the concert and his two daughters rush off to the concert when they get there they hand they Usher the envelope they open it up right and inside they take out the tickets and the Usher says follow me takes them down tenth
row Center they can't believe they say hey wait a minute hold it hold it let's take a look at those tickets again this can't be he looks at the ticket says yes it is just follow me tenthrow centered see before then all the tickets They begged for were way back up in the balcony ride where you couldn't see they couldn't believe it 10th row Center he said that night a little late just to see what would happen he said sure enough the concert's over girls come home about midnight bursting through the door one lands in
his lap one's got our arms around his neck they say you have got to be probably the greatest father who ever lived and he said guess what those tickets cost eight dollars eight dollars you can't believe how for such small amounts you can change your whole life by changing your attitude your procedure your lifestyle anticipating versus being reluctant figuring out ways to do it with joy instead of animosity lifestyle if there's one thing to start working on in a heavy way after you leave here this weekend is figuring ways figuring ways to be unique remember
it's not the amount that counts it's the plan that counts lifestyle learning how to live see once you've put this all together you will anticipate every day you can't wait for the morning to come you can't wait to get started you can't wait to get at it you can't wait to put your plan into action you can't wait for all the little surprises you've got ready for some people you can't wait to execute lifestyle and be more productive and Progressive and Learn and Grow and of all of the things we've covered here in these two
days this is one of the things that can affect your life so much that now it will be an investment in your progress it'll be an investment in your language you can't believe what it'll do and getting you a promotion on the job all things will reflect what you do concerning how you live lifestyle and what you do about your family and yourself and your money and your substance and your time and your talent and your ability don't just live your life design it don't just exist grow change develop become unique and it'll add a
whole new dimension to your life it's called lifestyle part of personal development
