That your arms are always held open toward us that there is no failing with you your loving kindness never does fail I'm so glad that you stand in a place where your willingness to forgive us is ever in our faces and so this morning Father we just declare our love for you our desire for you today Lord we want to go even deeper than we Have we want to choose to see our hearts be even more vulnerable to your kingdom purposes so we just invite you to come now holy spirit would you come cheer our
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you deserve the glory all of this and be your Earth Lord we lift our hands in worship as we lift your Holy Name you deserve the glory yes you do and all of the honor oh lord for we lift our hands and worship As we lift your Holy Name you are great you can so great there is no one else like you Lord no one there is no one else like you you are great you mirac so very great there is no one else like you at all no one in the heavens no one on
earth you deserve the glory and the Hor Lord we lift our hands in worship as we lift your Holy Name you deserve the glory and the hor Lord we lift our hands in worship as we lift your holy name for you are great you do mirales so great there is no one else like you there is no one else like you for you are great you do mirales so Great there is no one else like you there is no one else like you [Music] [Applause] Heavens [Applause] on No One Like You Lord there's no one
above you You're the only one worthy no one [Applause] no there anyone like [Music] you [Music] only you are the Lord only you are the Lord of lords only you you're the Alpha and the Omega Only you're the beginning and you are the end [Music] you're the first and you are the last you're our hope the one we long [Music] for come and hold us come and hold us come and hold us ever closer to your [Music] [Applause] hearts [Music] h [Music] Jesus [Music] beautiful J you are beautiful Jes all together you are you [Music]
are all together all together [Music] Jesus I feel the Lord is showing me that he wants to put his hand under the chin of us and lift our heads in it for those who have felt shameful coming into his presence that he wants to lift up your chin and as you look at up him that he's going to remove the shame and the Nakedness and clothe you with love and I feel the father saying I love you my child I love you my child let my love take the shame let my love take the unworthiness
father we say yes be the lifter of our chin so that we can worship you and say that we love you thank you that you sing back at us that you love us Lord that you love us Lord and then we sing back to you that we love you Lord then youing that to us Lord to love Us father thanks that you're removing shame and you're clothing the people with double honor double honor double honor I see the Lord bring the places where the bellies have been opened and where there where there's been shame on
the stomach I see him coming and putting his hand in and covering covering the weakness covering the compassions covering the tendernesses But he is coming and covering with his hand with his love father meet your children meet us Lord as we stand and we say yes Lord cover cover and bring honor we love you father [Music] how many of you feel God's presence this morning feel God's love stay in that place I just thought that we're going to step into more into God's love is today As we progress and God is love there's healing in
love there's forgiveness in love can only find in God love there's Mercy in love there's salvation in love the anointing is in God's love because God is love let stretch your lift your hands to him let God say come more father want to embrace more of your love the most powerful healing church we can receive Is the love of God father we want to step into your love this morning we want to step into our destiny with our father with you we want to become lovers of [Music] God for God so loved the world that
he gave his one and only begotten son Jesus so that we might have eternal life an everlasting Life God you send Jesus not because of our curse not because of our sin you sing Jesus because you love us first renew that love in our hearts father this morning you created for love we are created for love father put your arms around each one father reach deep inside Embrace each one father with your [Music] love [Music] yeah call him daddy talk to him said father come father [Music] come more of you love father oh Embrace us
father for those that are really wrestling with that issue of shame I I really believe that that's an invitation from the Lord to choose to just lay it at the foot of the cross to just take that shame that's that tends to be so binding and so limiting to lay it down and then to lift our faces and to look at his to look at his [Music] space it just starts with a decision to choose to lay it down Jesus you said your burden was Light your yoke was easy and so we do that we
just lay it down we lay it down at the foot of the cross and fix our eyes on you thank you Lord thank you for that compassionate love that takes us right where we are and draws us even further thank you for your mercy for your grace I'm so glad we do not have to walk under condemnation we don't have to walk under Shame that's not your plan that your heart is to set captives [Music] free so come and set the captives [Music] free more Lord I bless what you're doing right now in the midst
of the congregation Father Here we are your church the ones you one with your [Music] love keep coming on you [Music] Spirit keep [Music] coming come and wash over us again and again and again oh set us free set us free to love set us free to surrender set us free from condemnation and from guilt Set us free from that [Music] shame all of it lifting off all of that shame right now in the name of Jesus all of it goes we do not want to walk under shame we want to walk under that Banner
Freedom that Banner of [Applause] [Music] love so in the mighty name of Jesus I speak to your Spirit and I say live live you are not going to die you're going to live that shame is not going to overtake you that strong hold is not going to bind you and the Zeal of the Lord Almighty will accomplish this we choose to walk under your grace and we will not divert our eyes from you father but we'll fix our eyes on You [Music] [Music] we're going to step into your grace again your incredible Grace your outrageous
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your [Music] Way not our will but yours done come and change us our will but your done come our will but your be and change us our will but your be done [Music] the dwell in the mid andwell in this place Lord in the midst of Us and have your way with me in the mid of w all the tears from our F in the mid of you can have your way you can have your way you can have your [Music] Wills be done and Sh again but be done come suain [Music] our will but
yours be done come and shange us come our will that you be [Music] done dwell in the midst of us you Lord come andw in this place in theid of come and have your way oh Lord in the mid of [Music] Us all the ks from our fa well in in the midst of [Music] us you can have your way you can have your way oh Lord you can have your way you can have your way oh [Music] Lord [Music] Oh have your way in all my tomorrows oh God have your way in my dreams
have your way in the vision I walk in have your way in my home your way with my [Music] family have your way with my healing your will be done your kingdom come your rule and [Music] Reign I will but yours be done And change us will BLS be done come us sustain us oh Lord when we're we oh sustain us oh God when we are l for sustain us of god father we know where our help comes from we choose to live We Choose You so we give you permission to change Any area in
our hearts any area of Our Lives come and show Yourself Strong this day let this day be a day of turning a day of renewed [Music] vision I want you just to stretch your hand toward the person on your right take about five seconds and just pray for renewed Vision over them now stretch your hand toward the person on your [Music] left re Vision oh Lord folks this is going to be a great day some of the topics that we've uh chosen to address today are some of the most freeing things that will happen in
your lifetime and I bless you to be making good choices all day long and say I want to do that I want to watch in that and uh as uh has already been mentioned this morning is going to be a Lot about receiving the love of God and as John mentioned that's the best thing that can happen to you well welcome everyone uh just let me mention if you like this kind of worship then you will like all the CDs that Jeremy's done uh this is brand new it's out two weeks I think it's called
song of the bride and Jeremy has three or four CDs in the resource center that have the word bride in them so that's sort of the key word to look for it's Intimate Songs it's uh Songs you lay in the floor that kind of thing and it's good to have Ruth Pelle back with us welcome back Ruth she's playing the violin she's been on tour in Europe and has written an oratory which there's a CD of and it's based on uh writings and poems that children wrote during the uh the Holocaust and she wrote an
oratory based on that but she also has a number of just instrumental um CDs that are violin and Piano just spontaneous worship kind of thing so if you like that or she has some vocal CDs as well well this is John tanion here and John is one of the men that's in my leader cell group and John has nine cells that he's uh raised up uh we look at a passage in scripture Matthew chapter 9 which says that Jesus saw the whole multitudes and he's trying to figure out what's the best strategy to reach all
these people and he realized The best strategy was not for him to do it but was to raise up 12 men to do it and for them to raise up others to do it and so I have 10 men so far in my group I call it a group of 12 but I don't have 12 I have 10 in my 12 and John's one of them and he's got nine so far of guys that he's raised up to become leaders and so John's gonna lead us this morning bless you John let me just say one
more thing John uh was recently ordained by our church we just see a call of God in His life and we've released him to begin to itinerate and speak around the world and uh how many of you can guess what nationality he is you're wrong he's an African how many of you guessed African he's from the island of Marius thanks Steve what an introduction um a few things uh let me just tell you a little story and then you know the announcement um there there's there's this man and This son who come home one day
and and he action started to be different and mother asked him say what's wrong with you something is wrong with you and the younger sister just about to shout and say he's in love he's in love because he's doing the dish he's nice to everybody and I'm having a feeling that a lot of you you're going home you're going to do things different because in love right amen good um uh I'm going to do Announcement and I want to have uh someone to uh give a testimony and um Barbara heringer are you here Barbara if
you're here um can you come up um just want to hear your testimony and also there's a over people that we want to pray for you that has uh written the testimony form um there's three nurses it's Gail here there's a nurse from France and one from us is you here can you come up front we want the Ministry team to pray for you as well okay come up brother and Esther Wakeman are you here is Esther here and CH PanAm open Pam if you here uh we would like to pray for you as well
as also Robert Roger if you're here folks we want to pray for you and um just to continue to uh pray and um because a testimony that you okay this is family and um everybody say Hi Barbra okay Barbara this is um you have written something that you have received a word of knowledge and through that this healing right can you share that part with us okay well um I came to the Catch the Fire ten years Conference in October and the Lord miraculously healed me of fibromyalgia um the complete the official diagnosis was fibromyalgia
as a result of post-traumatic stress Disorder and um so the Lord um totally healed me did a miraculous work then when no one even laid hands on me but just throughout the whole conference since then um I've just felt a dramatic change in my my physical well-being I've been spending a lot of time exercising and um building up my stamina again after having been um so sick for so long um I've continued to take my medications just because I haven't felt led to quite go off of that yet but Since October the Lord's been also
working in my heart and um I've been spending a lot of time soaking at home and then coming back to some of the conferences and um the central issue that um I think the trauma that I had when I was little that um sort of has been related to that was that I was placed I was put in a closet um repeatedly when I was 3 years old and it it just happened multiple times and so um basically it just affected um my Emotion and I really believe that um the Lord has been progressively setting
me free in that area and I I do want to praise him because the other night um he spoke a word through John Sanford that just sort of confirmed that um that was me that you know John had said that there's someone here that was put in a closet and so you know it just you know blessed me that the Lord was confirming that that is the healing that he's continuing to do in my heart Praise you uh we want to pray pray for you as well can I cat you just pray for okay stretch
your hand to her just bless her father father we know that your words father when you say that you love us you not just write down a piece of paper but you also show us how much and you demonstrate your love father we pray for more demonstration manifestation of Your Love go deep in her go deeper father in Jesus Name God's L pour in our hearts by the Holy Spirit okay okay a few announcements um uh there's going to be a meeting um uh for the partners in Harvest and a friend in Harvest it's a
network of our churches uh associated with TCF and uh there will be an information meeting about 6:15 qu 6 in the ark today okay um so those who are in the you know you in the ministry or pastors or leaders and you want to Know more about how to be part of that church there's information there at 6:15 um there's a one in the afternoon there's going to be a soaking kit impartation and also John and C is going to talk about it what is soaking kit uh what is a soaking Center what mean what's
the reason we're doing it so it will be in 1 in the afternoon in the fire hall with John on it and um at 1:30 this afternoon um John and po Seno is going to do book signing in the Bookstore and Grant melon is going to do that at 7 in in in late afternoon evening uh it's also in the resource center and also in the foer uh today we're going to have um a lot of information especially for the healing weeks that we want you to have uh all this information so it's going to
be in the prayer today amen okay um without any delays I'm I want to ask John and Paul sord to come up and to share with us what God puts in His heart and I I asked him a little bit earlier before the meeting started I said would you pray the prayer of blessing for the people here this morning and he say yes he will do that um the reason I'm asking that is because I find a lot of people you have never been blessed before in your life uh for example you you want your
father or your mom to pray and you want to ask them to pray for you but unfortunately they are not alive today they pass away so I Believe even like curses go through generation to generation but blessing also can go through God's people that God raised up and to break the curse and speak blessing over your life so he's one of the few men that I really honor and respect in the air of speaking blessing impation of blessing over your life the good thing with blessing is it Go for, years a thousand generation so it
would be good for you to receive a blessing and paration of Your life amen okay um you want that done first or at the end oh at the end at the end okay just hang on it'll come okay wish right yeah you get sit down okay okay I was grateful to learn that she was here and heard that about being locked in the closet how many have you given words of knowledge do you feel like I do do you Feel naked until somebody finally claims it we've had occasions I I think every other leader has
where you get up and you call out things and nobody claims it then after the meeting they come walking up I was the one who had that and you think well Christ I want to talk with you first about the heart Stone and then inner vows and we do like to teach informally and have question and Answer I do want to have the question and answer but if you have questions as we go along jop them down so you don't forget them and then hopefully at the end of the time we'll have time for question
and answer and then you could ask your questions let's begin with prayer Lord we thank you for that wonderful time of worship when we could feel you Gathering us into your Arms when your love so filled us and we could rest in it and know that we didn't have to do anything to make anything happen because you are the one taking the initiative it's so wonderful to know you father God so wonderful to be in your presence we thank you for the music that lifted us now we would speak about the hearty Stone in inner
vow so touch our hearts touch our minds so that we may hear what You have to say we thank you Lord Jesus amen it's no prophetic news to you to say that in this time period what God is doing is calling us all into intimacy with with himself that father God is coming on his church and he's wooing us to himself saying come let me love you let me be present with you teaching us to abide and soak in his presence and it's so wonderful at the same time he's also calling us all to become
more Corporate that means to be more vulnerable and open to one another that means to learn how truly to lay down our life In Love for others truly to be open to the point where we no longer want Secrets where James 5:116 happens and we confess our sins one to another and pray for each other to be healed God wants the church to happen which is a way of saying that we've not yet seen the fullness of the church what we have had is the temple that's where individuals Come to worship God as individuals and
go home as indiv uals having Fellowship the back of each other's necks that's not the church God wants the church in this time period to happen which means he wants us to learn what it is to be mutually interdependent to care for one another more than we care for our own life to be able to say to the brother and the sister have at me with truth speak truth to Me to be able to hear the brother and the sister to be able to be openhearted with each other to come into that kind of Fellowship
now there are some things in us that prevent us from coming into int intimacy with our father and into corporateness with one another more than anything else and the two things that through all our years of counseling we've come to see are the Heart of Stone and inner Vows now what is a hearth of stone The Hearth of stone is mentioned in the scripture Ezekiel 36:26 and 11:19 both say the same thing I will take out of you the Heart of Stone and I will give you a heart of Flesh now in this case it's
good flesh who wants to have that dead inert thing taken away and then you're given something terrible that's alive no it's good flesh I'll take out Of you the Heart of Stone and give you a heart of flesh but what is the Heart of Stone the Heart of Stone is an automatic hidden defensive mechanism within us we build the Heart of Stone as children and then forget we have it and that's why it's hidden and that's why it's automatic the Heart of Stone is a defensive system within us an automatic response of withdrawal it's automatic
Walls Within is precisely to keep us from being Corporate precisely to keep us from being known to give us ways of withdrawal so that in the midst of company we're not in the midst of company so that we're not one with people so that if we're married we have a wife or we have a husband but we're not married the Heart of Stone is a very powerful thing and every human being on the face of the globe does have A heartest stone we don't all have some of the other things that Paula and I have
revealed over the years like we don't all have parental inversion uh we don't all substitute mates but everyone has a Heart of Stone how do we get a Heart of Stone we get a Heart of Stone because when we are born if we were wanted and it's the well the when the womb was a welcoming place our Spirits are created by God just to be open our little babies Are just open they haven't got any walls yet you ever pick up a little baby and you put that baby up against your neck and and you
just feel that little baby Spirit buzzing into you until you can't even tell after a while where he begins and you end because his those Spirits open he doesn't have any walls but then what happens just in normal families is that things happen that are frustrating and hurtful to that little baby he doesn't know how to pray He doesn't know how to think he doesn't know how to handle pain and so he begins to withdraw inside himself and build walls because it hurts too much to be that vulnerable so what happens is that for instance
the baby is hungry and he cries Mama comes changes the diaper how does he say mama you got the wrong end of the business that's frustrating that's hurting or it's the other way Around he doesn't have a wet diaper he's hungry or no the other way around he he's not hungry has a wet diaper and he cries Mama comes and puts the breast in the mouth now how does he say anything that isn't what I want mama or it's 2:00 a.m. in the morning and it's for him it's Hallelujah Glory time look Celebrate life and
there's the red face moving Over the over the crib would you go to sleep I got to get to work tomorrow or it's the other way around it's his quiet time he just wants to be quiet here comes Big Brother how's he say would you get out of my face it's my quiet time that's in normal homes that's in loving homes but now put that child into a home where there's a lot of ranker and shouting where there isn't prayer where There isn't laughter where there isn't love and that little baby is vulnerable and he
has to build walls so the rule is where there is a lot of laughter and prayer and affection there will be somewhat of a Heart of Stone but it won't be very controlling and it won't be that hard but where there is ranker disturbance shouting hatred a little brother who's jealous that he's there WAP WAP WAP then the child builds a very strong Heart of Stone well how do the heartest stone manifest what happens then is that a person is in a group but he can't let anybody know him he can't open his heart and
if he hugs well my older brother did have such a Heart of Stone and if you hugged him it was like hugging the ironing board but if you hugged Paula you just hug the hug blanket woo see who most commonly has a heartest Stone in the Christian world you see if a person has a Heart of Stone that is very obvious everybody sees it oh he's so hard-hearted he wouldn't do anything for anybody we all recognize that but in the church what we have is a hidden Heart of Stone what is the hidden Heart of
Stone the hid hidden Heart of Stone is in a person who is on the outside very loving giving but he never will let anybody Minister to him person with a hidden Heart of Stone will hear other people's confessions he'll not ever confess his own person who has a hidden Heart of Stone will say let me help you and has the name of being very loving but he'll never let you help him that puts people down that isolates that hurts that says I'm the Jolly Green Giant handing down peas to peons yes who most commonly has
the Hidden Heart of Stone call it out pastors teachers counselors we better to hide than sit there listening to other people's troubles and then you never confess yours what does a hidden heart of St do it prevents the church from happening because if I will minister to you but won't let you minister to me me Church hasn't happened Fellowship hasn't happened we haven't become one we Haven't been become mutually open to each other it breaks relationships because after a while you don't want to be around a person who's always ministering but won't let you minister
to him because you always feel put down you feel like a second class citizen I'm that person so it breaks Fellowship but the hidden hearted Stone also does tremendous damage to the person who has it because he winds up Being or she basically lonely in the midst of a crowd and he may be very social on the surface he seems to be social he's the life of the party he's joking but inside there's a heart that's crying because it isn't real he isn't able at Deep levels to embrace and let somebody know him and that's
all a front putting forth that face and what that hidden heartest stone does to the individual then is to break Down the immune system because we can't receive Ministry from other people so the immune system takes all the the weight comes on us we don't have any relief patterns with people we may be able to pray somewhat with God but we're also blocked out from letting God be that close to us and so what happens then Simon Simons and our two American doctors man and wife team who did Research into cancer they wanted to find
out is there a particular type of Character or personality who gets cancer more than and than others get cancer they found that 76% of the people who get cancer have the same personality and character person with a Heart of Stone who gives to other people but will never let anybody minister to him and it breaks down in the inst have you ever as a pastor I used to get so mad at God because it would be the Saints in the church that would get cancer you know what I'm talking about There it' be the kind
loving people the the best people in the congregation it seemed who' get to cancer but what was behind that was that they were being loving and kind to others at a price because they had hidden hearts Stone they wouldn't let anybody minister to them and then the cost was was breaking their immune system down and they'd come down with cancer so the Heart of Stone is something that we must come to Hate Romans 129 hate evil we must come to get rid of the Heart of Stone how do you get rid of the Heart of
Stone first you have to recognize it that's why we're teaching this this morning you got to see what the heartest stone is and that you have one by the way from just what I've described how many of you recognize that you've got a Heart of Stone okay now whoever doesn't raise his hand either isn't listening or really Has a Heart of [Music] Stone so how do you get rid of it first you see it and you hate it second do not try to get rid of the Heart of Stone by yourself if you could get
rid of the hardest Stone by yourself that would be the very essence of having Heart of Stone because you could do that without people we used to sing a song uh about being blessed and happy of the People who need people and you have to let people minister to you you have to be loved out of having a Heart of Stone you have to let that love just flow into you and feel you from other people and not just from God because you can get that privately but you have to learn how to let love
with skin on it happen to come to you and let them minister to you and let them pray for you now we want to show you how that Happens and what do you do you forgive the you see H got started maybe the father or the mother were insensitive did not give affection maybe the brother was wounding maybe the sister was critical or harsh and wounding maybe there was a tattletail in the family who loved to get you in trouble and you began to close the heart off more and more it just hurts too much
to be open I get stabbed in the back every time I open my heart I'm just not going to do It anymore I close off now I'll be with you but I'm not with you that's how it gets formed so you see how it was formed and then you have to forgive remember John's teaching on forgiveness the other day you got to forgive and forgive and forgive then pray for that Heart of Stone to be melted on the cross of Christ and pray for love to fill your heart and set you free and we're going
to have to have some help so we're going to ask somebody to come help you're Right there on the second row blond would you come up to help now this is totally unrehearsed she didn't know we were going to do this she's got courage so we want to show you you what you do to get rid of the heest stone your name is April April yeah okay now if we were ministering to April Paul and I would spend a considerable amount of time and we'd be talking with April about her mother and father and her
Whole history and so when we're teaching counselors we say don't foreshorten that interview time take time enough to find out the facts of the life because if you have perceptions from the Holy Spirit listening to the facts will clue those in it'll it'll tell you whether you're right or wrong and shape them up and and you'll be praying accurately so be sure to get all the facts out and uh so what we're doing up here is imaginary April suppose we spent like 45 minutes We've learned your whole history and we found out that he had
a good father but he just didn't know how valuable he was he didn't know how to give you affection or compliments is that any truth in that to my father yeah yeah I think so okay and uh SPO was very busy and she was sometimes just wishful wishing he put the paper down and take her in his arms and didn't feel free to ask him to do that how much that were true yes you're right on okay I thought I Was so much and then with the mother and April I wonder if there were times
when you uh saw that your mother was very busy with things that were probably important but you wanted to be a part of what she was doing and you just wish that she'd stop for a little while and come and talk with you and explain what she was doing and let you be a part of that was your mother the kind who would gather you to herself and what she was doing oh my mother was remarkable in Gathering me to herself and I was very much part of her life good good good she she would
let you be part of what she was doing oh yes good suppose you uh stumbled somehow and uh knocked something over or just in some way undid what she was trying to get together would she be kind and understanding about that and very gentle or did she sometimes get angry with you I think my mother could get angry With me but more in a hidden way she had a hard time expressing it but you could pick it up yeah okay now when we've gotten this history out we're going to pray for her but notice we
are touching we don't pray when you're praying for the Heart of Stone you don't pray over here like this it's lack of touch that creates the Heart of Stone it's touch that heals the Heart of Stone so if we're touching April who's touching April call it Out Jesus is touching April and so we're going to pray like this and we usually try to to pray together and we would recommend that that's the way that you minister with a a partner because when the Lord starts pouring his love in we don't want the person who's being
ministered to to uh mistake what kind of a love it is this is a mother father or grandmother grandfather great grandfather great grand friendship [Music] love so father God we thank you for April we thank you that she is is a gift from Heaven to Earth we thank you for the Wonder of who she is you've spent on eternity just preparing her as a gift Lord we ask you to walk into the depths of her heart to find all those times when she needed for her father to say you're my princess when she needed for
her father to say I love you or put his arm around Her and hold her and as a father I repent for the times that he didn't do that and April can you just as though father's right here say I forgive my father oh I forgive you father having heard that I pronounce that you are forgiven for every resentment hidden in the heart or known you are forgiven for every resentment against your father and April for those times when uh your mother was just being your mother mother but Perhaps you overstepped the bounds and she
was upset with you can you forgive her for any harsh words that she said at that time yes I forgive my mother having heard that we pronounce that you are forgiven for any kind of resentment known or unknown towards your mother your wash clean now Lord we ask you to fill her with the warmth of your love and will let your love just melt every vestage of the hardest Stone open her Heart set her free to be unafraid to be vulnerable to be known set her free to be present with people more set her free
to know that father God is delighted with her that she can rest in Father's presence and Lord we pray that you search the innermost parts of of her being and find places where there may be uh just something of wounding left and she's tried to forgive no but there's some tender places and Lord we ask you to pour your healing balm into those Places thank you Jes well ask you to continue to minister until she is just jubilant and free with your love thank you Lord now when we're done for praying we're not done because
when you pray about the inner heart the inner heart is a child and if you say to a child I love you the child says why just cuz I love you will you always love me yes I'll always love you what if I'm bad I'll still love you tell me again I love you And again I love you and finally the child's heart says I got it I'm loved and this means that one prayer isn't enough about the Heart of Stone God hears it the first time but the heart needs to be touched many times
and this means that you all need to be in small groups and every meeting time you get yourself in the hot seat and let them come around you and touch put their arms on you touch and Pray same prayer for your heart to be filled with love until finally that inner child gets it and says I got it I'm loved you're beautiful April yeah yeah wonderful a joy a delight yeah yeah and then when we're done praying we're not done cuz we give her a big [Music] Hub and then we can give her a sandwich
hug thank you April thank [Applause] You we need to do that for each other in small groups and don't assume that because you've been prayed for once or twice it's done the heart needs to be touched many times before the heart says yes got it so in your prayer groups pray for each other regularly again and again Paul and I have been prayed for at least 300 times for inner healing and the Lord's still working and so do it for each other now Then how do we keep and expand the healing of the heart as
Stone it's a process you know until we come into the completion of all that God has to give to us and I don't know if that ever happens because God always has more and more and more of course that's one of the words we cry out Lord more there's something in us that knows that he he still has more to give Ezekiel 11:19 says and I shall give them one heart and I shall put a new Spirit within them and I shall take the Heart of Stone out of their flesh and give them a the
heart of Flesh now the Heart of Stone Must Be Loved To Life by God through his people and it isn't just through a prayer group it's through our families as we live with them as we make uh new friends uh it should happen with the the people uh in your church we were in Korea and in Japan and in Taiwan and in Singapore and we had been told that Oriental people are very reserved very careful very polite and uh that they're not demonstrative we found out something more we were in Taiwan for several weeks and
I've never been hugged so many times and so enthusiastically anywhere as I was there there was all there were always oh three or four people at least rushing up throwing their arms around my neck hugging me hard and saying I love you and was everywhere we went they had Caught the idea and they were hugging each other and really just rejoicing in God and so I say to you uh break the old Rel the Customs the religious Customs that you've grown up in break this and be this when we were in Korea our son Mark
was uh with us and um he had noticed that they didn't always hug each other sometimes their children would be there and they weren't hugging and uh he wondered um about that and so instead of Giving the talk that he planned to give he just told the story of um Jesus having all the little children gathered around and the disciples wanted to move them aside to to make room and Jesus said so clearly and so lovingly uh suffer the little children to come unto me and forbid them not for of such is the kingdom of
heaven and then right after that the scripture says and he touched them and Mark said the Bible wasn't saying he just touched them Like we Pat somebody on the shoulder or Pat them on the head or squeeze their hand that word in the Greek in the Hebrew and I'm I'm not a a student of Greek Greek and Hebrew but Mark did do quite a little bit of that in seminary he said the word that is used there means he took them in his arms and he held them for a long time now that's what we're
inviting the Lord to do for us when we say we want to in his Presence and I think he'll hold us for a long time we uh we need to uh use appropriate loving touches to help build trust in people and our loving prayers should be spoken not just to the one who's standing here the one you whose face you see but spoken to reach the heart of the inner Church child that is in each one of us now I want to tell you a little bit about John's Father and uh my father as you
know we've been married for um 53 and a half years already so some good things have happened but we've also had some things that we've had to struggle with too John's father never finished anything that he started he would always find some excuse to to quit in the middle of the job maybe he didn't have the proper tools and that would be his excuse to to quit before a task was accomplished or he'd say well I don't Really know how to do this I'll have to find somebody else who can finish this and and do
it right and John listened to all that watched all of that and made an inner vow we're talk with you a little while later about what an interval is but my interval was I will never not finish anything I am going to finish whatever I start and that last part of what John just said is what really took hold of him I will finish whatever I start Nothing is going to stand in my way I will finish in some ways that was a good vow because I had to fight my way through Seminary and I
was going to finish it I worked all night and went to school all day I'm going to finish it so many things like that I just stuck with and finished but it had a flip side that wasn't good we had a a very lovely yard our our neighbors called that the neighborhood park and a lot of that was because John started the job with the Lawnmower or whatever else he was doing and he didn't stop until he was finished however sometimes I would want him to do something and I would consider that something to really
be necessary to accomplish right now not something that could be pushed uh off until some later date I would understand it as a priority John would be totally focused on what it was that he had already started and he was going to finish just wait I'll do it later I'm going to finish this now what we're sharing this for is that that's really in that Dimension a part of the heart or stone I could not be amenable to Paula cuz I was locked into my inner vow so I was not being corporate with her now
my dad would stop to do whatever um I or or My Brothers uh asked him to do a part of his uh being willing to do that was that he traveled and he was gone quite a little bit so he was overjoyed when he got home and he Really uh enjoyed that that was a part of his coming to life was to be able to um participate with us and and to listen to what we had been doing sharing all of that and so I had made a vow as I was growing up that I
was going to have a husband who would listen to me and who would be willing to postpone whatever was uppermost in his mind to at least uh hear about what was interesting to me and uh he he was just beautifully willing that way and he would stop Whatever and so when I married John I sort of gradually um found out that because he had made that vow to to finish what he started if he started to play a a game on the computer he had to finish it and if I said something about that he'd
say well I'm almost finished just another minute just another minute and the minutes just went on and on and on and it just hooked right in to The Vow I had made about what the man I was going to marry would would be like and Now there's another side there her inner vow that she will marry a man who will interrupt things for her sake became a demand World on me now do you see how we were perfectly designed to grind and we're sharing this so that you'll see that each of us has a Heart
of Stone and each of us has inner vows and how he going to work on each other and block each other out because then she couldn't be that open to me because she's making this demand and I'm not Listening to her demand know and then there was the subject of ball games you know one one ball game after another and he could not walk by the TV if there was the ball game on he had to sit down until finished was finished come on man how many I got some uh companion Sinners and so he
would say well it's it's only going to be two more minutes and I'd look at the the board there and I sure two minutes but I know what two minutes is when you're talking about a ball game just multiply that by quite a little bit how many wives relate to Paul at [Laughter] that oh sometimes I I would just want him to stop and and talk with me and sometimes he would but other times if something that he hadn't finished was um interrupting that um and taking of precedence over it then U I think Sometimes
he really didn't hear what I said and I could look at the things that are hanging out of his ears right now and believe that but I'd get right in his face and say no read my lips but it's it's also awful to be married to a prophet because God will carry him off that's my excuse you know I'm doing God's business Wrong but then sometimes I would say John sometimes I think that um you're just exercising um selective listening and he look at me and well so that's that's genius at work yes anyway um
you know the fruit of the fruit of whatever healing uh that we have had from from the Lord um is that our humanity is more and More restored what kind of loving person we might have started to be is going to be uh made more so by the gift of the Lord uh within us and it's the Heart of Stone which is Satan's tool to block our humanity and it's God who wishes to call forth parents in in the beginning so that they can enable able their children to develop hearts hearts of Flesh and it's
parents who are supposed to call us to life from the very beginning and that Means a great deal of giving of love and touch and listening and and talking it's parents who will call us to to life it's parents who often force a child to begin building walls of snow Stone when they're continually coming on the child with criticism and uh with anger it's Jesus who became human to meet and melt our hearts of stone to give us hearts of Flesh so that's what the Lord has been doing we need much more uh like most
of You need much more but the Lord is ready and more than willing it's a heart of Flesh in Jesus which is God's gift to restore Humanity it's Jesus who makes us fully human and fully loving so we're in a process of being made human and so now we want to talk just directly about what inner vows are inner vows are determinations we make as little children and we build them into our System until this like setting our computer and inner vows don't change inner vows don't die when we die with Jesus on the cross
they just bring right back to life and inner vows control us they rob us of Freedom uh we'll just give you some examples I will not grow up across the street from us is Ivanka our spiritual daughter very much loved by us she was born during the second world war and they didn't want to have a child but if They had a child they wanted a boy and here she was as a girl and they were in the dressed in firebombing and a bomb fell into the shelter and her parents put her in a bucket
of water and covered themselves with Waters and and blankets and the three of them were the only people of the 200 there who survived the fire and then they were chased out of Germany because the Communist in their part came over and he was an internationally known journalist who Spoke against Communism had to flee to Argentina she was raised in poverty she made an inner vow I will never grow up and that in vow sent a directive into her body that her body obeyed and at 34 she'd hardly begun to develop breasts had never had
a period and still had baby fat on her hands and we came to see her she came to see us and we saw the inner vow we took Authority we broke the in vow we spoke to her body we loose you from this would give you a direction From God open up grow mature be here be free be real at 35 she grew a full bosom and so much so that some people said God overdid [Laughter] it along along with that kind of Miracle happening in her body she also grew uh into a great deal
of uh maturity just more and more each day she became a very good counselor she also does hairdressing and she does a wonderful Job on the tops of people's heads but often she's praying for them while she's cutting their hair and it's wonderful and God has turned on other faculties that were not working and recently she found out when she did they did an x-ray she has no pituitary gland there's just a hole and it's the pituitary gland which tells all the other glands what to do and the doctor said how are you alive and
functioning she said I don't know he said well somebody's been telling your Body what to do she's walking miracle and that miracle that the Lord has been walking in inide causing to work inside of her is also touching other people's lives her husband had in sephtis and was very very sick almost died and in fact everybody even at the hospital thought he would die but he didn't because there were so many people gathered around 24 hours a day praying for him he did suffer the destruction of some brain cells up here And for a while
was hard to to handle but she prayed continually for him and loved up on him just day by day by day and then I think it was the Doctor Who said it would be good for him if uh you got him a swing that he could swing in in the yard uh every day and I I found a pamphlet by someone I I wish I knew more about it that in this pamphlet it said that little children should have a lot of of rocking and swinging and all cuz it has something to do with the
Connecting of the parts of their brain you know about that K Dr Sing yes yeah so um it it just really uh tickles me that I I saw the connection here because as we see Denny receiving the prayer receiving the love from his wife and from his friends and from our small group which meets fairly regularly and then from the fun that he has with the swinging on the sling he's beginning to be able to exercise a lot more uh brain power he's not so hard to To um uh live with or he can be
trusted to go through with a job that U is assigned him around home and then you know I got to thinking about why does God cause all of this a holy laughter and then in this book I read that laughter in little babies has a lot to do with what's going on in the brain that laughter actually causes connections to be made in the brain without which we are not as smart so what is happening when you get here and Holy laughter comes on you is that God is treating the child within you and causing
the child to laugh to connect your brain up properly yeah how about that Jenny just started telling lots of jokes if he heard a joke he wanted to tell it to everybody and then he just laugh and laugh and laugh uh with those people so go ahead and exercise that Holy laughter who knows what it'll do to what's inside your Head yeah here's some more examples of inner vows you could I will never get angry like my dad now when you make a a bitter judgment against your parents Deuteronomy 5:116 says honor your father and
your mother that it may go well with you and this is a dishonoring when you judge the father for being angry and then Romans 21 says you have no excuse oh man when you judge another for you yourself are doing the Same thing the rule is if you judge somebody in a condemning way you doom yourself to do the same thing so when you make an inner vow I will never get angry like my dad it works in reverse and the power of the of the vow causes you to get angry like your dad only
worse than him and so intervals will not work when they're made against your parents when I become a parent I'll never discipline like my dad I'm in many Of you have found out that you disciplined just like your dad did well that's what causes it you've made an inter vow and the Judgment turn Works in Reverse or then you don't discipline at all and your child suffers for lack of discipline I've been hurt I'll never open my heart again I'll never risk with a woman again see if I ever trust again there was a woman
who came for counseling Because she had two girls and she wanted to give her husband a son she loved her husband loved her children she wanted to give her husband a son and every time she would get pregnant and it became known that it was a son she' just Mis carry this happened to her three times so she knew there had to be something behind this and she came to see me about it and what when I had did the questioning about her his I found that she had a Brother who was not just a
teaser uh boys don't want to admit they have good feelings so because they love their sisters they teased them and uh but this brother was vicious he was just vicious to her and along the way she made an inner vow I will never carry a Boy Child I'll never have a boy child now here's the thing about Suchi in her vows later on she grew up up she changed her mind she wanted to carry a boy child but she had programmed her body to respond so Every time she'd be pregnant with a Boy Child her
body just sluff that boy child right out of there so we prayed for her enabling her to forgive her brother and forgiving her for her judgment against her brother and then I took up Authority and said by the authority of the Lord Jesus I break that inner vow and I loose your body to receive and carry and deliver a healthy baby boy a few months later she got pregnant and carried the boy fullterm and they have a good Time there was an acquaintance of ours who absolutely could not be corporate with his wife he would
come home and he would barely Embrace her and then he'd take the meal she had prepared and instead of sitting down at the table with her to visit he'd take his meal and go sit in front of the TV then he go out into his garage and work on cars cuz he was mechanical in mind and he just never could be with her what was behind that was that when He was conceived his father didn't want a boy at all and his father left the mother then turned to him and made him into a substitute
mate and the mother totally controlled him made him responsible for her emotions and so he made an inner vow I will never let a woman get to me like that again I will never open my heart to a woman she will manipulate me she'll control me I won't have a life of my own I will never open my heart to a woman we took this couple Cuz they were friends on a vacation trip in our camper at that time we had a little motor home and uh now he couldn't escape to the TV there he
was with us and with her and he was you could just see the fear in him you could see the unrest and when it came time to start back well first we went to Yellowstone we're looking at everything he stayed in the motel room wouldn't be with his wife and when it came time to go back I let him drive and Then wished I hadn't because he broke the speed limits all the way home fleeing from his wife why because that inner vow was controlling him I will never let a woman get close to me
again you see inner vows Rob us of freedom to act in the way we want as adults they take away our self-control and put us in control of that vow and so we are imprisoned by our inner vow that's why they have to be brought to Death on the cross now they're common to every individual there is no one who hasn't made inner vows each one makes his own kind of interval makes it a little differently but every one of us has made inter vows intervals are often very difficult to ident ify because they're so
often hidden in our inner being if we get just a a glimpse of something that we we think might be causing trouble then We'll try to push it down and pretend like it isn't there and uh sometimes if somebody comes to us and they offer to pray for us we we just aren't quite ready for that keep it up keep and we'll uh deny uh that they don't disappear during the maturation process or when we first receive Jesus they'll they'll take on a life of their own and persist in producing negative fruit even after Judgments
are healed and continuing to operate habitually don't give up on that that's just describing the problems we have sometimes with they are inner defensive flight mechanisms and they are like computers within us and they operate on the basis of Bitter Root judgment so I want to take just a few minutes to explain what a Bitter Root judgment is first what is a Root a root is a practiced hidden way of drinking nurture from God others ourself and nature if you're making notes I'll say it again so that you get it a root is a practiced
hidden way of drinking nurture from God others our s and nature it's practiced and hidden because we build our root system in the first six years basically by the first three years we built our root system and how do we build it if a father and mother give to us affection then our spirit is taught How to reach out into them and draw affection how to give affection so we're taught how to function but if we're not given that kind of nurture and affection our spirit doesn't learn how to do that now we have a
Bitter Root see a true root enables you to be one with others Your Heart is Open you're able to drink you're able to give back and forth in True Fellowship but if you don't have a root remember Jesus said these have no root in a time of Temptation they fall Away if you don't have a root that is a good one you may have a Bitter Root and a Bitter Root works the other way it's a practiced hidden way of drinking harm from God others our s and nature now God never intends to harm but
in our perception we see what he does is harmful so that's what a Bitter Root is and inner vows operate on the basis of Bitter Root judgments that we make against people so there is a need to find out you don't just want to go in And Cast Away that vow you have to find out what started it what was the origin of it what caused it and then you pray for the history of the of the family as you heard in talking with the person find out what caused that Bitter Root and the Bible
warns that we can have Bitter Root springing up just suddenly Hebrews 12:15 says see to it that none of you come short of the grace of God that no Bitter Root springing up Causes trouble and by it many become defiled note the word springing up when you receive Jesus as Lord and Savior your bitter roots and your inner vows die on the cross with him the problem is they won't stay dead they spring back to life so seek to it that no Bitter Root springing up causes trouble and by it the many become defiled and
the very loved ones that live around you are the ones that will be the most defiled so we are physically mentally Emotionally and spiritually imprisoned by Inner vows and when we judge another person and vow never to do what they did as we said The Vow often Works in Reverse now we want to just before we close this we want to talk about what happens when you make good inner vows now my father was very gentle very kind I never heard him raise his voice to my mother I never heard him say a harsh thing
he was very gentle kind man so I made a vow I want to be that way I Vowed I will be gentle and kind at all times well that would seem to be good and in many ways it did cause me to be that way but that locked me into flesh righteousness you understand that and it prevented me from being stern when I should be Stern my mother would have been much better off if my father had risen up at times and said stop that Zelma she could have relaxed but he couldn't stop her in
her Emotional Tyrant and so she was hurt by the fact that he was too gentle there are times when God wants us to be Stern and if we're in vow says we can't be now we're blocked so I had to bring that to death on the cross but before I did what had happened then was that Paul and I couldn't have a good fight well I could have a good one but he what would happen let me explain that a moment He in in his home they they really they couldn't really get no his father
just wouldn't um get involved at all I had three brothers and they like to tease me a lot so we get into a fight every once in a while but it wasn't a knut down and drag out fight we'd just hassle things out get everything on the table talk about it and then it was done it was all done and when I first met John and he came uh To be in our home if anybody's voice began to raise uh a little bit loudly like one of my brothers uh they they would tease one another
kind of trying to get one upmanship on the other who could say the worst thing about it cuz it was fun for them but he would just John would just get all upset about that he say I don't like to go around there just always what was it you said rankor or loud so but it wasn't it was just our way of quickly talking About something saying what we had to say and then it was done and we'd just go on about our business and we'd have a wonderful time and our family but my my
interval disqui me to understand that so then when Lauren became a teenager he liked to come home he came in the door talking and he'd love to get in a fight with Paula and they'd be in the kitchen just jawing away at each other and I'd get in there would you two quit fighting And they'd say we are finished yet we're just talking about this and get out of here we want to fight and so I couldn't understand that and then we're supposed to be talking something out Paula says something and I sit back there
trying to figure out how to answer in a kind jent way and I'm trying to figure out how to forgive her get my heart clean and finally I figure it out and I say something to Her and she takes about 5 minutes to figure out how to answer because of what I am and then I take another five minutes trying to figure out how to answer her it took all night to have a fight it was like two turtles in a pot of glue I can't remember what the the startlingly funny thing was that John
did when we were we were arguing about something and he came up with oh yeah Yeah our son John remember what it was was wrestling and fighting with Paula and uh PA he W Paula just didn't seem to be getting the point and he came up put his hand on her head and he says I reprogram your cone so you know what that was we laughed for 15 minutes and went on about our business okay how many of you recognize you got an interval or some or one or two or three or four Yeah Now's
the Time For questions oh how do you get rid of I think we basically said it how do you get rid of an interval you find out what caused it you pray about for the inner healing of that and then you take up Authority and you break it inner vows do not respond to anything else other than Authority you deal with a hidden Heart of Stone by love and affection and love melts it but it won't do that with a with an inner vow you have to use Authority by the authority of the Lord Jesus
Christ I break that inner vow I loose you from it and of course your scriptures Matthew 11 uh Matthew 181 18 and 19 18 and 19 and which it says that whatever you loose on Earth is loose in heaven whatever you bind on Earth is bound in heaven and what you're doing is loosing that person from The Vow he has made that's how you break it now questions while we're talking about Tak some patience and Perseverance question okay um if you uh have questions uh I would like you to come forward and you can sit
in the front row uh will probably take about maybe eight or nine PE people can ask questions okay so if you have question just make your way up quick so what he wants is as others are asking questions you come forward and sit in the front row so we don't have to lose a lot of time while he's running Back to view yes so that we don't run around all over the place thank you okay hi um my question is um How do you identify if you made an inner vow yeah that's a very good
question usually we take time to put that in the teaching in your vows sometimes the person can remember the Holy Spirit of prompt oh I made that inner vow and they'll remember that they made the inner vow so that's the easy way when It's deser but sometimes they are so hidden that the person doesn't know he made it and so how do you know you can tell by the obstinacy the resistance to Healing the resistance to change it's kind of like um they discover where a planet is by the pull of the gravitation on the
planets around in the same way you can see the fruit of the inner valve operating in the other other areas of the life and so then you can assume oh There must be an interal behind this because it doesn't it isn't amenable to death on the cross by itself and it's affecting other aspects of the life and you can see that you made such an in vow another way if you have a blockage uh ask the Lord what the blockage is and he may reveal to you that you have made an inner vow uh we
were as a family discussing something that is Why why did I on telephone conversations get uneasy and not want to keep on talking when the kids are talking with us on the phone she's on one extension I'm on the other why did I why would I get away from the phone conversation and uh so we had to ask the Lord why she said John why do you do that and the Lord said John why you do that and I said well I remember my mother talking on the phone and she would be gossiping and I've
got phone Conversations connected with uncleanness so I don't want to talk on the phone and the Lord said John that's too Noble and then he said think about your childhood and I thought about my childhood and I remembered that my older brother had gone off to work and my father was working 16 hours a day and I had two cows and 300 chickens a 383 Orchard and about a half acre of garden to take it over and nobody would help me and Uh then I'm I was praying and the Lord said he he reminded me
and I heard my own inner vow I will not need you I will do it by myself I will not need you and then he showed me that it was okay for the children to need me when they were growing up but when they were adults and they're having a good conversation that good conversation might open my heart and I would need them so I was afraid and would close off from the good Conversations because that inner vow I'm not going to need you so I've had to learn to break that and to need the
children and to need others and it's so so much better now but you see by thinking about it by praying about it and asking the Lord to reveal he brought it up okay okay joh get another question well this is on interval as regarding my son-in-law he lost his mother in a tragic accident when he was about 8 years old and I'm just wondering if uh He it's almost impossible for him to show any affection or caring toward my daughter I know he loves her from his other actions but it's he never can say anything
nice to her he never can show affection when you talked about getting your dinner and eating in front of the television that's himy and she's a Believer but he isn't and I just wondered if I was with his wife yes toward his wife well toward me too I know he loves me but you know for him to Hug me forget it having heard this what do you suspect is behind it well I think I what I think perhaps is the death of his mother and he made a vow that he would never let himself be
hurt by somebody like that by a woman but my question is because he's not a Believer and she is if I wanted to share this with her how could she pray for him ah you can pray for him to be filled with love because perfect love cast out fear you can pray you being the mother She being the wife you can pray for his heart to be healed in relation that be much better if you were doing it aloud with him talking back and forth but if he's not amenable to that you do have some
degree of permission because you're the mother and she's the wife and you can pray together for his heart to be healed and you have to be a little careful because it's like casting away a demon and if the heart isn't healed seven Worse come back so you try to break that in vow and it may just drinken because he isn't willing yet so you got to be pray you got to pray for him to be made willing in to see it and pray for his heart to be filled with love so if that wounding what
he did when the mother died it was so wounding to him his heart closed down that's the heartest stone and his mind made the inner vow I will never risk with a woman again it hurts Too much so it takes a lot of love from the two of you pouring into him until he can finally be ready to admit it and let it go I wanted to know um what do you replace an inter vow with Once that's gone you can't just have the spiritual vacuum where there's there's nothing yeah good for you good question
we had that in our notes and we just thought we should get to the question answer time you need to Replace it with the opposite so that if you have made a vow not to share because it hurts too much then if you're the one that made the vow and it's been broken then you have to make yourself share with people you have to make yourself go the other direction for a while until you built in a new habit that overcomes the old habit so and then you also need to pray blessing in its place
like if it was an interval never to share I bless this child or this person with ability To open and share but that person to get his own healing needs to make himself do the opposite so for instance uh I had my mother wasn't safe to be around and so I made vows not to open to the woman when we saw this and how it was affecting us and brought it to death I forgave my mother was healed and broke that vow then I had to discipline myself not to retreat from Paula I had to
make myself be open to her uh I had to make myself share with her and in those early days She was still performance Orient Ed so it was like the Lord telling me share with her openly was like put your head in the buz saw so I had to make myself share even though it gave her ammunition to use on me and uh when I did make myself share that's really what she wanted so she quit being so critical she was just trying to get me to share see and also I had to discipline myself
to find things that we could do together That he also would be interested in uh it wasn't only ball games or computer games but there were other things that we could enjoy together so if I could keep my mouth shut with the oh John what are you doing again you know just let that one go in the garbage Cannon hey John wouldn't it be fun if we did such and such so so she make us play upwards or some other game so we could be together so you just build in the opposite Okay that than
making a a how's that different than making a positive like what you said a quote good vow okay uh inner vows are made in childhood while we are forming our character that's why they're called inner vows a present day vow doesn't have the power to affect us like you make a New Year's resolution you can't keep it so an inner vow doesn't have a present vow doesn't have the power of an inner vow inner vows are made when we're forming our Character and they control us whereas a vow that you make today it's good to
make them but since you make them in the flesh and flesh profits nothing you probably not going to keep it you have to ask the Holy Spirit to do this in you and pray that he gives you the power to like if I want a change in relation to Paula and hold my heart open if I just say I am going to hold my heart open to Paula that enlist trouble but if I say Lord you come and keep me open to Paula He'll answer that one okay okay we're going to take two more question
uh concerning the Heart of Stone okay some of my questions have been answered right as I'm sitting here but I also um how does an IND individual himself having a Heart of Stone uh uh the impacts of his life's hurt how does how does he get out of that hearted Stone I realize God's doing all that work but sometimes we fall back into That that transition of following that bad path again and I was just curious because well we did say that you can't get yourself out of a Heart of Stone because that's the sure
way to ensure that you have one uh you have to let other people minister to you but then after that there are some disciplines you can employ to help yourself get out of the heartest stone whereas at the little moments of decision do I close off or do I open Where you decide no I will open to my wife I will open to my children or whatever it is uh I will do the opposite of my heart Stone that's your your part of the healing after being healed is to maintain the healing by making those
decisions okay and I think you could catch yourself practice catching yourself in in the act of acting out whatever it it is inside and say no when I act this way it hurts people around me it drives them Away from me it destroys relationships I will not give into that Lord I don't have the strength in myself to deny going ahead and acting with that but I call on you right now to give me your strength of spirit Lord enable me to turn the other way and leave that that's held me in bondage behind of
course it's really repentance that sets you free so we want to make a distinction here many people confuse Remorse with repentance remorse is fleshly you're just sorry that you failed you're sorry about yourself it doesn't ever really get to the cross it doesn't ever really get to Freedom repentance is a gift from God when God so causes you to love him and others that you are hurt that they are hurt and you can repent that you did it to hurt them and because of love for others you don't want to repeat it if It's just
selfish and self-centered in terms of remorse you're never going to get there but if God gives the true gift of repentance and out of love for others you're going to be set free okay one more is that it okay yes one last question that's Sean uh yes would you distinguish between a heartest stone and spiritual Rebellion uh it's uh spiritual Rebellion is when in our in the depths of our spirit we resist being here we resist uh being a Person we don't want to be born uh we have a death wish we have a whole
teaching on spiritual Rebellion that you can get you probably read it but the difference is spiritual Rebellion tends to create the Heart of Stone see the Heart of Stone is the result and the spiritual Rebellion is the cause so you may uh in the womb know that you weren't wanted and so you Rebel and you don't want to be here that then creates a Heartest stone see so the one creates the other that's the difference okay now how many of you have never ever had a father's blessing it's one of the most important and Powerful
things that can ever happen in our life because father S stand at the water tap of God's favor and they direct the flow into our life and we need a father's blessing so let's stand and we don't need just a father's blessing we need a mother's blessing you Might give her one of those the other one let's bow in prayer oh we did after the blessing would you again just in groups of two or three before you go off to lunch spend a little time uh praying for one another and just say hey I saw
an inner vow and then I think this is the cause of it then you pray with that person about that cause and then take of authority and break it so pray for one another just too many to Have you come forward and have people with authority Break The Vow you take up Authority and break it for each other just like you did the other day praying in groups of two or three for each other okay father God we bless you we praise you we adore you you are our very life you are our very love
you sent your son to die for us because you so loved the world oh Father God we need to know that love we thank you you are wooing us to yourself causing us to know you as the Loving father God you are and now as a father in Christ I bless all all of these people I bless you with the favor of God the Father I bless you with the love of Father God I bless you with the peace of God I bless you with the guidance of the Lord Jesus Christ he who has the
keys he opens None Shall shut shut and None Shall open he shall take you by the hand he shall go before you he shall open the right doors and close the wrong ones I bless you Then with the protection ction of the angels of God I bless you that wherever you go you will be like a player on a stage who can't walk out from under the spotlight of God's presence and favor that wherever you are the Angels of God will have gone before you and behind you I bless you with the sense of being
a child loved of his father and secure and at home I bless you with that peace and that love to fill your entire being I bless you With a Father's Love And as a a wife and as a a mother and father in Christ I Stand by John and I confirm all the things that he has prayed in blessing for all of you and especially I pray blessing uh for each one of you especially um those who didn't have mothers and fathers who were really walking together and who knew how to love together and how
to settle problems together and that Was difficult that was very wounding for many of you number so we pray for healing a number of you were like footballs tossed between father and mother if you got close to one the other was jealous or you were never able to bask in the love of a father and mother who have it together and so for for this moment just In This Moment Paul and I take you between us and we just incubate you in the love between us we hold you in our hearts so that you may
for this Moment know what it is to be held between a father and mother who are together who love each other and love you so we hold you in our hearts and pray now that that integration happen deep within you where you feel together because father and mother together and hold you in togetherness so we hold you in our hearts and between us in the love we have for each other and let that be a blessing deposited in your hearts that The Lord can continue to move on until it grows and grows within and you
come into a deeper for sense of of being loved and understood and cherished it's just a touch in this moment but let it let it be like a drop of dye which eventually colors the whole glass yes so let that love just spread now up through the life until you feel cherished and loved and held by a father and a mother together we thank you Lord Jesus amen Amen praise God uh before um we you go for break uh we would like to um get into small groups of people and just pray for one another
and Grace one another and what I call give the sandc sandwich to one another uh but before we do that I just want to know um one thing and I feel like being led by the spirit here I it's like how many of you who are you've been you married but you have your marriage is not blessed never been blessed and You struggle in your marriage because either your parents or Mom and Dad or the other party um in-laws have never approved you married to that person okay let me see your hand here how many
people see okay yeah see I think that's the one reason that people struggle because we never receive blessing in the first place in the American um that's why Esau and has has never been blessed because his mom Rea don't Like the canite and that's why she ask Jacob to take the blessing of his brother and as a father in Christ I bless your marriage okay I bless it with the affirmation of a father who is proud of you and pleased with you I bless your marriage with the love of Father God I bless your marriage
with the attendance of the angels of God who can move you together when you're aart I bless you with friends who can speak truth to you I bless you with relationships in the Church who can heal and restore your marriage so I bless your marriage in Jesus name amen amen praise God okay okay turn to each other and pray for one another before you leave and just break whatever intervals have been holding you okay uh prayer team Ministry ver have the pink badge if you can uh move around and uh and you can bless people
groups Okay that's that's you [Music] [Music] h [Music] oh [Music] o [Music] oh [Music] Remember if you're ministering to someone and it's a hard issue it's love that you need to speak into them your father loves you your father loves you if it's a vow uh it's an inner vow you need to speak strongly against that and so you say I loose that from your life I break its power so if they're sharing a heart issue pray in the love of God give them a hug hold them if it's a vow
