today I share with you the saying that everyone will gradually live from being sociable to becoming solitary sociability and Solitude these two seem contradictory but in reality they are not when young we choose to be sociable because we haven't experienced life in circles therefore we must try it well at a certain age such is middle and late years we will choose not to be socialable rarely interacting with strangers this is because we have already experienced much and seen through everything in the world when young we love to call friends over from time to time to
eat and chat at home firstly because at home we are not constrained by the environment of restaurants and the conversation is Freer secondly it enhances the friendship between friends sometimes you visit someone else's house sometimes others come to your home gradually the feelings deepen back then we believed that sincerity between friends was a good thing such sincere people are now increasingly rare when hypocrisy becomes the norm ordinary people with genuine Hearts will change their previous thoughts and ideas as the saying goes those who approach red become red those who approach ink become black in such
a social environment it is understandable that people's concepts of friendship change gradually we no longer like others to visit our homes harboring no expectations for others in our hearts feelings relationships almost all the same since they are inherently hypocritical old Le who is 50 this year here has gotten used to enjoying Solitude when he needs to stay at home he does so when he needs to go out for exercise he goes out even if friends come to visit they usually meet at a restaurant outside rarely bringing them home a relative of his wonders you were
so warm before how have you become so indifferent now Bly says that at different ages one's lifestyle changes especially in old age having seen much the mindset is different from when young preferring quiet daily life enjoying tea gardening or fish alone or being with family to enjoy familial happiness gradually he distanced himself from socializing and his relationships with friends are no longer as close as when he was young because those who seem to come and go frequently are often not true friends rather than being hypocritically polite it's better to be fresh and free alone most
elderly people's lives are like this they have their own Rhythm and habits in old age many people are also unwilling to visit others homes easily because they feel that an old age things are not as easy going and it's not very convenient at others homes sometimes visiting can bring some trouble to oneself therefore try to visit others homes as little as possible in old age the main reasons are the following aspects one visiting is a form of disturbance each family's situation is different in old age most people cannot represent the whole family perhaps your friend
for face or other reasons in invites you over you go happily but it does not mean that your friend's family will welcome you they might even feel that you are disturbing them Uncle my next door says I am careless and never think much once I saw a high school classmate in the community only to find out that we lived in the same community in my 60s seeing a friend from youth naturally very happy the classmate invited Uncle ma to his home for a few dishes and some drinks Uncle ma loves drinking but lack Drinking Buddies
so he was particularly happy to have a classmate to visit regularly on weekends he would bring a few dishes to his classmate's house but his classmate's wife showed a strange expression upon seeing him Uncle M didn't think much drank and left in the following days he visited his friend for drinks every few days but after a few visits this classmate said every weekend you come to drink my wife and children have big opinions they feel their life is Disturbed Uncle M realized that the initial invitation was just a polite remark he took it seriously thinking
they really welcomed him two frequent visits can cause trouble an old age the most feared is having nothing to do having someone to chat with is great so some elderly who get along well with the neighbors visit each other frequently to pass the time though it seems like such days are much richer frequent visits might not be a good thing because with many people many words Gathering Together might result in saying something inappropriate causing unnecessary trouble and disputes in life Miss Wong upstairs says I'd rather stay home alone watching dramas then visit others because Miss
Wong had conflicts with her daughter-in-law due to visits her son scolded her harshly Miss Wong is enthusiastic after retirement she dances in the square with some ladies from the community on rainy days they take turns visiting each other's homes to chat and eat once at M Le's home someone started talking about relationships with daughters-in-law Miss Wong mentioned her daughter-in-law's lack of initiative at home and now Marrying an only child was a bit of a downside due to being spoiled the remark was meant to be casual but somehow it reached her daughter-in-law's ears becoming that Miss
Wong was very dissatisfied with her and that her daughter-in-law had married above her station living with her son and daughter-in-law the situation became very awkward she wanted to explain but her daughter-in-law had a cold attitude and her son scolded her for gossiping because of this Miss Wong felt visiting was not good it's enough to dance together talk less about others afterward go home no need to get too close too many words might get twisted three different economic conditions can cause psychological imbalance even if living in the same Community each family's situation is different some are
better off some are worse off if each stays at home no problem arises however if two families with significant economic differences frequently visit each other the wealthier one might show superiority making the less wealthy one uncomfortable creating a psychological Gap even the elderly subconsciously compare after all everyone wants a better life visiting can lead to comparison and jealousy adding mental burden making it counterproductive it's better to live one's own life neither visiting others easily nor inviting others over live in peace we can observe during festive times it becomes clear people used to visit for New
Year greetings now they prefer staying home sleeping and browsing phones have people lost interest in traditional celebrations not really just life is too exhausting and there's no genuine emotion between people visiting and socializing become meaningless unless life slows down and people's hearts return to Tranquility life's space will not slow only Quicken making Solitude a preferred lifestyle many prefer Solitude rather than interacting with others when young not understanding Solitude thinking it means having no friends feeling embarrassed only now do we fully understand Living Well for oneself in a complex life is the greatest success the colder
life is the warmer are love for family indifference to Outsiders is fine but be sincere with family in old age contact with a few friends and family is unavoidable but avoid visiting others homes if wanting to gather find a place outside lightening the physical burden and avoiding mental stress a win-win situation no need for visiting and rushing to entertain causing physical and family stress an old age hosting guests can be tiring or stressful leading to many troubles it's vital to learn to be alone especially in old age as people around gradually leave as adapting to
being alone helps face future challenges today's sharing ends here thank you for watching if you like the Buddhas n Channel don't forget to subscribe and share here you will never be alone for
