in a troop of gorillas there can only be one leader and it's usually the largest and strongest gorilla in the group because he has the most responsibility to protect everyone else in return he has the first pick of female gorillas when it's breeding time whether you realize it or not humans operate in a similar fashion every group has an alpha male or amog the alpha male of the group even if it isn't said by anyone it is known and recognized by everyone outside of the group although strength and size do play some part of who
becomes the alpha it is far from being the most important thing in the human universe so in this video i'm going to cover four traits that the alpha male possesses to maintain his spot at the top and we'll be using one of my favorite characters thomas shelby from the tv show peaky blinders as our example if you like this video please consider subscribing and turning on those post notifications so you don't miss content similar to this and if you want to connect with me further then add me on instagram brett mvrk [Music] number one comfortable
with confrontation when an issue arises it is expected that the unofficial alpha will not only take on the challenge but be victorious as well in this clip mr gold a very dangerous man attempts to take the property from one of tommy's friends and tommy's response is pretty epic if it's heads happy and takes all of this but my blessing and if it's tiles your daughter mr gold what makes his response so alpha is his ability to stay non-reactive as in not responding emotionally and simply combating an absurd remark with even more absurdity renders him victorious
in this situation it is not effective to respond to absurd remarks with logic or facts you must combat it with an even higher level of absurdity tommy knows the danger involved in making an enemy of a notorious killer but decides to bet on himself and his own reputation as a man with seemingly unlimited power to force mr gold to withdraw alpha presentation this is how an alpha communicates his dominance by the way that he looks so this is everything from having good posture using wide hand gestures and dressing in clothes that fit well and are
in style which in 20th century manchester would be a pressed trilby [Music] suit number three control the frame as the leader of a group you will be met with many situations where people will try to bend the power dynamic to benefit themselves in this clip arthur shelby challenges his younger brother you were seen doing the powder trick down at gaddison courts [Music] there was a chinese look at the book china's have cutters of their own i'm taking charge although arthur is the older brother tommy has the edge because of his ability to remain emotionally unreactive
while maintaining unwavered eye contact and report breaking tonality his calm demeanor shows that he is completely in control of the situation unlike his older brother who tried to overpower tommy with emotion a big indication of the leader of a group is taking any situation and successfully bending it to fit your frame some ways you may see this in your life is when other guys butt in when you're trying to talk to a girl or maybe her friends are trying to for lack of a better term block you but you can maintain the framing of you
being the ultimate decider of what happens throughout the course of the rest of the night if you're able to do that then you are one step closer to being the alpha male of the group masculine energy knows where it's going but it makes room for other people to join and that brings us to the fourth alpha male quality which is problem solving no matter what happens to the gang it always seems like thomas shelby is two steps ahead of everyone in this situation the problem being how to come up with money honestly and word will
spread so the next time we do the powder trick it won't be just a garrison a little bit on the olds and you know what they always will win again the way he is able to quickly put everyone at ease is a testament to his ability to decide it's not so much the ability to make the right decision but to have complete certainty in your decision and carry it out to the end there are many cases where even the most respected leaders were wrong tommy even almost gets himself killed at one point in the series
but to have the ultimate trust of a group of people is the quickest way to catapult yourself to the top of the social ladder that doesn't mean you have to be the smartest person in the group but you will rarely see a dumb person as the alpha male but you simply have to always trust your decision and convey that to your followers you see you don't have to be the oldest tallest or even the strongest to be the alpha male of a group what you need to do can be simplified in one word relax when
a conflict arises don't panic in an emotional outburst but take a moment to think how are you going to react then trust that everything will be okay once you realize this you will gain the social trust of men and women alike and it'll open doors you didn't even know were there thanks for watching guys if you enjoyed this video please subscribe and turn post notifications on so you can be notified about other videos like this and until next time goodbye
