Updated: Daughter Cut Me From Her Wedding I Paid For—So I Canceled Everything Behind Her Back...

daughter cut me from her wedding I paid for so I canceled everything behind her back and watched her burn no one can hurt you the way your own children can it's so true I'm in a similar situation my own daughter Ava 27 female blocked me from attending her wedding I've been drinking and sulking for a week now yesterday was supposed to be her wedding which was sponsored by me yes I was paying for it as a wedding gift Ava was not an easy child I had a whole lot of nightmares raising her so when she

told me about her wedding plans I was happy that she was finally settling down with someone she loved she and her fiance had money problems and couldn't put together a decent wedding so I pitched in and what do I get in return I was blocked from attending I can't tell you how devastating it is a few days ago I called The Wedding Planner to add my brother to the guest list he said that the guest list was full I asked him to send me the complete guest list to see if we could make any Arrangements

he said AA had instructed him not to share the guest list with anybody I told him I was her father and the one paying for the wedding so they better comply with me he was reluctant to share it but when I threatened to call his boss he finally sent me the list when I saw it my heart broke my wife and I weren't on it I called the wedding planner again and said there must be a mistake because neither my name nor my wife's was mentioned he explained that he was specifically asked not to include

our names I couldn't believe it until he shared the email conversation between him and Ava to make matters worse they were instructed to block us from entering the venue can you imagine how heartbreaking that was I knew my daughter resented me but I could never have imagined that she hated me to the point where she wouldn't allow me to attend her wedding I called her in a rage but her phone was on voicemail it was her bachelorette party that day I left a message asking her to call me back but she didn't call that day

or the next on the third day just before the wedding I showed up at her apartment where she was living with her fiance she said she couldn't meet me because she was busy with wedding preparations by then the wedding planner had told told her I knew about the guest list which is why she was avoiding me I went there to get an answer from her but her attitude only made my anger worse I told her that I knew she had blocked me from attending the wedding her reply well good for you it saved you time

and energy to travel to the venue I'll send the photographs of the wedding if I get the time I completely lost my mind there was no reason No Remorse no apology just this I broke down at her cruelty my anger turned into tears and I asked for what I had done wrong to deserve this she said I had always wronged her first by rubbing a stepmom in her face and then by mistreating her by taking others sides she wanted me to defend her unconditionally even when she was in the wrong how could I defend her

when she bullied my sister's daughter I did protect her when she was caught taking pills in school and saved her from being expelled she got into college because of me yet despite everything I did she chose to be ungrateful when she saw me sobbing she said I was spreading negativity in her house I reminded her that I was paying for her wedding she turned offensive and said I wasn't doing her any favors and that I owed her this I lost my mind and told her I didn't owe her anything I had done more than enough

for her and this wedding was indeed a favor she asked me to leave saying she didn't have time for my emotional drama I went home and cried like a baby in front of my wife Mercy aa's stepmom Mercy is a kind-hearted and forgiving person but seeing me break down made her furious for the first time she encouraged me to take action against Ava she said we couldn't let Ava continue to feel entitled to hurt us AA had been living off my money until a year ago when she finally got a decent job that's why she

had no savings for her wedding I had had enough I decided to teach her a lesson I cancelled all the wedding arrangements I barely got any money back from the advaned payments but I didn't care I cancelled the wedding venue and wanted to cancel The Wedding Planner too but I knew that would alert Ava and she could arrange something else my plan was to ruin her big day she already had her dress so I let her keep that I felt guilty while doing all this but when I thought about it I realized I had already

done more than enough for her if she didn't feel guilty about cutting me off from her wedding why should I on the day of the wedding when the wedding planner arrived at the venue with the decorators and Caterers they were denied entry it caused chaos when the security showed them the cancellation email The Wedding Planner called me for the remaining payment but I told them it was no longer my concern they needed to take it up with Ava they told me Ava had a scuffle with the venue guards when they blocked her ENT she was

almost arrested for trespassing but was rescued by her fiance just in time she tried to call me but I had blocked her number she showed up at my house but I had removed her access to the main gate I wasn't afraid of her but I wanted peace there was no point in talking she would only hurt me more with her words just like she did when I went to her house it was high time she faced the consequences of her actions she was no longer a child who could be forgiven over and over Ava didn't

want relatives at her wedding she wanted only her friends I respected her choice thankfully I didn't have to explain the wedding cancellation to my family she had to deal with that with her friends the only ones unhappy with what I did were my parents they said we should never be ruthless to our children no matter how cruel they are to us I told them Ava had brought this upon herself she had been mean and narcissistic her entire life still no matter how much I justify my actions the guilt is there I put on a brave

face but deep down I feel bad for stopping my own daughter's wedding I don't know why I'm here writing this but putting it down on paper has unburdened my heart update thanks for all the moral support I didn't expect people would applaud me for my actions I thought I would be called an idiot for being so vindictive towards my own daughter some of you asked about the background of A's hatred toward us sorry I missed that point earlier I didn't know how this format works but here are the details my wife Mercy 45 female is

my second wife AA is my daughter from my first marriage her mother my first wife and I separated when AA was seven aa's mother found someone else and left me for him they were moving to Europe and didn't want AA so I got custody of her I remarried Mercy when Ava was 13 and since then mercy and I have been facing Ava's wrath she hates Mercy with a passion it was understandable when she was a teenager seeing someone replace her mother must have been hard Mercy a teacher and trained children's counselor assured me that AA

would be fine once she reached adulthood she believed AA would see me not just as her dad but as an individual who needed a partner I married 5 years after the divorce hoping that once AA grew up she'd appreciate that I had parented her alone for those 5 years her mother and her new husband didn't want anything to do with Ava unfortunately Ava wasn't grateful at all instead she grew more hateful towards both me and mercy things got so bad that I had to send Ava to live with my sister who had a daughter of

the same age hoping she'd find companionship there things were smooth for a few months but less than a year later my sister gave up she told me that AA and her daughter fought like cats and dogs and with it being their final year of school my sister didn't want her daughter's grades to suffer because of these Petty fights so I had to bring AA back Ava stayed with us until the end of high school but during vacations she would stay with my parents eventually she refused to come back home and said she would finish High

School while living with them since my parents house was far from her school I arranged for carpooling services that Arrangement worked for a while as long as she was happy and at peace when her High School results came out however they were disastrous that's when I found out she had fallen in with the wrong crowd students who were taking pills and she had a toxic boyfriend that explained why she wanted to live with my parents she would sneak out after they went to bed and wander the city until after midnight she had to repeat her

final year of high school getting her through college was another nightmare thank God I had some contacts who helped her secure a place at a decent College because with her poor grades and miserable attitude she wouldn't have gotten in anywhere else in college she once again got involved with the wrong crowd and immersed herself in drugs things escalated to the point where she had to be sent to rehab she eventually graduated at the age of 25 but the following year she relapsed and I had to admit her to rehab again for a few months it

wouldn't be rude to call her a pain in the butt because she really has been she's constantly troubled me embarrassed me and made my life miserable thank goodness for my understanding wife Mercy had she been any other woman she might have manipulated me into abandoning Ava but instead she was the one who always encouraged me to be patient I can't thank Mercy enough for all the support and sacrifices she's made for both AA and me Ava's main issues seem to be that I remarried and even more so that I married Mercy you see Mercy isn't

a Native American her family originally came from the Middle East they were immigrants living in the US and she grew up in an NGO because her parents couldn't afford to raise their Five Daughters they had fled at a war torn region arriving in the US with nothing that's what drew me to Mercy despite her traumatic childhood and limited resources she overcame the odds earned a master's degree secured a high-paying teaching job and built a life for herself she's a self-made woman but Ava calls her a gold digger I run a flourishing export business which has

been in our family for two generations so yes we have some generational wealth AA believes Mercy married me for money because this is her first marriage and it's my second aa's argument is why would Mercy marry a single dad 12 years older than her if not for money I'm 57 and mercy is 45 I'm not sure who put these ideas into aa's head but that's her reasoning for calling Mercy a gold digger some of you also asked if aa's mother was involved in all of this the truth is she's never contacted me or Ava since

our divorce the last I heard she was in Germany and that's all I know as for the current situation after cancelling Ava's wedding she tried to reach out to meet to unleash her anger but I blocked her from contacting me through any platform my parents were unhappy that I canel the wedding and offered to pay for it themselves if AA wanted to reschedule but AA turned on them accusing them of siding with me she even chased them out of her house saying cruel things and telling them never to visit her again she holds them responsible

for exposing her High School substance use though it wasn't them it was her teacher who happened to go to the same gym as me after this my parents changed their stance and agreed that I was right to cancel the wedding I can't let AA feel entitled to use and hurt us however she wants I'm still not in contact with her and don't know what she's up to my parents visited her 2 days ago which was 10 days after her supposed wedding date and they haven't gotten married yet so I'm guessing they're planning a new date

or just haven't gone through with it oh and I blocked her credit card the one I was paying for she hadn't been using it much after getting her job but she still had access to it I'm sure this will anger her but I don't care anymore after learning how she treated my parents I have no guilt they are in their late' 70s and they've always loved and protected her Ava deserved to be cut off update hey guys I know it's been over a year since I updated This Thread but I have been in constant touch

with everyone who commented on the post or pm' me after a few weeks I got to know that Ava had married her fiance in a private ceremony with just their close friends I was happy for her and wished her a good life I wasn't connected to her on social media so I didn't know what was happening in her life my niece told me that AA had moved to a neighboring City with her husband and she had updated her Facebook status about it life was running as usual until a week ago when I got a call

from an unknown number it was Ava's husband Matt I was tense thinking that something might have happened to her he assured me that she was fine but said she wanted to meet me in person which came as a surprise I asked him why but he said he would explain when we met he mentioned that he was in town and suggested meeting up for dinner I agreed secretly hoping it was a chance for AA and Ne to reconcile I thought she might be too ashamed to face me and that Matt was acting as a middleman with

High Hopes I went to meet him but to my dismay Matt showed up alone when I asked about AA he said he didn't know where she was my heart sank and I asked if something had happened to her he then revealed that they were separated Matt explained that Ava had been abusive during their marriage with severe anger issues she would throw things and break household items during even minor arguments he tolerated it for as long as he could but eventually the situation became unbearable and they separated Matt went on to say that AA had psychological

issues and blamed others for any inconvenience she faced she frequently fought with him especially because they had moved to a new city for his job even though Ava had found a similar paying job there despite this she resented him for taking her away from her hometown that was just one of many issues between them Matt said he wanted to meet in person to apologize he admitted that he had witnessed Ava's cruelty towards me mercy and my parents but didn't intervene because AA had manipulated him against all of us he regretted overlooking the red flags and

bringing misery upon himself I told him that none of this was his fault it was avas to some extent I blamed myself for not raising her properly I also apologized to him for everything he had been through with Ava Matt then asked me for a favor he said Ava had been distraught by the separation and was begging him to take her back however he had fallen out of love with her after enduring her abuse despite that he wished her well well and asked if I could support her during this difficult time AA had no real

friends left due to her temper and he hoped I could take her to therapy or offer some kind of help I told him I wished I could but AA wouldn't let me near her he understood and we both expressed a desire to help AA if she would allow it after that conversation I decided to visit AA unfortunately as expected it didn't go well she lashed out at me in Mercy though I had come alone because I didn't want Mercy to witness Ava's wrath I apologized to her trying to Cal her down at that moment I

wasn't concerned with right or wrong I just wanted to help her I told her she could say whatever she wanted about me but she needed to see a therapist first Ava didn't listen and brought up the past she yelled that she hated mercy so much that she wanted to kill her she admitted she had blocked us from her wedding because she was ashamed of introducing Mercy as her stepmom and was embarrassed by our marriage despite my attempts to reason with her she chased me out of the house blaming me for all her problems I don't

know if I was right or wrong and honestly I don't care anymore I just want her to get better but I don't know how to help her update thank you all for the moral support I was very disturbed when I made the last update and this space has really helped me calm down Mercy suggested I reach out to aa's best friend from school her family was our neighbor so we knew each other well she now lives in South Africa so I contacted her on social media and explained the situation I asked her to reach out

to AA hoping she could get through to her as she was the only person AA had never fought with her friend assured me she would help and thankfully she did Ava agreed to go to therapy and I believe it's going well because about a week ago she visited my parents and apologized for her behavior she admitted that her hatred had grown so intense that she could no longer control it however she also said she would never forgive me and still blames me for everything I don't hold any resentment towards her anymore I just wish her

a good life even if I'm not part of it thank you all for your support I hope no father ever has to go through this where their own child hates them to such an extreme level thank you so much for watching until the end if you really like our videos please don't forget to like share and subscribe have a great day