Boyfriend Caught Girlfriend Cheating In A Car (Full Episode) | Paternity Court

Please be seated. Hello, Your Honor Hello. This is the case of Vanmetre v.

Watkins. Thank you, Jerome. Good day, everyone.

AUDIENCE: Good morning. JUDGE LAKE: Ms. Vanmetre, after a recent medical scare you realized it is imperative that you prove to the defendant that he is the biological father of your three year old son, De'cedre so you can put his name on the birth certificate.

You are hopeful today's result will help save your family. Mr Watkins, you say your paternity doubt has destroyed your relationship with the plaintiff, and when the results prove you are not the father, you are gone forever. Is that correct?

Yes, Your Honor. Ms. Vanmetre, what is the current status of your relationship?

We're not in a relationship, we just live together at the moment. JUDGE LAKE: Okay. We broke up because of the simple fact that I cheated.

And he has just stayed, and he's been there throughout everything, um, throughout the whole birth, throughout my son being three now. He's just played his dad the whole time. I don't really know why he's stayed, I just know he has stayed.

JUDGE LAKE: All right, so Mr Watkins, what's going on in the home? Well, number one, I'm not gonna leave a child without a father 'cause I grew up without a dad. So I'm just gonna go ahead and do what I have to do as a man and still be there.

And I can see as you talk about that, that you feel emotional, that you've been very good to this child. Yeah. Despite your doubt, because it means something to you.

Right. Also I play father to her other child who doesn't have a father in her life so. .

. I'm taking care of the whole crew. VANMETRE: And I understand that and I respect that but it's just, like, he makes it feel like it's a financial thing of why he has stayed, and it's not, because we're going to be okay, and I mean, he'd still father my child even if he is outside of that house.

So Mr Watkins, what I want to understand from you is, it's bigger than, "I'm just staying in the house because "this child needs to have a father. " Right. 'Cause I found out she cheated and that's what, like, I didn't understand why, because I felt like we're all adults.

If you want to be in a relationship you're gonna be in one, if you don't wanna be in one, you don't. Okay, well, let's get down to the nitty-gritty, as they say. 'Cause the cheating is what caused the paternity question.

Right. All right. How did you find out she was cheating?

Well, I saw her on the couch, texting. But I could clearly see what she's doing, she's texting and deleting messages. She's like, "Oh, I'm talking to my friend.

" "What are you deleting the messages for? " Then she was pretty much arguing about it, the fact of what she was saying like, "You weren't saying that 'cause you deleted them. " So I left.

Just to cool down 'cause I don't to stick around arguing about nothing. So uh, I was coming back when her family picked me up and told me that they saw her outside in a car doing what she was doing. .

. JUDGE LAKE: What? You said, "Doing what she's doing.

" Pretty much she was having sex in the back of the car. Ms. Vanmetre, are you in the car with the guy you were texting?

Yeah, but it was because he was leaving. And I was telling him bye at first. He came on to me.

And it just ended up happening, it's not like it was intentional, he was some. . .

JUDGE LAKE: Oh, so you did, you did have sex with this guy you were texting and deleting messages with. Yes. JUDGE LAKE: So you admit that?

Yes. So you had sex in front of the house in a car. Yes.

And your family was inside the house. Yes. And then they told on you.

VANMETRE: Yes, Your Honor. (AUDIENCE GASPING) So Mr Watkins, you're riding in the car, how do you find out that it's the guy with the text messages? Well, they told.

. . She told me who it was when.

. . JUDGE LAKE: When you confronted her.

Who the actual person was. I was gonna tell him. .

. But then my whole thing was. .

. You said it was a friend. .

. You said it was a friend, right? But that person that you claim to be is your friend was the person you said you dated a while back.

A long time ago. . .

So it was never a friend, so you was on the phone with your ex texting. . .

See, yeah, this is the part, it always happens like this. 'Cause there's always that okey-doke where it's just, like, "It's just my friend. " And that's why in this courtroom we always ask, "Have you ever been intimate with that person?

" VANMETRE: No, no. You had never been intimate with that person in the past? No, me and him.

. . JUDGE LAKE: So the first time you ever had sex with that person was in the car?

Yes. I thought Mr Watkins just testified that this was a person you used to date previously. It was, I didn't date him.

I didn't. . .

When I talked to him, it was just talking. I never done nothing, we kissed, that was all we did. It was before I met him.

And then I met him and I chose not to proceed with the other guy. Okay, but even with the kiss, see, these are the little details that add up to the drama. Because when you said to him, "It's just a friend, I'm just texting.

" You text and deleting message, he knew there was smoke there, he knew that because that doesn't make any sense if you're just texting a friend, then why you gotta delete the messages? And then, look, I'm big if I'm in a relationship, if it's a friend of yours it better be a friend of mine. (AUDIENCE CLAPPING) So if it's no friend of his.

. . .

. . then, he knew something was up.

Now you say, "I never had sex with the guy before but I did kiss him. " Well, I guess they were making up for lost time. (AUDIENCE SNICKERING) But my point is, Ms.

Vanmetre, you do have this sexual encounter and then you find out you're pregnant. Yes, Your Honor. JUDGE LAKE: How long after that?

Uh, maybe a week or two after the fact that I. . .

Really, I don't remember the exact date. But when I had sex with him, I did use protection. Mr Watkins, it seems like you don't believe that.

She told me that she didn't use it. I told you I did not remember. She says she did remember.

. . Then she says she didn't.

Then she did. Then she says she did. So.

. . There you see where my doubts come from.

So Mr Watkins, the truth is you believe that this man, this man she had that encounter with in the car, could be De'cedre's true biological father. Right. (AUDIENCE SNICKERS) Do you have any additional doubt or evidence?

I don't really have a bond with him. Like, I love him. .

. But every time I see him, I see him the same way I see her daughter, you know, those are her kids. So I'd see him as just a cute kid, he's cute.

And he's awesome. And we play fight all the time, sometime he don't know when to stop. I'm like, man, all right, keep going.

So Mr Watkins, when you look at De'cedre, do you see the other guy? Yeah, I do. He looks nothing like the other person, he looks like him.

WATKINS: But I have another daughter that's mine that. . .

When uh, me and my kid's mom were trying to have her it's almost just like exercising after a while. So you know. .

. Eventually she got pregnant. I'm not fertile.

So. . .

If you had a kid that makes you fertile. . .

. when she went and did what she did, like all of a sudden she's screaming she's pregnant. And then when we go, you know the lady to tell her how many months she is, they read back to when she got pregnant, and she got pregnant around the same time that she cheated.

It doesn't mean that you're not fertile, it could've been on her end that could. . .

I don't know. It could have been anything. JUDGE LAKE: Well Ms.

Vanmetre, I have to say that I do agree with you on that, I mean, if he impregnated one woman, he could, in fact, impregnate another one, barring some circumstance that would render him you know, unable to impregnate a woman. But you do understand that his doubt. .

. Yeah, and I. .

. . .

. surrounding the timeline is real. VANMETRE: I know that and I told him that I respected that and I told him he didn't have to stay.

He has chose to stay, he was there during the whole birth, He was there he cut my son's umbilical cord. JUDGE LAKE : But Ms. Vanmetre, have you ever told the other guy that he potentially was De'sedre's biological father?

VANMETRE: I ran into him when my son was three months old. And he asked me if I ever found out if my son was his or not and I told him that I did. Because I didn't want him involved.

Just because I want him to be the dad because my son's actually just like him. He's just like me because he's around me. He's gonna take up things from me.

(AUDIENCE APPLAUDING) I want. . .

I wanna understand this, though. You're admitting, Ms. Vanmetre, that when you saw the other guy, you lied and said you had a test, and he was not the child's biological father.

Yeah, because I've seen him with his child, and my daughter which doesn't have a dad in her life, and I've seen how he was. . .

Right, so you made a conscious choice to lie to the other potential father so that he would be off the trail of paternity and wouldn't try to establish that he was the biological father because you decided in your mind you wanted Mr Watkins to be the biological father. Is that correct? Yes, Your Honor.

And she got pregnant around the same time she cheated. Ms. Vanmetre, at this point, you admit that there are two possible biological fathers for your child.

Yes. JUDGE LAKE: So his doubt is real. Yes.

So this story you go to all the time of he just stayed and he can go 'cause we gonna be all right, and everything you go through, all that stuff is ancillary. Because the truth is here is real paternity doubt here. But you're saying that you consciously threw the other guy off the trail because you wanted him to be your child's biological father because you saw him with the other children.

Yeah. JUDGE LAKE: So. .

. I feel like even the testimony of, "He can go 'cause we're gonna be all right, "and I don't care" is a lie, too. Because if you didn't really care if he stayed or if he went, then why would you throw the other guy off the trail?

Because I love him and I do want our relationship to work. It's not that I don't care if he leaves or not 'cause it would hurt me. It really would.

I do love him. And I care about him, but I don't. .

. JUDGE LAKE: So the truth is you do want your relationship to work. VANMETRE: Yes, I do.

JUDGE LAKE: And you do want him to be the father of your child not just in deed. Right? But in name as well.

VANMETRE: Yes. In biology. VANMETRE: Yes.

And you're hoping that these paternity results will save the relationship. That and because I had a scare about my cancer and I had a biopsy done. At the end of the day, if something happens to me, I want my son to know who his dad is 'cause I want him to be there for that person and to know that he loves him and all that.

Who is on De'sedre's birth certificate? Who's listed as father? Nobody.

I'm the only one on there. But he has Mr Watkin'' last name. VANMETRE: He named him.

No, I named his first name. You gave him his whole name. I told you to name him your last name.

You said no 'cause you don't know who the father is. No, I told you. .

. He. .

. We sat down and then we had a conversation because my son is named after somebody in his family. And we sat down and had that conversation and he chose for my son to be named who he is.

Then why didn't I put my name on the birth certificate? Because you had doubt. I'm not gonna put my name on a birth certificate or give somebody my last name when I don't think they're mine.

So you're saying you didn't give her permission to give De'sedre your last name. No, I didn't. But you do admit you picked out the name "De'sedre.

" Yeah, I did. She said she don't care if I was leaving asking why am I here or all this other stuff, but actually in reality she does because I'm the only one who fronts all the bills. I work three jobs to take care of all of them.

Nobody asked you to do that. We appreciate it. I do it because I have to do.

And I know you do because you love us and you care about us. And you want to be there, but we didn't ask you. I mean, I don't take anything for granted that he has done.

But if it wasn't for me, you would not have a roof over your head. There are shelters that we could go to. Yeah.

. . Nobody's gonna choose a shelter for their kids.

It doesn't matter. . .

Don't talk like that because that don't even make sense. But if I need a shelter. .

. You know why, you already know why, I'm there. .

. If I get on my feet then. .

. JUDGE LAKE: So listen, listen. The man has stood by you.

Been through the birth with you. Has helped raise your children. You standing there over and over again telling him how you just don't want him to feel trapped and he can go, he can go, he can go.

I know your children out there talking, "Mommy, don't speak for me. "'Cause I'm not trying to go to the shelter. " I mean.

. . Hold on, hold on.

Hold on. What I am trying to get at is the emotions that you're showing in this courtroom today. What it looks like is you are now in some way deflecting, that there is some level of guilt Or there is something you're wrestling with.

Maybe it's a defense mechanism. I don't know what it is but everything you're stating in this courtroom right now contradicts every action you've taken up until this point. It doesn't even make sense.

(AUDIENCE APPLAUDING) And that's why I have to ask you. I know you want him to be the biological father. I do want him to be.

. . JUDGE LAKE: Listen thank you.

Just tell the truth. I do, and I do. .

. All right. So you want him to be the biological father?

VANMETRE: I don't want to hurt him. . .

But the truth is, is you do not know for certain that he is. No, I don't. JUDGE LAKE: Just tell the truth, okay?

Don't sit up here and talk to the man in circles and everything, he's working three jobs to try to take care of you, he doesn't even know. . .

He knows the other children aren't his. This one he doesn't know if he is, but he's still there. He's paying bills, he's standing by your side, he's at the hospital.

And all he gets in this moment is you standing there talking like, "Oh, don't matter to me, I'll go to a shelter. " Nobody wanna hear that. Them children ain't got time for that.

It's not like that. (AUDIENCE APPLAUSE) Right. Don't say anything else 'cause you just told the truth.

It isn't like that. It's not like that. That is not what you want.

No, I want him to be my child's. . .

JUDGE LAKE: Right. Right. But as meaning as If he is not, then we're not holding him to be there, I don't want.

. . JUDGE LAKE: Of course, what you're saying is, "I don't want you to feel on the hook.

" VANMETRE: The whole time I want him to be the dad, though. Exactly. Yes.

JUDGE LAKE: And it wasn't coming across that way. But I know that was your intention. The doubt is real.

Yes. VANMETRE: Yes. And we have the answers.

Jerome. Envelope, please. These results were prepared by DNA Diagnostics and they read as follows.

Yes. JUDGE LAKE: So his doubt is real. In the case of Vanmetre v.

Watkins When it comes to three-year-old De'sedre Watkins, it has been determined by this court, Mr Watkins, you. . .

are the father. (AUDIENCE APPLAUDING) All right. That's my boy right there.

No wonder he's so damn bad. JUDGE LAKE: (LAUGHS) That's funny. I've never heard that.

But Mr Watkins, I'm so glad De'sedre will have his daddy in his life. And you will be able to be there and most importantly, be able to break the generational curse that you spoke about when you first began to testify in this courtroom. That you made up your mind that you were going to be the father that you did not have.

Right? Right. And not only be the father but be the example.

So you know from this moment forward, he's taken his cues from you. If he takes it from you he will be a hell of a man. (AUDIENCE APPLAUDING) I was gonna say it but I'm glad you did Ms.

Vanmetre. And you need to know how lucky you are. Oh, I know.

. . And honor that.

I know I'm lucky. All right. Take care of your beautiful family.

Court is adjourned.