My Husband Invited His Female Best Friend On Our Honeymoon Without Telling Me, So I Left Him

my husband invited his female best friend on our honeymoon without telling me so I left him at the airport God I can't believe I'm actually posting this I've been a long time lurker but I never thought I'd be one of those people pouring their heart out on Reddit I am sitting in my childhood bedroom at my parents house wondering how the hell my life turned into this mess okay deep breath let me try to explain this without turning into a blubbering mess again I'm 27f I'd been with Flynn for four amazing years he was everything

I ever wanted funny smart caring and God those dimples when he smiled we met through mutual friends at a house party and it was like one of those movie moments where everything else Fades away we just clicked and then well then we got to the airport I don't even know how to explain what happened next without sounding like I'm losing my mind because honestly I feel like I am just as we were about to go through security Flynn turned to me with this weird look on his face you know that look someone gets when they're

about to tell you something you're not going to like he said babe don't freak out but Gloria is going to be joining us on the honeymoon Gloria his best friend since childhood the girl who's been a constant presence in our relationship the one who always seems to have an inside joke with Flynn that I'm not part of the one who looks like a freaking super bottle and makes me feel like a potato in comparison I thought he was joking I actually laughed but he wasn't joking I don't even remember exactly what happened next Flynn trying

to explain something about Gloria going through a tough time and needing a break me asking if he'd lost his damn mind people were staring and then I left I just grabbed my suitcase turned around and walked out of the airport Flynn called after me but I couldn't I just couldn't now I'm hiding out at my parents house ignoring Flynn's calls and texts and wondering if I'm the one who's Crazy am I overreacting God we've been married for 2 weeks and I'm already considering divorce how did did this happen I don't know what to do Reddit

I feel hurt betrayed and honestly a little humiliated who invites another woman on their honeymoon so tell me am I the for walking out should I have handled this differently edit I still can't believe it happened one minute we were excitedly Wheeling our suitcases through the airport and the next my world came crashing down around me Flynn dropped the Gloria bomb so casually you'd think he was telling me we were getting an extra bag of peanuts on the flight don't freak out he said yeah right because finding out your husband invited his gorgeous best friend

on your honeymoon is totally not freak out worthy I remember staring at him waiting for the punch line but it never came instead he launched into this whole spiel about how Gloria was going through a tough time and needed a getaway apparently her longtime boyfriend had just dumped her and she was devastated Flynn thought a trip to Italy would cheer her up our honeymoon our romantic getaway the trip we'd been planning for months and suddenly it was turning into a consolation prize for his best friend I tried to keep my cool but the more Flynn

talked the angrier I got he'd already booked her tickets made arrangements for her to join us after our couple days alone like that made it all okay the argument that followed God it's all a blur now I remember raising my voice not caring that we were causing a scene I remember the looks on people's faces as they hurried past us probably grateful for the airport drama that wasn't theirs for once Flynn kept insisting I was overreacting that Gloria was family and we needed to be there for her family last time I checked I was his

family now we literally just set our vows two weeks ago I don't know what came over me maybe it was the hurt the Betrayal or just the absurdity of the situation but before I knew it I was grabbing my suitcase and walking away Flynn called after me but I couldn't bear to look back I just kept walking out of the airport and into the first tax I could flag down now I guess I should explain about Gloria she's been a constant in Flynn's life since well forever they grew up next door to each other went

to the same schools and have been joined at the hip for as long as anyone can remember and now I can see all the red flags I chose to ignore when Flynn first introduced me to Gloria 3 years ago I tried to like her but it's hard to warm up to someone who seems to share every inside joke every childhood memory and every interest with your boyfriend from the moment I met her it felt like I was an outsider looking in on a private club that I could never be a part of Gloria is well

she's beautiful the kind of beautiful that makes you want to go home and scrutinize every poor in the mirror long legs perfect hair and a laugh that sounds like Windchimes she works as a model and volunteers at an animal shelter in her spare time because being gorgeous and having a history with my husband wasn't enough she had to be a good person too I've always felt like the third wheel when she's around Flynn and Gloria have this way of falling into their own little world rehashing old memories or talking about people I've never met I've

lost count of the number of times I've sat there smile plastered on my face while they giggled over some incident from their high school days but it's more than just shared history there have been moments little things that I brushed off at the time that now seem like glaring warning signs like the time Flynn and I were planning our first vacation together and he casually mentioned that he and Gloria had already been to that Resort or when we were picking out our wedding venue and he said Gloria always thought this place would be perfect for

a wedding it was like she was this Invisible Presence in our relationship always there in the background then there were the phone calls late night conversations that would go on for hours with Flynn laughing and talking in hushed tones when I'd ask who it was he'd always say oh just Gloria just Gloria as if our long midnight calls with another woman were the most normal thing in the world I remember one night about a year into our relationship when Flynn got a call at 2: a.m. Gloria was upset about something a bad date I think

and needed someone to talk to Flynn left our bed went to the living room and spent the next 2 hours consoling her when he came back to bed he smelled faintly of whiskey Gloria needed me he said simply as if that explained everything Gloria's always been nice to me almost too nice you know always complimenting my outfits or asking about my job but there's always been this undercurrent of something a look that lingers a little too long when she sees Flynn a touch on the arm that seems just a bit too familiar the way she'll

casually bring up memories that exclude me reinforcing her place in Flynn's life I remember at our engagement party Gloria made a toast she talked about how she'd always known Flynn would find the perfect girl how happy she was for us but there was something in her eyes a flash of what regret jealousy whatever it was it made me deeply uncomfortable and then there was the bachelor party incident Flynn's friends had planned a weekend trip but at the last minute Gloria showed up apparently she'd helped plan the whole thing when I expressed my discomfort to Flynn

he laughed at off Gloria is one of the guys he said it's not like that with her but I saw the photos from that weekend Gloria in a bikini her arm around Flynn's waist the two of them huddled close at a bonfire deep in conversation while everyone else partied around them I've brought it up with Flynn before multiple times he always laughs at off says I'm imagining things Gloria is like a sister to me he'd say you've got nothing to worry about but if she's like a sister why does he look at her that way

why does his face light up every time her name is mentioned there was even a moment at our wedding reception I was busy talking to some relatives when I saw Flynn and Gloria in a corner heads bent close together she was crying and he was holding her hand speaking intently when I asked him about it later he Shrugged it off Gloria was just feeling emotional he said you know how weddings are yeah well I'm pretty sure most guys don't invite their sisters on their honeymoons and I'm starting to wonder if I've been blind this whole

time have I been ignoring the truth that's been right in front of me the days following the airport Fiasco have been rough I've been Hol Up in my old bedroom at my parents house feeling like a teenager again but with much bigger problems than acne and homework is this what being an adult is making huge life decisions while feeling completely lost and overwhelmed because if so I'd like to return my adulting card please this is not what I signed up for I am wondering if I've thrown away my marriage or saved myself from years of

being the third wheel in my own relationship I guess what I'm really asking is what the hell do I do now update 1 it's been a week since the airport disaster and I feel like I've aged a decade my eyes are puffy from crying I've barely eaten and I'm pretty sure I've worn the same sweatpants for 3 days straight real attractive I know but then again who am I trying to impress my husband's already chosen his best friend over me so why bother this morning I woke up to a text from Flynn Not Unusual he's

been blowing up my phone non-stop but this one was different he wasn't begging me to come home or telling me I was overreacting instead it was just four words we need to talk please so I agreed to meet him walking into that coffee shop felt like walking to my own execution my hands were shaking so badly I could barely open the door and then I saw him Flynn looked awful his hair was a mess there were dark circles under his eyes and he was wearing a shirt I'm pretty sure he'd slept in for a split

second I felt a surge of satisfaction good let him suffer too but then he looked up and saw me and the pain in his eyes God it broke my heart all over again how can you still love someone who's hurt you so much I sat down across from him my body tense ready for I don't know what more excuses a fight I certainly wasn't prepared for what came next Flynn started talking his voice low and strained he told me everything and I mean everything turns out Gloria had confessed her feelings for him the night before

our wedding yeah you read that right while I was having my final fitting for my wedding dress my husband to be was dealing with a love confession from his best friend according to Flynn he was completely blindsided he said he'd never thought of Gloria that way that she was like a sister to him he said he told her immediately that it could never happen that he was in love with me and was going to marry me the next day but Gloria didn't take it well she broke down saying she'd been in love with him for

years and couldn't bear to see him marry someone else she threatened to OB at the wedding to tell everyone how she felt Flynn said he spent hours talking her down convincing her not to ruin our day in the end she agreed to keep quiet to pretend everything was normal and somehow Flynn thought that was the end of it but it wasn't after the wedding Gloria fell into a deep depression she stopped eating stopped going to work Flynn was worried she might do something drastic that's why he invited her on our honeymoon he thought getting her

away from everything might help her snap out of it I asked Flynn why he didn't tell me any of this before his answer he thought he could handle it on his own he didn't want to burden me with it especially not right before or after our wedding he thought if he could just help Gloria get over her feelings everything would go back to normal I wanted to throw my coffee in his face I wanted to break down and cry instead I just sat there feeling numb when Flynn finished talking he reached across the table for

my hand I pulled away the hurt in his eyes was almost unbearable but I couldn't I just couldn't I left the coffee shop ignoring Flynn's please for me to stay to talk more I needed to think I needed to process I've been replaying Flynn's words in my head trying to make sense of it all one minute I'm furious with him for keeping this from me for thinking he could handle it on his own the next I'm wondering if I would have done any differently in his shoes I've talked to pretty much everyone I know at

this point seeking advice looking for someone to tell me what to do my mom thinks I should give Flynn another chance marriage is about working through the hard times she says my dad on the other hand is ready to go to Flynn's house with a baseball bat my friends are split some think Flynn's explanation makes sense that he was just trying to be a good friend and didn't know how to handle the situation others think he's been emotionally cheating on me this whole time and is only sorry he got caught I even broke down and

called my old therapist she reminded me that there's no right decision here only the one that I can live with but how am I supposed to know what I can live with can I live with the knowledge that my husband's best friend is in love with him I've been going back and forth making pro and con lists trying to logic my way through this but my heart and my head seem to be at War and I don't know which one to listen to in a moment of weakness I called a lawyer just to know my

options you know discussing the possibility of ending my two-e old marriage over the phone while sitting in my old bedroom surrounded by posters of boy bands and old stuffed animals is this really my life now the lawyer was kind but matter of fact she laid out my options we could file for an ANL given how short the marriage has been or we could go the traditional divorce route she asked about assets about whether I wanted to pursue alimony the words felt foreign like they belong to someone else's life analment divorce after I hung up I

cried for what felt like ours not just for my marriage but for the future I thought I had the house we were going to buy the kids we talked about having the lifetime of Memories We were supposed to make together it all feels like smoke now slipping through my fingers Flynn's been respecting my space since our coffee shop talk but he texts me every night just a simple I love you I'm sorry I'm here when you're ready to talk each message is like a knife to my heart because I do still love him God help

me I do but is love enough yesterday I finally worked up the courage to call Gloria I know I know probably not the smartest move but I needed to hear her side of the story the conversation was um uncomfortable Gloria was clearly surprised to hear from me she confirmed everything Flynn had said though her version painted her in a slightly more sympathetic light she swore she never meant to cause problems that she'd tried for years to get over her feelings for Flynn she said she was sorry that she valued my friendship and that she would

understand if I never wanted to see her again I hung up feeling I don't even know I can't even bring myself to hate Gloria she didn't ask to fall in love with Flynn but God I wish she had kept it to herself start over at 27 with a failed marriage under my belt and a whole lot of trust issues to work through that seemed like a lot update two I want to thank everyone who commented on my original post I've spent the last 6 months processing everything and I thought you all deserved an update so

where to begin I guess the biggest news is that Flynn and I are officially divorced yeah it still feels weird to say that out loud we ended up going the ANL route given how short our marriage was the process was surprisingly quick and painless at least legally emotionally that's a whole other story after that day at the coffee shop Flynn and I had a few more conversations long tear filled emotionally exhausting conversations we went to a couple's counselor too thinking maybe we could Salvage something but in the end we both realized that too much had

happened the trust was broken and neither of us could see a way to fully repair it it wasn't just about Gloria's confession or the honeymoon disaster those were symptoms of a bigger problem Flynn and I had different ideas about boundaries about what it means to be married and as much as we loved each other love wasn't enough to bridge that Gap the hardest part was moving out of our apartment boxing up four years of memories deciding who gets to keep the coffee maker we bought together I cried over the stupidest things a ticket stub from

our first concert together the ugly vase his mom gave us that I'd always hated but now couldn't stand to part with now I know you're all wondering about Flynn and Gloria about 2 months after Flynn and I separated I heard through the gra Vine that Flynn and Gloria were seen together at a local bar I told myself they were just friends hanging out but then more sightings followed dinner at a romantic restaurant a weekend trip to the beach and then a relationship status change on Facebook Flynn is in a relationship with Gloria I got drunk

on cheap wine and drunk texted Flynn a string of messages that I'm not proud of let's just say I'm glad autocorrect exists or those messages would have been even more incomprehensible the next morning nursing a killer hangover and a bruised ego I got a call from Flynn he wanted to explain he said out of morbid curiosity I agreed to meet him over coffee Flynn told me everything Apparently after our split he'd been a mess Gloria had been there for him just as a friend at first but as the week went by Flynn said he started

to see her differently started to wonder if maybe there had always been something there that he'd been too blind to see he swore to me that nothing had happened while we were together that he'd never cheated emotionally or physically but now with me out of the picture he and Gloria were exploring their feelings for each other I threw my coffee at him and stormed out I felt betrayed all over again it was like every insecurity every nagging doubt I'd ever had about Flynn and Gloria's relationship had been validated I fell into a pretty dark place

for a while there maybe it was time maybe it was the countless pints of ice cream and bottles of wine I'd consumed or maybe it was the words of wisdom from you lovely strangers on the internet whatever it was I started to feel better I realized that Flynn ending up with Gloria didn't negate what we'd had it didn't mean he'd never loved me or that our entire relationship had been a lie it just meant that sometimes life takes unexpected turns people change feelings change and that's okay I'm not saying I'm thrilled about the situation but

I'm learning to accept it and more importantly I'm learning that their story doesn't Define mine so where am I now well I moved into a cute little apartment of my own I've been focusing on my career I even got a promotion last month I've reconnected with old friends and made some new ones I've even started dating again nothing serious yet but it's nice to know that there's life after divorce that I'm still capable of laughing with someone of feeling those butterflies in my stomach I'm learning to trust myself again to believe that I'm strong enough

to weather whatever storms life throws my way I'm learning that it's okay to not have all the answers to take life one day at a time thank you again Reddit for everything final thoughts reading back through all the comments on my original post and this update I'm overwhelmed by the kindness of strangers it's easy to think of the internet as this cold impersonal place but you all proved that wrong I've spent a of time reflecting on the advice I received here some of it was hard to hear at the time but I can see the

wisdom in it to the redditor who told me that I needed to focus on loving myself before I could truly love someone else you were spot-on these past months of being single have taught me so much about who I am and what I want out of life and to the people who shared their own stories of heartbreak and Recovery you gave me hope when I needed it most knowing that others had been where I was and had not just survived but thrived kept me going on my darkest days as for Flynn and Gloria last I

heard they're still together a mutual friend told me they recently moved in together there was a time when hearing that would have sent me into a tail spin now I can honestly say I hope they're happy it took a lot of work to get to this point but I'm no longer angry hurt sometimes but not angry I've realized that Flynn and I weren't meant to be we had four good years together years that helped shape me into who I am today I'm choosing to be grateful for that rather than bitter about how it ended some

of you have asked if I regret walking out that day at the airport the honest answer is no as painful as everything that followed was it led me here to this stronger wiser more self-aware version of myself sometimes you have to fall apart to put yourself back together better than before life has a funny way of surprising us a year ago I thought my world was ending now I'm excited about what the future holds I'm not the same person I was when I wrote that first post and I'm grateful for that thank you again Reddit

you've been an unexpected but invaluable part of my journey here's to new beginnings to healing and to the beautiful uncertainty of what comes next and hey who knows maybe one day I'll be back here with an update about my own happily ever after but for now I'm pretty happy with my happily ever after all