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[Music] I just celebrated my 48th birthday this past January normally my wife of 22 years used to throw celebration parties for me on such occasions but our marriage began to fall apart ever since she joined a co-ed baseball group mostly consisting of men this happened nearly a year ago and it triggered a series of events that led to the breakdown of our marriage my wife is 42 and at first I Thought she might be going through some sort of midlife crisis over the years she has gained a lot of weight particularly during the coid lockdown

when she was working from home despite her dedication to home exercise and dieting the results were not showing and the lockdown took a toll on her emotional well-being with our kids out of the house it was just the two of us most of the time I never complained instead I tried to encourage her as best I could I understood that it's part of the aging process and I've never been in great shape myself to be honest she's the attractive one the type who enjoys receiving compliments dressing up and going out in public her job in

marketing makes her value Her Image and first impressions when coid restrictions began to ease up she felt the need to join active group activities I remember we debated which group she should join and registered on an app called Meetup where You can find group activities in your area we considered various options but the most convenient was a baseball group meeting three times a week with mostly male members I wanted to join too but my works schedule didn't allow it I work as a plumber and often have late long hours my wife thinks I'm a workaholic

and honestly I enjoy working because of the satisfaction I get from completing tasks I work for a friend now I used to run my own business but it became too hectic For me with all the responsibilities I just wanted to work and go home leaving others to handle the additional tasks after my wife joined the co-ed baseball group I remember her first game she was so exhausted her whole body was sore I had to massage her feet and thighs when I got home and she said she really enjoyed it after a few weeks she couldn't

stop talking about a guy named Craig she mentioned that he was the best player on the team but was very Controlling and she disliked him she claimed he flirted with all the women described him as obnoxious and a cheater who badmouthed his ex-wife to everyone even though no one had ever seen her he had been through multiple failed marriages and was known as a muscle car Enthusiast after a few more games she began to complain that he used to smoke a lot and would invite some of the group members to smoke with him after The

Games Keep in mind this was a group of People in their 40s acting like teenagers after about a month of my wife attending the games she was getting back in shape but still had issues with this guy this time her complaint was that he not only smoked but was involved in dealing as well he would get people hooked on the samples and turn them into his customers so his job was Distributing selling MJ and working as a mechanic she mentioned that a long time ago he was in the minor league and on The path to

going pro before he had an accident while drag racing he always had problems with substance misuse and lived a fast-paced life I asked my wife how she knew all these personal things about him and she said he wouldn't stop talking and bragging about everything she explained that everyone liked him despite all of that because he was also funny outgoing offered to work on their cars for free and gave out free MJ however she emphasized that she Didn't find him amusing I recall a night when she came home smelling like MJ I asked why she smelled

that way and she told me that after the game she was hanging out with some of her teammates and they were smoking so it made sense right there was no reason to doubt her this started happening every time she returned from the game since she played three times a week she came back home smelling like MJ one time after the game she took a Shower and I joined her we became intimate and I kissed her there was no mistaking that she had been smoking I could taste it in her mouth I asked her right then

and there if she was smoking and she said she tried it once because they were passing it around and she felt it would be awkward if she didn't smoke I lost my temper the mood immediately changed because we have three kids together a 23-year-old son a 21-year-old daughter and an 18-year-old Son I confronted her for being a hypocrite because she had told our children never to smoke or be influenced by peer pressure and here she was doing exactly what she had warned them against I inquired about how she would react if our kids emulated her

behavior succumbing to peer pressure and her response was that I should calm down she brushed it off as a one-time occurrence insisting she hadn't even inhaled it I chose not to engage in an argument or Lecture her about pills use because she was the type to preach to others and discipline my children if they engaged in such behavior I'm generally the quiet type not fond of Confrontation and certainly not the disciplinarian in our family it surprised me to see her acting so out of character something had changed within her that day the smoking itself didn't

particularly bother me it was her hypocrisy that troubled me I wondered who she'd picked it up from and I found it unsettling that someone who would raise a fuss if my kids or I engaged in such activities seems so nonchalant she spent nearly a month complaining about this guy emphasizing how awful he was and then she went ahead and sampled his product in the subsequent games I noticed she continued to use cannabis attempting to mask it by taking a shower washing her sportsare and brushing her teeth nevertheless the odor lingered but I refrained from Confronting

her again I knew she would either lie or come up with some flimsy excuse and I didn't want to broach the topic I was secretly relieved because I had something to hold over her head in case she resorted to her usual self-righteous Behavior Thanksgiving was approaching and my three children came to visit my wife was conspicuously absent which was unusual because she typically prepared prepared the Thanksgiving meal and hosted a big party With friends and family cooking more than we could possibly eat but this time she was gone all day when she returned I asked

her where she'd been and she claimed she'd been visiting friends when I probed further she said she'd had car trouble so she took her car to Craig to fix it I questioned why she hadn't informed us especially since it was Thanksgiving her response seemed insufficient to me I asked her what was going on as she was aware that Thanksgiving was approaching and her priority should have been spending time with the family not fixing her car I pointed out that most people spend the holiday with their families she insisted she'd already told our daughter she'd be

late and that our daughter should prepare the Thanksgiving meal even our children noticed the change in her behavior they thought we were having marital problems because they believed we were arguing a lot which was why Their mom was offering all these excuses and failing to prepare for Thanksgiving as she usually did on thank Thanksgiving Day my daughter couldn't manage everything by herself my wife claimed she was sick and retired to bed after returning from the supposed mechanic trip to fix her car for the first time in a long while I had to take my wife

and kids to a restaurant on Thanksgiving my wife was in bed and I had to convince her to come to the restaurant with us She wanted me to tell the kids that she was sick but I insisted she should tell them herself I didn't want to have to explain to my kids that their mom had been making new friends smoking a lot and slacking I was always at work and I couldn't monitor her every move at that point the idea that she might be having an affair hadn't crossed my mind my daughter entered the room

and noticed that something was off with her mom's behavior concerned she came to her Senses and realized she was acting unusually she finally got up and started pretending like everything was okay when we were at the restaurant my kids noticed that she wasn't herself she was making awkward jokes and seemed disconnected as if she didn't want to be there but was forced to after leaving the restaurant my daughter jokingly asked me what I'd done to her mom because she was acting unlike herself she also observed that my wife had lost A lot of weight and

wondered if her behavior was related to her Extreme Weight Loss I decided to be honest with my daughter I told her that her mom had joined a baseball team made some new unusual friends and had started using pills with them this had been going on for the past 4 months since she joined the baseball team my daughter thought it was a joke because my wife's actions were completely out of character after Thanksgiving my kids left and I talked To my wife about the need for change I told her she couldn't continue acting like a college

girl at this point it still hadn't crossed my mind that she might be having an affair I had trusted her so much that I couldn't imagine her doing such a thing to me the real trouble started when I noticed that our shared bank account used to pay recurring bills like groceries utilities Etc was overdrawn I received a notification on My phone that 1,200 $100 had been withdrawn from the account I tried calling my wife but she didn't answer her phone I completed my work assignment canceled the next one for the day and decided to go

home to check on her because something strange was going on when I arrived home I noticed a 1964 Pontiac GTO parked on the street a car I hadn't seen before I have an affinity for classic cars which is why it caught my attention I'm quite the Enthusiast For Classic Automobiles I parked my car in the driveway right behind my wife's car and went to open the front door to enter the house I immediately noticed that someone had hastily exited through the door leading to the backyard I assumed it was my wife because her car was

in the driveway and she had been home since her job no longer required her to work in the office due to the lifting of coid restrictions as I was about to open the Door the backyard door slammed shut believing it was my wife who I didn't see I couldn't wait to confront her about the withdrawal from our account and in my rush to ask her about the money taken from our account and why she hadn't been answering her phone I headed towards the backyard door and opened it I heard the backyard fence being opened this

alerted me that something was a Miss because for someone to reach the backyard fence so quickly they must have Been running therefore I concluded that it wasn't my wife and the only logical explanation was that it was a burglar or someone fleeing from me the person whoever it was must have been running because I calculated the speed required to reach the fence within that time frame the fence isn't visible when you open the backyard entrance Door since it's parallel to the building and parts of the structure block the view to see who enters or exits

the backyard through The fence gate you have to enter the backyard Itself by the time I reached the backyard and opened the gate the person had vanished I surveyed the surroundings and noticed the unmistakable smell of MJ in the air indicating that someone had been smoking here suddenly I heard my wife calling me from the house so I hurried back when I saw her she appeared as if she had just taken a shower I inquired about the person who had been smoking in the Backyard and she denied anyone being there asserting that she had smoked

in the backyard earlier because she knew how much I disliked the smell I told her that she was clearly not telling the truth especially considering her unusual behavior over the past 5 months and her allowing people into our home I confronted her about crossing a line I asked her directly if she was having an affair particularly with the person who had Rushed off our property she vehemently denied it and acted as though I were speaking a different language I then questioned her about why she hadn't been answering my calls and the $1,200 withdrawal from our

shared account which we used for paying our bills she explained that she had lent the money to a friend in need and they would repay it as soon as possible I was utterly bewildered at this point it was Hard to believe the words coming from my wife's mouth they sounded like they were from either a gambler or someone obsessed with MJ the information was too bizarre to comprehend I asked her if her friend believed she was a bank and why she hadn't sought my permission before making such a substantial withdrawal she became irritable in response

I warned her that if she had given the money to her friends there would be consequences I made it clear that I expected the Money back in the account by tomorrow that evening I took the time to review all our bank statements and noticed that she wasn't contributing her fair share of money to the account a significant portion of my wife's income is based on commissions so the more hours she puts in the more money she earns I observed that she was only contributing about oneir of the amount she was supposed to which explained why

the account balance was lower than usual and why I received A notification for the large withdrawal I confronted her about not contributing her fair share and discovered that she was putting in only the bare minimum hours requ required to maintain her job I inquired about what she had been doing with her time if she wasn't working she began making excuses claiming she was constantly tired due to working out and playing sports to lose weight she argued that the kids were no longer at home and we didn't need all that money anyway I Told her that

if she decided to reduce her working hours she should stop lending my money to her friends and cut down on hanging out with her MJ using buddies I also insisted that she quit playing that sport I gave her ultimatum it was either our marriage or her Sports and she reacted strongly she hurled various insults at me calling me insecure and saying I Wasn't Man Enough I informed her that if she continued to play we might have to end our 22 year Long marriage she became Furious that I would even consider ending the marriage over something

seemingly trivial she suggested that I should talk to someone because she believed I was being emotional and acting immature I told her that she wasn't the same person I had married that she had changed overnight since starting this baseball game and hanging out with her new friends despite being home all day she no longer took care of household Chores and cooking as she used to she was barely working and appeared to be indulging in recreational activities like a College Dropout she accused me of being jealous of her improving appearance and life implying she might consider

my offer and then she angrily left the room we had an intense argument throughout that night and I ended up sleeping on the couch the following day she refused to speak to me or cook for me hoping that I would Apologize and allow her to continue her negative behavior completely disregarding The Unexplained withdrawal from my account we didn't exchange words that day the next day happened to be one of her baseball game days before I left for work she attempted to grab my attention to see if I was serious about pursuing a divorce if she

played her game as I was getting ready for work she walked past me and loudly declared that she would do As she pleased asserting that I couldn't interfere with her happiness I remained silent got dressed and left the house in the afternoon I contacted a divorce lawyer to prepare a separation agreement my intention was to shock my wife hoping that she would realize the potential loss of her family due to her actions whether you might call it a midlife crisis or menopause I believed that serving her divorce papers might jolt her out of it the

lawyer Drafted a legal separation document and I picked it up after work when I returned home my wife was not there and I wasn't sure where she had gone when she finally came home I noticed she wasn't dressed for a baseball game my plan was to serve her with the divorce papers to emphasize that I was serious with the hope that she wouldn't sign them despite the challenges she had put me through I still loved my wife and didn't want to lose her my goal was for Her to realize that she might end up divorced

and without anyone to support her she entered through the front door and I was waiting in the living room as she passed by me she continued to to give me the silent treatment heading to the kitchen to prepare food for herself I left the couch to retrieve the divorce papers she was still in the kitchen when I handed her the papers to sign the expression of shock on her face with wide open eyes and mouth caught me off Guard I hadn't expected her next move she pushed me and threw the divorce papers at my face

expressing disbelief that I would follow through with this she left the kitchen in tears exclaiming that she couldn't believe I was taking these steps she ran upstairs to the master bedroom crying and lamented that I had initiated the divorce proceedings even though she hadn't gone to the baseball game I found myself in the kitchen the divorce papers scattered Across the floor but I couldn't help but smile because everything had gone according to plan collecting the papers I placed them back in the folder thinking that perhaps this had given her the shock she needed later that

night I received a call from my daughter who asked me why I was divorcing her mom over a baseball game it's it turned out that my wife had complained to our daughter about me at that moment I knew I had already succeeded knowing my wife I was aware that she was too embarrassed to beg herself so she was trying to use our daughter as an intermediary I explained to my daughter that she had visited US during Thanksgiving and had seen her mother's condition and her strange Behavior I didn't explicitly mention my suspicion of my wife

having an affair but interestingly my daughter remarked that it didn't seem like she was having an affair and encouraged me to work through This challenging period with her we spent over an hour on the phone the following day before heading to work my wife surprised me by preparing breakfast and lunch for the first time in about 6 months she apologized for everything she had put me through and assured me that she would start behaving correctly she claimed she had done some introspection and realized her wrongs I told her I would give her a month to

get her act together and if she continued to smoke And hang out with her friends then I would have no choice but to proceed with the divorce I also reminded her that the money needed to be repaid to my account and she agreed we made amends and I left for work update the following day when I returned home my wife and I had another conversation she confided in me explaining that she's been under a great deal of stress due to how coid has impacted her job coupled with my heavy Work schedule she admitted that she

had been seeking an escape initially the baseball game provided some relief but she eventually succumbed to the Allure of MJ and began using it she mentioned that it had a relaxing effect and helped alleviate her anxiety for the first time she revealed that she had been battling depression and had been taking medication for it surprisingly she disclosed that since she started using MJ her Reliance on depression medication Had gradually decreased I asked her about the person in our backyard who had fled and she claimed there was nobody there however I could tell she was not

being truthful regarding the money withdrawal she apologized and asked me not to be offended explaining that it might take her a while to replace the money because she used it to buy MJ although I was deeply upset I didn't want to disrupt the moment as my wife appeared to be showing remorse like she Was having a significant realization I hoped that after this I could finally have my wife back the next couple of days were relatively normal as if we had returned to our usual routine I came to terms with the fact that her smoking

might not cease since she claimed it helped with her anxiety and depression I assured her that I wasn't overly concerned about her smoking my main worry was the people she purchased it from as those who deal with Such substances are often questionable characters since my state doesn't permit MJ she continued to smoke in secret trying to conceal it from me as much as possible I opted not to confront her to avoid a conflict which inadvertently made her think she was Adept at hiding it she began picking up extra hours at work and contributed slightly more

to our shared account although not to the extent she had before I was responsible for the mortgage the largest bill and Our shared account was intended to cover various expenses in the end I was covering around 70 80% of the expenses one evening while we were watching TV together her cell phone rang and she answered it then walked into another room I could hear her giggling from the other room a few minutes later she returned to the couch and I asked her who it was she got defensive and claimed it was just a friend I

found her reaction unusual which raised a red flag On another occasion I came home early and opened my refrigerator to grab some beer but it was missing since only my wife and I live at home our kids have moved out and she doesn't drink beer I wondered who might have taken it I considered the possibility that she had cleared some space in the refrigerator but it didn't seem likely this led me to suspect that my wife might be inviting someone over without being entirely honest with me Christmas came and went And my kids noticed that

my wife was behaving better than she had during Thanksgiving but I had a feeling she was just putting on an act in January she began reverting to her old ways smoking excessively sleeping throughout the day and working less when my birthday came she didn't throw me a surprise party buy me a gift or want to go out for dinner to celebrate my kids called to wish me a happy birthday day I reminded her that she had forgotten my birthday and she Was surprised she had forgotten I told her that she was smoking too much and

it seemed to be affecting her memory she explained she had marked it on her calendar but had forgotten and apologized to me I first encountered the ring doorbell at one of my client's houses and we communicated through it I hadn't known about the ring before but I thought it was great that it allowed you to see who was at your front door in real time and it connected to your phone In the back of my mind I can considered using it to monitor my wife observing what she did throughout the day and who she was

inviting into our home so I purchased the ring doorbell and installed it in our house initially when I installed the camera my wife didn't pay it much attention she knew I'd always been a gadget guy and considered it just one of my many useless gadgets as she often called them the ring doorbell was connected to my Wi-Fi so I Received notifications when someone was at our door and it recorded videos in the cloud that I could access at any time on the first day after installation while I was at work I received a motion activated

video recording notification from The Ring I was busy and didn't have a chance to check my phone for at least an hour when I finally checked the ring notification I saw a man at our front door he didn't even have to knock my wife was already there waiting for him She opened the door and welcomed him inside it was clear that she knew him the thought racing through my mind at that moment was that this could be the same guy who had dashed through my backyard the one who'd been helping himself to my beer in

my absence maybe this was Craig the person supplying MJ to my wife or even the man she might be having an affair with I quickly checked the real-time camera feed and it appeared the man was still Inside my house and hadn't left I was 30 minutes away from home and hadn't even completed my current assignment I informed the client that I needed to return and sped home as fast as I could the man had been in my house for over hour and I monitored the ring camera on my phone as I drove the video feed

wasn't very reliable while driving it kept freezing so I decided to focus on the road instead making my way home as quickly as possible to catch him inside My house I felt my anger and anxiety building up upon arriving home I only saw my wife's car in the driveway I rushed inside heading straight to the master bedroom the room was empty the bed was disheveled and the air felt stuffy I couldn't tell if it was from my wife's shower or just the stagnant air my wife was nowhere to be found in the bedroom nor was

the man I checked the closet and under the bed at that moment I heard the backyard door open so I Hurried downstairs to see who it might be thinking the guy might be trying to escape as he had before as I was halfway down the stairs my wife emerged from her home office located downstairs near the kitchen she had a shocked expression eyes wide open as if she'd seen a ghost I noticed she was wearing only a white robe and she told that I'd startled her asking why I was home early and why I seemed

so anxious I had to collect myself not Wanting to give any indication that I suspected a man had just been in my house possibly involved with my wife and that I'd narrowly missed catching them in the act it started to sink in that I just missed them I decided there was no need to confront her as I knew she would deny everything even if I showed her the ring footage of him entering the house instead I thought it best to wait and catch them in the act from the look in her eyes I could tell

she suspected Something was a Miss but couldn't figure out how I knew or why I wasn't confronting her I came up with a random excuse pretending to be searching for a tool a Makita cordless metal hole punch although she had no idea what that was I wanted to act as if everything was normal while I could sense her trying to read my reactions I descended into the basement grabbed a random tool and returned to the main part of the house she was still standing there almost like She was in a State of Shock and couldn't

move I approached her and gave her a kiss on the cheek as I typically do when leaving the house even as I got closer to her it was evident that she had been smoking not too long ago I pulled back from her as if everything was normal inquired why she was acting strangely and if she was okay she replied with a yes and escorted me to the door as I walked toward the driveway I couldn't help but wonder how this guy managed to Be with my wife and Escape right under my nose I believed this

might have been the second time he had been with her and I had narrowly missed catching him I considered the possibility that he might still be hiding inside the house I decided to check the ring footage to see if he had already left my wife was still at the door when I reached my car just staring at me I tried to act as normal as possible but once I got into my work Van I felt paralyzed I knew she was watching me from The partially open door so I sat in my car pretending to look

at my paperwork while checking my phone to confirm whether he had left the house indeed he had left before I arrived home I had just missed him again as I sat there reviewing the ring footage my cell phone rang and it was my friend the person I worked for asking why I left the client's place without completing the job as the client was Complaining I was working on a bathroom renovation for the client and contemplated calling off the job for the day but I knew it would be a hassle for another plumber to pick up

where I'd left off therefore I decided to return to work and finish the job for the client I found it difficult to concentrate at work although my Plumbing skills were second nature to me my mind kept returning to the bewildering idea that my wife was willing to throw away 22 years of marriage for a MJ seller and some recreational time I couldn't fathom how she transformed from a well-mannered wife with strict Traditional Values into a frequent MJ user despite her promises to quit after finishing my work that day I couldn't bear going home so I

sat in my van contemplating my next steps I decided to visit a local bar despite not being a heavy drinker just to be around people at the bar I ordered some beer and sat on a bar stool deep in thought I Came up with the idea of purchasing a video recorder and a GPS device to install in my wife's car allowing me to monitor her movements I went to a nearby electronic store but couldn't find a reputable GPS or hidden camera I ended up using my phone to order one online but I did manage to

buy two voice activated recorders intending to place them in my bedroom and my wife's home office when I returned home my wife had prepared my favorite meal something she Used to do in the past especially when she felt guilty about something I remained composed and pretended that everything was normal after a while I went upstairs to take a shower and join her for dinner I even remarked that it was unusual for her to be making dinner and she tried to insist that she always did we both chuckled it off I made an effort to conceal

my pain and resentment toward my wife however after dinner I could no longer contain my emotions and I felt the urge to confront her instead I decided to take the dog for a walk I told my wife that I was going out for a walk walking the dog helped clear my mind I considered calling my daughter to inform her about her mom's Affair but decided against it not wanting to involve her fearing she might jeopardize my plans to catch my wife red-handed I was seeking more evidence although I already had some some I wanted to

confirm that I wasn't imagining things I Had seen her a fair partner on my ring camera a brown-haired tall skinny guy I knew his face and could pick him out of a lineup I just wanted to see how deep this situation went when I returned home my wife was already asleep I didn't feel comfortable sleeping in the same bed where she might have been with her dealer a fair partner just hours ago sleeping in the guest room would arouse suspicion so I decided to endure my discomfort and sleep next to her that Night I struggled

to sleep woke up in the middle of the night and installed the voice activated recorder in her office and our bedroom the following morning she woke up before me and prepared breakfast as if nothing had happened it was easier for me to pretend this time compared to the previous day at work that day I couldn't resist checking my ring camera regularly even though I had set up notifications for any motion detected my wife only left The house to go grocery shopping as she had called me to let me know and returned with bags the second

and third days were uneventful she rarely left the house and I began to wonder if something was a miss or if she had caught on to my ring camera surveillance so on the evening of the third day after I had spotted The Stranger at my door I retrieved the voice activated recorder went to my car and started listening to the recorded Conversations it became evident that my wife had been spending hours on the phone with this man named Craig who was a part of her baseball group from their conversation it seemed like my wife was

no longer attending the games but she had developed a close relationship with him he was asking when he could come over but my wife expressed concern that I had unexpectedly shown up at home one time making her apprehensive about being intimate at our house they couldn't be Intimate at his place due to his girlfriend and three kids and he didn't want to spend money on a hotel he suggested they meet in a parking lot but my wife refused to be intimate in that setting she had a clear boundary a parking lot was crossing the line

for her her yet being intimate in our bed was somehow acceptable he proposed that she come to his workplace where they had been intimate before but she was concerned about his business partner Apparently during Thanksgiving she went to see him at his shop and his partner caught them he co-owns a mechanic shop with his business partner and his partner didn't appreciate their workplace being used for such activities still he was insistent on having my wife visit his place of business even if it jeopardized their business relationship all for intimacy with a married woman based on

their conversation it seemed like my wife was receiving MJ in Exchange for intimacy or at the very least a discount that was the impression I got from their discussion lying in bed I contemplated my next steps and how to proceed from here I feared that my plan had backfired because my wife had grown suspicious potentially missing an opportunity to confront her on D-Day the next morning while taking a shower I had the idea to locate my wife's stash of MJ I knew knew she was smoking daily and trying to mask her breath with Peppermint and

mouthwash to hide it from me I suspected she might be dependent on it as a coping mechanism since she wasn't taking her medication my plan was to find her stash and dispose of it forcing her to invite him for more the challenge was how to locate the stash without her knowing she was home all day only leaving the house for a couple of hours it seemed I might have to thoroughly search the house to find it however I was reminded that my daughter Would be visiting our house for the weekend to see her mom they

typically go to her mom's place in the countryside for the entire day which would give me enough time in the house to search for her stash this visit was not unusual since they visited her mom about once a month I had already returned the voice recorder to her office the rest of the week was uneventful looking ahead to when my daughter paid us a visit she inquired about her mom's well-being and I assured her that everything was fine I refrained from revealing anything to her as I suspected that she might inadvertently ly tip off my

wife my daughter isn't the best at keeping secrets on Friday the GPS and hidden camera I had ordered arrived on Saturday morning my wife and daughter set out to visit my wife's mother with them out of the house I took the opportunity to listen to the voice activated recorder in my wife's office it confirmed my Suspicions about the guy involved in her life indicating he was a dealer possibly dealing with more than just MJ however I couldn't determine if my wife was using anything more than Canabis I also learned from the recordings that the guy

used to play for a minor league and was on the path to going pro until he had an accident which led to an obsession to painkillers this was his downfall in contrast my wife didn't have any known Traumatic experiences so it baffled me why she was drawn to such a person and started using MJ her upbringing had been fairly normal and her recent Revelation about depression caught me off guard perhaps it stemmed from the prolonged time she spent at home potentially leading to weight gain my wife retained her suspicions that I had discovered her Affair

but when questioned about how she knew she claimed ignorance regarding my sources I surmised that she might have Made this statement to deter him as he was eager to meet her before she left with our daughter for the weekend I installed the camera in both the master bedroom and the living room my next task was to locate my wife stash of MJ I scoured the entire house contemplating even hiring a sniffer dog yet by the day's end I came up empty-handed leading me to believe she either had nothing left or had taken it with her

their return was scheduled for Sunday afternoon while sitting on the couch watching TV an idea struck me I should search the backyard for any potential hiding spots I ventured outside about an hour before Sunset and began inspecting the area I suspected that she might have buried her stash but to my fortune I didn't have to wait long before stumbling upon a Ziploc bag containing MJ and a grinder I promptly disposed of the MJ down the toilet and discreetly returned the Ziploc bag to its original location it appeared that she hid it Outdoors to avoid arousing

suspicion due to the smell since she often engaged in her activities in the backyard and her Affair partner had once slipped away from there I made the decision to move the camera from the living room to the backyard my goal was to conceal it so that it wouldn't be too conspicuous once I had set up the camera I conducted a test run and it performed well this put Me at ease as I could now monitor the activities in my house without my wife having any clue about it my next step is to install the GPS

in her car once she returns from her visit to her mother's My ultimate objective is to gather evidence against her for our eventual divorce she came back home that Sunday evening and after she'd gone to bed I discreetly installed the GPS device in her car on Monday morning my daughter returned to her own place and during During my work hours I contacted the same divorce lawyer who had previously drafted our separation agreement I laid out my situation for the lawyer including my wife's infidelity I asked how I could Leverage The recorded evidence to my advantage

but he explained that it would have little impact on my divorce case as our state operates under a no fault divorce system this means that we can only cite irreconcilable differences as the reason For our divorce and my wife cannot be penalized for her infidelity by a judge the lawyer assur Ed me that the divorce paperwork would be ready the following day I also confided in my friend the one I work for about my situation he understood that I might have to leave work at any moment because the camera was linked to my phone while

I was at my job allowing me to monitor my wife's movements on that particular day I observed my wife in the backyard Searching for her MJ she appeared quite frustrated but eventually returned inside the house I had my phone on standby ready to be alerted if she invited him over again however instead of that she got into her car and drove away since I had the GPS installed in her car I could track her location she drove to an unfamiliar place and stayed there for about 30 minutes before returning home I marked the location for

further investigation To find out where she had gone I felt a bit disappointed that things didn't unfold as I had originally planned but at least with the GPS in her car I had some insight into her activities when she came back home she headed to the backyard lit up some MJ and concealed the rest in the same spot this confirmed my suspicion that she'd gone to meet him to obtain more update one thing I forgot to mention is that once I discovered her Infidelity I promptly went for an STD test and fortunately the results came

back negative since catching her a fair partner on my ring camera I haven't had any intimacy with my wife historically I've been the one initiating it in our relationship so she hasn't actively sought it from me moreover she's already romantically involved with her Affair partner and I strongly suspect that during her recent visit to him they most likely had a physical Relationship there was no other reason for her to spend 30 minutes at that location after work I managed to trace the area she had visited and discovered that it was a mechanic shop to my

surprise I spotted the unmistakable 1964 Pontiac GTO the same car I had seen on my street on the day I almost caught someone fleeing from my backyard I felt an in tense anger knowing that this guy had been inside my house I felt disrespected And had an urge to confront him right then and there but I had to talk myself out of it it's unsettling to think that he was so familiar with my backyard suggesting he may have been there before I parked my work van a few blocks away from his shop to observe it

for a stake out it was getting late but I remained there until I noticed him emerging from the shop with another friend they had closed the garage doors of their shop and were standing in front presumably Smoking I couldn't be certain if they were smoking cigarettes or MJ as I was too far away to discern I should have been on my way home but I couldn't resist waiting and watching them deep down I was comparing myself to him and questioning why my wife had chosen him over me why she had opted to betray me with

him something about his life excited her something I couldn't replicate maybe she had grown weary of pretending to be a good person and had Decided to reveal her true nature after they finished smoking he got into his car and drove off I saw this as my opportunity to follow him and discover where he lived he had already been to my house multiple times engaged with my wife so it seemed only fair that I should know where he lives in the hope of disrupting his relationship with his girlfriend eventually I want to hurt this man dark

thoughts swirled in my mind I had a concealed hand tool a Springfield Hellcat in my car I thought about driving up to him and destoy him there however I realized that I'd probably become the prime suspect if they discovered he had been with my wife he drove his car to a restaurant and picked up a woman initially I assumed that the woman was his girlfriend so I took some pictures with my phone the pictures weren't very clear due to the fading light but I parked on the street to remain Inconspicuous he collected the female passenger

and I trailed behind him they arrived at an apartment building with street parking and I could discern from their body language that she wasn't his girlfriend their behavior indicated a strong attraction as they couldn't keep their hands off each other while entering the apartment my suspicion grew that she might be another one of the women he was involved with romantically I pondered Whether to wait for him to exit so I could follow him and uncover his residence yet with no certainty of when he would leave I opted to capture a picture of his license plate

number and returned home for the day now I knew that this man wasn't just a dealer but also a womanizer with my wife being one of the women he was engaged with the following days were exceedingly disheartening and it became increasingly challenging to share a room with her I Was losing hope and contemplating ending it all proceeding with the divorce so we could go our separate ways I feared that sooner or later she would decipher the purpose of the Ring doorbell discover the voice activated recorder or detect the hidden camera I was using to spy

on her it was a monotonous week observing her conversing with her Affair partner and watching her on camera smoking in the backyard at least twice a day I estimated that it might take her 3 4 Weeks to deplete her MJ stash and I didn't want to wait that long I couldn't endure living in the same house with her for such an extended period knowing she was involved with another man I wanted to bring this situation to a conclusion so when she went to bed I ventured into the backyard with my flashlight and excavated her bag

of MJ I noticed that it also contained a blend of tobacco and MJ in any case I removed more than half of the contents returned The rest and then retired to bed update after I left for work one morning I observed her on camera smoking I'm unsure if she noticed the reduction in the stash skipping ahead 3 days I've been Gathering all my documents in order besides the shared account which doesn't hold substantial funds and the house which has already been paid off there's nothing else that requires division except for our retirement savings she has

approximately 45,000 In her 401K whereas I have around $870,000 in my Roth account I anticipate that she will try to claim a share of my Roth account according to my lawyer a portion of my retirement savings will need to be allocated to her due to the duration of our marriage however she is unaware of the exact amount in my Roth account since she has always been passive about retirement planning I was the one responsible for financial planning and Earning money while her role was primarily focused on spending I even had to persuade her to open

a 401k account 9 years ago and she made minimal contributions the bulk of the savings is essentially free money and she hasn't taken advantage of it her tendency has been to rely on me all the while complaining that I work excessively or don't take enough time off in reality our plan was to retire early motivating my hard work and Dedication now that our children are grown we intended to relocate to South America and spend the rest of our lives happily however it seems she prematurely checked out of our marriage and is now engaging in an

affair she is poised to take half of the work and effort I've invested over the years my attorney mentioned that typically the longer the marriage the more likely it is that retirement accounts will be divided fairly equally I cannot allow this to happen my hard-earned assets cannot go to waste I upheld my end of the deal remaining a loyal and caring husband providing for my family and working diligently to to ensure her happiness despite my efforts she decided to engage in a romantic relationship with another man based on the voice recording I don't believe she

intends to leave me for him it appears she's merely enjoying the excitement of a fling I don't think she's willing to Trade the stable life she has with me for an unpredictable seller but she Revels in the thrill she mentioned this on the voice activated recorder she can't contain her laughter at his remarks he attempted to persuade her to leave me even though he has a girlfriend and young children I understand that listening to the voice activated recorder is emotionally taxing considering the things she's saying about me nevertheless it's crucial that I uncover the truth

and understand her thoughts about me she referred to me as boring and unadventurous criticized my performance in bed and suggested that I didn't measure up to him even dubbing me a 5-minute man which is not accurate I suspect she was saying these things to boost his ego he's only 32 years old a younger age than I initially thought possibly because the baseball group primarily consisted of individuals in their 40s as I presumed he frequently Complimented her which bolstered her fragile self-esteem I've come across instances on this site where younger men focus on middle-aged women with

self-esteem issues finding it easy to engage in intimate relationships with them using his license plate I managed to uncover his place of residence and conducted some surveillance by driving past his house on a couple of occasions to keep an eye on him during these observations I noticed his girlfriend And he has three children all under the age of 10 one evening while we were in bed my wife initiated intimacy I can't recall the last time this happened but I informed her that I was too fatigued for it she became upset because we hadn't been intimate

for weeks my reluctance to be close with her was due to the knowledge of her ongoing involvement with her Affair partner I mentioned that it had been a demanding week at work as an excuse the truth is I still find her Physically appealing and I do desire intimacy with her however in my view she has become tainted similar to a person engaging in Street solicitation and I felt that engaging with her would legitimize her actions two days later while I was at work I received a notification from my ring doorbell and promptly checked it it

was him and my wife had invited him in similar to previous occasions this time I wasn't far from home only about 15 minutes away I swiftly got into my car and headed back home arriving in less than 10 minutes on this occasion I decided not to park my car in the driveway to avoid drawing attention instead parking on the street I had my Hellcat which I always carry in my car although I hadn't anticipated using it I was emotionally prepared having had time to contemplate such a moment my intention wasn't to take a life regardless

of how strong my desire was to confront this man for Showing disrespect however I had my personal protection given that he is involved in dealing I wasn't sure about his potential capabilities my goal was to confront him at tool point and call the authorities I hoped that he had MJ on him which would lead to his arrest I had my phone set to record hanging it in my left shirt pocket to capture audio without needing to hold it to avoid the front door I chose to enter through the Backyard fence since I believe the backyard

was his potential Escape Route at this point approximately 20 minutes had passed since I received the ring notification on my phone I carefully slid the bolt of the wooden fence gate latch to open it from the outside all while keeping my camera in my left pocket still recording as I entered through the backyard door leading to the kitchen I held my keys in my right hand and my Hellcat in my left both the Backyard and the kitchen doors were wide open there in my living room I found my wife and the person she was involved

with both unclothed engaging in an intimate act on the living room couch due due to the open floor plan I could see the living room from my vantage point in the kitchen I dropped my keys on the floor to free up both of my hands to hold my Hellcat they were both taken aback upon seeing me without hesitation I began giving them commands to lie down On the floor or face dire consequences they complied with the man quickly getting on the floor he was partially dressed attempting to put on his pants before I ordered him

to stop while he was lying on the ground my wife who was now wearing a robe tried to deescalate the situation by saying I'm sorry it's not what it seems I made sure my left pocket camera was still recording because my left arm had partially obstructed The View I continued to point My Hellcat at the affair partner cursing at him my wife now wearing a robe slowly attempted to rise I allowed her to as I was focused on the affair partner and I ordered her to join him and stay flat on the ground this action

made it clear to her that I was serious and she promptly obeyed later I reviewed the recorded footage to gather these details as my adrenaline had been running High I knew I needed to establish control of the situation before contacting the police With my wife on the floor apologizing and insisting that her Affair partner Craig meant nothing to her he began begging me not to harm him I took out my phone and dialed emergency I told the dispatcher that a dealer is selling to my wife in my house and I have them down at Hellcat

the police dispatcher instructed me not to take any action and to wait for the arrival of the police after ending the call with the dispatcher I instructed Craig to stretch Both his hands forward while lying down and pleaded with him not to give me a reason to use force my wife remained on the floor pleading with me I walked over to the front door and swung It Wide Open making it easy for the police to enter when they arrived I noticed a bag of MJ on the living room table although it wasn't a substantial amount

I hoped it would be sufficient for the police to arrest him I Waited For What felt like an eternity About 5 minutes at this point I was tired of keeping both of them terrified ified all the while recording the entire incident so I decided to FaceTime my daughter despite my wife's please to refrain from doing so my daughter witnessed her mother lying there with her semi- naked Affair partner I explained the situation to her and she began to cry unable to believe what she was seeing my wife felt embarrassed her head hung low as my

daughter spoke I Heard the police vehicles pull into my driveway they entered my house as I lowered my Hellcat I approached them at the door and briefed them on the situation initially there were two officers but two more soon arrived making a total of four officers and two patrol cars the first officers detained him for the MJ in the living room he attempted to shift the blame onto my wife claiming it was her MJ not his it was quite amusing to watch them both Accusing each other of ownership effectively incriminating themselves my wife tried to

deny it was hers insisting it belonged to him but he admitted to selling it to her effectively relinquishing ownership in retrospect I probably should have told the police it was my wife's and you'll understand why later on the police couldn't determine ownership definitively so they detained both of them now there were three patrol cars Parked in front of my house they placed my wife in one of the patrol cars allowing her to put on her clothing while she still had her robe on it was an embarrassing moment since all the police officers who were male

saw my wife partially unclothed I felt somewhat uncomfortable about it but I had to remind myself that she was now a matter of public record due to her involvement with these unsavory individuals upon weighing the MJ they Found it to be around 4 o which is close to being a state jail felony however one of the officers later told me privately that the judge might reduce the charge to a class A misdemeanor possession if it was determined to be my wife by now I wanted the police to take severe action against her Affair partner the

cops escorted him to his car to search for more MJ but he refused stating they needed a warrant to do so the cop replied that they had probable cause to Believe the car contained evidence of criminal activities since he had already admitted earlier to giving the MJ to my wife essentially acknowledging his intention to distribute or sell it it seemed as if all the police in my city had nothing else to do because more officers arrived you would think a major pills bust was unfolding even the K9 unit joined the scene making it clear they

were detered to throw the book at this guy due to his prior criminal Record they were handling this case with significant Force attempting to secure a lengthy sentence for him after their search they found approximately 4 pounds of MJ in his possession enough for a state jail felony this offense carries a mandatory minimum sentence of 180 days imprisonment a maximum of 2 years imprisonment and a fine not exceeding $10,000 the evidence appeared solid although the length of his prior offense enses was uncertain but it's likely he Would face up to 2 years in prison I'm

not sure if an affair with another man's wife is worth all that trouble but he chose the wrong person's wife to become involved with they later charged him with the MJ found in my house and released my wife he was arrested and taken away while his friend later came to retrieve his car I also informed the police that I wanted him charged with trespassing but they explained that he couldn't be charged with trespassing Because infidelity isn't a crime and he was invited by my wife they mentioned that they might need me to come to the

police station to provide additional statements even though I had already given my statement once my wife was released from the police car she rushed into the bedroom and locked herself in my daughter called me revealing that my wife had been trying to contact her but she refused to answer she asked me what had happened and I Shared the whole story she was in tears the entire time and although I felt bad for live streaming the situation with my wife and her Affair partner it it wasn't my fault my wife had put us in this predicament

and I wasn't the only one who should be experiencing the consequences my daughter inquired about the next steps and I explained that I had already contacted and hired a real estate agent and we would be selling the house I also mentioned that I had found A divorce lawyer and the divorce agreement had already been prepared all that remained was to serve her with it my daughter told me she would visit us next week after our conversation I knew it would be difficult for her as she is is very close to her mother in the evening

I had mixed emotions about the entire situation and my wife remained in the room I felt a deep sense of sadness as our 22 years of marriage seemed to go down the drain there were no heroes in This story and it wasn't how I envisioned our relationship ending just 2 years ago my wife and I vacationed in South America visiting countries like Uruguay Chile and Peru to look for houses to purchase in just one year she hadd thrown everything away and I I couldn't help but wonder why her carelessness in inviting him to our home

was a shocking Revelation I'm relieved she did because it revealed her true colors and who Knows if she had done this before he might not be her only Affair that evening I went to a local bar to have drinks with a friend we discussed various topics avoiding any mention of my wife and the earlier events I was trying to divert my mind from the whole situation while at the bar drinking and chatting with my friend my eldest son called he had been informed by his sister about what had happened he apologized for his mother's Actions

and expressed his willingness to support any decision I made he understood that his mother had put everyone in this difficult position this made me proud and emphasized that my son had matured he also has a serious girlfriend and they've already moved in together I used to give him relationship advice but now I felt like I was the one in need of guidance when I returned home that evening I didn't want to see my wife so I chose to sleep in a different room the following day I went to work and had a conversation with my

youngest son I confided in my friend about what had transpired and he offered his support he also said he'd understand if I needed some time off to manage the divorce I left work early to visit the lawyer's office before it closed I collected the divorce agreement for my wife to sign and contacted the real estate agent to list the property for Sale on the MLS she informed me that she'd come by during the weekend to take some photos when I returned home my wife was waiting for me and expressed her Readiness to talk I told

her I wouldn't engage in a conversation until she signed the divorce papers she insisted that I allow her to speak first promising to sign the divorce papers afterward she even hinted that if I didn't let her talk she might prolong the divorce process I reminded Her that she was in no position to make threats if she wanted a public divorce I was prepared to take it to the Supreme Court and this calmed her down as she realized I didn't make empty threats she requested that I bring the divorce papers for her to sign but she

also asked for an explanation of the terms within the divorce agreement before signing I informed her that we plan to sell the house and divide the proceeds with a split of 60 40 in her favor she Would receive the $4,000 currently in our joint account as part of the agreement in return she agreed to an amicable divorce and would not make any claims on my retirement she found this Arrangement Fair and I concurred with her assessment after she signed the papers she expressed a desire to explain how the affair had started and the details of

her involvement to her surprise I informed her that I was already aware of Everything I revealed that I had been monitoring and listening to her conversations with him through cameras and vrs even showing her where she concealed her MJ she was taken aback and fell silent I didn't want to hear any justifications from her as she understood the gravity of her actions her her tears seemed like an attempt to gain sympathy from me but I remained Resolute knowing that what's done is done edit it has been 2 weeks since I Served my wife with divorce

papers and we have 76 days left for the divorce to be finalized the house has not been sold yet but there are two strong interests from potential buyers my soon to be ex-wife and I continued to reside in the same house sleeping in separate bedrooms my daughter is no longer speaking with my wife and I'm acting as a mediator hoping to reconcile their relationship my sons still maintain contact with Their mother but have significantly lost respect for her I understand that my family will never be the same and I've come to terms with that reality

regarding her Affair partner I heard he was released on bail but is still facing Court proceedings and his case remains pending I believe he may receive a prison sentence exceeding 2 years [Music] hopefully [Music]