I announced my pregnancy to my husband's family and they gave me the dirtiest looks.

I announced my pregnancy to my husband's family and they gave me the dirtiest looks I was confused and asked my husband about it he was acting clueless until I got a call from my sister-in-law begging me not to Baby trap her brother do I confronted my husband about this and now they are all panicking I'm female 28 and my husband Ron nil 34 is going through a huge issue and I would like to know whether what I'm about to do is the right thing for context I met my husband 4 years ago and I still

remember the day I met him like it was yesterday I would always go to the same coffee shop and I guess he must have noticed me because one morning he came up to me and asked me for my number Ron is a really good-looking person and he looked like he worked in finance so I didn't hesitate much before giving him my number he called me we talked and decided to go out for a date Ron was very upfront with me about his family's wealth right from the beginning he told me that his dad worked really

hard to become one of the top real estate agents so he could give their family a very luxurious life he asked me about my family and I told him how I come from a lower income family but that I had worked hard to become an accountant I had a good income was self-sufficient which was a dream come true for someone with my background at first everything seemed perfect between Ron and me he would take me out to fancy dinners shower me with expensive gifts and talk endlessly about his family's wealth he lived in a sprawling

Mansion drove luxury cars and wore designer clothes without a second thought coming from humble beginnings myself I have to admit that I was mesmerized by his lifestyle and also felt a bit self-conscious I would tell him that he was free to find someone more from his status but despite our different backgrounds Ron and I connected on a deeper level I had a stable job that I was proud of and he admired my determination and work ethic when I met Ron's family for the first time I couldn't help but notied the air of arrogance that surrounded

them their mansion was like something out of a magazine filled with expensive art and lavish Decor however what struck me the most was how cold and distant they seemed towards me from our very first meeting his mother refused to shake my hand and ignored me blatantly it was as if she had immediately assumed I was only interested in Ron for his money and she made this very clear through her demeanor and probing questions about my background his parents wanted to know everything about my upbringing education and career almost as if they were trying to gauge

whether I was worthy of being with Ron his oldest sister kept asking if I really just happened to meet Ron in that coffee shop or if it was just an elaborate plan I had to run into him no matter how many times Ron and I clarified that it was in fact he who had asked me out and that I had no idea about who he was she didn't believe us telling me how everyone knows who they are to be honest I genuinely had not heard about them or seen them since I didn't grow up in

such a wealthy neighborhood regardless of their insults and little Jabs I kept my mouth shut at the end of the meeting his dad did admit that I seemed like a hardworking woman but he had always dreamed of watching his son get married to someone wealthier than him this really offended me since I had never ever asked Ron to foot my lifestyle and it was not my fault where I came from because at the end of the day all the challenges I faced made me this independent person and I was not going to be ashamed about

it after this meeting I told Ron that I was done meeting his parents and that he would be going to meet his family all on his own the next time because I did not want to go through so much scrutiny he did try to protest but I stayed firm in my decision and told him how humiliating it was I also pointed out to him that my parents never treated him this way so his parents had no right to be so cold unwelcoming towards me in the end he agreed and since then he has always gone

to meet his family all on his own however despite what his family thought our relationship continued to Blossom and soon we were talking about moving in together I have to add that this was completely Ron's idea you see my lease renewal was coming up and I was looking to find a bigger place to move into for me and my dog when Ron told me that it would be a better idea for us to move in with him we had been dating for 10 months by this time so I was a bit hesitant however he tried

to reason with me and told me how he could see himself spending the rest of his life with me and moving in was the next logical step in our relationship I took a few days to think but in the end I agreed his house which had been bought by his father was really Grand but it always felt a bit too cold to me you know like how you step into an interior design showroom where everything was carefully curated but lacked the warmth of a Liv in home I turned as cold lifeless house into a home

we had agreed on splitting bills and I didn't mind since I like paying for my own things and I was anyway not having to pay any rent here I think this is when I started noticing his life more closely now that we were living together up until then I was always dazzled by his charms and the luxurious lifestyle he projected one of the first things that struck me was The Emptiness of his daily routine although he worked in finance he seldom went to his office except for just one day of the week he told me

how his boss was his dad's friend so he didn't have to go to the office every day which I guess made sense however instead of working properly from 9: to 5:00 he would easily get tired and irritated and go out shopping I would be at the office when he would send me multiple pictures of him wearing different luxury brand shoes asking me which one I like the best this would happen at least three times a week but it was his money so I didn't say anything next every time he would buy a shoe he would

click and post multiple pictures of what he bought and constantly check on his phone to see if his friends or followers replied to his story Ron had become a bit of an influence since he always posted luxury stuff so I guess that's why he was always into his phone chasing after validation and approval his social media friends would sometimes invite him to parties but he would never take me with him and give me excuses like how he is not allowed to bring 8+1 and how he just wants to make new friends all on his own

even then I kept my mouth shut even though it irked me a bit next he bought a luxury sports car I don't even know how someone can pay so much money for just a four-wheeler while all of this was happening I noticed that he had zero interest in paying any of his bills even though we had agreed on splitting our bills he would always end up telling me to pay everything and this would include his phone and cable bills which I didn't even use if I ever brought up that subject he would tell me how

we are partners and since he is letting me stay for free I should help out more looking back I don't think my issue is paying his bills but it was the gut instinct I had that something about him just felt wrong if he was wealthy enough to buy luxury shoes clothes and cars then why does he need help in paying bills obviously I was grateful that I could stay at his place rentree but I didn't mind paying rent and living on my own if that meant that I would only pay my bills unlike him I

had a fixed budget and I wanted to save as much money as I could so I could one day start a family I felt like he needed to do the same because if that was not our goal then I didn't want to be with him I decided to have a serious conversation where I told him all of this very frankly and I gave him the option to break up with me if he and I were not on the same page however he assured me that he very much wanted to start a family with me and

that I was a Dependable woman he told me that he was going to stop spending too much money I thought everything would be fine after this however one day while cleaning his garage on a weekend when he was out golfing I discovered that Ron had been living a facade in front of the whole world including me it turns out that most of what he flaunted was financed through debt and Loans his fancy car and his designer wardrobe were bought on credit he had recent credit bills due to repay which he had absconded I was shaken

when I went through the bills which he had apparently hidden inside a shoe box this meant that he had knowingly kept this hidden from me I was Furious I waited for him to get back from golfing with his friends when he did come back he saw me sitting with all of his bills right in front of the table and he freaked out he started yelling at me about why I went through the bills and I told him how I knew everything and he could not hide from me anymore Ron tried to backtrack telling me how

these were just a few bills and that he was working on repaying them I asked him why he had not just repaid them already since he was bringing an income every month from his job this is when Ron confessed to me that he had been out of a job for the last 4 months I was shocked by this Revelation since he had been going into the office once a week as usual for the last 4 months and the rest of the days we would text while I was at the office and he was supposedly working

from home I asked him how this happened and why he never told me about it Ron opened up about how his boss was in a hole and had gone back on his word pushing for Ron to go to the office every day since the company was taking on more clients and Ron needed to have more face-to-face meetings however Ron felt it was disrespectful and after a disagreement with his boss he was sacked Ron went on to tell me how it was not a big deal and that he would get a job in a jiffy once

he started applying my eyes widened in shock as I asked asked him what the hell he had been doing for the past four months if he had yet to apply for a job Ron replied that he was taking a break for his mental health and that I should not blame him for any of this I told him that even if he had lost his job it didn't make sense why he was not able to pay bills considering he apparently came from a wealthy family Ron told me how he did ask his parents for help but

they had refused he went off about how his parents clearly favored his older sister more and how unfair this was I felt like my entire relationship with him had been a lie the illusion he had portrayed of himself was starting to crumble clearly he was not wealthy which explained why he depended on me to pay his bills while his unemployed self continued to buy luxury items and post about them on social media I told him very firmly that I loved him but this was not something I signed up for I explained that I knew exactly

how it felt to be broke and I had worked really hard to come out of it I was not going to let anyone drag me back to that place ever again I informed him that if he didn't agree to change his ways right then and there and show me through actions I would be out of his house with my things that very evening I guess seeing me this angry really got through Don he immediately apologized and sat down to discuss ways to deal with his bills I told him that he needed to sell his car

pay back all his credit card bills and stopped buying luxury items for a while Ron tried to refuse telling me how people were going to judge him and how his friends would make fun of him I told him that I honestly didn't care about any of that because he had mounting debts that needed to be resolved first he then asked if I could help him pay off some of the loans but I refused letting him know that this was his responsibility I agreed to continue paying our monthly bills and taking care of daily expenses but

I made it clear that until he took proactive measures to lessen his debt I would not feel comfortable discussing a future with him begrudgingly he agreed over the following months Ron took proactive steps to address his debt we put his car up for sale and since it was a sports car we got lucky because the sale yielded enough to pay back his loan and even keep a little extra to pay down other bills he cut back on unnecessary expenses and focused on repaying his credit card bills it was a challenging time for him since he

wasn't used to cutting back on anything and there were moments of frustration and doubt but I encouraged him to work hard to regain control of his finances eventually Ron managed to clear a significant portion of his debt and I felt proud of him for trying we discussed him getting a job but Ron opened up about his plan to start his own business he told me that he had an entrepreneurial spirit and wanted to explore that I was vehemently against this as I am far more risk averse than Ron I knew he could be very fickle-minded

at times and I wasn't sure if he had the determination to concentrate on building a business however he had worked hard to pay pay off his debt so I didn't argue much during this time Ron proposed to me which took me by surprise he told me how he had listened to all my demands and had paid off his debt so now we could concentrate on starting a family together I told him yes because at the end of the day I did love him and all I wanted was for him to keep working hard just like

I did so we could both build a life together he informed me that his parents were unaware he would be proposing so he was a bit nervous to tell them when he called to inform his parents they told him that even though they were happy for him and would support him they really did not expect that he would end up with someone like me on the other hand my parents were happy for me we had a small wedding because I did not want to spend too much money and mess up our credit after Ron had

just come out of debt my parents graciously stepped in to help with the expenses for our wedding and I took out money for my savings to contribute as well Ron's contributions on the other hand were minimal despite his family's supposed wealth when our guests marveled at the Elegance of the event some even assumed that Ron and his family had probably footed the bill throughout all of this Ron remained silent never correcting their assumptions or acknowledging the truth I couldn't help but feel a Pang of disappointment it was disheartening to see him bask in the false

praise especially knowing that he had been unemployed for months and hadn't contributed financially as much as one would expect his parents also shamelessly never corrected anyone and maybe out of guilt they decided to pay for our honeymoon this was unexpected but we accepted since otherwise we may not have gone on a honeymoon at all after our wedding and honeymoon Ron worked on starting his own social media agency just as he had decided he plan to work with Brands and hire influencers this is undoubtedly a lucrative business but there are hundreds of agencies like this and

it's difficult to stand out I would constantly come home to him grumbling about how he couldn't secure an influencer for an event or that he had lost an influencer who was not up for negotiation also brand seldom worked with new agencies so it was really difficult for him to find brands that trusted him enough to sign up with him as a result but business never earned any income and I would sometimes beg him to go back to finding a proper 9-to-5 job even though it wasn't as exciting Ron would get pissed and tell me how

he needed time and that he was going to make it however no matter how many events he attended or the influencers he met his business was not successful and was definitely not Dependable meanwhile I was getting frustrated with being the sole bread winner and working every second of the day that I was awake I would come home to more work the dishes were never cleaned the laundry was piling up and the dog needed to be taken for a walk on top of this he would wait for me to cook for him while he would tell

me about all the bills that needed to be paid if I ever brought up anything about my work he would tell me how glad he was to have left his job since he couldn't be as stressed about work as I was this really irked me because I was the one paying for everything with my stressful job while he was off partying every day at various events I slowly started to resent him more and more we would do nothing except watch TV together and it was starting to feel suffocating on weekends I would sleep a lot

because I was constantly burnt out from working the entire week if I ever told him to help me out with chores around the house he would tell me how starting a business needed his 100% energy and that is his partner I should be more understanding standing last month on top of all this stress I found out I was pregnant now I have always imagined being pregnant and having a baby but I don't know why but I felt like this is not how I would like to start a family I mean when you're bringing a child

into this world you want them to have a stable home and two providing parents however in our case I was the only one providing and he was doing nothing to contribute to the household if I did bring in a child then I would just have to do even more work on top of everything I was doing currently I decided to talk to him about my thoughts unlike me Ben was ecstatic and hugged me in happiness he told me how wonderful this news was and that he could not wait to become a father when I brought

up how exhausted I felt around the house and how having a baby would only increase my work he told me that he agreed and that he would start taking up responsibilities around the house I was surprised by his enthusiasm and glad that he was going to step up in the past weeks Ron has stepped up I mean I still do 80% of the work around the house like cooking cleaning and laundry but he cleans the dishes takes out the trash and takes the dog out for a walk I thought we could get better and better

over time this past weekend he told me that he would be going to meet his family so I informed him that I would tag along since we wanted to make the pregnancy announcement together I know I did not exactly picture his parents being thrilled with our pregnancy but when I announced it their faces literally fell his mother and sister scoffed at me and gave me the dirtiest looks while his dad looked down as if I had made a grave mistake his mother looked me straight in the eye and told me how this was just ridiculous

and that there was no need to bring a child into our marriage with the problems that we were facing I asked her what she meant but she ignored me and excused herself from the table Ron and I decided to leave because clearly the mood was spoiled and I had no idea why on our way back I asked him what his mother was talking about but he shook his head saying he had no idea and went on to say how it would be a good idea for him to continue meeting his family alone from now on

since they were clearly upsetting me I felt really angry and disappointed with him because I had done absolutely nothing wrong to make his family treat me this way and with the baby coming I had thought that for once we could all let go of the past for the sake of the child yesterday while I was at work I received a call from my sister-in-law she had never called me before unless it was something really important so I immediately picked up thinking maybe something happened to my husband or their parents in our conversation my sister-in-law told

me how she had talked with Ben who felt they were all really disrespectful towards me but she wanted to tell me finally exactly why they all felt this way this is when she went on to tell me that she knew how we were struggling because of all the debts I had and they didn't appreciate all the work Ben was putting in for me when I was doing nothing to contribute financially I took a beat to digest the information and then asked her to tell me exactly what she meant because I was confused by what she

was implying sister-in-law then goes on to say that Ben had told them that I had massive debts and he was the one who had to pay for everything by selling off his car and even sacrificing by not buying luxury Brands my head was spinning as she then went on to tell me how she could not let her brother suffer more and that I should not baby trap him I can't even begin to express how pissed off I felt at that moment this Manchild had gone and lied to his family about me being in debt just

to save his own face he clearly didn't want people to think he was broke so he had made up kep this messed up story where he could blame me here I was working hard day and night at a job that I disliked just so that I could pay our bills while he continued to make up stories I was so angry that I didn't even want to explain anything to his sister so I simply told her that she was right and that I should not baby trap him since he was not worthy enough to be a

father anyway I then cut the call and informed my boss that I was not feeling well so I could go back home I knew my husband was out meeting an influencer so I quickly gathered my things so I could move out with my dog I didn't even bother leaving a note and just drove away with everything I own in my car since yesterday I have been living at my parents place while Ron has been frantically calling me he must have talked with his sister because he has sent me messages saying how he could explain everything

and how he just needed me to come back home my parents have no idea yet what is going on but they know this is a serious issue so they haven't asked me a lot of questions I am honestly at a fix on one hand I'm pregnant and I want my child to have a father but on the other hand I don't want to be with someone who has been lying about me when I have provided him with so much update one I talked with my parents about everything and they agree like everyone else on Reddit

that I need to leave my husband what he has done is truly unforgivable he went to such lengths to lie about me over the years even though I had been nothing but a good loyal partner to him the audacity he had to lie and say it was my debt goes on to show that I can't trust him I am planning on talking to him and letting him know my decision to divorce him update two it's been a week since my last update I talked with my husband 2 days ago he had been calling and texting

me for days he got in touch with my parents who informed him that I was staying with them however they did not clarify anything else he came over to my parents place yesterday so we could talk he was clearly shaken up and straight up started to apologize I asked him if he even knew what he was apologizing for and he nodded telling me how after I had left he had called everyone and his sister had informed him that she had a conversation with me so then he had pieced it together I asked him why he

would make such a trous lies about me and how insulted I felt when his sister called to tell me that I was baby trapping him he nodded remorsefully and when on to tell me how he has always felt insecure around his family members he told me that all his parents cared about was their wealth and Status so he was too embarrassed to tell anyone the truth he went on to tell me how when his family inquired about where his car was it was just easier for him to blame me and tell them a story about

how I was in debt and he was helping me out rather than owning up to his mistakes he told me that he never thought it would be a big deal since I wasn't close to his family anyway I shook my head in disappointment and let him know that I had no idea that he could be this disgusting and manipulative I reminded him how much I had worked all these years to provide for us yet here he was admitting shamelessly how easily he had betrayed me I informed him that I was divorcing him hearing this he

started to plead with me to not do this telling me how we should think about the baby but I informed him that we didn't have to be married to be co-parents to our child I pointed out to him that the child would be much happier growing up in a stable environment free from this tension and Discord in our relationship despite his please I remained Resolute in my decision to end the marriage clearly we had reached a point where staying together was no longer healthy for either of us the thought of subjecting my child to a

tumultuous household filled with arguments and resentment is not something I am willing to entertain he pleaded a bit more but in the end he had to leave when he saw that I wasn't going to change my mind he did try to apologize to my parents before leaving but they looked at him with disappointment and did not respond to his apology update three a lot of you have suggested I reach out to his family and clarify everything I don't want to see them however I do think it is right for me to tell them the truth

once and for all hence I sat down and wrote a long email to his parents and sister yesterday detailing every expenditure I have ever paid for Ron along with screenshots of payments from my bank account I wrote about how he was the one with dead and had bills piling up while he kept buying one luxury item after another I let them know that I wanted nothing from them and Ben was free to walk away from my child if that is what he wished however he would be liable to pay child support every month I let

them know my decision to divorce Ben and told them how they could finally have their wish and marry him off to a much wealthier woman since my email Ben has texted me furiously since he is now being bombarded by his parents and sister who are furious at him for lying about me they have even called me but I haven't bothered picking up their calls his sister has sent me a text apologizing for what she said and is pleading with me to not leave the family honestly I do not care about their apologies or their opinions

at this point I have already made my decision to move forward with a divorce so I will be meeting a divorce lawyer next week