You decide for yourself how are you going to live the next day of your life, the next week of your life, the next month of your life and move in that direction. Even if you fall short. So as you fall short, you'll notice negative emotions will crop up.
Right? If you if you set a target for yourself and you fell short, negative emotions crop up. You feel ashamed.
If you give into that shame, if you try to get rid of the shame, then you're still externally motivated. And then if you feel ashamed, you'll act. And if you don't feel ashamed, you won't act.
It's a terrible way to live life. To require shame as the fuel of your action is like a lose-lose situation. So we need to disable the whole circuit.
Be autonomous. So set a target that encompasses the life that you want to live. Then when you wake up in the morning, you're not going to feel like doing it.
And then ask yourself one question. Do I want to be a person who does what they feel like or does what they intend? And in that moment, you can make that choice.
And it's as simple as that. Not saying it's easy. to simple.