[FULL STORY] I called a meeting with my family to break the news that I’m sick, and might not have..

I called a meeting with my family to break the news that I'm sick and might not have much time left my brother and his wife thought it would be a good time to announce their pregnancy and are pissed bit of backstory my brother and I are very close his wife and I not so much we've had our fair share of tension anyway I fell sick in the middle of May but held off getting checked out because of covid and safety reasons eventually when June started I decided to go check it out turns out it was

stage two breast cancer I decided to tell my family 2 days ago since down laws have been lifted so I invited everyone over and when I told my brother and his wife he said okay that's fine because he has news to share too so our family gathered and my brother decided to go first he did ask me and he announced that his wife is four months pregnant of course everyone was overjoyed after about an hour they asked about my news and I knew this was probably the last time in a long while before I had

everyone here in person so I told them and of course the initial joyous atmosphere was gone the rest of the evening was a lot of support for me and not a lot of attention on my brother and his wife my brother didn't seem to mind this as he was quite distraught with my news but I saw his wife pretty upset and cornered off so I decided to approach her and I apologized for the timing of it all she told me I could have waited a bit and Skyped everyone with the news as it's just stage

too and let my brother and her have this moment with their family I told her I initially called this meeting for this exact reason and she said she knows but I knew my news would damper everyone's mood so I told her she's being ridiculous and I wanted to tell my family in person since they are my family after all and she burst in tears and demanded to go home which my brother obliged to even though he was confused he promised he would come see me soon since he stays close by to me later that evening

I get a message from him asking if I told his wife that she isn't part of the family and that I deliberately wanted the attention on me because that's what she's upset about also the next day my parents called me to check up on me and my mom mentioned that my brother's wife called yesterday evening really upset telling them what I said and claiming I'm because she's pregnant and I'm trying to ruin her life I told my parents what actually happened and what I really said and it's caused not only tension between his wife and

me but my parents and her too and now she's also blaming me for my parents not being her biggest fans my brother is torn but has been trying to talk to her which results in more tears and a strain in their marriage all this drama is making me think that I should have just called up everyone rather or just told my brother that his news had to wait even though that would have been selfish of me I really wanted my family's support that day but I'm starting to rethink whether it was worth all this drama

and potentially causing further problems so Reddit a edit wow I didn't expect this to get so so much lovely feedback and to think I was slightly scared to post this thank you all for the unnerving support love and Huggies I read and still reading every single comment made and I really really appreciate it I will most definitely fight through thank you all so much just wanted to add a a few points when brother told me he had news too he was really super excited and added it as a just by the way I'll announce mine

too he did apologize and admit afterwards if he had known what my news was he would have held off his because right now what's important is my recovery he also admitted he wrongfully assumed that my news would automatically be good I'm usually always the happy chirpy one his wife wasn't too fond of this either brother's wife also had a miscarriage beginning of the year which is why this pregnancy I suppose was extra special I'm truly happy for them I just wish she could understand like one user pointed out that this isn't a competition I don't

know why I couldn't tell him over the phone we are really close and I knew it would have crushed him I couldn't steal him away at the Gathering either because he was the last to arrive and when he did he just quickly mentioned hey op mind if I go first and I was frozen on the spot so I said sure also pretty silly on my part it's hard to explain that feeling where you absolutely Frozen and there's a big lump in your throat that prevents you from speaking but saying that news in the first place

was really difficult to begin with edit edit just another point to clarify I'm not a saint but my brother does mean a heck of a lot to me it's exactly why his wife and I cleared the air between us before because I wouldn't deliberately make his life hell by pissing her off hence why when I saw she was upset I approached her and when she told me I could have Skyped I responded with I wanted to tell them in person since they my family and they would probably want to be there with me when I

broke the news news I never once implied she wasn't a part of it my brother and parents know this update sorry this is so late A lot has been happening the past month since the news came out and since I've received a tremendous amount of love from Reddit I thought it would be only fair to let you all know what happened first and foremost I've started treatment also one of the reasons I couldn't update sooner thank you all for your well wishes I plan on bouncing back as soon as I can anyway I could see

that my brother was under a lot of stress and I finally sat him down to talk about it properly he showed me a bunch of texts that his wife sent him telling him he is a shitty father for choosing me over his family she said I was seeking attention and nobody cares about her and one thing that really got to me was that she told him to choose once and for all and if he picks me he loses her and his child and if he picks her she doesn't want me in their lives at all

I felt terrible not only for him but knowing that I could have prevented all this I took the time to apologize for putting him in this position and if I had just pulled him aside soon enough and given him a heads up he would have truly understood brother tells me I shouldn't apologize because he should have been more considerate He also mentioned that his wife would have probably still gotten mad at him whether they did or didn't give the news on that day so I decided I should invite her over for coffee to sort out

everything I spoke to her alone I asked her about everything she was very cold and didn't really answer so I started talking first by apologizing if I made her feel excluded from the family or that her pregnancy was of any less importance I explained that I should have given them a heads up up so we could have avoided what had happened all together and that was my fault and that I was very sorry but I also mentioned that the way she reacted and went to the extent of lying wasn't okay she then started crying and

vented out about how angry she's been and that my brother always put me first and recently they've been going through a rough patch and when he sided with me it made her even more upset and feel even more lonely she admitted she lied to my parents and my brother saying that she was hoping they would show her more sympathy and when they were cold to her she got even more upset after hours of talking she apologized for how she acted and has been acting and she would like if we moved on from this my brother

came later and they both went home he texted me saying they both spoke for hours and agreed to couples therapy my parents are currently living with me and helping me out tremendously but they not quite happy with my sister-in-law yet although they promised to try to work things out things finally seemed to calm down and let's hope it stays that way none of this would have been possible without the feedback you all gave me and indebted to that so thank you edit to add all of you are so kind honestly but I wanted to clarify

that I'm no saint nor am I selfless I know what happened wasn't entirely on me however in order to focus solely on my recovery I can't be stressed out about this whole situation and have all this tension around seeing my brother being put in that position and my S as hurtful as she was being upset and holding hatred can affect herself and the baby I did what I could to fix things so that everyone can focus on being healthy and being positive without holding any grudges I know I sure will I know my sister-in-law she

can be very stubborn and unreasonable and if I left things in her hands I'm 99% sure it would have resulted in much much worse circumstances than me putting the first hand forward at least now I can focus on my recovery without any distress or toxicity I'm human I felt angry I felt upset yeah I wanted to give her a piece of my mind but in doing so isn't helping myself her my brother or my family only damaging things further this realization is what prompted me to let it all go and focus on positivity and my

mental and physical health last edit I spent all day on Reddit reading every little or big comment made and honestly I didn't know you could feel so much support from people you never met you are all the amazing humans thank you all for the upvotes comments and awards and I'll still read every single comment but this will be my final edit and for the people who asked I'm 24