so you don't get girls fear not I'm here to help using the power of Science and psychology I'm going to make you the reincarnated male version of Regina freaking George let's begin lesson one the scarcity principle psychologist Dr Robert chalini has famously proposed in his book opportunities seem more valuable to us when their availability is limited we see this quite often in marketing it explains why billionaires would rather have a lame slow car that's a oneof one than an insanely fast cool car that's in production and it's also why everyone tells you nice guys finish
last and why most of the time it's true it's not because girls don't like nice guys it's because the nice guys make themselves readily available and jerks don't really care subsequently they're availability is limited and they are seen as a more valuable opportunity but what they don't tell you is you don't have to be a jerk to be scarce in fact a nice guide displaying himself in a way that makes him scarce is so rare that by using Dr Chen's logic of scarcity it should be 10 times more attractive than your average jerk so how
specifically do you do this well say you see a girl you like at a party surrounded by dudes trying to RIS her up you may think you don't don't stand a chance but actually you have the best chance walk over to her and her swarm of simps walk past and while you pass look at her and say hi in a friendly way keep walking go talk to a friend bonus points if that friend is a girl you saying hi and doing nothing else is essentially hanging a limited edition sign on your neck you aren't readily
available like the boys in her Gremlin gang you're something that needs to be pursued or lost forever lesson two the gain loss Theory building on the scarcity principle the gain loss theory of Attraction explains more in detail why nice guys might seemingly finish last a clever study tested this Theory by having volunteer college students engage in a series of one-on-one meetings after the meeting the volunteer would accidentally over here the experimenter describe them in one of four ways all positive all negative initially negative but becoming positive or initially positive but becoming negative when asked later
how much they liked the experimenter volunteers would expectedly like the experimenter when the evaluation was completely positive but surprisingly they liked the experimenter even more when the evaluation was initially negative but became positive the findings support the idea that winning people over who had an initial bad impression is way more rewarding to us than someone who liked us all along but you need to be careful if you're trying to use this on a girl because trying to demonstrate that someone has left a bad impression can kind of be hard without being a jerk a good
way to do this subtly is through tone and Body Language also you need to ensure that once you have decided they've won you over you convey that clearly if it's not clear to the girl you've been won over and they just think you don't like them they won't want to be around you which is is kind of a huge problem and leads us to the next bit lesson three proximity in lesson one I told you you need to be scarce but it's important to understand that you need to be scarce in terms of attention not
proximity in a study on friendship formation researchers asked nearly 300 MIT dormatory residents to list their closest friends the researchers then looked at where the listed friends lived in the dorms when someone lived one dorm away there was a 41% likelihood they were listed as a close friend as the numbers of doors increased the likelihood decreased so those living four doors way only had a 10% likelihood of being listed as a close friend you need to be physically near the girl you like but good proximity isn't just Mutual geographical location it's also frequency for example
you have a better chance with a girl you see 10 minutes every day than you do with a girl that you see for 1 hour every week if you don't have good proximity you stand no chance so in such a case you need to create good proximity artificially but you need to be subtle about this change your route to class to Pastor join a club she's in do what you need to do but please please don't be creepy there's a fine line in trying to create proximity and stalking do not cross that line say you
do have good proximity and you've made yourself seem one over how do you retain her positive feelings towards you Lesson Four the Ben Franklin effect Ben Franklin's secret to being so loved by everyone he knew was that he asked everyone for tons of favors you may think asking favors of people will make them dislike you because you're burdening them with something but quite the opposite is true a study in 1971 at the University of North Carolina had volunteers give out tests to actors pretending to be other students of course the volunteers thought they were administering
the study to other volunteers but actually they were the subject the volunteers were told the students would watch as they used sticks to tap out long patterns on wooden cubes the students would then be asked to repeat the pattern each volunteer was told to try two different methods on two different groups in one group The Volunteers were told to give encouragement when the students got the patterns right in another separate group The Volunteers were told to insult and criticize the students when they made mistake afterwards the volunteers filled out a debriefing questionnaire which included questions
about how attractive and likable their students were across the board the students who received the insults were rated as less attractive than the ones who received encouragement concluding that when you do something kind to someone else you like them more so you need to give the girl you like opportunity to be kind to you a great way to do this is to ask for little favors ask for the time drop your pencil in her Direction and let her get it for you ask if she'll help you with something you're working on stupid little stuff like
this actually works and makes you more attract active as a human but nothing I've said so far in this video matters at all if you disregard this next possibly most important truth lesson five the Discord mod effect in 1997 a study done by morian and Blum came to an interesting conclusion the two researchers surveyed 117 male and female college kids with 76 different photos of the opposite sex they were asked to rank each photo on their attractiveness and emotional response the study concluded that the most attractive features were not genetic traits but instead came down
to good posture noticeable grooming nice fitting clothing a seemingly positive attitude and a healthy weight let me repeat that the most attractive features are not genetic if you put a little effort in exercise regularly keep your chin up shoulders back shower daily wear good clothes and put a smile on your face Maybe girls won't be repelled by you when you walk in a room you can do everything else right but if you look like a Discord mod it doesn't matter she won't want you and that brings us to the finale lesson six luck believe it
or not it will almost always come down to genetic compatibility so let's step away from psychology and talk neurobiology two things play a part in ultimately determining long-term attraction and both have veto power over pretty much everything the first component is your nose your nose detects something called pheromones these carry physical and genetic information and also activate a physiological or behavioral response if pheromones are compatible but even if they are a woman's nose functions a bit differently because while they do take in pheromones they noses are also attuned to MHC molecules which are used to
fight disease interestingly in this particular situation opposit to attract there's a study that had a group of women smell t-shirts that had been worn by different men the study showed that women almost always prefer the odors of those whose MHC molecules differ from theirs which makes sense because genetic variation especially when it comes to immunities is a huge survival Advantage for an offspring unfortunately boys we don't have that MHC sense which means to us we we might match up across the board but if your MHC molecules don't differ from hers it might be hard for
her to be romantically attracted to you the second and possibly most important component to attraction the first kiss the first kiss is a huge complex exchange of tactile and chemical cues happening through the smell of your breath and the taste of your mouth this moment is so critical that the majority of women have reported losing their attraction to someone after a bad first kiss but if things do go well the nervous system pumps out norepinephrine activ the fight or flight system the heart beats fast the pupils dilate and energy increases in this case fellas you're
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