When My Wife Cheated And Intended To Divorce Me, I Ghosted Her And Proceeded With The Divorce First.

when my wife cheated and intended to divorce me I ghosted her and proceeded with the divorce first I'm 35 male married to my high school sweetheart Caroline female 32 she was my junior and always interested in me after a while I fell for her too we dated all the way through college everybody looked at our relationship as some sort of Miracle all of our friends said they had never seen long-distance relationships work but we did it not that it was a piece of cake but because both of us really wanted our relationship to work we

were so much in love with each other that we were ready to do anything to make it work after I established my career and she was almost done with her College I proposed to her it was pointless to wait any longer as both of us knew we would not be able to live without each other we were eager to spend the rest of our lives together things changed a lot though things were going well between us like a normal married couple there was a honeymoon phase where we could not keep our hands off each other

both of us made each other the center of our universe after a few years of marriage the honeymoon phase faded of course however both of us were still very happy we lived our days together in love we made sure to arrange small surprises for each other that kept the romance and our relationship alive it was not something that was forced it was effortless and natural to get into that story let me tell you about the background of it I completed my studies in business education after that I was ready to handle my dad's business as

I was the only son he did not impose his business on me I've always had an immense interest in business I had visited my my dad's office very excitedly when I was a child I love to watch him deal with people he worked really hard and I observed him very deeply I knew since my childhood that this was what I was meant to do when I grew up so when I completed college I was ready to pursue business very passionately I was very determined and I had to work really hard my dad was always by

my side to correct my mistakes and help me out I did make mistakes in the beginning as they are crucial for success but eventually I began to run the business really well well and I was getting recognized and praised a lot after our marriage Caroline stopped working she worked at a firm but she quit her job a few months into the marriage I did not want that for her as I'm the kind of person who is very supportive of careers I wanted my wife to do whatever she liked and Excel at it I was very

supportive of it and was always there to encourage her Caroline however did not want that she gave me the reason that she just wanted to stay at home and be a housewife I asked her the reason for it that made her make this decision she said that she just wanted a break from work and enjoyed being at home cooking food and doing the things that she loved I highlighted the fact that such long breaks set your career back and you find it hard when you return but it was what Caroline really wanted she said therefore

I had to respect my wife's decision and support her in her choice I earned a handsome amount of money so it was not like she was contributing to the house whatever she earned it was hers as it should have been I always believed that a man has to provide for his family and I was happy to do so however when she made the decision to quit her job she lied to me she said that she was just taking a break for a while but I heard her talking to her mom on a call she didn't

know I had woken up she told her mom that she had quit her job forever and that she didn't want to work when she had the option of sitting at home and enjoying what her husband earned for her it really hurt me I was hurt not because she wanted to not work but because she had lied to me about the reason for this whole thing I wondered why she was uncomfortable sharing the truth with me I would never have judged her or asked her to not quit her job I loved her and supported and respected

all her choices yet she thought she had to hide it from me that day a part of me really broke a little as I realized that my wife did not trust me completely or was not comfortable enough with me even after all these years I did not confront her at all as I did not want her to feel like I was eavesdropping on her conversation with her mother I just pretended like nothing had happened and we continued living Our Lives after that I became really conscious about my actions and my behavior I wanted to make

sure that I was not giving any impression in some way that she couldn't trust me I tried my best to give her a safe secure and comfortable space around me I was good to her as Caroline had quit her job she really was making an exceptional housewife she kept herself busy at home she made a nice dinner for both of us I loved her cooking and her baking I loved how she was always trying new dishes and new sorts of cakes and she was really good at it but she was also quite invested in home

settings and Decor she was always keeping our furniture quite up to Trend and making new settings there is no doubt in admitting that she was exceptional at it I know people whose wives stay at home but they neither cook that well nor keep the house good Caroline had good taste she was good with colors and settings she seemed very happy and at peace like that so I was happy for her I was glad that she was not stressing about work rated things and was living her life as she had wanted however somewhere in my head

I still wondered why she had lied to me should I read this to be any red flag I think her choosing to stay at home should have warranted a serious conversation in which you both discuss where you are at financially and if it's feasible for her to do so and for how long you have a right to feel how you do if she can't talk to you about this what else is she hiding update one thank you for your comments yeah I kept trying my best to be good to her a few months later a

small conflict arose among us when we got to talk about starting a family and having children it had been 3 years into our marriage and everything was just great I just felt like I was missing the presence of my children and so I DEC decided to discuss this with Caroline her reaction was not what I expected at all she really flipped out as if I had demanded something without considering what she thought about it I stayed calm and made her realize that I was not demanding it from her of course I was just trying to

discuss it with her as it was something that I wanted and had been thinking about she got really mad at me and shouted and went into the room slamming the door behind her I was completely shocked at the reaction it was just so abnormal I was obviously never going to force her to do anything that she did not want it was her body and it was up to her if she wanted it or not and I would never force her for something like that I just found it weird that she was not being reasonable about

it at all how hard was it to talk about it and have a proper conversation instead of barging off and slamming doors behind her I was mad at her too after that I did not know our relationship had become the kind where we could not communicate with each other without her getting mad at me I decided that this time I would not talk to her or make up for her until she realized her mistake I was expecting her to come to me after she had cooled down but that did not happen I fell asleep in

the living room waiting for her to come out of the room and talk it out but that did not happen either I woke up in the morning to see that she was in the kitchen making breakfast for us I went into the kitchen and stood for a few minutes hoping that she would talk but that did not happen she pretended as if I was not even present I wanted to talk to her but it infuriated me even more so I also stopped talking to her I thought if it doesn't matter to her why should I

care either I went to my office and worked as usual I was hoping for Caroline to text something but she did not and I was disappointed I went home in the evening as is my daily routine and I found out that Caroline was not home it was weird as she never went out at that time of the day or without telling me about it I found it weird but I went to the kitchen hoping I might see a note there but nothing I checked my phone again for texts or voicemails but nothing I called her

but she did not pick up the call I also realized that she had not prepared anything for lunch or dinner which was also something that rarely happened I waited for her to get home and meanwhile I made dinner for us by that point I was not really mad at her and I thought I would make up and explain to her what I meant yesterday I made pasta for us as Caroline loved it after I made the pasta I checked my phone again to see if there was any update she still hadn't returned any of my

calls or texts I began to get worried because it was not normal and I feared that she was in some sort of trouble I made some phone calls to her friends but she was not with any of them I began to get really worried all sorts of weird scenarios began to Circle in my head I was too scared I kept calling her but she wasn't answering as I was about to leave the house to go to the police or something Caroline turned up at the door I almost cried out of joy and hugged her and

then scolded her for where she had been she acted very casually as if I was overreacting we sat down and had dinner she smiled as she realized that I had made pasta for us she apologized for her behavior and I also clarified to her that I was just trying to discuss it with her I was viously not forcing her to have a baby I would never do that until both of us were ready to become parents we made up and then I told her that I had been worried sick about where she had been when

she didn't come home for so long Caroline said that she had gone to visit her friend Sarah as Sarah had invited her over she didn't tell me because she was mad at me she was unable to pick up my calls because her battery died after that we talked a little more and then I went to sleep Caroline fell asleep almost immediately but I could not the events of the day kept revolving in my head I could not understand what the uncomfortable feeling was but I was not feeling all right something was just totally off I

felt like Caroline was turning into a stranger she did some things that were completely out of my understanding it was not how she usually behaved with me the way she was so casual about being absent and not informing me felt very wrong it was not the person I married who was so considerate and loving and never tried to put anyone under unnecessary stress or tension also she had always been very communicative with me we never hid things from each other we were very vocal about how we felt and we always acknowledged and respected each other

it was the secret behind staying in love with each other for so long through so many different phases of life and now I felt like that was Vanishing Caroline was backing away from communication and respecting my feelings it made me wonder if our relationship was falling apart seems like she's staying distant so that you don't find out what she's hiding she's definitely holding you at arms length update to sorry for the late update I know I almost took a year to update but trust me I really got caught up in a lot of mess and

it took me all this while to clear it up here's what happened next 2 days later I was at the store buying some things I was going home and had stopped to get Caroline's favorite chocolate it was something I was trying to rejuvenate our love I was paying at the counter when I ran into Sarah she said hi to me and asked how Caroline was doing I said she would know if she just met her the previous day Sarah seemed confused and said that she hadn't met Caroline since last month I was more confused I

said that I must have misheard then as I was driving home I knew I was probably seeing the end of my marriage I could not tolerate lies from Caroline where was she and why on Earth did she lie to me I went home and gave her the chocolates I had bought for her she was overjoyed we had a usual conversation and laughed I was faking it all my mind was stuck with who Caroline was with the previous day as Caroline went to sleep that night I snuck out as I could just not stop myself I

took her phone and opened it I checked her calls and texts I was surprised to see that she had called my best friend Simon 35 Millions very frequently and almost every day it was very fishy and abnormal Simon was my childhood friend he was the son of my dad's best friend Simon and I had grown up together we had spent all the stages of life with each other we went to school and college together and we took over our father's businesses at the same time Simon however was not as hardworking as I was he was

interested in partying and not doing anything he never really had an interest in business either and was actually forced by his father to take over his father did not give him a choice to do something else Simon was good friends with Caroline of course as she had been with me for so long I liked the fact that they got along well when we started dating because I had seen people with difficulties when their friends and their Partners did not get along well I always wanted my partner to get along with my best friend and I

was very happy when I got that during high school and college times we hung out together and enjoyed a lot I'm glad that I had the two people who were closest to my heart in all steps of my life my lover and my best friend the next day I went to meet Simon I was just curious I was obviously not going to ask him about those calls but I just wanted to see if I caught on to something from meeting him I went to his office and as usual he was out he was running his

business very poorly because of his immense carelessness and unprofessional behavior I called him and he asked me to wait for a few minutes as he was almost there he met me in the same cheerful greeting manner that he always did he asked if I would like to eat or drink anything and I asked him for coffee we talked about a lot of things and when I was about to leave he asked me about Caroline and how she was doing he remarked that he hadn't talked to her in ages and he must invite us over for

dinner I smiled and said that we would love that as a reunion as I got out of his office I knew Caroline was cheating on me with this guy I didn't even need to have proof because I knew that already it was just something that I could see in his ugly eyes it was right there but of course I needed some proof to go about it the right way I went home and faked the rest of the day with Caroline when Caroline went to take a shower I took her phone and installed a tracker on

it that app allowed me to access her phone and see all her texts and calls and every activity on her phone I was ready to get some filthy evidence and divorce her the next morning the first thing I did was call my lawyer I discussed the matter with him in detail I told him that I did not want to share anything with her after the divorce she did not deserve a single penny the lawyer said that if the evidence was solid enough it was possible that she would not get money out of the divorce I

was going to make sure that was going to happen I kept a check on Caroline's phone and yes I got the proof almost immediately there was an exchange of texts between Caroline and Simon their conversation was disgusting it made me sick to the core Caroline was saying that she would file for divorce in a few weeks and that whatever she would get out of the divorce she would share with Simon and they would get married soon apparently she was actually in love with Simon and that was more painful for me I took the screenshots and

was relieved that I had gotten the much needed evidence to solidify my case I then texted them to my lawyer and he said that things were looking really great for me he immediately filed for a divorce and filed a case against Caroline too I didn't go home that day I decided that I was only going to see her in court I was not going to talk to her or even let her say a single word to me I could not tolerate her filthy existence around me I took an apartment on rent as I knew that

it would take me a while before the case ended and I could not be around her she was sent the divorce notice and I'm sure she was really shocked she sent me billions of texts asking what it was and where I was but I was not going to answer she was going to be ruined in so many ways the court process began and I had to go to court regarding it everything was in my favor as I had proof for everything the proceedings carried on for a few months but they ended in my favor during

those months she kept trying to reconcile and apologize but I pretended like she did not exist and I did not even allow myself to feel the pain that I was going through Caroline got almost nothing out of the divorce because her intentions were crystal clear to everyone she had no savings as she hadn't worked a day since our marriage she had been with me for my money and had been cheating on me with my best friend my best friend was after my money and success too and he wanted to get it through my wife I

never talked to Simon again he never came to me either he must have known that I would punch him in the face if he ever talked to me again Simon did not marry Caroline as expected he only wanted to get the money out of her but that never happened when Simon's father got to know about his reality through my dad he despised him he was already very ashamed of his loser son because he was depreciating his dad's business every day while I was able to scale my dads to the next level the trauma of being

betrayed by your wife and your best friend is not easy I had lost two of the closest people to me who had been with me for so long life began to look very hard and ugly and I was depressed thankfully my parents were there for me in all of this they stood by me at all times my mom convinced me to take therapy and deal with things in the right way I never wanted to take therapy but I did it and I was glad that my mom had forced me to take this step it enabled

me to heal and handle my grief in a better way I didn't have to stay in the Heap of hopelessness and depression I met Simon a few months later and I was very depressed in those days I could not stop myself from lashing out at him I almost punched him but I was stopped by the people in the office later I found out that Simon's business was going to be lost he had lost a lot and had gone through a lot of problems only because of his carelessness and incapability I threw myself into the business

once again as it made me forget everything that had gone wrong in my life I got better as time makes you forget a lot of things I had moved on from the extreme pain that was thrown at me I am proud of who I am and where I stand today despite going through so much in life the fact that I'm able to write down about my pain so effortlessly indicates that I have moved on I'm so sorry your ex did this to you Opie I can't imagine how hard it would have been to learn that

your wife and your best friend were messing around on you behind your back I'm sorry she threw it all away you were so supportive of her and the choice she made in quitting her job to become a housewife it is funny though that after all of that she was quite literally left with nothing she only did that to herself we're proud of you op what do you make of op's story share your thoughts in the comments below and thank you for joining us be sure to like And subscribe and hit that notification Bell so you

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