one of the most common responses I hear to my videos or conversations I have in real life is oh but wait not every girl cares about looks not every girl cares about looks some care about personality so it's basically this whole notion that not every girl cares about looks and you just need to find one that values other stuff right well let me ask you this question as an analogy if a guy fails his exams and doesn't get into his dream University how would it make him feel if someone says oh but don't worry not
every University cares about grades not every University cares about grades so you'll be fine I think most would agree if he was told this he would feel it was a kick in the teeth I came up with this analogy because I think it tells a couple of things one by the very fact someone says but not every University cares about grades doesn't that imply that the vast majority of universities do care about grades likewise when someone says but not every girl cares about looks surely that suggests they believe most girls do care about looks a
whole lot and it's only a small minority that don't and care about other things people don't even realize when they make comments like but not every girl cares about looks they are actually agreeing with me and know that most girls do care about it and more than anything else and two if there is a university that doesn't care about grades surely that's going to be one of the bad ones that pretty much accepts anybody don't expect Harvard or Oxford to be letting people in with mediocre grades it's more going to be the University of serving
up fries and flipping burgers that won't care similarly for the girls who don't care about looks a lot of them also take no pride in their appearance and have little to no relationship qualities they will date the first average-ish guy that comes their way do you think a girl who's been going to the gym for 3 years and is in impeccable shape will date Twiggy MC twig with a recessed jaw and receded hairline I don't think so more often than not I've seen the girls who care about looks the most are the ones that are
good-look themselves and work on their appearance constantly why would any of them want to feel they are dating down it's just not going to happen they are the most concerned about whether the guys available to them are on their level or higher and they certainly won't be going for Average Joe nce guy just because he paid her a pleasant compliment one last Point even if there is a very small minority and when I say very small I mean very very small around 1% of highly attractive girls that don't care about looks surely these will already
be taken I mean they are attractive so they will have been hit on a lot and secondly the Bar for a guy to date her is so low that it's pretty much a matter of the first average to below average guy that makes a move will gets her in a relationship in other words any of these so-called hidden gems are already gone if a girl is attractive and has low standards then she'll find a guy she deems adequate so fast and because that guy knows he's getting a good deal then he'll try his very best
to keep it alive but even then these couples are extreme rare and entirely dependent on Lock and timing for us we simply can't Bank on such occurrences happening anyway the main focus I want to talk about in this video is does personality matter how much does it matter and can you get away with having not much personality if a girl finds you very attractive the anwers to these questions can all pretty much be answered the same way in my opinion your personality only matters if a girl already likes your looks that's my experience I've dated
quite a few girls and had three relationships I found the main variable for whether your personality matters is if she already likes your looks and finds you attractive what this means in Reverse is if a girl doesn't like your looks then your personality is inconsequential and no amount of Personality will change her mind I have had so many experiences as a guy where I thought a girl was semi interested in the beginning Lo to Mid interest so she's giving C or B tier signals and I thought if I keep talking to her got to know
her more show parts of my extrovertive side and how I'm a fun person then eventually she'll see the potential in me as a romantic partner and will be on the path to start a relationship in other words try to convert that c or B tier into an S tier I don't recall a single time this has ever worked in practice in fact in my experience every girl I've had romantic involvement with had clear communication of their strong feelings from the offset and that's despite trying dozens of times with girls who were medium interest at first
it always failed so what this taught me and I know it seems quite negative and dispirited but this is just my experience girls who give low or medium interest are the same as no interest I'll repeat medium interest equals no interest the only girls that will give you a chance is if it's a tier at the minimum or ideally s tier from the very first conversation now this doesn't mean personality doesn't matter whatsoever what I found is personality can ruin attraction if you mess up it is absolutely possible to lose interest from a girl who
initially likes you if she feels you have a bad personality and all it takes is one thing that really doesn't sit right with her you vent her or have a big disagreement of values and then she'll chalk you off as an option and there's nothing you can do to keep her interested I've had this happen a couple of times even when a girl had been giving me S tier but thankfully I'm more careful now in terms of phrasing and word choices to avoid this from happening basically don't offend her and you'll be fine but remember
the most crucial point is she needs to be giving you s tier to begin with now with this in mind after you found a girl who's giving you s tier how far can you go with regard to having a lackluster and laid-back personality and still have her be interested well in my experience a huge amount I'm not saying you should do this obviously you should be a nice person and try your best to come across Pleasant and your true self but for the sake of answering the question of how much does personality matter when a
girl is already giving you s tier I can tell you that your personality will have little to no effect on the outcome for whether she likes you or not for example here's a personal story one time I met up with a girl from Tinder she was average-ish from her photos and I thought I'd go out with her just to see how it goes she was being super receptive over text instant replies even if I was working during the day and couldn't respond immediately she then invited me to a house party with a bunch of friends
I agreed and when I got to the party unfortunately I found her less attractive than I saw in the photos and I wasn't feeling my best that day so not being much in a sociable mood I hardly said a word to get to know her or any of her friends and I was so bored at one point because I felt isolated I decided to go inside and work on scripts for videos in her room she came in multiple times asking if I was okay and if I wanted to stay or go but I repeatedly said
no I just feel overwhelmed and need some alone time when I'm in a new environment I often feel uneasy due to over stimulation which makes me want some peace in other words based on the first time meeting this girl I would have came across extremely closed off with a non-existent personality if not a negative one I was very antisocial awkward avoidant many people would describe these obviously as negative traits that would kill attraction if you were with a girl however despite all this she was still giving me S toer and desperate to get to know
me more and to show this is true on one of the occasion she came to the room we made out and furthermore after I left and got home she still wanted to see me more often and give me extra chances it honestly was that easy despite me having a non-existent personality for the time we met up leaving on from this another experience I found is when a girl likes your looks she was sometimes Bend her personality to cater for yours for example if you are an extroverted and confident guy she will try to reflect and
live up to your energy even if she doesn't feel the same as her natural self she will engage in activities that aren't her cup of tea if it means she can make you happy I have on two occasions had girls come to concerts to see my favorite artists and fake they are having a good time just so they can please me I feel I'm quite good at body language and can tell if a girl is actually invested in the activity we are doing or if they are just faking enthusiasm in order to make me happy
in these two times I went to concerts with girls for artists they couldn't care less about I could tell they weren't really that interested but were just trying to match my level of Happiness this might seem a bad sign but in many ways can actually be seen as sign of strength in a relationship if a girl is in this much awe of you that she tries her very best to please you and make you happy then it shows the attraction is very strong now of course this can't be taken to the extreme otherwise that's exploitation
you should have mostly common interests and on occasion you should do favors for your partner even if your enthusiasm isn't the highest so what I'm trying to say is in scenarios where a girl likes you so much that she generously does things for you that she's not 100% keen on just to make you happy then it means she is a keeper and sees a lot of potential in you for the long term One More Story I have showing personality doesn't particularly matter when a girl already likes your looks one time I was at this bar
in this small village whilst on a hiking trip and this was a stereotypical old people's bar where there were maybe a handful of guys my age I had a look around and I could tell I was the highest smv guy by far it wasn't even close the second best guy wasn't ltn at best anyway I got served by this bar girl who was very very pretty a seven and she was the prettiest girl in this place by far the only one I'd consider as a dating option in the whole building anyway the first interaction when
she served my drink was normal but then the second time when I went up for a drink which was at least 45 minutes later before I even opened my mouth she says Sam mwell right and I said yeah that's good and as I walked away I thought to myself right the fact she remembered my drink means she 100% noticed me because I knew she served at least 50 other old dudes in between the time I came back up but all of them she just saw as the next old fool so she didn't remember any of
those but she remembered me furthermore I knew she was interested because a time before I've dated a girl where this exact scenario happened but in a coffee shop this time she remembered my drink and the second time I came up she said a large latte and water again and I said yeah that's right so at this point at the bar I was already pretty sure this girl was interested anyway I then sit back down and have my second drink and once I finish it I'm about to head out but I see her and before I
leave I go up to talk to her while she's cleaning a table and again before I even get up my first word just merely making a gesture in her Direction she immediately looks up at me takes a step closer and starts giving her full undivided attention almost as if she was waiting for it to happen and when I say she was giving me S TI I mean she was giving me S everything I said was met with agreement and enthusiasm for example since I was a little tipsy at the time I would sometimes make comments
that in many contexts will cause a girl to lose interest such as when she said how great it is I came up to her and asked if I do often I responded Yes I do and I have done it a million times before and I use pretty much the same line every time I hope that doesn't make you feel less special but this isn't new to me and she responds wow that's so great you have the confidence not many guys do that nowadays especially those your age this taught me that the majority of men that
hit on her while she's at work are old idiots who never have a chance and she saw it as a breath of fresh air that a guy her age and looks level hit on her for once she then said I want to see how you would approach me in the street if we hadn't met before do your thing and show me how you would come up I couldn't believe how much enthusiasm she was giving me if a girl asks you to do romantic roleplay with her it is a very strong choosing signal I thought things
were definitely going to lead somewhere but unfortunately she said she's been in a relationship for 6 months however that is not where the Este enthusiasm finished because she was so apologetic about the fact actually had a boyfriend and told me how before she met her boyfriend she was a fun machine you can figure out the actual word she used here instead of fun machine and she told me these words if I was still in that part of my life you'd definitely be the kind of guy I'd go for and it's just unfortunate timing so this
shows even if a girl was in a relationship it doesn't mean she can't give you s TI additionally it doesn't really matter what you say or if the things you say are controversial as long as they're not too far if she is giving you s tier then you can get away with so much what I mean is is if you feel you're trading on eggshells with a girl then it's likely not s tier and she's probably Not That Into You the thing with s tier is you can say things that would otherwise lead to poisoning
the well but an S tier girl will ignore them because they are that enthralled by you and want to keep the energy high in my experience it can feel as if all they can do is agree agree agree agree agree obviously this won't happen every time sometimes girls will get angry with you even if they were giving you s tier for example one time I was on holiday at this bar and arranged a date with a girl the next day and before I walked away from her she told me if I see you talking to
or kissing any other girls at this bar then the date is off it didn't matter she was giving me S to it she would have been annoyed if I was interacting with other girls anyway that's enough BP for today if you enjoyed you might be interested in two products I have the two main products are face ratings and personalized looks maxing reports and my book both will have more information at an affordable price in the description
