MANAGING DIFFERENCES IN RELATIONSHIP & MARRIAGE 01

[Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] crushing time with God by His grace we'll be starting the discussion on Mataji or differences in relationship and marriage now when you talk about differences in relationship our marriage what comes to your mind immediately is the personalities of people that I involved in that agreement so it is expected that two people from different backgrounds different racial different of bringing different culture we exhibit a lot of differences so when you talk talk about differences in relationship or marriage we are not talking about a bad thing we are not talking about a bust

and because if we are not different from one another in this world this world will be a boring world for us to say so rather than demonize differences as many we want to do we should see the positive side of differences because our God is a God of variety variety BC is the spice of life everybody is not and cannot be the same we must learn to work together with a positive attitude to effectively manage our differences with understanding so when we talk about managing differences in relationship and marriage we are talking about we positively

responding to the difference in the other party if I am involved in the marriage relationship with a woman then I must condition my mind to responding positively to the differ seize that and nito will bring around me so there are ingredients that can oppose to effectively manage differences in relationship and model today we'll be restricting ourselves to only one of the ingredients and that is discussing your feelings without disrespecting your partner discussing your feelings without disrespecting your partner every human being loves to be respected every human being loves to be honored in fact according to

the scriptural provision respect and honor is mutual it should be moocher especially a marriage and why will you be discussing that today discussing your feelings without disrespecting your spouse how do you discuss your feelings without disrespecting your spouse Colossians chapter 4 verse 6 let your speech be be always with grace seasoned with salt that he may know how you ought to answer every man now what we need to understand is this that there are speeches that brings about Greece there are species that are seasoned with such with grace there are species that are also valence

in it you see the way a manner of presentation of such a speech is what makes the difference in those speeches dialogue is one of the most efficient principles of agreement in a marriage relationship you must not take anything for granted you must talk about everything discuss over everything I are not everything agree on everything when nations of the world go into war and they want to terminate it they return to the round table so it L means the dialogue is an integral part of our lives as human beings the people going to serious battle

to the nations rising against nation those battles started with words with discussions the ones that are resolving it now they re subpoenaed through dialogue so even in a marriage relationship the same principle applies we must learn to make use of the provision of God rightly in order to enhance the beauty of our marriages talk together on all matters as coppice oh all matters the wrong contrary to the agreement nomes will help alot to smooth any rough edges when you talk about all matters now run contrary to agreement knows it will help to smooth in all

rough edges will it not be better if those nations have ironed out their differences before situation degenerates into war and that is what is expected of married couples to dialogue and resolve issues before degenerating to a disagreement that everybody will be saying I add after all the a Christian couples after all the this after all their death and the people know what not to even be interfering in their matters will be interfering engage people also we embrace the leverage discussing about everything percent has to manage their differences people involved in marriage or to embrace dialogue

in about everything because it presents to them the most you know opportunity to manage their differences the things we do as human beings Muslims are not as serious as our motives for doing them when your motive is right in discussing matter the motive behind a matter that in particular matter is to resolve it is to bring about peace then that motive we bring good result how do we ascertain whether the motive is genuine otherwise if we don't open up a line of communication with our partner our partner may have done something no unintentional he or

she may have done something absent mindedly but if we just look at that and draw a conclusion without sending him allowed to find out the motive or the reason for doing what he or she has done and giving him or her an opportunity to explain why so this is just a game then we will not be living room for peace today in America so when it comes to effective management for differences in relationship our marriage we must give our partners the benefit of doubt on to another episode when I come your way with another ingredient

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