are the people around me making me mentally healthier and physically healthier because if they're not I decrease my time that negativity or that bad behavior it wears on you that's time that's stress that's tension it's pressure they're poisoning your potential they are taking away your ability to be with other people who could be more healthy a higher level group feels like it's a gift a priv a blessing to get to give that to other people is your peer group making you healthier healthier I think of health is a big picture Wellness I think of like
are the people around me making me mentally healthier and physically healthier I'm always wondering that are they making me mentally and physically healthier I was think about that if someone's making you less healthy mentally or physically decrease your time why because guess what that negativity or that bad behavior it wears on you that's time that's stress that's tension it's pressure and that weighs you down in all your other relationships I really believe that it can take just a few people who are negative impact few people who might be toxic in that way in which they
make you think negatively make you complain more make you be worse in your behaviors make you treat people worse those people they're poisoning your potential they are taking away your ability to be with other people who could be more healthy and help you longer term right there there only so much time so that's why I say listen we can't always choose everybody in our life they might be there but we can certainly choose our exposure our time spent and of course there's people we have to give Grace to we got to give Grace it's like
they're going through a tough season we got to be for them we got to support them they might not be in a healthy place and we got to be that person who's a a friend caregiver co-worker who Champions them and sees them through this difficult time there's a lot of people in my industry they they get cancelled or something awful happens and and uh you know their followers all leave or they get judged or someone just starts hating on them and and many times you know I got to be there for them and it's uncomfortable
it's difficult but I'm like It's just tough season so you choose to be with them and see them through that you don't just bail on everybody but I'm talking about a consistent thing we're talking about here over a period of time if they're not right for the aspiration you have for your life in your peer group limit exposure or make them a maintenance friend like talk to them send them a card once a year but limit exposure is your peer group making you more worldly the way I think about this is like they make me
more informed about other people other topics they're knowledgeable about things I'm not knowledgeable about they have diversity of opinion that I don't understand or no they're cultured they're smart they uh have a different perspective is your peer group opening you up to the world in some way outside of your little bubble diversity and understanding of different cultures ideas philosophies it's why all of you I really hope that you will have worldly friends who have a otherworldly perspective on something if you're a republican I'll have lots of Democrat friends if you're a Democrat I we have
lots of Republican friends if you're somebody who is Catholic I hope you have lots of LDS friends and I hope you have lots of Muslim friends like I hope you're somebody who just like has a worldly perspective because one of the things you want most in the world is to be accepted to be seen to belong well so does everyone else it's just that everyone has different thoughts beliefs preferences and when you understand everyone's got those different things like Oh okay that's cool it doesn't mean you have to agree it just means you have to
be open one easy way to become more worldly if you don't have a p group that makes you more worldly just start reading more philosophy just read about how humans have philosophized about things about love life career politics throughout the ages and you just like oh get them a perspective be a deep reader on History to try to understand how things have happened in the world so that you can get some worldliness to understanding like what happens outside of your own country it also makes sure you don't you know step on quote unquote you know
verbal landmines because you're uninformed about how other people think about things you know there's a reason I've got millions and millions and millions of fans all around the world and I haven't been canceled yet how is that possible well because I try to learn about the world I I try to learn what are they thinking about what are they worried about I might not live there or I might not be from there how do they think what have they been through what's the experience what's their history trying to understand that has made me a little
bit more worldly but allowed me to have more worldly conversations with people which allowed me to reach people around the globe empowered now let me come back to a couple simple thoughts do you receive this from the people around you but do you also give it now I can tell you this is the one that tilts for me a lot like I think a lot of my Social Circles I'm the more empowering person because it's my job right I do this with you guys all day long this is literally all I do I'm a coach
I'm empowering all day long it's my life right it's what I write it's what I teach it's what I do it's what I think about all the time it's what I research it's just like part of my life and I'm sharing that because it's very unbalanced here it's not that I don't have a peer group that also empowers me but I also recognize I give more into that department than others because that's my thing and I also want you to know maybe in one of these areas you feel that you give more here's the thing
if you give more in these areas I don't want you to feel it's unfair whoa hold on Brennan we go deep in this reverence stuff for a second if it becomes about fairness if it becomes about you have to be equal I'm here to tell you you are cheating the gift that is your thing it doesn't have to be their thing see one the reason I'm trying to give you lots of different categories is to understand not everybody's going to be able to give you anything here and you're not going to be able to give
everyone everything here but there's gonna be a few areas where maybe you give more and if you're that person who gives more which I assume many of you are being in this community if you're the person who gives more never become bitter that you get to give more if your needs are unmet you can have that conversation with them but let me Elevate into what a high higher level group feels like a higher level group feels like it's a gift a privilege a blessing to get to give that to other people gifting or giving into
a peer group soon as that becomes the Abundant mentality what do people like let me send them more of that this peer group you're going to have is outstanding it's so whole different it's a different approach and most people just won't take the time it's not that we don't all have the intention and I'm sure everything I'm saying you're like that's a great idea the question is will you will yourself to take the time to do it I hope I'm approaching this from a different angle than you thought of today I hope it's hitting you
in a different way um for me it's important for me I want the people around me to help me feel more faithful more faithful now I actually mean this in two different ways uh some of you will automatically assume like the the faithful part of my spirituality I definitely love being around people and contributing and receiving conversations about spirituality right about for me specific a connection to God and universe it's huge I love when people talk about that stuff anything spirituality I'm like oh that's fascinating that's interesting oh that's an access point that's a thing
I never thought about that I love those friends who just they're encouraging in that way that they give me Faith In My Own process capabilities work effort dream they just sometime around them I just feel like I get more faith in myself too you ever give up on yourself but you had somebody in your peer group encourage you and such a way you got the faith back in who you were not just God but like I mean a certain strength inside of a faith that you could do it that you could endure I love talking
with people who Give Me Faith in a good future faith in myself faith in the timing of the universe those things are all really important to me it's like you know some way they just help cultivate my faith to show up with a positive attitude more often do the people around me help me feel more fulfilled some of you guys been to our events before and uh you met Mel Abraham one of my dear friends in life my buddy Adam Coleman right now I love you brother and we've had the blessing of doing over a
hundred multi-day shows together these two guys when I do an event there's something about them in my life that when we do an event there's just little moments we'll have at the event where we know we're doing something really hard events are really hard but we'll see that we'll encourage it we'll celebrate it and you know we all believe believe in each other I know they're going to do a great job they know I'm going to do a great job that those people they're very rare you're going to have a couple of them in your
whole life who make you take it in uh you know I was with a a friend on tour one time um I was I did a global tour way back in like 2012 I was on this motivational tour around the world and uh a friend of mine I was noticing on that tour he was just giving a speech I mean we were talking thousands and thousands of people in other countries we're know Johannesburg we were out in Singapore we were we we were in think of the the big audiences like Sydney uh Copenhagen we were
all around the world these cities and countries all around and I could see was just kind of the jet leg was hit him like talked to 3,000 people came off stage it just kind of like and I was like bro and I grabbed him and I walked him back so he could see the audience and I just pulled him and go they're still clapping take this in man good job he still tells that story today when we're in a group of people I need you to feel life more the people around you should make you
feel more connection to meaning purpose but also take it in integrate it fulfilled feeling fulfilled satisfied joyous happy connected to what you just did even if it's just a fist bump from someone going damn it means something you need people like that it's different but also be that person help people feel fulfilled the higher you go up in high performers the less they tend to hear that from someone because everyone just assumes it's there but often isn't for those leaders out there you got to encourage your leader friends those people often don't get that sense
of they take it in I want to make sure part of your peer group is making you more skilled at what you do if you're a public speaker be around other great public speakers if you're an online marketer be around other online marketers if you're a coach be around coaches I have a friend who's an amazing photographer and I was talking with him and found out he doesn't hang out with any other photographers I'm like you don't know any other great photographers like no I'm better than most of them I'm like you need to you
can't be the smartest person in the room you need to find a person more skilled with you because that's what leveling up a peer group means it's like you're not always the person in the peer group that's the leveled up one most of my peer group is leveled up they're above me and I don't feel insecure about that I don't feel impostor syndrome about that I'm like I'm pumped to learn from these people I want you to people have higher skill than you surround yourself with them how Brendan how get in their proximity ask them
those four questions what do they need what do they do they love who they love to meet who do they love the most talk to them about that a lot send them resources about them a lot make those connections a lot does my life feel enriched because I'm around this person do I feel more enriched around this person meaning like life feels like more rich with especially for me like deeper emotions there's an everyday richness of life like life becomes more present or vibrant or deep or meaningful I don't know where the word enriched was
the only word I could come up with like having them in my life my life feels enriched because of it not rich wealthy money just enriched lucky to be around them they have character Ethan Willis if you're watching this you're that guy from your life like life just feels enriched because he's got such character in his life my life feels enriched because I'm in his proximity connected Network meaning I'm going to connect you with people and you're going to connect me remember giving and receiving throughout all of these and if you've been studying with me
for a long time I hope you did score yourself on all of these I hope you did think about the people in your life is there anyone who you could give this to is there anyone you need to ask this from most of the peer groups and the people I meet I focus on this stuff that takes care of itself most networking people tell you just do this to new people and I'm like actually start at home family friends team co-workers current clients current connections do this stuff with more this takes care of itself I
did this so good in my life that this I I can call multiple presidents I can talk with most CEOs of most companies around the world like this just happened because I did this this builds your life this builds your reputation this builds the network I love to have a peer group that's galvanized oh I love that word so much hope I spelled it right yeah galvanized a a galvanized group here's what that means to me when I talk with one person or the group I just feel like galvanized for life I feel more motivated
I feel more driven I feel more excited or aspirational or ambitious and that the group becomes Galvanizing in itself in which the group goes we got to get together more and when that those two things happen that the individuals in the group all Galvanize each other to do better live better build better grow better make a bigger difference when they do that individually but as a group they go we got to get together again we got to run that Marathon together we we got to take on this project we gotta go vacation together we gotta
you know have some wine together we gotta we got whatever it is that gets the group together and they're galvanized to me they're like I can't wait to see each other again when are we GNA see each other again when that happens it might only be with a small circle of three or four friends it might be for me in my industry I bring together maybe 15 or 20 people like that quite often like when that is happening it's just like your whole life feels more like you can't wait to see them and every time
you talk with them you're like I'm firing up I so I mean I would say the gift of being a coach in my life brought all those people in my life I don't know what it is from the clients I have I love talking to my clients to the other coaches I know I love learning what they're doing to the creators I know what are you doing that worked oh that's amazing to the you know corporate CEOs I know like wow you're building that that's amazing like I get I get fired up and that's how
you know you've leveled up this group the people around you in your Social Circle they lift you up why because of most of this stuff they ask about you they're giving into you and they're receptive and I think that's important you have a peer group that is giving and receiving in these 10 ways so I'm going to ask you one more time score your current groups or your current friends or your current teammates your current workers your current clients score them so one to 10 in both giving and receiving for each categories Workshop that through
identify the people you need to reach out to and connect with every single week be asking somebody these four questions right hey I'm just sending you a note I'm wondering what are you working on that you love what do you need some help with who you trying to meet tell me about your family tell me about someone you love making those connections it can be on the phone phone it can be an audio it can be a text get an email just open up a recurring consistent approach to building up this peer group I think
if you start from home with your family with your friends with your current team your current coach workers your current clients your current industry or career Friends start there and just watch you go boom and over a series of years all of a sudden you got greater depth in these relationships and they've introduced you to so many more people and one day I mean I look at the last 20 years of doing all of this and I just look at this huge peer group of people I have all around the globe because I just kept
doing this over and over and over and over over I'm it's like I'm astounded by my network and I began not knowing anybody I began awkward I was confidently awkward just be confidently awkward but just be in motion developing a relationships with people adding value in and noticing who brings this and when they bring any of this stay closer increase frequency when they're low scoring on any of this communicate that to them if it's appropriate or decrease frequency do this over and over and over and over and over again and one day you're just like
I can't even believe the people I get to hang out with I really leveled up this group this group loves getting together these people galvanize me and you will know you've done the real stuff of personal development [Music]
