so I was approached the other day I went out to a gathering by some guy right who apparently watches this channel he was so excited to see me and instead of saying hello the first words that actually came out of his mouth were my girlfriend is always liking other guys pictures on social media should I be worried my simple answer to him was yes if you would like to find out the reasoning for which I gave that answer then this video is for [Music] you welcome back my name is Jessica this is my channel now
if this is your first time here remember to smash that like button subscribe to the channel if you want more of this content and so you don't miss anytime I post and you'll be glad you did now the fact that you're second guessing yourself as to whether your girlfriend should be liking other guys posts and pictures and social media indicates to me a few things it tells me that you have doubts about your relationship you have insecurities about something and you most likely don't trust her I don't care how many excuses you're giving yourself at
this very point in time but there's something seriously and obviously wrong before the end of this video I'm going to tell you exactly what you need to do if your girlfriend's social media habits are causing you concern particularly if she's consistently liking other guys posts now before I get into that however let's focus on her for one minute there are few questions that I believe are important to ask yourself what kind of personality does your girlfriend have what are her social media habits and number three I think is important to believe is what does her
future look like let me tell you why I believe that these questions you should ask yourself are Paramount number one when we talk about what kind of personality your girlfriend has it's important because understanding a girlfriend's personality or your girlfriend's personality can provide insight into why she engages with social media the way she does right for instance if she has a very sociable friendly personality liking pictures may be a natural extension of her social behavior with no intent Beyond being friendly or courteous on the other hand if her personality is more introverted or she doesn't
typically engage much on social media her liking other guys pictures could indicate something more significant that might Merit a conversation second question I asked was what are social media habits so analyzing her social media habits can clarify whether the behavior is a part of a pattern or an exception if she generally likes many posts from various people regardless of their agender then her actions may not be a cause for concern however if she specifically and frequently likes post from other guys this might indicate that she's seeking a certain type of attentional connection which could be
a red flag in the context of your relationship right third question what does a future look like now the question is a bit more abstract but just as critical if you ask me it prompts you to consider her Ambitions the trajectory and how her current actions align with all those for instance if her future plans are closely intertwined with a relationship and she seems committed her social media interactions might be less concerning and shouldn't be a bother right however if there's a disconnect between her online behavior and her expressed commitment to the future of your
relationship then it's a signal that there's an underlying issue but yet for example she always talks about getting married to a filthy rich man meanwhile you're just an average Joe getting by if your girlfriend is someone who dreams of these things then you may want to either up your game or throw in the towel her sights are obviously higher than yours or what you can currently provide for her at the moment now before you click off this video there's a lot more let's spare a few minutes for some introspection cuz I believe it's not just
about looking at her but also looking at ourselves for a moment a few moments ago I spoke about how this may be more about you and less about her remember that is the real reason due to your own insecurity for example are the guys whose pictures and post she's liking physically more attractive than you are let's be real do they have beards ripped bodies a six-pack perhaps while you have what I like to call a family pack or a one pack with a strand of hair threatening to protrude from your chin are you simply insecure
with the fact that she's liking pictures and posts of guys who are more attractive than you the good news is for the most part these are all physical attributes that you can attain if you work on yourself now click on the shopping tab that pops up on the screen to check out some male grooming goodies that you can use there's original beard oil and so many other things that can actually help you in the grooming process now could it also be because these guys on social media who are posting pictures she's liking are living a
perceived lifestyle that you currently cannot afford that of course will shake anyone and that's okay but what is it what's the real reason you have an issue with her social media habits you don't have to admit it to me but you have to admit it to yourself perhaps the real reason is a combination of these things you know your girlfriend's a huge flood she's looking at other men who are seemingly better off than you and that's making you feel jealous and insecure The Recipe for Disaster so how do you deal if you find yourself in
such a situation now I think you can pursue these Solutions and I've got seven of them I'll share them now now the first thing you need to do is to reflect on your feelings recognizing what your feeling helps you to articulate your concerns clearly without confusing or mixed messages knowing why certain actions bother you will provide insights into your own values your insecurities your expectations within that relationship that you have with her understanding your feelings will help guide your response when you understand your feelings you're more likely to approach the situation with empathy towards your
partner fostering a healthier conversation when you're aware of your feelings you can approach the situation from a solution oriented perspective aiming for outcomes that benefit the relationship instead of going against the grain number two what you want to do is evaluate your trust levels assess the level of trust in your relationship I mean trust is foundational and if social media interactions are causing distrust it's important to address address the issue directly when trust is strong you're less likely to interpret innocent actions or to become overly concerned about social media interactions trust helps to alleviate worry
anxiety about her actions both online offline leading to a more relaxed and comfortable relationship trust is important because it's it allows both Partners to maintain your Independence and your friendships outside of the relationship which is a healthy and important um ingredient for personal growth number three communicate openly have an honest conversation with your girlfriend engaging in dialogue demonstrates respect for each other's feelings and viewpoints rather than making assumptions discussing issues before they Fester can prevent resentment from building up which can be obviously toxic to the relationship you know so express your feelings Without accusing or
blaming use eye statements to convey how you feel when she likes other guys posts when you communicate openly you can negotiate and reach compromises that respect both your needs and boundaries by talking about what makes you uncomfortable you encourage each other to engage in behaviors that contribute to healthy relationships number four you want to set boundaries and this is a very key Point boundaries ensure that both Partners respect each other's Comfort levels and expectations clearly established boundaries can prevent misunderstandings about what is acceptable behavior within a relationship discuss what each of you considers appropriate online
Behavior while you guys are dating establish boundaries that you both feel comfortable with plus when boundaries are crossed when you have them in place it provides a clear guideline for addressing the issue and resolving the conflict it's like hey we agreed to do this you're going against the grain what's going on here number five consider perspective understanding her viewpoint allows you to see things from her side and appreciate her feelings and thoughts it ensures that decisions and judgments are not one-sided so try to understand our perspective I mean liking posts on social soci media can
be a platonic habitual action with no deeper meaning when you show your willingness to consider her perspective it encourages her to communicate honestly and openly by understanding her perspective you may find that her actions are not as personally impactful as initially perceived as you initially thought right which will balance your emotional reaction and response number six focus on the relationship strengthen your relationship by spending more time together getting to know each other better building intimacy reinforcing the reasons why you're together a strong relationship can alleviate insecurities that may arise from external interactions from other people
looking in and interfering with your relationship such as things that happen on social media it reaffirms to both partners that the relationship is a priority over other distractions and potential conflicts a focused and intentional relationship builds resilience it enables Partners to handle challenges and stresses more effectively and finally I say Seek understanding not control Ro and guys pay attention to this particular point it's important to differentiate between seeking understanding and attempting to control your partner's Behavior the latter can be damaging to the relationship seeking understanding rather than trying to control behavior is important because it
respects her right to Independence and self-expression which is fundamentally a healthy thing to have in a relationship when you seek to understand it shows that you value and respect your part part's choices and perspectives if you attempt to control her it can lead to resentment whereas seeking understanding understanding can help maintain a positive flow a positive energy it allows both of you to grow and learn from each other without feeling restricted or micromanaged a relationship built on understanding rather than control is typically stronger and more resilient to challenges including those that arise from say social
media interactions I'll wrap up now I mean should you be worried if she's always liking other guys pictures on social media I still maintain that yes you should be you should be worried for yourself and for her my name is Jessica catch you in the next video cheers
