is embarrassment holding you back in life are you constantly ashamed of doing anything and you're constantly afraid of other people's opinion so you don't really get anything done honey that is the biggest prison you can live in you see the way I grew up was ever since I was young I was told to care about my reputation care about my family's reputation and it was so indoctrinated into my minds and into the minds of my siblings to always act a certain way and never shame the family because otherwise you would be offed at some point
I started getting tired of it and I realized that I cannot achieve anything in life if I am going to follow this mindset so I completely changed my life around when I stopped feeling embarrassed for anything and in this video I will show you how you can do the same before we get into the video I would like to mention that this video is sponsored by better help better help is an online therapy platform that can easily connect you with a licensed therapist that can help with any issue you might be facing better help also
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betterhelp.com wizard list clicking that link will not only help support this channel but it also gives you 10% off your first month at better he hi guys my name is Li and welcome back to my channel okay let's get into it first things first realize that shame and embarrassment is not your natural state why do I say this and we are born as babies we are not born with shame we are not born with embarrassment we don't know what that is a baby just authentically themselves a child is as well until the parent starts to
indoctrinate them with their own belief system that they have been taught from their own parents you know it goes on for generations and generations so they put these belief systems that are toxic onto their own children so the starts to think like oh my God if I do this that's going to be embarrassing oh my God if I do this then that's going to be embarrassing okay this is how I have to act in society because this is what is accepted so the child basically starts to believe that if I do it this way then
I'll be accepted but it it starts to neglect its authentic self now when this happens the child becomes very insecure and what happens later on is you have an insecure adult because any issue that an adult has comes from their childhood you want to fix the adult go back to their childhood so what you need to realize then is okay I wasn't born with shame I was not born with embarrassment I was born with authentically being myself my parents put the these limiting beliefs onto me and then you have to ask yourself now what do
I believe what do I stand for and I'm not saying like things that are bad or go do criminal activities but I mean if you're doing something that doesn't harm anyone and makes you happy then who is anyone to say that you shouldn't be doing that another thing is forgive yourself for your past mistakes a lot of people still carry shame from the past you might have done something in the past that either you did like to yourself and it was very bad or you did to someone else and you hurt them and it was
very bad now you might have evolved from that you learned your mistake and you never repeated again and you were truly remorseful okay you changed and it's okay to acknowledge that you have changed it's okay to say I'm not that person anymore I don't align with the person that I was years before you know if you're constantly going to blame yourself for what happened in the past and constantly feel like oh I don't deserve a good life because I did this in the past then you're self- sabotaging yourself honey sometimes we have to move on
you cannot keep looking there and expect a bright future to come because you're stuck in the past and the past doesn't exist anymore there's nothing you can do right now and change the mistake you made there's nothing you can do and change what happened to you the only thing you can do right now is look in front of you look in the present and see okay what do I have now what can I create now with what I have how do I move forward also realize that at some point you have to let your your
brain move on because a lot of you guys you guys are constantly replaying past mistakes past traumas all these things and what happens is your body and brain constantly believes you're in the same state so what happens is you're constantly still depressed you never feel different than you felt before and you know why I realized this I was doing the same thing so constantly I was trying to heal all my traumas I've healed the big traumas then I was working on any trauma there's left but what happened then is I was constantly still depressed why
because my brain believes that I'm still in a traumatic State because anytime there is a trauma that comes up I'm hyperfocused on it and I'm triggered by it instead of letting it slide and be like okay you can go now this is the past and not fighting it I would hyperfixate on it and because of that I was constantly still depressed no matter if I even if I was out of the situation I was still depressed you had heartbreak right at some point you need to let go of that Madness from it why because the
brain when it constantly feels that sadness it thinks the situation is all happening over and over and over again if you constantly feel embarrassed for something the brain thinks that you're doing something embarrassing over and over again so that is what you will constantly feel you will constantly have fear inside of yourself and you're never able to move on and also own your mistakes own whatever you did say okay I did it if someone brings it up to you and oh you used to be like this oh you did this remember remember remember say yes
I remember and I changed and I evolved what now what do you guys want me to do now you if you are the one that is constantly shaming yourself for the thing that you did yeah that's when it becomes embarrassing but when you own that when you own what happened and when you own what you're ashamed about no one can hold it over your head only you have power over that no one can make you feel embarrassed no one can make you feel ashamed when you like what you do when you feel that you're like
you know what I'm doing a good thing I I like what I'm putting out whether it's artistically whether you're creating something and you're like you know what I love what I put out that's good enough no one can make you feel embarrassed only you can do that to yourself you can allow people to make you feel like that another thing is realize that shame is like living in a prison of other people's minds you are their little puppet they can make you feel anything they can make you feel sad they can make you feel happy
like why would you do that have you looked at other people see all the people that are trying to shame you embarrass you put you down why do they want to put you down because they see something in you that you cannot see in yourself but they see it people that are down no one puts them down cuz they're not a competition but it's always the people that have something there's always the people that have this thing in them whether it's a light or an energy that people want to bring down because they see something
in you and once you start to see that thing in yourself you will be incredibly powerful they cannot stop you a person that understands who they are and their power is Unstoppable why would you want to live in a prison like that imagine you're 80 years old tomorrow and you realize I've lived my whole life for other people I live my whole life just for other people's opinion do you want to live like that you know how fast we age you know how fast you'll be 80 years old and regret your whole life tomorrow all
of these people will die in the end and then what and then what you lived for them but they they aren't even here anymore also the same people that you care so much about about their opinion and you don't want to embarrass yourself in front of them these people are super weird I've never met a person never I've never met someone that is not weird that they have weird like things they they have weird behaviors but this is very normal this is very normal this makes as a human being so who are you trying to
impress here no one is perfect so you're trying to portray a perfect image to imperfect humans and that makes sense to you in the same way people are hypocrites okay the same things that they will judge you for and shame you for is the same thing that they will do behind closed doors these people are the ones that will will be the first one to judge others why because they in day out these people judge themselves they hate themselves they're miserable so they want to pick up other people so they feel the same way don't
lower yourself for miserable people these people are in the dark leave them there also understand people switch sides very quickly okay it's all fun and games and everyone laughs in the beginning they'll laugh at you when I was starting out my social media everyone was laughing at me because it was embarrassing and haha I was a joke okay I'm not a joke anymore now it's like oh I used to know her oh my God I people make up stories that they used to know me switch sides so quickly once they see that someone becomes popular
or once they see that other people like them because people are so insecure the only thing they do is follow the crowd are you trying to impress these people these people you're trying to live like whatever for these people you're embarrassed of doing anything just for these people that will tomorrow be by your side once you make it today they're shaming you tomorrow they will say oh I used to know her also just stop trying to be liked in in general stop if someone tells you you're smart that doesn't mean you're smart if someone tells
you you're stupid that doesn't mean you're stupid okay these are all comments from people from their own perception of you none of it is facts okay someone can tell you you're smart but for someone else you're the most stupid person on Earth same way not everyone will find you pretty not everyone will find you funny or like a fun person or someone to look up to they will not and is that wrong no because people come from different culture cultures people come from different backgrounds they have a different like Beauty standard all these things you
cannot fit in everywhere and start to be okay with that not everyone will like you in life once you are just so okay with being disliked no one can take that from you if like for me for example if someone tells me like oh I don't like your content okay oh I don't think you're beautiful okay oh I don't think you're smart okay that's what you think is that fact no no but that's what you think and you're entitled to your opinion but I don't care about your opinion you see also understand how listening to
other people's opinions and whatever they think is true when you start to do that on a regular basis you will stop trusting yourself when you don't trust yourself you become very very insecure what happens is imagine you have to make a decision right because you feel like you don't you are not capable of making decisions on your own you constantly consult other people you ask them what you should do so you're living according to their opinion so when something happens and you have to decide for yourself you'll be like oh no I I can decide
for myself you're like a child you're like I can because I don't know I don't know what's best for me but you do you do these people don't these people will never be in your shoes these people don't know what it's like to be you so who are you listening to people that can only give outside opinion you should be able to listen to what comes in and out and you should be observing in it okay but then still make your own decision and still say I am the one that I trust I am the
one that I go to to make the final decision and no one else I'm the kind of person I will consult people when I'm making a decision but at the end I will always do what I want and everyone knows this and sometimes I make mistakes but you know what I made the decision to make that mistake so at the end I'm still confident in myself because whether it went wrong or whether it went right Liz made the decision and not other people because their opinions are not more important than mine their voice is not
more important than mine also understand that you deserve whatever blessing you have or whatever blessing you want okay God didn't put you on Earth to struggle I want you to stop believing this this is the most the biggest lie I've seen people tell each other that oh we're meant to Struggle No struggle is not cool not in relationship not in friendship not in work it it's not meant to be a struggle if you need to struggle to keep something together like a relationship friendship or a job then it's not for you something that is for
you you will not need to be struggling for it you will not need to be desperate for it it will align with you and it will come in the highest way when you need to struggle it's a sign it's not for you and you're holding on to something that you need to let go of when you put those limitations on yourself or you shame yourself for wanting a better life or something bigger or whatever you will not achieve that thing because at the end of the day even though you want it you're still telling yourself
that what you want is a bad thing but who told you it's a bad thing who told you because people always say like oh if you want more like more luxuries in your life you're a vain person no maybe some people genuinely like luxuries maybe they like living the big life why do you care some people genuinely don't want that some people want a simple life and that that's also good right why do you judge the one but not the other whatever you want whatever good you want you deserve it just because you're alive just
because you're on this Earth and you can create the most beautiful life for yourself you don't have to listen to people that say like Oh no you're supposed to suffer no no no you're supposed to suffer take that all that suffering on this Earth and put it onto you okay you have that miserable life but when I'm 80 tomorrow honey I have my best life I know this for sure Liz lived her best life also realize that shame is a fearful emotion and it keeps you stuck see the people that have no embarrassment and have
have no shame they get the furest in life you you can see them online a lot of people online are making so much money and a lot of people are laughing at them but they're also laughing from their Mansions at you guys so who who has the last laugh cuz at the end of the day they're still creating their stuff they're still putting it out there yeah you find it funny but they have don't have a lot of financial issues anymore and they're the one getting financially blessed because they're not afraid to be themselves online
when you constantly have is like oh this is not good enough oh this will be embarrassing oh this and that yeah you will not create anything you will not do anything in your life and you'll live a whole life wasted thinking about like oh my God people would have find this embarrassing it's embarrassing to be old and have a life lived for other people and last but not least I want you to realize that you are good enough now you are good enough now who you are with what you have and that's what you have
to do right now you have to like be who you are take what you have and create what you can don't look at oh my God I used to oh my God I am going to what do you have now what can we do now with what you have okay what what can we create what are you good at what do you love to do what do you want to improve I used to have this me mentality of like oh if I do this and if I'm at that State then I will start and then
I will do it and I was constantly seeking a Perfection that will never be there because like I said people might look at you someone might say oh this perfect another person might say this is and both are not wrong you know it's their opinion so you can never reach that Perfection so for example if I hadn't started three years ago with my YouTube channel I would not be where I'm at right now which is much more wisdom about things I read much more I also learned these things whilst I was going you know but
imagine I had never uploaded my first video 3 years ago I would not be in this position imagine I was scared of people or I I was scared because all my family this and that no this was beneficial for everyone at the end okay and I took that risk because I believed in myself when no one believed in me I believed in myself and I refuse to give up on myself and you should do the same thing other people will never show up for you like you have to show up for yourself you know one
day it's going to be you like when you're sick or whatever or or like you don't look good anymore or whatever like so a lot of people will leave your life because they cannot benefit from you anymore but who has to stay with you you you you're the only one you will always have in the end and that's the one you're neglecting for people that will leave your life tomorrow if you can't benefit them never ever dim your lights for people that enjoy being in the darkness anyways guys thank you so much for watching but
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um I love you guys so much and yeah thank you so much for watching love you I hope this helped bye
