do you struggle with abuse in your family it's a really hard question to answer no one wants to think their parents are abusive but many parents are hundreds of thousands of kids around the world struggle with familial abuse every year the problem is most kids don't know what abuse actually looks like to help you understand the markers of emotional and physical abuse here are eight signs that your parents are not treating you the way they should and before we begin we want to make a disclaimer that this video is for educational purposes only if you
relate to any of these signs on this list please reach out to someone whether you looking for help or just a friend to talk to call any of the hotlines listed in the description below no matter how stressed or alone you feel remember that help is just a phone call away now let's get back to the video 1 they're physically violent have your parents ever been physically violent with you if a parent uses any kind of physical violence they're abusive many abusive parents make excuses for their physical violence but according to the US Department of
Health and Human Services there is never a good reason to physically abuse a child if this is happening in your family you have an abusive parent - they're verbally abusive verbal abuse can be a tricky thing to identify many kids don't realize their parents are even being abusive but personal attacks criticisms and other wounding comments are a common form of emotional abuse verbal attacks may never leave physical scars but aggressive and deflating comments can damage a child emotionally after years of verbal abuse many children struggle to rebuild their confidence and self-esteem verbal aggression from a
parent is child abuse no matter how you slice it 3 they get excessively angry how often does your parent get angry do they raise their voice on a regular basis excessive anger is a common sign of both emotional and physical abuse parents who explode and fly off the handle tend to lose control in the midst of their anger they may lash out at their children even if they apologize afterwards parents who lose the tempers and hurt their children are abusive or they make you compete for love do your parents withhold their love do you have
to go out of your way just to get their attention abusive parents will treat love like a tool they love you when you're doing what they want but when you do anything else that love disappears abusive parents use their love to manipulate and control you but parents should love and support their kids no matter what in a healthy parent-child relationship love is a basic assumption if your parents make you compete for their love or attention they may be abusive five they neglect responsibility do your parents ignore you many abusive parents show little interest in their
children they don't know where their kids are or what they're doing and they usually don't care abusive parents pay attention to their kids only when their kids are causing them trouble otherwise abusive parents remain distant and oblivious six they isolate you from others do your parents isolate you from other members do they lie to keep you under their thumb isolation is the form of emotional abuse parents will limit their child's ability to escape from painful situations or stand in the way of their happiness or success 7 they abuse drugs or alcohol according to the US
Department of Health and Human Services abusing drugs and alcohol is a common sign of parental violence not only do these substances distort the brain but they're commonly associated with destructive and neglectful lifestyle choices substances influence decision making impaired judgement and alter a person's mood all of those factors can lead to dangerous or abusive interactions between a parent and child and 8 they threaten your well-being as your parent threatened to hurt or disrupt your daily life many abusive parents before using physical violence threaten their children the possibility of violence will still intimidate or emotionally damaged a
child threats of any kind are unacceptable from a parent children should feel safe and comfortable in their homes when abusive parents make threats they're teaching their kid to be afraid of their own family have you or someone you know dealt with abusive parents if you can relate to this video always know that you're not alone and there is always someone to talk to and someone who can help if you found this video helpful share it with someone who might benefit from it click the like button and subscribe for more psychology content and as always thanks
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