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bunch of people that will say yeah well I have a family so you know it's all great idea for you to just go out there and go crazy I have people to support you need to listen stop saying that stop saying any of those things every single person who has ever done anything worthwhile or exceptional or difficult or extraordinary anyone whether it's great artists or authors or mathematicians or whatever the it is everyone encounters difficulties there is no easy Road it does not exist it is impossible everyone has issues if you have time to pursue

a hobby if you have time to do anything in your life you can better yourself and here's one way you never better yourself when you come up with excuses for why other people are successful and you're not that is dangerous when you give yourself an escape yeah well that's easy for you to say you know you do this you did TR trust me everybody has a hard Road I wanted to jump out of window several times during my young life I wanted to jump in front of a train just ended because there too much pressure

not really but you know what I'm saying theoretically we all go through hard times we all go through depression we all do go through doubt and then moments in your life where it's really difficult and you're trying to figure out what the your path is going to be it's hard as but Stephan and I were talking about this before the podcast starts that that is what makes you a person and those difficult moments are what build your character show me a great man who's the son of a great man you that's what we're saying these

kids that are born billionaires you're you're you're never going to be a self-made person you have a backup trust for your backup trust for your trust and you you're man I'm fascinated by martial arts I'm fascinated by comedy I'm fascinated by many many different things I don't understand when people say they're bored because if I had the time to live a hundred lives I'd be speaking different languages I'd be living in different countries I would I would try a number of different careers because I think there's a lot of unbelievably fascinating puzzling complex things that

you could study in this world that that's just me and my personality but that's a personality also that I've cultivated over years of you like that as a kid too well I was involved in martial arts very early and I think that is one of the things that motivated me to uh explore difficult tasks because through difficult tasks you learn an incredible amount about yourself and you through through the fire of competition you get to understand you get to understand motivation you get to understand the resistance that you have inside your mind to doing hard

work you get to understand the rewards of discipline like you don't truly appreciate relaxation unless you've worked hard and that is the yin and the Yang of life and I've said this to to the point of people getting sick of it but one of the worst decisions a man can make I can only speak for men obviously um is to be comfortable I I don't think you should try to be comfortable I think what you should try to do is try to earn comfort and if you if you can get a day off where you

you you've worked hard and you've accomplished goals that day off will be so sweet when I work hard and I sit in front of the TV I enjoy the [ __ ] out of it I put my feet up I have a nice drink you know I I enjoy sh that nids your back or something like that I do have one of those really those are great they're great right I don't use it that much though honestly I'm more of a workaholic than I should be probably if if the the balance was I probably should

relax more than I do but I never feel like I earned it but that's part of the reason why when I do feel like I earned it I can enjoy it it's cuz I am more connected to the idea that I need to to accomplish things and to and it's not like for anybody else's benefit other than my own or anybody else's approval other than my own I just when I have a task whether it's uh I today I'm going to write a th000 words you know or 2,000 or whatever the number is if I

don't do that I don't I'm not I write things down like I'll write down a list of things that get accomplished that day and if I don't accomplish that I'll get sick like I'll it'll drive me crazy if I can't fill out that list that drives me nuts you know but that's what led me to be a championship level martial artist that's what led me to achieve the it's like that it's the reinforcement of those goals like understanding that that you can achieve those goals it's going to be difficult you're going to push through the

difficulty and then you're going to understand what difficulty truly is and how much of it is just mental how much of it is just in your mind this adversity to to uh difficult task or to struggle you know and a lot of people have that they're scared they're scared of of complications they're scared of of failure failure is a big one that people are afraid of but failure is one of the most important things you could ever have as far as like the motivation to do things differently one of the reasons why I think that

I'm good at friendships and relationships is because I've failed at them in the past one of the things that I'm good at comedy is cuz I've bombed on stage one of the reasons why I'm good at work is because I've been a worker in the past and I know the the feeling of failure the feeling of U of Shame of being like a weak non-motivated lazy person that's a weak feeling it's a you don't respect yourself you know and I have this phrase that I use all the time to people to to try to motivate

people I say that be the hero in your own movie pretend that if your life was a movie and your life started now what would the hero do what would the person that you respect to what would the person that you admire person that inspires you what would they do well do that and if you do that you slowly build momentum you like today I did what I wanted to do today I started a class in yoga I did this I did all these things that I was saying I wasn't going to do and now

I feel momentum and momentum is a very important point in people's lives that's why some folks don't like to take days off CU they feel like they're losing momentum and they sort of have to restart the wheel up again after a vacation and there's a lot of folks that live life on a cushy cloud of marshmallows and [ __ ] and then one day something goes wrong and I mean that's why spoiled kids are so sad like a spoiled young boy is one of the saddest things ever a young boy that becomes a man and

can't take care of himself and his dad has to keep on rescuing him his dad has to keep on bailing him out of situations and giving him money I've met guys like that and that is a crippling Affliction when they don't have the character themselves to be able to get by in life they constantly need someone to help them and bail them out even as a grown man I've met guys in their 40s that still need help from their parents I'm like what the man you're never going to get it right because somewhere along the

line they didn't face enough of the adversity to realize that there's sometimes you just got to get up and get done there's sometimes where you have to pull yourself up and you have to push forward even if you want to stay in bed and if you don't do that and you just keep calling on your daddy and your daddy keeps rescuing you you never develop those tools you never develop that ability to recognize what you're doing wrong with your life cuz you're you're soft you got a cushiony you got a safety net a safety net

for your safety net say if you had like a 20-year-old and he's just a Doper where he wake and bakes and doesn't get anything done he just always always like hanging out with his friends and playing video games and he's just a loser I I I wish there was a way you could show someone like that like I know that you're getting some comfort and satisfaction out of just laying around doing nothing eating getting fat but your life would feel better and richer if you had a goal you chase that goal you accomplish some things

you would get this boost of confidence you get this boost of self-esteem like whatever it is that you're into doing maybe you're into drawing comic books maybe you're into making Pottery or sculptures or but find whatever the that is and pursue that instead of doing nothing like the people that are doing nothing those are the real PE look doing something might be as simple as like that Alex honold guy he just climbs rocks but he's world class Rock clim it's something but and it's also a goal of of his and he's also the best at

it right yeah but those those people who smoke pot all day and do that those are also the guys who hate Joe for being in shape you know what I'm saying or being disciplined or get on Kevin Hart's Instagram and hate on you know what I'm saying cuz they don't it's it's their own insecurities I see what you're saying but I I would assume they would get motivated by seeing other people do something with their lives like that should be motivating not yeah but you grew up if you grew up with losers and you're around

a bunch of people with attitudes especially if it's in your household I was very lucky that uh both my mom and my stepdad they're not they're not they're the least hater people I've ever met in my life they're just not haters in any way like if someone's doing well they're always like wow look at this guy like wow look at her wow look at him there was never any hate in my house in terms of uh other people's success but if you grow up with a dad and your dad's like yeah these all these rich

[ __ ] this he thinks he's a badass and this you know there's people that look at other people's success and instead of saying wow that guy did a lot of work the way I'm a successful person but the way I look at Kevin Hart he exhausts me you know or the rock those guys exhaust me I'm like Jesus Christ like I feel lazy next to those guys like they do so much like those guys are so overbearingly ambitious you know but some people they see that and they compare themselves and they don't like it

so they started getting really sh and it's like a natural feeling to try to chip away at that person the worst people that you know are the people that don't have a good self judge that everything they do is awesome those never grow anywhere that's a huge issue with comedy um when you run into people that have terrible comedy sets but think they did great like we would always GRE fit Simmons and I would always talk about that with like open micers like there's people that hear Phantom Labs like they think they're doing great and

they have this delusional self opinion where everything they do is awesome and they don't know why they're not successful already they don't don't know why they're not famous and those people I believe I mean in some sort of a weird narcissistic way you could look at it this way that those people are there to teach you this is the consequences of not feeling that awful feeling when you fail I was talking to Burr um a couple weeks ago he did a set at The Comedy Store and I saw part of it it was uh it

was killing and then I ran into him in the hallway and uh I go oh man main room show was great right and he goes yeah up at the end though I tried to hang in there too long the last bit bom like he was just it was rotten at him that the last bit like he goes I hung in there too long I should have got off with the bit before that like but you know when I was in there he was killing you know but that wasn't in his mind the success was not

in his mind this the what was like okay whatever that happened at the end don't do that again you know but that's why he's Bill Burr that's why he's really good you're alone with your thoughts you get an idea of what your thoughts actually are if you live your life just act constantly on the momentum of other people's expectations of you wanting to be liked by these other people you can run into a trap and you you you set up a life that you didn't really want you're you're you're you're trapped in this situation where

you have a mortgage you've got credit card bills you got student loans you have to pay you have a bunch of going on that you have to continue to feed and all that and especially if you have a family and you have to feed them oh my goodness then you're fully locked in you can't take any chances whatsoever and often times people make the mistake of getting stuck and it is just a tactical mistake just like it would be a mistake if you got stuck on a video game just like it would be a mistake

if you followed a map incorrectly and you get stuck in the woods your life is certainly some sort of a journey it's certainly some sort of a journey and we have to all be aware that when we're making Journeys we're not going to always make the right steps and sometimes you have to back up and try again and if you're in a position where you can't back up and try again you've trapped yourself and the system will set out honeypots for people to get trapped in the system will set out the ideas of retirement the

ideas of the golden years providing you benefits providing you a healthy work environment why well because they want people to work for them they don't want people to realize their own dreams and escape and those pain in the ass you got to hire more people and train them and they want to set it up so that you stick around stick around in some sort of an unsatisfying world it's up to you to see that video game problem to see that issue as it comes up on the map no no I think this is a right

turn to see all the problems that could potentially lay in front of you and calculate your your future and then also look around all the people that didn't do it and look at the misery that they're in and learn that you don't want to be like them and then look at the people that are have kind of Taken chances and navigated their way what do they do differently than you what what what objectivity do they have that maybe you lack what insight into their own mistakes are they willing to delve into that you're not that

you step step back and you go you know I don't don't I just don't want to look at myself that closely but the person who's able to look at themselves the closest is going to get the more rational results