My Cheating Wife Begged Me Not To Leave, But I'm Glad I Did Because A Miracle Happened.

my cheating wife begged me not to leave but I'm glad I did because a miracle happened this October will mark 27 years of marriage we have two kids our daughter lives at home with us recently married while waiting for her husband's deployment to the Air Force and our son is a marine and lives on the opposite Coast we've had a rough patch for probably the last 6 months mainly based on me having Ed to be blunt my wife wants a lot of sex and there's only so far I can go I've tried multiple pills but

nothing has worked we use toys and try to get creative but for her it's not the real thing she was becoming more and more distant even lashing out at me saying I didn't love her anymore or that I wasn't attracted to her I've had my own struggles dealing with Ed and I did turn her down for sex sometimes because I feel horrible about how it all goes down knowing she is not fully satisfied my wife is on social media quite a bit and posts a lot not anything crazy but we're different that way I like

to read what my friends are up to but don't post a lot while she is constantly posting for a couple of she started posting a lot of pictures of herself which typically get a lot of her friends telling her how beautiful she is I noticed a guy was all over her posts but figured hey some guy probably has a crush on my wife but my wife would never engage in anything like that so the last few months my wife started becoming more distant while getting upset with me and suggesting I was the one not giving

her enough attention with the whole covid thing she's not working and I'm working full-time at home I figured this was a case of the stress of everything going on but I made an effort to engage even more with her I would come out of my office as much as possible during the day and come down to talk to her she was clearly shutting me down and pushing me away at that point we had a huge blow up where she laid out everything she's unhappy about I'm not giving her what she needs she needs to feel

closeness she needs more intimacy a longer discussion led to her saying our current sex life was a big problem and she craves so badly what no longer works in me I feel awful but don't know what else to try so to get to where things went completely sideways two nights ago we were talking and her phone goes off I was right next to her and it was a Facebook messenger message from a guy the same guy who was heavily engaging with her on Facebook it popped up right in front of us miss you thinking about

you I'm like what the hell is that she starts by explaining that he's just a friend that she knew growing up and he reached out on Facebook they knew each other's family so it really is nothing what proceeded to happen throughout the night was unwinding a series of Lies where I'd learn more and more they've been talking for months but just mening about family and childhood stories then it went to her telling him she's struggling in her marriage but she swears that was it I pushed for her to come clean and it went further they

were exchanging fantasies about what theyd do to each other she was breaking down saying she just needed sex so bad and again we have sex in the sense that we do as much as we can without penetration she finally says I have to go out I promise I'll be back but I know this is horrible and I need to think I almost lost it as she was walking out and and said please don't leave me but I bit my tongue I figured she was going to call a friend or something on talking a girlfriend here

and maybe it was a dick move but it hit me what are the odds she's talking to this guy I went to the Verizon site and looked at her phone logs sure enough it showed a number she had a 30-minute call with right after she left I started doing every bit of research to find out who it was it was getting really late and I was super concerned about why she wasn't coming back I texted a few times but she didn't answer eventually I got a text around 2: a.m. that she's coming home when she

got home I asked what she had done she told me she went to see one of her girlfriends and I said who did you call she said she called her girlfriend I know her friend's number because our families are friends so I said I know you made another call she looked shocked and I said just come clean she said when she left she called him to tell him what was happening I pointed out that she has been continuously lying throughout the night so at that point just come out with all of it so throughout the

night and into the dawn it all came out she said they haven't had sex yet but they were to the point they were planning on it and she said it was definitely going to happen I asked her multiple times throughout the night if it was going to stop and if she was invested in us every time I got a non-committal answer she's confused she feels lost she told me that she wouldn't talk to him at one point but he reached out to her the next day and they spoke for about 20 minutes sorry for rambling

I don't have the first clue what to do I really have no one to talk to it's so weird that she is looked at as a pillar of our community and I'm just a quiet hardworking husband if people were told that there was an affair going on between us I guarantee everyone that knows us would want to know what the hell I've done maybe that doesn't matter but again it just feels like I can't turn anywhere I don't even know how to wrap this up I'm in so much pain like I can feel physical pain

from this my chest is hurting and I feel so sick if you read this far thank you I don't know what to do I'm sorry op I feel like the fact that she was posting pictures on her social media was because she was already talking to this guy I think Ed is never a cause for anyone to stray away from their relationship and look for some sort of validation elsewhere this isn't on you it seems as though she's attacking your masculinity which definitely isn't something you need in a scenario like this in fact it more

than likely makes it worse on you physically additionally by the sounds of it it's due to your wife's own ego and insecurities but there are so many other factors in a relationship that can bring two people together to share intimacy intimacy closeness and security can come from all sorts of angles not just sexually I'm sorry this has happened and I'm sorry this has placed so much pressure on you 3 years later here's an update it was one of the darkest times of my life but I wanted to share this update because in my mind a

miracle happened the night I posted this and I wanted to share that there is definitely hope for the future when your life might seem to be crashing all around you writing the post was very difficult and out of character for me but at the time I felt like I had nobody to turn to if you look look through the thread there's one reply that basically says I've sent you a message I responded and over the next few weeks this woman shared her story with me very similar and gave me advice and support we learned about

each other and eventually developed a friendship we went from Reddit messaging to texting and to calling and eventually we agreed to meet our closest friends were cautioning us to take things slow but something clicked in us and it wasn't long after we met and started seeing each other that we knew we were in love fast forward to 3 years later marriage is in our future I am happier and more in love than I have ever been it's not lost on us that we both shared a horrible experience in infidelity it's admittedly something that bonded us

together but that's also increased our communication abilities as we know we are two people with emotional scars the love and safety that I feel with this woman is immeasurable so I'm sharing this today because it's been 3 years you can and will get through your hardships there is happiness and love out there the best advice I got going through it was to work on myself Eat Right exercise and practice is self-care work on yourself to become better don't worry about everything else and happiness and joy will find you don't give up keep pressing forward and

there are good things to come in your life let's see some Community comments fluid B 8126 says sometimes you need to just meet the right person and Ed what's that I'm glad Reddit came to the rescue obviously the little fellow was protesting what happened to your wife the AL replies my ex-wife pretty much got dumped after meeting up with her guy she's had a couple of boyfriends since she hasn't learned anything since we divorced and she's buzzing through money my grown-up kids have told me they are already talking about what they'll have to do with

mom once she runs out of money I've pretty much cut her out of my life the Mocking Bird asks did the self-care help out with the Ed or do you attribute that to the healthier relationship I'm glad you moved on especially with how long your marriage was at the time it's pretty inspirational I hope the kids like the new wife op replies thee self-care certainly helped I'm much better but I still have good days and bad days but the biggest difference in all of it is being with a partner who specifically told me you're safe

with me we're in this together and she has been true to her word a healthy relationship certainly makes a difference what a beautiful turnout all it takes is someone to accept us just as we are I'm so glad you both have each other op wishing you both well what are your thoughts next up we should never blame ourselves my husband cheated for 3 months and is asking for separation what's next I'm a working mom 40 Fahrenheits with two children 8 fits and four Millions my 41m husband just told me yesterday he cheated on me last

year for 3 months I'm now quite Shell Shocked we've been together since I was 23 that's 17 years of a relationship out of which we've been married for 10 when asked why he said he could not find the emotional connection with me now and plus the lady he cheated on me with is pretty hot I admit I have let self go with parenting and trying to maintain the household when asked if he still loves me he said no and that he felt immense guilt hence he's letting me know four months after he ended that relationship

he also said he felt trapped and that our relationship has evolved into one where we only focus on the kids the thing is he is always facing his computer screen even when I'm in the same room as him with that I thought I was giving him space I'm just done now I've always been his biggest supporter when he told me at the end of last year that he's in debt for 50,000 after lashing out at him for not sharing and always keeping to himself I took out almost all of my savings to help him I'm

the type of wife who gives him a lot of space and never questions his whereabouts as I trusted him he dropped the ball on picking the kids up and doing household chores to focus on his new business and I picked up the slack despite working full-time myself I parent our two happy kids to the best of my abilities and he just said he felt trapped now he's asking for separation he will go look for a lawyer so what should I do next update thank you everyone for their support and advice I'm hesitating to be too

harsh on him as he has been a pretty Hands-On father with the two of them his debt was due to the loans he took out for his studies I have at least stopped some monthly transfers meant for savings and Investments for the children's future studies to give myself some liquidity today is a public holiday in Lou so likely no lawyer is working but I have emailed one to get a consultation for my options my two kids were also sick the younger one had a fever since Friday the husband broke the news he had cheated on

Saturday night and everything is just overwhelming I did not cry much on Friday night but yesterday and today I have been crying not many people to talk to because most of my friends were never divorced please don't mind me posting here now and again I think you have to protect yourself financially op it seems you've provided a lot to him and dug him out of some big holes that kindness isn't often rewarded when going through a divorce I think if your ex is willing to cheat on you without telling you he's capable of much worse

you need to set yourself and your kids up for Success it gets tough but I will get tougher for context my soon to be ex broke the news that he cheated last year two days before we are now on day three my two kids are still sick I broke the news gently to my older child yesterday and she cried she wanted us to stay on as a family of four but this is something I cannot give her and I feel like I have disappointed her she seemed okay today easily frustrated with her online Second Language

homework but that is to be understood I'm giving her lots of hugs today while I work from home my younger one 3 years old turning four by the end of the year is a different case altogether I did not tell him anything yet I don't think he will understand but he woke up at 6:00 a.m. today had stomach pain vomited water on his whole bed and was super clingy today he insisted on sitting on my lap the whole morning while I was working any attempt to peel him off and leave the study room he melted

down I cried when he cried had to tell him mommy is not going anywhere I was hanging laundry earlier and looked down 15 stories I had to tell myself I have two kids who depend on me I am tough and I will get over this please tell me this will get easier update we had a third talk apparently he wants the separation to cool off and he recognizes the need for him to look for a psychiatrist he also asked for us to keep each other updated on our individual therapy progress so that we can go

for couples counseling I don't know about that I'm kind of going into rage mode and preparing for the worst luckily by the time he is ready the boat will have already sailed this would be fun to unpack in front of a psychiatrist separation papers to sign this Friday however I will keep the peace just for the kids update life still goes on post separation well it is day two post signing the separation papers Wayward husband moved out of the house and life still went on for me and the children I do have to wake them

up slightly earlier to get them to school on time but the children have been cooperating and have been relatively obedient with small squabbles I can still cook dinner for them I can still work and earn income I can still do my role as a mother I did not cry in front of him when we went to close a joint account and sign the papers I kept my chin up high he admitted he screwed up and he looked emotional but I don't want to care for his feelings anymore he created a situation where he betrayed me

his silent and biggest supporter and the children I had lunch with my bestie after and cried with her then I went to have my second therapy session and I felt relieved and blessed that I still have my children I still have my Independence and I lost the de dead weight I no longer have to live a life monitoring his space to see if he approves or not I still can set objectives I can make arrangements that make me happy and being able to do this makes me feel thankful tomorrow is my birthday and I have

made plans to get a hair makeover once the helper comes I will be able to put more effort into exercising once I drop some weight maybe I will arrange for a celebratory photo shoot with my two children among tall grasses to commemorate our survival life is still good let's check for one Comm reaction real quick e Blackburn 47 says sounds nuts but I watch videos of caged animals who felt grass for the first time I realized they were like us in a way I was tied to a man and locked down while he explored and

experienced everything without me I didn't know what I was missing because my reality was being his wife and a young mother of two I didn't know about the uncertainties outside of what I knew until I did now my ex is just someone I used to know I have thrived and I love my life in the beginning I was afraid and so extremely hurt but now I embrace my life if I died today despite everything I know I will feel the joy of knowing that I lived a great life dead weight sounds right op seems like

you had three children on your hands this is going to open so many new doors for you you're going to be just fine now you can focus on you and the kids without having someone who doesn't care about you play games and drag you down thoughts should Opie have stuck around for counseling did she make the right choice by leaving thank you for joining us today be sure to like And subscribe and hit that notification Bell so you don't miss out on our next video we'd hate for you to miss one and if you like

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