All right let's do this ask me the most difficult questions about lemon you can think of that an honest in my network the most difficult or whatever you think okay don't ask me like okay I just aged difficult right yes sir very good I was writing this down as well I just be one brother to write this down yes sir sinter I'm going to yes sir yeah okay okay good yes Oh yeah oh okay but give me a specific question that question might ask so we can answer it yes sir sect how about that mod
you right okay just put the bullet point we remember what came before God did what okay okay good okay you've got that hunt was evolution sisters no questions at all on top of you just have all the answers it's good yeah wisely still septage slavery to slum yeah Yes sir what about the suffering of animals humans is that tough question okay fine whatever it's fine yes sir you're suffering yes sir now but there's that tough question because you don't want to be burp in the Hellfire right that's what you do me tough questions how could
you prove revelation came to us innocent how can you prove that I exist that's not really tough but okay so essentially how do you know this is the truth that will take you to paradise Right great yes sir okay yes sir okay but so put that is a different page you're like Muslim question but yes sir good yes thank you finally sister that doesn't know something go that way how can you believe what you get or how can you where it said that that mutt how do you prove the existence of Allah right tough tough
tough question yes sister change good okay yes yeah okay Actually go put that one possibly yeah there you go the one who apostatize is stoning to good stuff okay but you heard that question that's a good question so if someone disobeys a lot for 50 years what isn't a lot to torture them for 50 years they disappeared about 450 years only why did they get the Eternity in the Hellfire everyone see the question one more time someone disobey the light it is 50 years of sins he Should get 50 years of hellfire I mean but
in the worst case a hundred years of hellfire why does he get eternity in the Hellfire brilliant question you should get some kind of a price good question and yes sir where did it come in error okay fine larger than operate yes nobody stay in Calgary permanent fight anything else anything tough yes sister a lot of what questions but okay don't write about hundreds in the notes what's coming up okay yes sir you have Two options you can be right beside and see what happens to her so all right great but now you want me
to answer all these questions right now that the some job that I am green actually you ask all the tough questions and guess what has to answer that later you do so you're gonna answer these questions now you're gonna answer these questions after you know a lot of techniques so it won't be that difficult trust me show me and if you want me to prove it to you I can ask You some of them right now and we'll see how long it takes us to answer them and then we're gonna go through some of the
techniques and you'll see that it takes you a lot it's a lot easier to answer after you know some of the technique but okay let's go forward now so these were all the excuses why or are things that would stop someone from becoming a mister or stop you from being an effective daddy I'm bringing from the place now and They're not just limited to those five on the board they're probably a lot more you know it's like looking going over there you know sit down the street Dawa if you read it it's quite self-explanatory I'm
mostly involved I'm concerned with trying to get us the book talk about things that mean we need skill that we need for the next week or two or maybe the rest of our lives so I don't want to you know sit down I mean obviously who said that already I'm gonna show you when I skip a page it's not a big deal so think I've skipped my skip where it discussed the point number one we did for number two self-explanatory that's why I skipped it point number three self-explanatory so that's why when I skip a
page you can trust that each other that's not a big deal but if you insist put your hand up so why don't you skip that one for example there's one here because if they're here an argument rephrase it say It back to them so this is one of the techniques when someone asks you a question they keep discussing religion with you you explain something to them they say the same thing over and over and over again well that's because you died for our sins and that's why this doesn't matter so you explain you talk look
but Jesus died for sin and that's why you explain again it's been done what they're really Telling you is I don't think you heard me so they're gonna keep repeating it any time not just in Taiwan anything in life your child your friend keeps repeating the same thing over and over to you they're keep repeating it to because they don't think you heard them so the way to get them to stop repeating it is to write their rephrase it to say Baptist let me see if I understand you correctly you're saying that because he Died
for our sins this is enough so now they feel oh they hurt me now they feel comfortable now they stop repeating the article so that's what that was about you know that would be the Internet that's what I'm destroying you the paper I skip through so it's saying you know stick to the point meaning you know just throwing around the pieces of information and just copying and pasting from other sides of it and then plugging it into the chat or whatever the email You know the rules are the same rules of you start with toe
Heath you build on the five pillars think like that you know you give them further you know links for further reading as a general rule men try to communicate with men and women try to communicate with women because you don't want to give the shape on an avenue and so many times you'll get emails or calls and someone will say I started giving this guy Darwin no emotion a woman will say that Now I'm emotionally attached there you know or we have all those Xena devil brothers do all these things that one time I dropped
it this guy told me says you know I let these sisters Berlin for the sake of Allah I said aren't you sweet let me just run through the page you know so this is just told you the six love about the boat you know when you're passing out pamphlets it's an area with heavy traffic and this is what we're talking about yesterday you know You want to hand out as much material as possible you spread out your people you can't miss that area so if you've got you know four entrances were safe this is an
entrance that one those are two and there's a lot of traffic people are going to be coming in and out of this room so I'm gonna have a brother their brother their brother their sister they're gonna pass out material I'm not just gonna have people in front of this one door and then I'm missing those Three doors of a plan don't talk to each other too much you always see this one because people are too embarrassed okay you know tons of people are coming through that door and I don't want to stand in front of
Dorn's a v-formation about it's not sure here you go some reading with you for you here you go there you go there you go embarrassing so you know look like I'm busy doing something else so I grab brother that will man we to work for this Dean So this Dean can become have the upper hand on this earth who can inherit the earth as the Allah promised to believe it ok we'll do some work for the Dean you know so don't talk to each other a lot of times you just keep talking about about the
group sit down to one another as people are walking by so your plan here remember your goal was to end up as material as possible sometimes that's your plan sometimes your plan is no I just gonna talk to as many people as Possible you know your pamphlet is just there to start the conversation you passed it you look them in the eye you ask the question they stop you start talking sometimes you just want to pass out material like you know especially rallies and stuff like that people are already chanting things there's not much time
to talk we just hand out the to as much as possible don't do the thing where two brothers keep talking to each other you know what working for a lot Work do the work so you know don't miss a single person or the guy gave him a pamphlet and he said what do I do now there could be another gun like that but you missed them because you're telling them talking to their brother over here don't talk just past the wrong path material have a catchphrase now the whole idea is you want people to stop
and talk to you really and if you just want to cross our path we'll just throw them in the air But you want to talk to people at some point so the one of the ways people will stop you have a catchphrase someone give me a catchphrase someone new meaning someone who has not heard the works of somebody new catchphrase what would you say you want to give someone something to read about snuff oh you said there's no wrong answer yes sister what do you know but it's not there you go what do you know
but it's not what Learn and prosper I like that I like me who likes that oh my never heard that one before learn prosper Wow good yes sir what's the purpose of life it's not a bad one very good yeah for you Oh brothers in the hardcore over your salvation there you go are you so big yes very good learn about you Lord do you know your Lord protect you oh man I like this guy insurance great excellent excellent good job you guys Thanks anyone want to add anything yes sister what's that okay nice nice
curtain possibly when you say that your pamphlet has something to do with that right great yes sir you only answer you're sorry you already know the answer you might say that as you're handing it out okay good good excellent one more yes sir explore it's not man the truth is near okay the truth is here okay good Please so now and the one I might use and just happens to be the one but I'm gonna start using protect yourself what we say information on the purpose of life screen beneficial they take it thank you very
much have a nice day free information on the purpose of life they refuse it thank you have a good day if they take it you know then sometimes they look you in the eye free information on the purpose of life what is the purpose of life sir and then They might tell you something and whatever right or wrong it doesn't matter the whole point is they stop and you might say well this is what it stops this is the purpose of life and you started talking free information on the purpose of life free and beneficial
and my thing is you either take it or you hear it so if they don't want to take the concert from me I want to still make sure they hear the message so free information all the purpose of life they Don't take it and what is the purpose of life sir to worship the creator is the purpose of life thank you very much for you for making on the doors like that you know you're walking around you're talking to people morning you're greeting them I was talking we already look like Osama so smile when you
meet you know it's a nice experience small you have good morning and good they thank you very much they take it you thank them you don't think you thank you It's not a problem and that makes that whole shy thing an embarrassment thing go away they say no just thank you very much and that's it and and it has happened in the past one when you refused like one time someone refused to take a bath but I still thank them and they came back and they liked the fact that no you were polenta so you
know thank you I'll take fine so now here in the end though what you're handing out the way you're handing up I want you to Think of a number of things here first of all not every haplit is good that's the truth there's some factors that are not good they're not well written that's true and some of them and the majority maybe or and they were just now starting to see some new stuff come out but for the last 15 years who have been handing out stuff printed in the 70s with that horrible ink and
the weird language and not relevant and just so on and so forth so not every public is good and not Every good pamphlet it's good every good pamphlet is appropriate right who practices polygyny got a good pamphlet yeah it's a good Catholic but is it appropriate for every situation and walking on the street just handing out that Padfoot yeah there you go the months listening we're not but but whatever I have an event about women in Islam so I have you know that part of who wears the veil women in Islam polygyny is it Appropriate
now makes sense now so not every concert is good and not every good pathway is appropriate so it's good to have a rough idea of what you're ending up I'd like to suggest a pamphlet that roughly covers Sophie the problem set up and with other four pillars and something about maybe life indefinitely and if death and there many like that by the way most of them tend to have those important points in there and so no have a rough idea just skim through it no It's what you're handing up because of all kinds people they
just you know they come into the box of pamphlets you're gonna hand out and so they say oh well let me have some of the green the blue is nice some of the red any more of the pink now we have problems now so it's not about the coloreds you know what you're handing up because the joke is you give it to a non-muslim when they say what is this a bow and your answer is no all right So know what you're handing out anything about this page because Americans are like that whatever they stayed
a lot in Canada the greeters are asked not to talk to people our children very nice thick people come be there and people people would pour out their life story - you know big readers or just people people the street unless it's it's strange so like ok well thank you for saying that you know because I mean Obviously I don't live in Canada like I had this incident near three years ago I want to give the workshop in the UK and a lot of the things that applied to the u.s. just we're totally useless in
the UK you know the whole section on training was useless in the UK most people don't believe in Trinity most people are atheist and the problem do not want in - there are the atheists not not those who believe in Trinity so so you're gonna have to no adjust to what Suits your locality or Europe or your country so as I go for pointing out you can always tell me look you know be quiet because this doesn't apply here now I just skip that section all right so good now no I want us to think
about this tomorrow we can start to or maybe toward then they start to formulate ways of responding or tweaking things so it works for Canada maybe what I just the demo I just gave you of telling people You know free information on the purpose of life maybe it doesn't work here in Canada so we might do it another way you tell me what that is I can't tell you what that is maybe we're just gonna hand out Commons but without saying a word I don't know maybe that makes a difference or maybe you just might
ask the simple question or you might just say no pray thee take this or I don't know what you do but someone tell me something by the end of the day ok ok thank you but Anything else like I said any kinds of dimensions those basic things trifold that's what you pass up more than anything else there's the more expensive your gift is the serious person the bigger that book or the pamphlet you give it out when you feel that person might read or will read or they ask for it specifically so I said I
want to put on again for on the brief illustrated guide to Islam and used to cost a lot back then and you Just don't throw it out like it through a trifold pamphlet but sometimes you meet someone who you feel this person will read you give it to it or they actually see that book and they're more interested in it a small pamphlet you give it to them so but you know one of the ones that I'd like also the one called just one message you seen that one no okay well I'd really like that
one if you write it down you will have a rough time getting all of it I've always promoted it people can't find it and even I give them the email address and the phone numbers and everything from the pencil and none of them work whatsoever but right you're all like you're wrong okay now just what message what why what I like about it it's brief to the point it gets people to think outside of the box and I've never ever seen this except in that one conflict it asks for this jihad they can be end
excellent you know the credit Card applications just fill this form out now it asks for your business everyone has like just talk about Islam there's just death and if you don't burn it do it you this will happen have a nice day this one says you need to become a semi now look for you know a mess didn't look and come can contact them and because so you can write your own yes sir like a if you're interested or you can have the stuff sticker and you've stuck it on all The accomplice that you're going
to hand out they have the email address of an MSA or the message that you're associated with whatever it is works definitely anyone else okay right so here again quite clear you know stay with the topic the rules are the same they rule you talk about the same thing that's one person or 50 thousand 50 people huh that you hear that took the talk change don't misrepresent it's not a lot of Times people it try to tell the audience something about a stump that's really not true to make them feel more inclined to become a
Muslim I'll tell you why that block street that well you know or or MSA that would table pipe down just for those who I will be using a lot of Street that way examples for the sake of the example of the dialogue that went about but I I'm not a big fan of sweet sour anymore okay that doesn't mean doesn't work but It's not about your big fat I just want to put that out there because most of the time I'll tell you we weren't these people were doing street daro and this happened and that
happened but I'm not a big fan of that it you know when you do it even within a university setting I recommend that you be in groups or in pairs no we traveled as a group of this big main road or we stay as a group in North court but then we break up into pairs If we can't ideal it it's just there's so much benefit of the partner we're coming to that you know it takes inspiration you know sometimes you might buy a little bit more time at some when you walk with them a
little bit technical therefore young god but the point is that's more with a discreet there are a lot of it does apply to university table tower we already went through this slide the next one in and I think we went through that as well and We were saying that you know don't give the shape on an average so we don't want to always you know this guy's taking out if the prettiest girls out to dinner to talk them about a lot so it's not so we don't do stuff like that and once the talk goes
beyond or outside of what what it is in Islam then we have a problem so even if the sisters telling this person about the love across the center there's no one else except her fine but the man gets into hey Google Google I Let the color of barrier a job where you're shooting problem no so one way we solve that we're used to is that missus our dollar table you have two brothers over here and two sisters over there and guess who comes to get information from brothers yes Jennifer a green on Vanessa knows and
Ken who comes to those sisters to learn how to stop Chad bride and the other guy so what happened we did the quick trade you know so she comes she wants turn on the bus stop Okay well let me introduce you to your father over here this is Vanessa she would like to missing efforts not you come back here they bring your shadow or wherever comes and you just keep it like that don't give on and Avenue but if there's nobody there how about you you lower you get if you talk you don't just all
right fine move on talk about something when we're talking about pamphlets and I was saying that every Time that is good you know there's this thing where when it comes to the whole you don't study and we don't engage but even though you must were scientists and in life when it comes to that all the science applies out the window for some reason a lot of times this is how a good counsel is written some guy opens up Microsoft Word he starts to type what feels good to him he prints it next day shows it
to his friends they read it this is great they're all Muslims now All of them left this is excellent and then they say let's print 100,000 copies of it great but this is how I would like to see some group for the pants without and there's actually a group in Australia that they're doing a great job they have put a lot of study to formulating an effective conflict when actually when I spoke about this at the workshop they were in there and they came to in the bracelet was been actually doing is We're working on
you know conflict they wrote it then they're gonna get you know different focus groups and send people to read it of different ethnicities different religious backgrounds different age groups male-female and then they're going to take this survey what part did you understand what part did you like the most which part was confusing then they're going to adjust and make the openness area changes then they will make down 2,000 copies makes Sense makes sense right so it's not just you know what feels good to me or what sounds good to me you know so I don't
like this look there's one guy that I know he owns a an audio company you only sell audios of the reciter that he likes that's you you don't let this reside but there's a hundred thousand other people that like this result you only going to sell them what you would like so so everyone has different tastes so the same thing I like this pamphlet that's The odd life dude so let's put it out no let's get other people that see more anonymous than how do they feel about it so that's what I'm saying which comes
to Davos sometimes we forget about studies there's a sister got a PhD in something where there's an mystics all right look at the field statistics and there was a non-muslim who read a copy of the Quran he was offended by one statement in the translation of explanation and she Started going on campus telling people don't ever give this copy out to not Muslims he defends them he's just one person who was offended but she kept walking on singing and finish them know that copy has actually been in circulation for about 15 years it's one of
the most popular many people came to Sun because of it and very few if any people have complained now this one guy after 15 years of circulation has complained she's saying let's let's take It off the shoulders he said one person and she's 30 statistics what I hope the science suddenly with that what you want to go on but you know we don't want to go on study science research we want to roll on butter and lately we've been running on fumes so let's do some study ok one more scenario I don't know if we
did this in part one so basically there's one person who called me up and said look from now on I'm going to I'm not Going in and out like this but I'm going to be organizing Islamic Nashik concerts and that'll be my dial to non-muslims so what's your argument here or maybe you agree what's your argument someone told you from now on my dad what is organizing his stomach machine conference I'll bring you know native pickup and he was inducing and whatever and all that and then people all right so that's assuming that if their
methods are correct and their Voices are Holland made their words their Holland and that would probably be a good dog okay that's assuming that this is okay I'm gonna have barbed wire an electric fence now use it keep it but you're all assuming that if there's no music this will work yes sir you must be what are you man my target market and stuff I like it we need to talk during lunch good yes sir yes what makes you think that that is effective way of giving Doubt okay we need to establish that first what
makes you think this is an effective way of giving down and that was I mean you said in the very nice absolutely just sent me I don't think you will become Muslim because of an Islamic machine concerts he said and I'll get to you because now we got to the point that you probably right but I'm telling you this is what happened in the story that's what I said Tim and this was his answer now I need you to Answer this part he said no one time I was up an Islamic in the Sheep concert
and when the concert was over a guy got up on stage and took a shot so it does work does bring people to Islam now I'm really respond to that let me try sisters first yes is turn the back you've never looking in a context the whole purpose of it that he want to do is to have it for the Dawa that was just like a machine you I mean you were right but he's gonna Come back and argue with you again look the guy took his head after the concert so I'm gonna prepare concerts
from now on invite different speakers and that's it sister huh excellent sister's a scientist not that you were wrong everybody was talking look at but the question was how do you know that he became a Muslim because of the lyrics in the song how do you know that that is what they refer to as one data point you just see one data point you don't know What happened before it first of all let's go all the way back first of all do not look okay go ahead just okay doctor but I'm but like now let's
go back to the what the sister was saying so how do I know what happened to this guy to get him up on stage first of all let's go backwards do not Muslims usually flock to conferencing if they say you know native the big guy is coming to town did anybody know who that is so did they just come and flock to These concerts so what what will you think why is that non-muslim there that what might have happened take a guess yeah possibly that's also very true and sometimes are some of those fakes actors
I know because I've seen some of those a guy took shy the last week but we have an event today so come and do it on stage you know the sisters are crying and stuff but he was already yeah there you go most likely he was invited by somebody It's not like Michael Jackson kind of came to town are the children I mean I can't resist the light that guy really didn't become stoom I already told people I'm gonna book a flight to apologize so what happens when we're not Muslims don't typically run to these
concerts they don't know these groups so most likely get there soon his friends probably invited them too that come with us now do we know what he went through before coming up on stage maybe He sat with him read half of the wall maybe they took him to Islamic events fundraising dinners they took him to the Masjid they took him to you know the basketball game in the Masjid they maybe went through so much before coming up on stage and finally saying the Shahada so as the sister said you just saw one data point you
don't have enough information to assume that he became Muslim because of the lyrics and plus it's a huge huge concert a lot of Posters a lot of no advertising a lot of money to get once you had that every time you could put that same effort money into something and get you a lot more people to become Muslim but to everyone else you see what's what's wrong here yeah yes like what sister saying because she is not yeah it was something like that and she's not you know putting aside the possibility that it could be
something That works or it could be something that is it's one step my catapult them into studying about us now that's true but in order to say that we need to some kind of research I don't have any problem someone who comes and says look we've done research and actually brings you know every country will bring six people from the street into Islam great at least now they have Richard research to support don't you say well once I saw a guy take his job because of This and let's all do that no okay great so
we're gonna move on a little bit but the whole point it was an important point let's study let's see and a lot of times it's just a guess and we all go on that guess those I told you there's one popular speaker and I won't mention his name very popular Dahlia and here's a rule that in order to give darling it to be what he used to have this rule in order to give doll you need to be an african-american so please the whole of You were from you know our Arabs are from the indo-pak
region get out you know so a minute for this rule okay we went again this was a cowboy event we went to DC I think I told you the story last month or something we're all went to DC give some tower DC predominately african-american so one arrow brother he made up a rule suddenly and everybody liked it he said every every group every group to have to have a black person in it I'm Gonna story so black people became a very hot commodity at that moment and everybody was trying to grab a black guy he's
my partner so in the end there were two brothers two Arabs who didn't have a black guy in their room and then the thick Arab accent and they were standing there complaining we don't have this rule I just let it go just go out and call people talk about you know when we reconvene at the end of the day each group had you know effectively gotten One Shahada their group got to the only group that got to and they didn't have a black guy in their group so people make up these rules there's no studies
just gut feeling running on butterfl fuse but that's not how we want to do whatever you do we want to base it on something and sometimes you might base it on nothing but it's your experiment yeah and I don't have any proof to say this might work but I'm gonna try the experiment if it doesn't work try Something else there's not I'm not saying don't be creative with that right be creative but don't make up these rules we can experiment and end up and test these rules but we don't bank on their money percent okay
so how much time you have face myself pretty fine needs a break maybe we'll take a break for part of it great if someone feels they need to take a break get into a refreshable door because the restroom I'll get something To drink feel free to do that okay so now all you see which one I'm gonna go or maybe we'll go over all of it quickly you have to be patient so important we got it together Darwin patient 33 a patient you might be the reason that someone never ever becomes a Muslim you could
be that reason you don't want that ever and a lot of times people become impatient like that and they say things that Offend people I remember one time someone Hindu came to the dollar table he said I'm never going to become was said why he said I was here yesterday and some of the people at this table insulted me and they said you know what are these statues and gods and fake gods at your worshipping so they insulted him so he said I'm never gonna become most imagine now we already have enough things to deal
with on the day of judgment now you gotta listen to people Who said well I never became Muslim because he was rude or insulted or he left to school to be patient you don't want to be the reason someone never enters into some so they go to their grave to be very patient with people and you know that much some people have misconceptions some people believe what's on TV some people you know you know a route by nature will encounter those people when you've prepared to be patient encounter problems it makes it Easier like is
it like like you still have some occasion does that happen you yes yeah okay sure all right let me ask you this what's - let's see what can you do within the law here because if we're in Sudan I know what I'll do so anyways you know the five evidence is right I always teach my students about the five evidences if you disagree with me about five evidences for you you writing them down myself I'm just joking you guys Here they are one two three four five brothers okay but what can you do within the
law someone goes to suggestion you wanna be in jail by myself somebody else good so you know you might try the question now that might work if that person genuinely believed that and he was telling you that and get you all riled up everything they said to me will be to them but I like you sir I wish everyone was like you that's good you can do that huh yeah okay all right I Just when he no one's come talking this is enough our windows moving sort of like just got walk away from them right
can I talk about them on so just you can you can walk away you know that's choice here so you might be good to walk away if they're just trying to infuriate you if the brother is like the brother was saying they really think that's the case you might you know discuss it more with Them yes you can question their source where do you got information from so on and so forth they're just trying to make you upset it's probably better to walk away especially if you know you have a temper problem run away all
right all right beegley and we need an appearance that's just the general recommendation like I said you don't like anything I put up there believe it issue but generally I recommend that you were if you're purposely going out for Dawa I Recommend you look a little bit above average or average is fine but if you're purposely going out for a double it doesn't mean if I'm walking down the street in my regular jeans a t-shirt someone asked me about Islam that have to go to the phone booth so generally clean you know what's the joke
with the on this slide you don't remember yeah Jerry full of crud and he's telling to be straightforward allows you didn't Burst pay for this in the Quran that's how he gets his message across to us it means that's the best means of communicating with human beings being straightforward which also means it's the best way they can communicate with each other that's why the Quran any question the answer is visiting to do this that's the reward you do that that's the punishment it's only a kindly ask about what that's the answer very straightforward and it
also makes life So easy when people are straightforward with you and when you're going around in circles and beating about the bushes they say you can't really get your point across and the other person will understand you either so be straightforward ask for a name why ask for name new people why ask for a name yes sister very good mom excellent joke ellipsis to mention two Points yes very good and the problem actually when he asked him his name he used that to discuss you know his origin and then it became a double reason sister
said asked for the name it makes it that whole personal true and he wanted that to be personal you don't want to sound like you have a script and he just come and you spill it out to people so he makes a double personnality and so the sister also said you used the name so remember the name We asked for the name remember the name and used the name if you if you leave one of these three it's useless if you remember don't use it what's these two remembering it if you forget it and every
time you come to use your name again the towel it becomes personal you remember how the process in um when he came to mama got my mom what did he tell him severely I am the prophet of Allah sent to you he make well in a nasty jamia can you imagine that get the Prophet of Allah comes and says I will sit to you and then everybody else listen to you very personal so you know when you keep using that name in Japan Dawa so so John we would love that you become a brother this
comes from John actually discussed the most important parts of their religion and you absolutely right now have the ingredients John of becoming a Muslim John so you can smile and I was told people you are representing a Misrepresented religion you're representing a misrepresented religion so make it a nice experience smugly no I don't know is that work here maybe didn't smile but whatever if it works for us but I think you smiling works University I think wherever you are I don't think there's any culture where if you smile means you're upset so smile and it
makes it so much easier and smiling is contagious and it shows That you are happy to be there and it shows that you you know are confident because we will not come to that don't smile so it's it's a lot of things that conveys a lot of messages smile constant they say something rude they smile and they can refuse your confident smile they throw in the truck smell one time and you were walking down and there were two brothers in front of us handing out pamphlets they give a comfort to this guy and he just
threw it right in the Trash and then because basically this would double coming at me like this he took the pamphlet and they went by there was a trust company through then he looked up and we were coming so how many filled embarrassment it just saw me there was a conflict when we walked by him I said second chance oh no big deal you know but he said no thank you no problem doesn't have to work every time anyways um okay you know you okay so you're trying to avoid unnecessary our Arguments unnecessary confrontations and
that's one of the benefits of having a partner number eight because they can help you with issues like that sometimes especially sometimes you might give down to two friends one of them is starting to be its responsive the other person is is not and it's a PowerBar you'll find that the one who's not responsive with being argumentative will rub off on the other guy so here this is where your partner's to pick them apart and how do You split people apart and if two people spending over here you're talking to them and you're standing and
your partner's standing here and this guy is making good headway with this guy and this guy's not doing a good job arguing I want to separate them from each other how do we do it you just say you look you stand you go again over there you how do you do it well how would you do it there you go No I have to do this is it so I'm talking someone over here my partner's over there I want to move this guy all the way over there so so then just keep talking to him
and I just think we'll step over like this and you know so and then he moves a little bit after me a little by little I move over I keep talking to him and then and he keeps moving with me and finally you will find that we're over here and the partners still were there or even if I think to Step this way and my party takes two steps that way fellas were separated this yes so it's not it's not that me not everything is just Dean so some of the things just be a little
artsy little finesse that's it makes life easy okay here number nine means keep the focus on it so he began this we're coming to this when we discussed you know the process the chart we're not just throwing information I told you about the guy with the chicken right yeah the guy who Was basically give a talk on talking about tawheed and it was a dinner it was a Tom speech and it was a dinner during the dinner some Austin wanted to he thought it was necessary to introduce this potential rebirth in the concept of the
beehad had on me so the guy was very intrigued by it and now after the dinner I'm front of talking about tawheed and he keeps asking me about halal meat so everytime talk about Torrini trust me okay well let me ask you this question So suppose then the chicken was killed in a de vida way but it was not raised in a humane way does it still make it holla and I didn't really like this topic I mean Oh I like the organic and he made and all that so we're talking I kept so I
wouldn't find myself going into that then I stopped myself no no what are you doing I'm back to talking I'm at the top hey well but if the chicken wasn't and then I get back To the chief you know what in the end I just have to tell them listen don't worry about the chicken right now I want you to worry about yourself when you become Muslim we'll go we'll fight for the rights of the chicken you know you know how much your society needs you look like Berlin Toronto man heard this told me that
they had a table that a big sign that said freedom for I'm so an old lady came up to him and she said what did what I'm dude she Thought what some guy in prison we're fighting for him free or exactly okay you can use simple language that's just basic you know somebody's have a big vocabulary and they always want to show off it they think to convince people come off as a professor so they use big words like elephant hippopotamus thank you so much yeah big long English words interesting you know one of the
most effective drug we've ever seen he had the same speech he gives it to Professor's homeless people everybody gets the same two speeches just one of the most effective not successfully affected or not I've ever seen ever and he tells everybody about the three questions of the great that's his technique that's it the three questions are the great he's done it he said it so many times he has this incredible rhythm when you get started you feel like you're floating he just he has his first Regimen not everybody intellectual not intellectual they become nice look
through the same basic thing so you keep it simple you get everybody everybody understands simple the simple mind and you know the water whoever is not simple will understand but if you keep it at a high level you miss out you miss all the simples but we said this before you look for these things ridiculous things sometimes it's not and one time I was so Not interested in this now he says the only problem is that I don't like the fact that divorce is allowed it's not that's it so then you help you if you
explain that how you know it can in some cases even be a mercy if these people will be forced to live their life together when they can't stand each other anymore or then you know so let me give you one example here you see that an idea there was a guy coworker and we agreed that she's gonna come over to my House over the weekend and we're going to talk about religion so we had this agreement that means I have time he knows it's about really thing is not gonna escape the topic or anything like
that so we made this agreement let's say Monday so Monday during break later on in the day he would come to me and say so we're on for this weekend right but y'all gotta convert it Tuesday he comes in hey we're on this weekend you're not converting me Wednesday you think the same thing no do we know exactly what you're saying that not exactly right we can take guesses so who'd like to take a guess why is he saying that no no new people yes sir okay so maybe he thought strong argument he's gonna lay
it on me yes sir he's got some strong argument what else just guessing now no one's wrong yes I was trying to show interest he's trying to intimidate me first right yes sir he Believed you know he's very confident he can refute whatever I say he's a devout believer his sister in the back ego yes aha he could be insecure there are all these possibilities true everyone agree everyone what that was said everything that was said right now could have been true right and all of these were possible examples but I thought what the master
said now again I'm not saying go to hey guess what my my way is right but I said let me test I Think he's insecure now I tested it and it happened to me the case I could have tested it and it could have been what the brother said over here but I tested it at least so what are you gonna do it could be this it could be that it is it could be that but I'm gonna test and see which one it is make sense we don't know what the unseen here testing we
diagnose and so what the sister said you might be a little insecure so he's telling himself he's getting himself pumped up You're not converting me you're not converting me now for me that's not a good thing why why exactly he's gonna comment leave this mindset I'm not going to be convinced I want to hear it I'm coming in for a class for a head but another one that so what were what are possible ways again there's no wrong answer what are possible ways you can get them to think no it's not like that well what
might you say to them yes Sister excellent that's exactly what I told them you could have tried something else yes okay now remember what what the sister said I already told you the problem is that he feels insecure so give me answers related to that and feels insecure okay you could I'm not saying you can't you could but except this long-winded and that's something he's supposed to make him feel that oh so you're only gonna Die I love my open-water so in the other who converted yeah yeah yeah American white guy yes no I'm not
saying you're wrong good sorry ok ok ok good very good I'm loving all the comments this is great so excellent everything you said was right could it work either way the sister said he had a confidence issue and I figured that what it was he was he doesn't know what I have in store for him when it comes to my house she's Trying to convince himself and pump himself up that I am gonna go as the Catholic can come back as a Catholic he won't change me he's afraid that I might drop something on a
good so hard he'll come back as a different person than when he came in so I started to tell him yes you're right I started to give him the confidence you're right I can't convert you oh no you can convert you I can't do anything to you that you don't want you're the one on The left you have to accept argument and or not or reject it if you want to so I mean didn't feel that we're not coming here to class just like somebody were saying we're just talking so he actually let his guard
down a football this is good you know no pressure it's not about who'll win or lose it's about the decision I'm making the end whichever way I win and so I hump the Dhoni came he wasn't coming for looking for a clash or a headbutt I hung them That he did become with them at the end of the talk so it's just again then you find that problem that issue that obstacle you can fix it yes sir in this specific case I knew him for I don't know for a number of months it wasn't a
long few months Wesley became friends very quickly it's a very nice guy but I mean it maybe would have been maybe it was four months maybe five but I'm just telling you this specific case I'm not saying this is the Rule you should know them this long before you invite them over or something like that okay but twelve you know a lot of communication is nonverbal so you listen with your eyes and you remember I told you I put down yeah you pay attention to say something you know what do you understand from this and
I'm giving you an actual examples not someone says yes I'm such a great religion if it just wasn't for all that woman thing women issue where's that Tell you it's a misconception but woman it's none right all right to another true story someone asked me this question now leave it to everything that happens before they speak pulled me aside and spoken in low voice now look at the words I just want to check is we've had that so what do you think is the issue possibly know and of course he's calling me inside a little
ashamed lowering his voice his question wasn't is with Haram because if any of you have Ever been asked questions by people most questions are is this how long this question was is this this Allah and what else what other nonverbal cues we see okay and then when I said of course it's hot obviously what happened so yeah I mean a whimsical way of saying there's so many ways you can understand what's happening just from the way the questions being asked the body language and who's kind of a little bit cry you know it's the word
hunching and over Let's bring all that there's some issue going on so that's what you are as a data you look at all these things let me tell you the full story of the guy who became Muslim I gave her the password I was walking this way down the sidewalk and he's walking that way and as I asked him I give him the path that they kept one when he turned to look at him he stopped and he was looking at the pastor should I go back and talk to him also you've read into a
Sign he stopped why did he stop all day I'm giving people Netflix they keep walking why did he stop that means there's something that's a sign for you as a deaf youth so he's interested enough to stop I told myself should I go back home I said yes when I got and he said what do I do now see so all you have to do you have to read into these things you have to read into this side so that's what it means a lot of communication is Nonverbal look at these things constant try not
to overanalyze with just look at these a lot of times with religion the discussion is in the context or has the flavor of being an argument by the way something important hard to say that I've forgotten as as we're going through is if you look at the if you look at your nose the slides towards the end have more the meat and potatoes in them the heavy Stuff but as we do each like the example like if you they're actually you know they have techniques enrolled in so try to pay attention to them and I'll
point them out whenever I can so let's say well here we're just going over the do's and don'ts know in the do's and don'ts begin with we discuss techniques do we do that so far you talk about the technique this is a technique focus on having a partner with you you know understanding these issues how to Do it we spoke about a couple of times using the names in simple language being straight forth all this is technique even though it's just unlisted them to do the dog so so well we're going to the story is
paid so we said that most of the time when you have a religious discussion its eminent it's in the form of a kind of debate or who will win or who would be proved true when that's the case usually don't tend to listen to one another now Show of hands we've seen the debate between Jimmy Swaggart right now what would you say for the new people what would you say if I told you there is a church that mass-produces that debate without editing and they pass it out to their congregation in church new people tell
me why would they do that when do they do them yes sir in church they send people what would they give in that debate where their guys being destroyed yes sir Sorry okay very good yes possibly but that wasn't the case yes but actually he gave the right answers we'll go ahead do you want to show that Muslims are just you could have been right but that's not why he already gave the right answer but you'd have to still up go ahead give everyone chest no exam that's what the brother said you were you just
putting a different wording that's what happened in their mind their guide wanted yes can You believe that I get to this point so usually I discuss it on another slide but let's just do it here there got it one it's under the dome there we go just do both now don't start talking no stop being aggressive and sometimes people read that spider into all your sink review and although as aggressive not saying that look they thought their guy won why because it was a debate who's a debate context they only don't hear the arguments about
Might be the other came over they hear they're a guy winning because when there's a debate or something aggressive for an argument people put a mental block and you don't hear what you say you see and now with that being said after clarify the debate has its place and it's not but it's not the normal stuff there is a place where the bacon is done but it's not the normal and a lot of times people think that's the norm that You start debating a lot of people take the workshop and then I see them give
devil they just try to make the person uncomfortable and paint them into a corner or about this versus the steps that does not contradict when you just said and this verse in this chapter contradicts both these verses and become eunuchs you as well that's not the point most people would like to think that's the case that they are going to choke and choke and choke the life out of the Person before they die tonight it's not how it is what is it I mean that all comes from Ted to who to invite so if it's
an invitation it has to be nice and gentle one more time let me say there is a place for our confer for debates and stuff but it's not the norm when you encounter someone it's not a debate as an invitation so think of this that I wanted to go or to invite to Allah now if you invite someone to your house Is it gonna be a fight or is it gonna be something nice and once it last time somebody grabbed you by the shirt says listen you eight o'clock my house Brioni well why you don't
come and whatever invited you like that like that one the invitation that was an invitation so it can't be a fight and so many times because of people because of the success of the debate they think the norm is to debate I say they spend their time memorizing this person that versus me They can tackle it and make you and choke the life out of the other person know some nice and gentle invitation so there is a timing in some for debate something norm but scholars recognize there is a time when you have to debate
but it's not how you go around every day trying to debate so people become defensive now let's go back to where we were we said that because people think of debate context they don't listen so how do you Get people to listen very simple concept concept of reciprocity I come to it a lot of times it's always there at human communication that to get people to listen to you all you have to do is show them that you're listening to them that's it so to show them that you're listening this is what you do as
you're talking you're not it right obviously you suspend all activity and if someone's talked to me and I keep writing what if I stop writing and I pay attention to it and as you're talking I'm not yes I'm following you no I'm using open gestures okay you know if I stand like this even if I smile still looks a little threatened so these open gestures lean forward someone's going to but religion is just like this it's different what if I lean forward like this and I'm not even paying attention you know you know maintain eye
contact but don't stare at Them too hard don't stare them down because it's it's very hard on people when you stare them down you become very uncomfortable don't stare anyone down so what's the solution they tell you obviously if a man talking to a man or woman talking to a woman you go between looking at them in the eyes and then they say you know the shirts here are just button like they're the second button or F over their shoulder so you go between and Roll their eyes or button eyes and they feel that you
were generally looking at them but you're not staring them down and so with and with women and if a man talking to a woman or a woman talking to an understand that they do understand the concept of luring the gates they do understand that it's not like they're totally oblivious to that concept they do they're are aware of it and sometimes you run into those people who want you to look them in the eye and maybe every Now and then you're gonna run into those women this is a buddy up here but for the most
part they understand it and I'm sparing you this first but generally there's a there's a woman that's gotta get rid of her for two hours she want to marry this Muslim guy so he brought invite her to spend for two hours he spoke to her I mean up at house with people there when he left she cried she said I've spoken to religious people of every faith and they all look at me and They look at my beauty or they all gonna be stare at me she said this man never ever once raised his eyes
to look at me she was very violent she knew had that he respected she didn't study about lowering the gaze and read the ayah she knew it so you know so so much so we'll obviously the opposite sex with stare try to lower your gaze so the way to get people to listen to you is you listen show them that you listening To them and they would reciprocate because and they will say no it was listen to me I will listen to them now I always say that the time some Mormons came to my house
and as I was talking to them they kept flipping through the they weren't listening to me they were just flipping through the Bible preparing their next party and I noticed that I remember catching it and I said to myself oh you're not listening to me we'll see if I listen to them when it's Their turn to speak when they were speaking I care about them so I'm just going through my books preparing my next argument you think we're gonna move forward probably not so listen number 12 listen and you know what most people don't listen
if you pay attention to it you'll see them speaking the truth most people are talking Muslims non-muslims your friends most people do not listen most people are for poor listeners you Know believe me no my buddy pay attention to it pay attention to it during lunch you will see people don't really listen very well and especially you know you don't hear sometimes people ask you a question they don't listen to your answer and one of the ways you know people aren't listening to you when your scent is ends theirs is beginning immediately you were you
were just waiting for you to shut your mouth basically not paying Attention you pay attention to it you'll see very few people listen and I also say this missed a few slides before very few people smile I'm talking about Muslims very good people smile pay attention to it people pay attention to it and talk about good Muslims in the messages with the to stick with everything they don't smile don't believe me wait till you go to Isha prayer notice how many people will smile at you Thomas it'll say all the nice Things to you but
without a smile don't smile pay attention to it every time you smile to get a reward let me see 50 people a day 20 people who take ten people a day you smile to get ten rewards not to play that by 365 days of the year you have you multiply that if you live up to 50 or 60 or 70 years old you've got a mountain of good things how salem said do not belittle a roofie Shh do not belittle any of the Good deeds it adds up and whatever su mocha which he'll wake up
so that you're smiling the piece of your brother's ass up so pay attention to that okay pay attention people don't smile and they don't listen you'll see okay I'm gonna skip this comeback under a different category okay don't make anyone feel dumb every Question is a good question right and you know even you think you know you've got examples there avoid so sometimes the obstacle is another human being who wants to make problems noise your partners that can save you today when it comes to that thing I always tell the story about the lady DC
and basically I found this guy with a very serene calm look on his face white eat him start to give him devil this old lady came out of her house she saw us in his white those She's oh you're the guys who don't believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and she started saying the Lord taught me how to dance and she started dancing it's not a lot of time for that obviously so my partner immediately know what to do see the benefit have a new partner doesn't have to tell him I have to believe they
know so you what took her aside they started to discuss dance moves well over here I could talk to This person without any noise so that's why the department just saw such a benefit and here I reference the the example of the process Adam when he invited his family Bloo Dee boo Willa and he wanted to give him dower right and then I would have to stop the process said look you're calling us for that new religion of yours gonna want to hear so what happens or one narration Priscilla invited them again same people except
this time without a Willa and you Call them to a stop so well explained this is the Golden Rule which is over the goal which means make the sale which means Wendy Hospital Shahada when you've discussed all the essential things and that person has the ingredients to become a Muslim does it make sense that you don't have before that you had at this point right it's like saying I'm inviting you to my house so you're walking all in your chit-chatting as you're walking to the house when you get To the door of your house you
open the door you enter in the slam door in their face same thing I'm inviting you to stop talking talking talking when you reach the door you stop in their face no you're asking for this you have and this is the golden rule I told you there were two rules that I insist upon absolutely this is one of them I fought this world so much sometimes if I'm sure that I won't become Muslim now as to ask Me to share because it does a lot to the person mentally you saying you look you need to
become Muslim it's important so are you ready to become Muslim now it's really saying you actually have to become Muslim it's just a matter of an hour later but you need to become a Muslim and I always give the example to sales when they tell you that you know in sales sometimes studies they found that first there many reasons why a sale won't go through the Thousand and one reasons why someone will not commit to purchasing something whether it's a suit or a car or whatever it is there's so many reasons the I had a
credit card they only accepted cash I have to consult my wife was a color but but they found in one area that 96% of the time the salesman didn't ask for the sale for the same you have to ask for the Shahadah sometimes people don't want to change their life they don't you know everything you say made sense to Them but they need encouragement and again I explained effective versus successful right the beginning right so the I want to show you the the difference in effectiveness that it's made for me not in success so I
have to stand in front of this store every Saturday called Islam given a five minute introduction to Islam and when I was done there was this awkward silence because I thought after the introduction is such a Beautiful religion they should beg me to let them become the stuff but it would just stare at me and I would stare back at them it was very weird awkward silence they were waiting for me and I'm waiting for them I discovered at this point is one since we got to that point the pillars the Prophet said done and
he no shadow because they have the ingredients are being mustard so the difference between nothing when I didn't know this rule and when I found out the Rule would be like five shadows a day versus zero for four years that's just effectiveness I keep stressing effectiveness I don't want you to think I'm telling you that's what you told about numbers it's not what I'm saying and a lot of people I know many people come up to me at the end of the workshop do you have one I only say the same thing I lost count
I mean what do they want sometimes because They want you to give it thousands I can't even if I wanted to I couldn't keep up any many I'm just saying I couldn't keep up like that I was telling you some people they'll tell you about this twenty thousand if it's not yeah or this may with the details of this money and four hundred twenty six people to smell and then one so that means the guy with the highest number is the best down here what does it mean really So let's not get caught up in
a head count but I'm just showing you how this will make you more effective so you can't think of one time the process in them went to a group of people to invite you to smell and then didn't invite them to stuff even the sentence doesn't make any sense so in order for someone to come down you ask them to come into this club and a lot of times I'll have two birds in the audience you know when did you become Muslim well when finally one Of my friends asked me to become Muslim I can't
stress this point enough I'm not saying if someone asks you why they grow a beard the immediate to say well because I must become Muslim I'm saying that if someone has the ingredients of a Muslims then cause you ask them to become Muslim now what if they say no what do you say no there's an obstacle ask the questions to find out the obstacle when you discover the obstacle you give solutions and then What are you doing that's when the shot again fix the problem if it's a no probably another obstacle there could be 15
I don't know how many there are maybe the 15 will be there to ask again and you know you try to fix that problem or say yes you go good uh-huh they need to think it over right which means the truth is there can never be no reason ever never just absolutely impossible you think it's possible there Can be no reason there's no way why would you become there's no reason all right there's no reason it becomes change your - as easily if there's nothing to stop you it's impossible they just don't want to tell
you the reason your stranger to them comfortable they're not ready to go on a share or they don't believe like anything that you've said doesn't matter but there's never no reason I won't agree with that I mean if you disagree feel free to Argue your point could to be absolutely no reason okay but they just don't want to tell you so it's if you can't get it out of them what the sister said would be correct you exchange information don't know we think about it pray about it that's it what you're gonna do and you
might encounter them again next semester if you're in college and then you might ask them again what have you and yes sure sure Oh good nice but very good sisters Saint have the sincerity that's the beginning of Part two coming to that the other part and but so what might be doing this situation quite easy they think you're upset because you're looking down thank you just explain to them what why you're doing it and it's a good though of Anu and their many stories with it from luring the gays people came up it's not you
know one time we're studying Phyllis One of my students asked me where should you keep her gaze I said in the clock go ahead sir I know it's corny I know I might go ahead sorry uh-huh so you might add a smile so you might think you're angry but it's smiling a little bit I'm I'm standing up the tail and the customers here oh okay it's like how about a camera like so so now on this guy you can get a warranty on it for their buck 49 it'll cover you for two Replacements it just
costs an extra dollar forty-nine just up to bring it in don't eat your seat or anything like that you want that okay okay did you see that what do you mean just like focus on focus on the area even even if you have to like look like look like you're engaged but you don't focus on something else while you're doing it but you make it look like you you're actually engaged all right so there ways around it and I Think we're gonna come to more amusing than we discussed what happens when someone's trying to shake
your hand how do I do it there's so many ways like the what the burger did just now there won't really pay attention that they you actually didn't look at them we're gonna discuss something things that don't really this this I mean they won't really notice that you didn't shake answer it because you made it so smooth nothing like I thank you very much for Coming up here I think it's probably time to stop okay but lunchtime dropping off Aaron when we come back we'll continue Charla along it's
