AITAH for telling my parents that they made me chose between paying my student loans and having...

aita for telling my parents that they made me chose between paying my student loans and having kids so I had a vasectomy and they will never have grandkids my brother was awesome and my parents loved him so did I on the other hand my parents tolerated me I wasn't good at sports or school or anything really I was pretty much an afterthought when my brother got into Medical School while I was in Community College my parents helped him out so he could graduate without debt he had a bright future ahead and they wanted him to

achieve I was told I had to get student loans which I did I also finally accepted my place on their world and went low contact mostly we only talked at some event for my brother I ended up getting my masters and I like my career I like helping people but I had to plan for my future I knew I could have a good life with a partner but that kids would lower my standard of living so I got a vasectomy I met my wife and she is on board with bring Child free we have a

small house in Old call Town and a couple of dogs sorry for all the buildup but I'm trying to avoid writing this next part my brother died on his honeymoon my parents are devastated I'm not doing much better my wife and I travel to my hometown for the funeral I saw my folks and went to see how they were we hadn't spoken since my brother's wedding the previous month they were obviously distraught my mom said that when we had kids I should name one after my brother I wasn't really thinking straight so I told the

unvarnished truth I had to choose between kids and paying off my student loans she asked what I meant so I admitted that I had gotten a vasectomy and would not be having kids I always figured she would get her Grandma needs met by my brother my dad blew up at me for making such a stupid decision that I had basically decided to end our branch of the family tree I said said that I always thought my brother would provide them with grandkids and that if I had kids they would be afterthoughts like I was we

went back home afterwards instead of hanging around my mom is having some sort of breakdown from my brother passing away and now me telling her that I will not be having children my dad is just angry I'm hearing from family that I was insensitive to put it the way I did they have not shown much interest in me since I was 12 I don't really think I we them anything my dad called and offered to pay to get my vasectomy reversed I told him my wife didn't want kids I reminded him that we had told

them that we were childree and they didn't care until my brother died