and so please pretty please do not act needy you do not need [Music] anyone coach Greg in today's video I'm going to explain exactly how to go about and get your dream girl now when I say dream girl you might be thinking oh a 10 out of 10 there's more to having a dream girl than just somebody who's very good-looking as in the end is how hot they are really going to matter or is it going to be the emotional connection the bond the growth that happens throughout the years think of it when you're 70
years old are you really going to care how hot you are how shredded your quads are if you have a six-pack I don't think so and so get that 10 out of 10 dream girl out of your mind dream girl is the one that makes you happy not the one that looks the best so the first problem that the vast majority of people have is they are going through life with a scarcity mindset and what does that mean well it means that they think that this is the last girl that's ever going to like them
that this is the one that I need her that if you can't land this girl no one better is ever going to come along and so you start to panic you get anxiety you text her 15 times a day you call her all the time you're worried oh is she cheating is she doing this is she doing that and all that does pushes her away if you are secure you should not be thinking that your girlfriend is somehow going to be cheating on you you should not be worried about her you should not be stressed
out and if you do in fact break up that should be seen as a positive and know you're thinking how can breaking up being positive and I've been called a sociopath in the past for thinking oh they broke up well that's okay well am I really I'm thinking that gives them a chance to move on perhaps go out and explore the world and find someone better and so to me you should see a breakup as something positive and there are three reasons for this the first one if the relationship were actually great if it was
actually meant to be you'd still be in it think of it if something happened and it ended that relationship it wasn't that strong it wasn't that great after all and so knowing that and knowing that you're now broken up it gives you the chance the opportunity to find someone better number two if you don't break up and you somehow manage to stick it out you talk it over you decide oh I'll ignore all those things that you did I'll Stonewall you I'll disassociate I'll just pretend it never happened if that in fact happens you're going
to be living in limbo that is a toxic relationship it is harmful not beneficial for both parties but yet you put up with it perhaps the relationship is a 5 out of 10 some days they're good many other days they're bad but because it's not too bad because nothing happened too out of the ordinary you put up with it they haven't beaten you they haven't cheated you much and so you put up with it and so often times I'm thinking if only it got worse if someone actually did something far worse perhaps they cheat on
you they treat you like absolute garbage and eventually you have no choice but to break up with them breaking up would then be a sense of relief finally fin I'm getting out of this toxic relationship we've been together for 5 years cheated on each other multiple times but yet you get back to each other you can't break free and so imagine something finally happened so bad and you finally are let loose you're now free to explore for someone better and so the problem is the vast majority of relationships are stuck in the five out of
10 zone I'm sorry but consider this you make a vow for marriage till death do us part and yet the divorce rate is over 50% so even people people who swear to God we are together forever through thick and through thin even at that point 50% of relationships fail and so what chance do you have right now if you just started off with a partner perhaps you've been together 6 months a year whatever what chance do you really think you have that you're going to make it till the end probably not very much maybe 10%
chances are whoever is watching this right now in 20 years from now you're not going to be with the same partner and so adopting the scarcity mindset thinking there's no one else out there better that you have to stick it out because no one else will ever come along that is your first and biggest mistake and so essentially what people do is they fall into complacency they date out of convenience perhaps you were shy girl gave you attention you didn't think you'd get anyone better and she's now your girlfriend in comparison if you had an
abundance mindset the opposite of a scarcity mindset you would know for fact there are plenty of fishy in fact thousands if not millions or even billions of it oh she's the one how many people have you even met a thousand 10,000 a million there are billions of girls on this planet and so the fact that this girl that you were with right now didn't work do you really think that there's not someone else perhaps even better that's going to come along do you really think that there's only one true love on this planet if you
think logically and I did in fact teach math you will know that there are thousands if not millions of other opportunities here on this world you likely won't have time to meet millions of people but in today's day and age with social media you perhaps do have access to millions of other females and so why are you caught up on this girl right now that's giving you a five out of 10 you've tried you've self-actualized you've read books on relationship how to become an effective communicator and so if you apply all this doing your best
and it's still not working why are you settling get out of the victim mentality now listen rejection is not only normal it's to be expected expect being rejected so perhaps you have anxiety you're scared to get your heart broken again well be prepared that is very likely going to occur but are you not strong enough to get through this do you not have the mental fortitude the Courage the strength to overcome this worst case scenario you end up alone you don't have that significant partner does that mean you don't have friends people who are close
in your lives friends family co-workers and so on the only time you know you're truly going to be alone is if you completely give up if you still put yourself out there you keep trying eventually one day you will in fact meet someone and I know many of you are shy you're watching videos on YouTube cold approach Dylan mcnight walking up to a bunch of girls hey I'm Dylan mcnight I'm super hot 6 feet tall do you want to go on a date yeah he says he's shy everyone is shy well to an extent when
you present yourself in an awkward or unfamiliar environment and you have to say something of course you should expect to feel uncomfortable everyone does but that doesn't mean you don't try just like building your physique you can work on your shyness it takes practice physiques weren't built in a day Chris bumstead's physique was not built in a day I certainly did not build mine in a day it took years if not Decades of practice to get better and so no matter how shy you are no matter how intimidated you are to strike up a conversation
you can and will get better if you practice I mean think of it how many of you know how to tie your shoes did you know how to tie your shoes when you're one when you two probably not but eventually with practice you learn how to do it this is the same thing with talking to girls and having a relationship it takes time and practice to become an effective Communicator to know what to say and what not to say and so please pretty please do not act needy you do not need anyone let me repeat
that you do not need anyone the only person that you actually need is yourself me myself and I not nobody else if your date relation ship whatever doesn't work out cool no big deal there will be someone better think of it it's the abundance Theory there are an abundance of women there are plenty other fish in the sea if anything you should be happy that you found out sooner rather than later perhaps it was only on date four perhaps a month into relationship it just wasn't working out you break up cool why are you upset
you should be happy you discovered that this person was not the right fit for you be like hiring someone for a job would you not want to find out sooner rather than later that that employee that you hired wasn't very good oh 17 years into the job wow they were horrible the entire time we're now letting you go would you not want to know in the first month and so consider it practice when you go on a date with someone when you're dating people consider it practice towards meeting someone who eventually will become a better
fit someone that you truly can connect with don't stress if she doesn't text you back right away or perhaps if she's dating others or that she won't show up for your date or that she won't like you or that you'll say the wrong thing things just be your authentic self show her the real you I know many people out there pickup artists are going to say don't say this don't say that never open up to them don't ever call don't text until 3 days after the date blah blah blah those pickup artists are trying to
attract people with an avoidance attachment style these people do not actually want a committed relationship they want to avoid it hence avoidance attachment stuff as soon as they get close they start pushing you away so if you act needy hey I'd like to see you three times a week oh that's too much I only want to see you once a week and so there's nothing wrong with being assertive telling your date your partner what it is that you want hey I'm looking for a long-term committed relationship somebody I can see all the time and to
the same extent hey I just want a One night's dead I don't want to get committed and so that's what I mean when I say to be your authentic self really let the person know who are you as a person your values what makes you think what makes you excited your passions everything and of course opening up sharing details you perhaps are scared of is going to give your date your partner some ammunition against you they now know this about me and they're going to use it against me well if they do do you really
think you should stay with them and so how is it bad how is it bad if you give them this power hey you have some power now but if you use it I'm gone remember abundance Theory and so if they end up mistreating you using this information against you using it to hurt you to dig at you then simply move on there are plenty more fish in the sea and so tips on how to get your dream woman and so number one one have standards why waste your time with someone that you have no future
with it may not be on the first date second date third but perhaps it's after a month if you know there's no way that you can see a future with this person then end it end it and move on if you stay in this relationship and it prevents you from meeting other people the person who actually could be your dream girl then why are you doing that you're not literally shooting yourself in the foot number two watch for red flags there are red flags bad and green flags good now remember no nobody's perfect and if
they have one red flag it's not enough to throw in the towel you shouldn't just give up oh they had one red flag they did one thing wrong but in my opinion three strikes and you're out if you see red flag after red flag and a third red flag you got to swing in a miss and you got to get moving on number three get out there how are you going to meet someone if you sit at home twiddling your thumbs all time you need to get out there where you're going to meet people so
many people are like oh it'll happen Don't Force It Well if you work from home and you never leave the house how are you meeting people in comparison perhaps join a gym join yoga go to the bar to clubs to social events where you can in fact meet other people because you don't how are you ever going to meet anyone remember it's a game of averages it's statistics let's say 1% of the population would be a good fit for you one out of a 100 girls out there perhaps could be your dream girl perhaps one
out of a thousand whatever well if you're sitting at home and you're not meeting a thousand girls how are you ever going to meet your dream girl you're not so get out there and do something number four maintain emotional control if you're rejected don't lash out don't get into arguments don't get into fights don't let any woman affect you emotionally to that extent you need to play cool you need to be confident you cannot let somebody's opinion of you affect you that deeply I always say stop giving a about what other people think of you
and so if it gets out that you're abusive that you're treating girls like that you are not respecting them other people will find out and they will want to steer clear from you and so despite the fact that you broke up a woman should at least respect you hey it didn't work out but he is a good guy I do in fact respect him and I would tell my friend perhaps it would work out with you it wasn't right for me but I could see him being right for someone else number five invest in yourself
I'm talking physically emotionally socially financially become a high value man go to school educate yourself get a career become a successful person that other people can respect I mean think of it you have two people that are equally attractive one has made it financially they have a great body they've worked on themselves they're a great communicator they have ambition work ethic and are emotionally intelligent which of the two are you going after I mean really think about it and so the more work you can put into yourself the more other people are going to see
it eventually that's going to come out as being more confident if you are confident you are going to attract far more females than if you're not just think of it you're successful you have a great career you worked on your body are you not going to be more positive are people not going to see the passion in your eyes the fact that you put in all that work for decades to achieve what you have achieved in comparison you sit at home and play video games I mean really I mean there's nothing wrong with playing video
games but if that's all you do don't expect to get a high value woman yeah you might get some girls some hot ones but are they going to be of high value girls that you would want to spend the rest of your life with to grow old with to form a deep emotional connection with I don't think so and remember dates are just like interviews keep them short and interactive don't spend all the money in your account on your first date you're just getting to know them if they demand you take you to a fancy
restaurant or spend hundreds or thousands of dollars on them to impress them then are they really falling for you or are they falling for your money a great date should just be going out for coffee having a chat go for a walk get to to know each other are you genely attracted to them and their personality and so rather than spending so much money dating cuz after all you may in fact go on a 100 dates perhaps even a thousand before finding that dream girl and so don't think that dates need to be 5 hours
in length you have to go to a fancy restaurant pick them up with a fancy car it doesn't have to be like that you can simply meet them go for a walk grab a coffee and talk what are their value systems what makes them tick what makes them happy when I meet someone for the first time I want to know what makes them tick what makes them get out of bed what excites them what makes them truly happy we have similar interest are we vibing am I physically attracted to her cuz remember they don't need
to be a 10 but you at least have to be attracted to them and so very rare does someone marry their high school sweetheart the first girl they ever dated they grow old together it does happen but it's very rare more often than not you're going to have to kiss a few frogs before you find a prince is that the saying and so if you're kissing too many frogs please use protection you don't want to have too many many mini mes out there that you'll be responsible for for the rest of your life and so
of course if you're looking for that dream girl it does help to have a fantastic physique and so why not pick some of the HTT supplements for example ge2 masx or if you're perhaps on your fourth date or more you may in fact need to pick up harder than last time you know for the downstairs the circle diet book PDF hard copy you can get that all on my website subscribe click the Bell button did you like the video if you liked it please drop me a like add a comment ask me all the questions
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