[Music] hi psych2goers and welcome back to another video we're glad to see you here and want to thank you for supporting us your ongoing help sharing and liking have helped psych2go continue our mission to make psychology more accessible to everyone now back to the video fake friends are selfish manipulative and disingenuous towards you they're focused on what you can do for them and could care less about you as a person are you wondering if you have a fake friend in your life here are 7 things that only a fake friend would do 1. they talk about you behind your back do you find this person gossiping about you behind your back and spreading your secrets to everyone no matter how juicy the rumor is or how popular it might make them a true friend would never jeopardize your friendship or humiliate you like that by stabbing you in the back but fake friends will talk trash about you and spread rumors about you when you're not looking 2. they throw you under the bus when the going gets tough fake friends are willing to just throw you under the bus and pin the blame on you if it means saving their own skin they don't vouch for you they don't take your side and they certainly don't stick up for you when someone is hurting or belittling you the truth is they don't think you or your friendship is worth putting themselves at risk for three they constantly cancel on you have you spent weeks planning a trip only for your friends to cancel on you at the last minute was there something you were looking forward to doing with them but they never even bothered to show up no matter how many times you keep reminding them about it your so-called friends never keep their word you've had to learn the hard way over and over again that you can't ever count on them to come through for you 4.
they exclude you from their plans do they seem to conveniently forget to invite you to things do you feel excluded from group activities more often than not even if you go out of your way to invite them or tell them about your plans they just don't do the same for you 5. they call just to ask you for favors does this situation sound familiar to you oh hey listen i know we haven't talked in a while but i need a really big favor do you think you could help me please if this friend only ever calls you up to ask for your help then they're probably a fake friend fake friends think it's okay to ghost you for weeks only to pop up and ask you for a favor they don't even bother to ask you how you're doing because really they're just using you to help fix their problem and the moment you give them what they want then they're out of your life once more 6. they give you backhanded compliments have they ever said things to you like you did surprisingly well or that was better than i expected from you or maybe you look so much better than you usually do a backhanded compliment is something fake friends do to subtly put you down by making it sound like praise it's a way to criticize you without being too obvious about it it shows that they are jealous of you and that they judge you more harshly than they want to let on what they really want to do is to take a dig at you and pass it off as a bit of lighthearted teasing between friends 7.
