You are not a victim

hello guys before we start this video we need to say hi to the newest edition of this family this is Marcy I heard that you are falling back into the victim mindset again I heard that you're sitting in your bed all day feeling sorry for yourself and oh my God life is so unfair to me honey no one cares nobody's coming to save you and in this video I will tell you everything you need to do to snap out of that mindset if you live in the victim mindset or you self-sabotage yourself a lot you

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you can attend group sessions if you think that you might benefit from therapy then please visit betterhelp.com wizard Liz or visit the link in description down below this link does not only help support this channel but it also gives you 10% off your first month at better help hi guys my name is Liz and welcome back to my channel okay let's get into it first things first I'm going to tell you something right now that is going to change your Consciousness and it's going to change the way you look at life so be ready listen

to me this mug over here someone had to imagine this mug in their heads in order to put it into the Physical Realm okay so this is an imagination of someone you going to your job your job is your boss's imagination he imagined a company that he wanted to create and then he put it into the Physical Realm so you're basically working at your boss's imagination countries countries are not real we all imagine Collective a border that's not there it's just Earth okay everything's Earth but we imagine that those countries are separated money we imagine

that paper or the amount you have in your bank is worth that much but it isn't and if tomorrow the big Corporation Banks say that Hey listen the money you have in your account or the cash that you have is not worth anything it's not so basically everything we have in life is just an imagination that means we're living in a dream that means means we're living in an imagination and that means we're living in whatever you want to call it the Matrix a game whatever now bear with me bear with me okay the people

in your life let's say for example in my life my sister okay who is my sister the only person that I know as my sister is my perception of her is the character that I created of her in my reality but if I ask right now to my mother hey mom who is my sister she will give me a completely different answer because in my mother's reality she created a different version of my sister the same way when you have a relationship right and you think I'm going to get married to this guy whatever but

then one day all of a sudden he does something to you he cheats or whatever and you're completely like shocked and then you say you're heartbroken you're not heartbroken your ego broken your ego had imagined something you imagined you had a future with this person but it was not reality because honey the only thing that's promised in life is that we will die but other than that nothing is promised you can never know never even your own mother you can never know how they will act we basically imagine everything we do we imagine our future

we dwell on the past which also doesn't exist Future Past doesn't exist only this moment is what we have so if we start to realize that wait a minute we're kind of crazy we live our whole life imagining stuff and thinking that it will happen a certain way and then it doesn't what can we do with that we can realize that we're the creator of our life we can realize that we can create this dream or this imagination however we want it to be right now if you decide I never want to see the wizard

L again you can never watch my videos again you can never watch my content again and I will not exist in your imagination anymore same way if you choose to walk away from a toxic partner toxic friend even your abusive household these people don't exist in your imagination anymore and in fact you will create whole whole different reality and a whole different dream cuz now you will meet other people new characters in your imagination how do I want to create my game my dream how do I want my imagination to look like who do I

allow into my imaginations how do I behave who am I what does my character look like let's go to the second part which is being a victim makes you feel safe see being a victim is the most comfortable thing there is because you don't have to do much you don't have to do much you know what you're like life is this is your life your life is a circle everything just keeps moving the same way in the same Circle but this is comfortable for you you know why because you know what is going to happen

in the surgical you know everything you don't have to take risks you don't have to deal with different people you know okay you're you're partner is abusive but at least you know him and at least you know what he's going to do I can tell you already right now a lot of people watching this will not do that or take that leap of faith in life cuz you guys are not brave enough and I'm saying This truly from from my own life and from my own perspective this takes guts you know and everyone wants to

blame everyone you want to blame your trauma you want to blame uh capitalism you want to blame society at the end you will be left with no one to blame but yourself your life is because of you I remember I used to sit all day in my room crying about why my life was and blah blah and oh my God my father abused me blah blah you think that anyone cared no you know when they care when you get out of it when your life becomes a success story David Goggins is not David Goggins without

his success no one would care if he was still the same guy before they would just look at him and be like whatever guy like shut up you know everyone has problems but now he's an inspiration because he turned his life around no one will care about any of you guys you guys are sitting in your victim mindset someone might listen to you and be like I feel a little bit bad for you but everyone moves on with their life you will be left behind no one is going to save you you know why because

no one can save you the only person that can save you is you no one is going to make you change growth is not easy okay growth is not easy growth is two steps forward and one step back every time you learn something it's two steps forward because now you have more knowledge but then if you put it into practice it will be one step back because you're not used to acting like this okay but you still have to continue though if you give up once you feel like oh this got uncomfortable oh this is

too much for me if you give up right there you'll be right back where you started and we want to move honey stop abusing yourself by being in the same Circle that you don't like stop abusing yourself by being the same person that you don't like look into the mirror honey we don't have anyone to blame you don't have anyone to blame but see as a victim it's easy to run away again it's easy to be like oh I tried I tried you didn't try and you didn't try hard enough try again try again try

again until you get there another thing is some of you are genuinely addicted to drama okay and you have to realize this a lot of people when they come out of an abusive household they will think like later in life like hey it's too peaceful it's too quiet so what do they do they start to attract people that will give them that toxicity again because this only thing they knew this what they grew up with okay realize that you're the creator of that drama though you can choose to have a peaceful life you can't choose

to just have peaceful people around you and if you can't find peaceful people just be peaceful on your own for a while till you find someone that makes you feel peaceful too but see you don't want to do that cuz you want to feel the adrenaline again that there is something in there that you're still attracted to so you need to work on that stop creating drama when it was never meant for you stop involving yourself in things that were never meant for you stop watching things that are so dramatic and now and now you

feel like you're inside of that drama too no honey and also realize that you have control you have control who comes into your life you have control about who you date you have control about what you watch what you listen to what you read you have control over these things yet if you wake up every morning and you decide to open the news and it's all negative and now your day is bad don't blame the news blame your eyes and blame your hands for putting that on my friends are so toxic my partner is so

toxic we constantly fight this and that why don't you start looking at why you allowed them in why don't you start looking at do don't I have control who I allow into my life why don't you start looking at you and why don't honey you don't honey why don't you start looking at what is it in me that I don't feel worthy of enough of having people that actually respect me notice what part you play in life you know you can cry all day about oh I'm overweight oh I'm too skinny are you actually doing

something to fix that or are you just crying all day really ask yourself what am I actually doing in order to fix my life I wake up and what do you do do you go on social media and that's it you scrolled all day and then you're like oh my life is Society is bad no like honestly you you're just not good enough I think it's funny because when I talk about it people want to talk about pretty privilege and stuff I don't get it because you want to cry about PR pretty privileged when there's

people accomplishing more than you okay that are maybe not as good-look or they don't even have hands or feet and they're still living their life sometimes you have to accept your situation for what it is and if you think that you're so godamn ugly do something about your face watching this documentary about transgender people in Thailand this guy who was earning no money he had saved for 4 years so he could get gender operation and he was so happy but imagine he worked 4 years years of it and he achieved it which he went to

a terrible doctor by the way to a doctor that basically gave him like no anesthesia he was like awake during the surgery and stuff but still he was willing to risk his life to just have the surgery when someone wants something so badly they will get it done anyways crackheads every single day they get a way they have a way to get cracked you know like okay I know that's not a good example and stuff but still they don't complain about Society they don't say oh I don't have a job no they find a way

to get money and they buy their crack because that's what they want go from complaining go to gratitude you know I saw this DM message that said like yeah but capitalism like Liz you live in a bubble because of capitalism we can't achieve anything this and that blah blah I didn't come from money I came from very abusive childhood and I was an immigrant and I still turned my life around okay because I turned my mindset around I had a plan if I didn't do that and if I didn't set my mind on my plan

and if I didn't focus on the plan I would have been sitting in my mom's bedroom all day still crying with no money this day and age is also the the easiest way to make money online we your parents didn't have that privilege I wouldn't want to be in my mother's shoes for example surviving a whole War almost having a bullet to her head having to flee a country starting from zero your University degrees don't mean anything anymore now start from zero learn a new language and go clean toilets to make a living you guys

are sitting on your high and you're so privileged you know and you want to talk about people in North Korea talk about them talk about them because they won't be able to see this video cuz they don't have access to the internet but you do just want someone that stands in front of a crowd and says like everything is going to be okay I want World Peace when in fact there's never going to be World Peace because we need the good and the bad in order to keep the world in Balance how the world Works

they just lie to you and they give you this False Image and then they just move on with their life they get their private jet and they go back home you start from going from complaining to gratitude the more your life will change because now look if I for example want to attract like a bigger thing like how do I attract it by feeling already satisfied with what I have by being grateful for what I have that's how I feel fulfilled that's how I will feel rich okay but someone that has all these things already

and has the biggest luxuries but every day he doesn't feel like he has has it they will always feel poor it's a mindset if you constantly look at what isn't there instead of what is you will create more of that so the more you complain you will create more of the lack if you're constantly looking out for yellow car in the street you will see yellow cars everywhere okay so if you're in your house looking around like oh I don't have this TV oh I don't have this I don't have that yeah honey you will

have more of what you don't have things being stuck in the past the past does not exist you know you have to come to a point where you accept your past and you know that everything that happened has happened and now you start working on yourself cuz it doesn't exist the only moment we have is now you know same way with dwelling on the future oh I want my future to look like that oh but what are you doing now you know how are you behaving now now because how you are now will determine your

future and not the other way around look at the ways you sabotage yourself you know every time something good comes into your life what do you do do you ruin it do you ruin relationships um what in your life are you doing that sabotages you you have to ask yourself these things write it down write down in what ways am I self-sabotaging myself for example I self-sabotage Myself by doing too much for people okay because I always am depleted and I always feel like I have no energy left anymore and I don't even need to

do those things I don't even need to take care of those people I know where it's actually coming from because ever since I was young I I thought that I would have to take care of my mother and protect my mother so now this translates in every single person in my life see now that I know it's something that I can work on I can't say like oh I'm always left depleted because I act this way no I know from where this comes so now I have to work on that and not repeat these mistakes

imagine I have a child right now and I start abusing my child physically and then I say to you guys oh yeah but my father used to do that to me so I'm the victim of that so that's why I do this you guys are going to look at me and be like no Liz this is your responsibility and you guys are going to blame me and rightfully so I am the one to be blamed okay it's not fair what happened to me but whatever I do with it next is all on me and no

one else life when you don't take care of yourself first you cannot show up as the best mother the best daughter the best even employee or boss you cannot show up because you're depleted you you don't feel good you're depressed it's going to show up in every other relationship of your life if you want to perform the best you want to be for others then you should think about you first and nurturing you first so you're happy I think first making sure that you're good and then showing up for everyone else is the most selfless

thing so stop thinking it's selfish you have to put yourself first right now if you don't feel good in life if you feel like oh my life is not going anywhere it's okay to step take a step back from everyone and focus on you focus on nurturing you honey no one is going to take care of you no one is going to come to save you I'm telling you this no one is coming the only person that is going to save you now is you you deserve everything you want in life and anything and you

can get it once you set your mind to it stop listening to people that have no clue about life stop taking advice from people that you don't even want to share lives with these people are miserable themselves and well what if you had that a parent or whatever tell you that oh whatever this how life is supposed to be you're supposed to suffer honey no that was not written for you you can change that around you don't have to do what your parents did all in all I'm not here to make you guys feel comfortable

I want to wake you guys up okay I want you guys to change your life and I really care about you guys hope you guys learned something from this video I hope you guys enjoyed this video and yeah I'll see you the next video bye-bye love you