I heard that you don't know how to get spoiled by a man and I heard that some of you and honestly my heart breaks every time I think about this are paying for a man I know that you guys need my help that's why I'm here now is it necessary for you to be spoiled by a man no absolutely not if you want to do 50/50 whatever I don't care because it's not my life but at the end of the day I still want you to watch this video because I want you to look at
me and think wo if Liz expects This Much from her partner then maybe I can expect my partner to at least give me some respect you know you don't have to want your partner to spoil you but just look at me and think this woman thinks that she is worth so much and that nobody can be with her unless they provide this maybe I should demand some respect and honesty and love and loyalty also like these misconceptions about the fact like oh a man providing for a woman is unrealistic whatever but why is it never
unrealistic when a single mother is providing for three four five six seven children and that is okay and that is normal and she should be able to take care of that financially but a man cannot provide for one single woman like why are we babying men these days I don't get it why cuz people find it anti-feminist that a man is taking care of a woman but I think it's anti feminist that a woman is literally doing everything and on top of that she also has to work like she has to take care of the
children of the home she has to be a wife cook Nanny cleaner everything and then on top of that she also has to work who is winning here men have so much Advantage even in the the wage like the money that they make everything and you're going to sit there and justify to me paying for a man the reason why I love a man that provides and spoils is because for example my partner that I have right now he was literally the reason that I could go into therapy like I did not have any money
before I met him and the money he gave me I took it and I went to therapy with it like without that I would have literally not been able to be here and to start my healing Journey that's also why I want to say a huge thank you to better help for sponsoring this video better help is an online therapy platform that easily connects you with a licensed therapist that can help you with any issue that you might be facing better help also has a network of over 30,000 therapists so you can easily find a
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also gets you 10% off your first month at Better Health hi guys my name is Liz and welcome back to my channel okay let's get right into it first things first I need you to understand that people in life get what they expect I've always expected my partner to pay all my bills and do everything financially for me um because I grew up watching my mom go to work every single day work in between men and her ex-husband lay at home do nothing and then after like a long ma abusive marriage like that where she
was the provider he ended up cheating on her with a younger woman now he has a family with this woman and guess what he is providing everything for this woman he is working and paying all the bills why is he doing this now because that woman expects him to there is no other option he cannot be with that woman unless he works and with my mom her ex-husband he knew if he worked or if he didn't work she would still continue to provide and stay because of the children I need women to understand that men
will say they want good women but good women never get rewarded it's always like oh I want a day one girl I want a girl that has been there from the beginning but those women get literally later on cheated on why is this because that's not the woman they want that's the only woman they can get right now once they are at a level where they have the money they want to spend their money on their fantasy woman on the woman that they actually want if you feel bad asking a man for anything then you
should think if a man took out his celebrity crush do you think that he would just take her out on a coffee date or something simple no best believe he would go all out trying to impress his Liberty Crush why are you anything less why are you literally lower than that and men always have the highest expectations for women and men will not be with you if you're not attractive or if you're not his type they don't care they don't care to wait or whatever start expecting good treatment start expecting to be spoiled um start
expecting him to give you money like literally those are your expectations and that's it and don't don't settle for them like just say like this is what I want and look for the person that is willing to give you that if if a person is not willing to give you that then also don't go with that those people you need to get the mindset out of your head that wealthy or provider men want to control you if you think those men want to control you then try dating a broke guy those men have no money
but they have audacity one thing in life that broke men have is audacity and truly honestly if I was a broke man I would have audacity too like I don't need to do anything for you and you're literally going to give me all wifey treatment you're going to do everything for me and you're working on top of that as well and maybe even giving me money I would have audacity too you're so easy for me like truly that's how I think she's so easy and a lot of men think okay let me exploit her until
I can get who I actually want so stop doing this other thing is don't look for a wealthy man look for a man with a provider mindset my first boyfriend ever when I was 19 he was a multi-millionaire um he was extremely wealthy and I was broke and he would sometimes give me money but like literally nothing in compared to what he has and um with that money I needed to buy dresses to look good on the dates whatever so basically I was still broke after that he was wealthy yeah now my partner now he
is nearly not at all as wealthy as my my first uh boyfriend but he has a provider mindset so my partner now literally from the get go I never had to worry again about money because he had everything covered for me he paid all my bills everything I literally didn't have to worry about anything anymore my partner now he always had the mindset of if I don't have money I don't even want to date a woman because I love taking care of a woman and I want my woman to look amazing and I don't care
how I look next to her she's like the prize you know that's how he thinks so he said even when I was younger and I was broke I would not date I was literally not dating because I could not even take a woman out that is a provider mindset so it doesn't matter if the guy right now makes like $11,000 $2,000 whatever a month you should just look at even with that money is he's still trying to do stuff for you in the capacity of the money that he has and as well have realistic expectations
don't expect like Rolexes or or like crazy cars from someone that makes $1,000 a month allow your your man to grow and as well don't think that those luxury things are what you should strive for because at the end of the day luxury items are just people that were very good at marketing a product that's it luxury items are not special and they also don't validate you I think it's actually very insecure if any if like people only focus on having luxury items and showing off that they have it like it shows insecurity cuz something
outside of you some some Brands you're trying to validate yourself with that's also not the point of this video because for me honestly I don't need to be dress in designer top top to toe I don't care like I do love nice bags and maybe shoes or whatever but I'm also not like obsessed with like Brands I am more obsessed with generational wealth I want my children to have Financial stability and also don't think that like a lot of women are getting spoiled this way where they literally are being like crazy amounts of money whatever
it's only really a small type of woman because there's also not a lot of crazy rich men and especially rich men these days they don't want to spend on a woman anymore because any woman is willing to do anything for them for free or for nothing they can get girls for nothing you know they don't have to spend on woman so why would they also if you have a man that's constantly showing off how much wealth he has to you or how much he has ask him to transfer it to you time I had this
guy that was trying to date me and constantly he would send me DMS in a private jet holding so much cash like whatever whatever until a point that I literally told him instead of showing me videos of you having cash send the cash to me deposit me the money and then obviously he never did that again because first of all that's pathetic I I literally it's literally like taking food and going somewhere where people don't have food and eating in front of them like what are you doing what are you doing another thing is let
a man know what your intentions are if you are going on a first date I for example example before I start dating a partner I always say I love a man that takes care of me I expect a man to take care of me um I like to be treated uh and spoiled and so from the GetGo they know okay this is what it is and also in like uh the second date I wouldn't say the first date because you guys don't know each other yet but like the second date you already have to see
like okay is he like trying to give me something like flowers even something small doesn't matter is he like doing something for me if he isn't why are you still there like you're literally sitting there you're showing everyone that you're with him looking in front of people like oh my God I'm the man I have this beautiful woman uh in front of me but you're sitting there and you don't have anything why what what are you doing there go home like go home now some men are not willing to do that so they will just
leave you alone and go about their life which is fine because that's also not our type and if you are already in a relationship and your partner he uh he didn't spoil you yet and you want him to start spoiling you just tell him like hey just be honest say like hey I really would uh appreciate it if you gave me some money like an allowance or I would appreciate it if you take take more care of me if you like just say it in a subtle way nice way but one really important thing is
do not demand a man for things demanding a man for things is just honestly in my opinion disgusting because a man doesn't owe you anything if a man wants to spoil you it's because he wants to do do that and if he knows that you like it he will do that you know but you saying like you have to do this for me he doesn't have to do anything for you he doesn't owe you anything okay so don't say it like that my boyfriend he had an ex-girlfriend and he literally told me like the reason
why he didn't buy her anything was because she would say like you have to do this and you have to buy me stuff and he's like I was literally repulsed by that like I find it disgusting is do not tell a man that your exes treated badly the way men think is and this is actually what my man told me he thinks okay I have to do a little bit more than the ex in that way I'm like a little better you know I'm just I have to do the bare minimum more so then in
her eyes I'm better than an ex so if you tell him oh my ex used to beat me up and abuse me then he will think oh okay if I just don't abuse her I'm the good guy okay so what I recommend you do is always tell him oh yeah my ex is the always used to take care of me um like I was always financially taken care of all these things you have to tell a man that and maybe later down the line when you're already in a relationship you can tell him like how
it really was if you want to tell about your exes and you can open up but especially in the beginning stages when you guys are dating do not say this now if you've already told him that your exes were so bad and they mistreated you don't worry what you can do now is you make your man believe that either your friend your sister I don't know some feemale in that you know is getting treated so well by her boyfriend by her partner by her husband you should say like oh my god um my friend she
literally like she's always taking care of by her husband or her boyfriend he always does everything for her oh he just bought her this this and that see how men are is competitive they're very competitive so if you tell a man that your friend is being taken care like this then their competitive nature comes up and they're like okay this is what I'm competing with even if I mention to my My Man girlfriend she got these pair of shoes and I love them he literally buys them for me the next day like it's a competitive
nature that they have another thing is stop saying you don't need a man and especially in front of a man or to a man don't say that don't say like oh I don't need you whatever if you tell a man you don't need him he will not do anything to show up for you literally like don't complain about not getting spoiled if you're telling a man I don't need you it doesn't work like that you you'll make him feel this small basically what you need to do is actually Act like you do need him even
for like the smallest things for example a light bulb like you can do it on your own you can fix that light bulb on your own call your man ask your man to do it tell him can you please fix the light bulb for me and when he does that just appreciate him for it like men need to feel needed and appreciated so when you you literally give him that feeling it will make him happy remember one time like with my little brother I was like installing this cat toy and it was like big and
I kept wanting to do it on my own want to do it and he kept being like no no let me do it let me do it and he was so insistent on it to a point where I just stopped and let him do it completely and he felt so proud of himself and then I told my mom I was like Mom look how good he did like how well and I could see it really boosted his ego see a lot of women when they get stuff from a man or or a man does something
nice for them women forget to appreciate them or to praise them or say like oh you did so well thank you so much when a man doesn't feel appreciated he will go somewhere else to find that appreciation in another woman as well make him do small things for you like it doesn't matter what it is even transferring you for to get your nails done buying you a dress things like that like small things sort of small if he has never ever spoiled you like oh say like oh can you pay like uh for my car
to get it fixed whatever like something small for this is also such a big thing because women are so afraid to ask and this is the easiest thing ever like just ask just ask and you will get it like I had this one friend and she literally was dating like this wealthy guy they were together for one year and when she met me I told her I'm like oh well so do you have a card that he gives you with an allowance on it and she's like no and I was like why don't you have
a card and then she's like oh my God like do you think I should ask and stuff I'm like yeah yeah go ask so then she went ahead and she just asked him can you give me a card and then from then on he's still taking care of her till this day and she has a card with an allowance on it just because she asked well in my first relationship I used to never want to ask for things I just wanted him to do it whatever and um literally even when he said like oh I
love these shoes I would be like no no I don't want them whatever they're too expensive because I didn't want him to think that like Oh I'm a gold digger or whatever you know but with my uh relationship now immediately when I met him I like when he said like oh I like shoes I was like yeah me too can like can we go buy them and he would literally take me to go shopping to go buy stuff like just because I was already from the GetGo I was like okay yeah let's go just don't
be afraid to ask men for things like men are literally not afraid to ask us for anything they will ask you to take your clothes off in 2 seconds so it doesn't matter ask them give me money make sure that he knows what brands you like make sure that he just knows what you like so in general if he does want to gift you and without you knowing then he knows what to gift you because he knows what you like like if you're walking in a mall just look at the stores that you like or
go inside and be like oh let's let's just take a look babe let's look at what what I want this and that another thing is show him that these things genuinely make you happy like what they say happy wife is happy life is really true a man gets really happy because of his wom being happy so if he does nice things for you if he's trying his best if he's gifting you spoiling you just be be like Oh I'm really appreciative I'm really happy like just let him see that this makes you happy so then
he will click in his head like oh okay if I do stuff for her and if I spoil her means more happiness so better for me but don't go like for example he does something and nagging like oh this is not good enough whatever please don't do that that's so rude okay so another thing is make him think that it was his idea so for examp example when I met my partner now I when I met wanted like a designer bag now see there were two brands that I let him choose from so I asked
him I'm like okay what brand do you like do you like this brand or this brand and he was like oh I like this brand which was the more expensive brand and I was like okay nice what kind what kind of bag do you like from that brand and he's like oh this one with this leather I'm like oh okay nice and and then I was like what color he's like yeah in Black whatever I'm like oh okay I'm like I would really love that band like it's so nice like you have really great style
and then he goes like yeah yeah you're right like oh yeah and then a couple of months later he got it for me so then when he bought it I was like oh my God you were so right this is an amazing Choice like I love the bag but actually I was the one that put the idea in his head but I just made him choose with which either brand that I would have been really really happy with and for example if I was dating someone new or you are dating someone new you just tell
tell him like yeah you really do seem like the type of men that that like likees to provide for a woman oh yeah like you're really like a manly man like I can see that and he'll be like yeah yeah I really am oh so yeah you just make him think that it is his idea to spoil a woman there's like this misconception over the fact that you need to be extremely feminine in order to attract a provider men and I don't think this is true because I know people that literally wear like masculine clothes
and they also get uh provided for by their man I just think it's more wear what you're comfortable in like do not just adapt a very feminine style and you look very weird wearing it like some women really don't look good in a very feminine style um so you have to figure out your style and whatever you feel most comfortable in that is what will radiate confidence and confidence is what will attract someone that is willing to provide for you or willing to take care of you also understand that you as a woman you have
to receive like it's a law you have you want to attract you have to receive and I'm going to explain why so I was watching this video from Shir 7 and it was basically about that if you don't receive you are disrespecting the divine feminine as a woman right and she also said that uh giving money to a woman is the way to being wealthy and that is so true because because I for example ever since I have my YouTube channel I have been giving money to my mother and I have been taking care of
a woman right my mother's a woman I've been taken care of her I have been becoming wealthier and wealthier and I truly believe that is the reason why I'm getting more blessed and more blessed every single successful man I know is taking care of a woman whether it's their mother whether is their partner anyone It's Always a Woman and when they do it they always get more like my partner as well ever since he started taking care of me he got more and more blessed in his job he went up in his career he became
wealthier why he is taking care of a woman you want money go bless a woman in my head I think no one is good enough for me I literally think that I am the best so I make people happy you have to make me happy as well anyways guys I hope you enjoyed this video I hope you guys learned something and yeah I see you in the next video bye-bye
