From Shy to Social: How to get better at talking

from shy to social how to make that process how to get better at talking I've made a massive transformation with this over the years and so in this video I want to show you guys if you're a dude who's shy or isn't maxed out with the social confidence the mindset you need to have some easy techniques that you could be doing right now in your conversations today and then also just understanding the process you're going to go through so regardless if you're extremely introverted or you're kind of shy or you just want to get better

with your confidence I'm going to take you through that whole process so by the end of this video you know exactly what you need to do to become confident as all right so first thing to understand guys when it comes to building the skill set you don't need to go to the clubs you don't need to be out party and getting drunk you can work on this skill set any time of the day in any location I I used to have this misconception that I would need to go out at night to get better with

my social skills and I would need to practice talking to 10 out of 10 dimes to get better with this and then I would think well there's no hot girls in my area or I'm too intimidated to go up and talk to the hot girl and so I was pretty much stagnant not realizing that there are strangers everywhere in your dayto day you go to the gas station you go to the grocery store you go to the cafe you're at the gym you're walking down the street you're at the dog park the person at the

front desk the person at the cash register the waiter the person in the elevator with you these are all opportunities for you to work on your social skills to stop being shy the process to go from shy to somewhat confident is not that difficult especially if you do everything I'm talking about in this video okay so you want to start seeing the world as an opportunity not the hot girl the hot girl is like hard mode and if you can't even interact with the world you're not at the point yet where you're going to be

able to get the hot girl so the first thing is to just make a commitment that starting today the next time I'm in one of these environments and I see somewhat of an opportunity I'm going to use those people even if it's not the hot girl as practice it's practice and repetition it's a skill set it's a muscle I just walked out of the gym I go to the gym every day I work the muscle every day I break it down and that's how I get stronger you work your social skills on a daily basis

and that's why it get stronger the reason you're shy is because your social skills are weak right now and you don't need to work on them on the hot girl that's like doing 315 at the bench we want to start off with just 10 lb dumbbells man the chubby dude at the gas station is a great starting point I swear to God and as you start doing this more and more and more you'll be able to go more consistently in all of these environments so if you're at a very low point you want to just

start by doing one two three of these a day and keep the interactions very short but that's the first thing dude is you can practice the skill set without ever even talking to the hot girl for right now ultimately I want you to get the hot girl and we'll talk about that whole process in a minute but just start today with whoever you see in your environments and if you're wondering well what am I going to say I don't really have a good vibe or Charisma like I have nothing to talk about that brings me

into Point number two because when I first started I didn't have this this level of Charisma this level of confidence this vocal tonality this appearance I'm 34 I made a massive transformation from 20 to 34 it's been 15 years right my first girl left for another dude I was at Rock Bottom when I was like 23 24 I had no confidence no vibe and so when I first started going out to these environments I I spent too much time at the club and that actually made things more difficult for me it was a very intimidating

place I wish in hindsight I started to go to more local places consistently but I did you know what I did do very well is I would go to the gym and I would just focus on saying one thing to one person I would have like my phrase of the day it would be something like I'm feeling really tired today honestly but the Pre-Workout just kicked in so I'm hoping I get some energy out of this that would be like my one phrase for the day it's it's typically whatever was going on in my day

if it was at the gym I'd be talking about my energy levels the cheat mail I had the night before the I'm hopeful that I'm going to hit my PR on the bench today it would be like one sentence it doesn't need to be gym related but that's where I was getting my social activity so when I would go to the gym I would just make it a goal I have to say something to one person today and all I would really do is say hey what's going on there would be this girl at the

front desk and I would walk in and I'd say hey what's going on hey how's your day going right I'm on the flat bench I'm finishing my set there's a person next to me I'm like hey what's going on man how's your day going and everybody is going to say the same thing it's going good how about you anywhere you go you go to the gas station go to the grocery store you're in the checkout line how's your day going by the way just get good at saying that one thing and be ready because the

other person is going to say it's going good you good you you know why everybody says that cuz nobody has to say however you're going to be the different one and this is a cheat code hly this a cheat code you already know the answer to the test so it's a very easy way to just practice that first couple steps of conversation skills you have one thing to say about your day if I'm at the grocery store and the dude says it's going good you I'd say honestly man I'm kind of excited cuz I just

got all these ingredients I'm cooking my cheat meal today so we'll see see how this pepperoni roll comes out that's it or I'd say honestly kind of a low-key type of day I just really came here for some fruit on this on this diet right now so I'm just trying to keep my calories you know at maintenance or in a deficit I don't have anything phenomenal to say most of the time guys the thing is though is that when you're when you're very in your head or when you're shy in those moments you're not going

to be very witty now I'm at a a point where I could just improv whatever I want but initially I needed to have that one phrase to say and I could go about saying that throughout that environment if I was at the gym I would say that same one sentence to like two or three people and by the second or third one I'd usually get a laugh out of it and so I'm feeling more confident about it or if I'm in the grocery store I might only say that's a one person but it's okay that's

a that's a that's me curling the 10 lb dumbbell getting stronger right so wherever you go even if it's a house party you're hanging out with friend it it doesn't matter you pick that one thing and you can just ask them how their day is going and just get ready to say you're one thing and that's a great starting point it's a great starting point that you could you could ultimately build off of down the road because once you get more comfortable with that one thing you're typically going to get a response from the person

and the next step you could go is completely switching topic so I'll give you an example I'm at the gym I just said that waiting for the Pre-Workout to kick in but I'm hopeful they say yeah I'm pretty tired too I say yeah and after this I'm actually just going to go get some groceries I'm trying out this new diet right I just stack the things on top of each other or if I'm at the grocery store and I say yeah just getting some fruit for day kind of a low-key day I'm on this new

diet I'm going to be in a deficit and the guy's like oh that's cool I say yeah I'm like just doing that and I got my workout in so it's all about the diet and Fitness today how about yourself man that's it okay that's how you could stack it it's one step little little one step further but just want to show you you guys that progression so depending on which level you're at you can just start really slow or you can start to build off of it all right and that actually brings me into Point

number three because in this journey there's going to be different phases if you're the dude that's all the way at the bottom you're just going to want to start to save one thing to one person a day honestly and if that's a big deal just do that one thing it could be a compliment in passing it could be a good morning in passing right like you don't for me I couldn't even handle the pressure of standing in an interaction that was very uncomfortable so another thing at a very low level was I would say something

to somebody while I'm walking by so I don't even need to have the pressure of the response just say the thing hey good morning hey I like your jacket take care have a good day that could be the starting point if you're a little bit further then you can ask a question or you can carry a sentence one to two one to two phrases further and so on and so forth that it just kind of keeps building and as you get as you start building the muscle you could do more Reps for the day or

you could do a longer set for the day right so instead of doing like hypothetically one set of three reps you can do one set of like five reps like five sentences or you can do three sets of multiple sentences in interactions and that's how you can build this thing up and over time you'll feel more confident talking to more attractive people and over time you'll actually be able to inject flirtatiousness to to actually hit on to hit on girls or flirt with girls and create attraction but for right now I'm just talking about from

shy to social understand like when you're first starting to talk to people you're going to be very anxious your Vibe is going to be closed off because you're very in your head when you do this more and more times you're going to start to relax and once you're relaxed you can breathe the interaction will slow down and then you can start to inject more Vibe and emotion on top of just saying the words at first that's why I want to give you guys a couple easy phrases to start with because if I know I'm just

saying this thing I don't have to put any focus into that I can just focus on saying the thing and then leave when I do that more and more times eventually I'm going to calm down because I've been in that experience so many times now it's not that nerve-wracking and now I can not only can I say the thing but I could actually put more focus into slowing down smiling and maybe even elaborating on the thing and that's when the vibe and the Charisma and the charm can start to come out more and that's when

you'll actually start to appear confident at first don't worry about that just focus on doing the rep with practice you're going to build up the confidence to calm down and inject more emotion and then the vibe the Charisma and the charm can come out and then you're going to be in a position where you can start working on flirting and building real social confidence networking with people breaking Rapport getting contact info setting up dates the your whole life can become man just massive transformation from from heavy social anxiety and being Clos off to the world

versus I can interact with anybody in the world make a friend in any environment go out today and meet women get phone numbers and land dates business opportunities connect deeper with my my friends and family that I'm already close with it is an absolute s social uh excuse me it is an absolute superpower absolute superpower do not downplay the information in this video realize if you're at that low level you need to start taking action on this right now okay start taking this seriously make a change today that's all for this video guys if you

want to work with me directly links in the description I'll see you tomorrow