Tony Robbins Motivation - Get The Edge - Day 2

[Music] hi this is tony robbins welcome back to session number two and get the edge how do we transform our bodies our emotions our finances our relationships and our life first i want to congratulate you for making it to session number two because as you probably know this is blows my mind most people will invest in a book a tape something can Change their life and the minute they get it they feel comfortable the minute they get it they feel no more drive to create a change and so they look at the package and they

feel good and they put it on the shelf very few people will ever read past the first chapter in a book for example i remember reading years ago that less than 10 percent of people buy a book read past the first chapter well the first session in an audio program is the Equivalent of the first chapter so if you're here i know you're one of the few who do versus the many who talk and i want to welcome you back here's our focus in this session there are patterns of success and there are patterns of

failure what i mean by that is that success leaves clues people who succeed are not lucky people that are happy on a consistent basis are not just born under the right star There are certain things they do on a regular basis to make them happy people that are physically fit and vital and healthy and energetic are not just born with that they have a pattern of things they think about and they do so in our first session we wanted to get you to establish a pattern an ultimate pattern that would give you time with yourself

so that you would focus on the things that matter Most and not get sucked into the hypnosis of the culture that says just go go go go and maybe one day wake up someday and you'll be happy you know someday when i have more money someday when my kids grow up someday when my kids finally get out of school someday when i find that person someday when i get that raise but of course the road to someday leads to a town called nowhere it never shows up so what i really want To do with you

today is i want to have a session with you that i call a results workshop this is not just listen passively and kind of understand stuff well you can do that in the beginning but i'm going to take you through seven steps that will help you to absolutely take yourself from having an idea to actually making it work from having a complaint to having the results you deserve and It's really simple and we'll make it fun but first before we do that one of these we got to look at is what prevents you from following

through what's preventing you from taking action and let's relate this both to what we talked about yesterday and creating this beautiful hour of power you know this commitment to yourself this connection with yourself but that's also related to dietary change or any other change you want to make why don't We follow through and then let's say what does it take to follow through and then let's just do it well the first thing to realize is the difference in people's lives is the difference in their standards i know that sounds pretty darn basic but when i

say to people what does it take to change your life the first thing i always say is raise your standards now what do you mean raise your standards how basic can you get what i Mean is you got to turn your shoulds into musts everybody's got a list of shoulds i should do this i should follow through i should go on a diet i should do my hour of power i should spend more time with my kids i should make more cold calls in my business but they don't actually do anything what you got to

do is make it a must when something is a must you follow through but most of us don't because we think You know it's too big a task or it's overwhelming or we just flat don't really believe that we're going to get the result very often what we do is we focus on the process we have to go through instead of the outcome i mean most people that own their own business if i ask them today if you knew all you had to go through to make this business succeed would you even started and most

of them laugh and say i don't Know that i would see people that succeed they focus on how they're going to feel at the end of the process people that never start look at what they got to go through so let me tell you up front this day is a results workshop again what that means is unlike every other day except the relationship day this is going to be two cds or a large audio tape which Means you can choose to split this in half and i'll let you know at the halfway point and you

can make this a 10 day program if you want instead of seven days not bad to have 10 days to change your life but i want you to really take the time here to make the changes to walk through these seven steps because if you do the changes can be extraordinary If there's something you keep talking about doing and you're not following through i promise you as you go through these seven steps you're going to find out not only why you're not doing it but what you need to do to change it and you can

do it today so stay with me okay and you know this may seem unreasonable to take time for yourself each day it's an unreasonable amount of time an hour for yourself I think that's ridiculous and i know you probably do too you wouldn't be listening to this but a lot of people think that way and you know what unreasonable people rule the world you know it's unreasonable think a man could be locked up for 27 years against his will when he did nothing wrong but nelson mandela not only went through that process but came on

the other side and came out And said no let's work together to bring the country together anyone would have understood if he wanted to kill everybody who took a quarter of a century of his life but he's an unreasonable man that's why he respected him to think some nun who had no money and no background and no political contacts could literally help people that were dying in more than a hundred nations around the world And that when she actually passed away virtually every leader major leader in the world would come to her funeral would seem

ridiculous but mother teresa was an unreasonable woman an unreasonable amount of love for people that no one else would love get unreasonable and everything's possible if you get reasonable you're gonna have to lower your standards and drop down to what everybody else expects and if you get your expectations down The same level as the average person you're gonna have an average life nobody listened to a program like this certainly not you and i would ever settle for that so if i'm intense know it's because the more you demand of yourself the more you're going to

get out of this program because remember what we said only one thing creates an extraordinary life an extraordinary mindset an extraordinary psychology remember the Three things you got to have to feel great or to feel bad if you're going to feel great or bad you got to change the way you use your body so even if you're listening to me here maybe sit up in your chair or if you walk and breathe and feel strong and second you got to do is focus on what it is you want instead of what you got to go

through if you focus on the result of what you want to change and how good you're going To feel at the end of this then these two cds will whip by in no time and you can stop them if i get talking too fast and crazy and take a breath and go this guy's nuts but you know he's pushing me and that's a good thing what else you got to do give things a powerful positive meaning if you find something in these seven steps you don't like about the way you've been believing and the way

you've been acting that's Good don't beat yourself up just say you know what now i know it so i can change it and thirdly remember to watch your language those language patterns you say oh do i have to do this no you get to do it this is your gift to yourself so let's answer that first question here we spent the first cd or or cassette tape talking to you about giving yourself time for yourself a time To enjoy a time to lock in what you want a time for gratitude a time to really program

yourself for the kinds of successes you deserve so why wouldn't people take that time out well one reason is that people see the exercises involved and people have an interesting association to exercise that's why i say just start by moving right but what happens is we're not in Practice as a culture we're not conditioned to discipline our focus to discipline our bodies to move ourselves in fact the word discipline for most people is a negative connotation doesn't it but the truth is anyone who's done it for a while loves that word because it gives you

pride it gives you excitement you love the feeling of knowing that discipline just means you are In charge that when you say something to yourself you do it that your word means something that has power and most people don't have that's why they fear discipline they think discipline means a lack of freedom when discipline equals freedom discipline is man i don't even have to think about i decide and i do that has power but why don't most people do it they don't have practice at it They've not conditioned themselves to do it they just have

no experience in it and then they don't get there for the following reasons first number one reason they rationalize now we all rationalize at times don't we what's rationalization it's when you tell yourself a story when you come up with a reason why it's okay not to do something you don't say it's okay you just go well It's you know i know it's important but or you know i'm really committed to it but whenever you hear somebody say but they usually have a big one because what happens is they haven't followed through they're coming up

with excuses about why not to do something and so they don't do it so they sit around they never get the result they want see the people say what are some of the Rationalizations what are some of the stories because i always tell people i said this to you in the first session i hope you heard it the only thing keeping you from what it is you really want is the story you have about why you can't have it so what's that story well sometimes i don't have the time listen this is the only thing

that is equal in all of humanity we do not have equal opportunity we do Not have equal strength or intelligence or background or education or love the only thing that's equal is the amount of hours we have and so the truth of the matter is you have all the time there is whatever you make a must you will make happen if it's a should it'll happen only if it comes together so it's not you don't have time because who creates your schedule so i'm Responsible everybody then take an hour less of sleep and give this

to yourself i guarantee you're going to get further by this hour of focus and movement than you're ever going to do by sleeping and most people sleep way too much anyway they're sleeping their life away but here's the real question not what other people do what do you do honestly how do you rationalize and i know you probably Don't call it that none of us do but we do it how do you rationalize not doing things what's the most common rationalizations in fact in a moment i want to turn this tape off because i bet

there's a pattern remember we said they're patterns to success and patterns to failure i'd like to stop for a second i want you to write down just for two minutes i want you to turn off your tape or if It's a cd don't turn it off just put it on pause so you don't lose your place and i want you to write down what are the most common reasons why you don't do things what are the stories you say because you can discover use the same story about exercise use for other things you don't do

i want you to take a moment and be honest with yourself because the antidote to rationalization is Self-honesty and there's immense power in that do you agree with me on this so if you're just in your car and you can't write pull over you can write grab a pen all right get real this is your life it'll only take you a minute pull over or at least do it in your head turn the tape off right now turn the cd off right now and write down at least five rationalizations you use Not to follow through

go well welcome back from your rationalization exercise now what did you learn oh i played when i did this i learned that i was one lying sack of something i was just telling myself story after story did you find that out too were you honest with yourself seriously here are the common things people say the first thing is the one we've already Covered because i just don't have time you'll hear all kinds of patterns around time by the way so i don't have time that's the most common one but then other people say things like

well i can do it tomorrow they just manipulate time it's the ultimate mana syndrome and manana never comes so this is one of the biggest rationalizations and what this becomes understanding how to change becomes Understanding the power of now see when you begin to understand the power of now it's amazing what occurs now is what you can do in a moment the reason people don't start things very often why they feel they have to rationalize is they think doing the project is going to be too difficult it's going to cost them something time energy money

resources and they want something else they want immediate Comfort they want to feel good in this moment they say well i'm too tired or it'll take too long or it's too far there's all kinds of these twos that hang out with people and the pattern if it's too something is really that the person has made what they need to do too big in their head so one thing you got to do is understand the power of now and understand the power of chunking which simply means Instead of rationalizing say okay i'm going to do one

thing right now let me just make one phone call on this let me write one paragraph let me go out and just walk for 10 minutes because see i used to say i don't have the hour so i say you know what i've got 10 minutes you know or i've got 20. there's no excuse not to work out for 15 minutes i can walk for five be grateful and run for 15 And i'll get a good sweat up but i can be back in 20 minutes and rock and roll there's no excuse for that you

know what's happened i've never gone out worked out for 20 minutes because once you get out there and you start getting into state you get momentum don't you or i say okay i'm just going to make one phone call i make one and just getting out of the chair making a phone call and i'm in the chair well and i make three Phone calls i'm pretty sure i make ten then i get in a conversation then i get stimulated then i'm in state right this is the kind of thing that happens it also happens on

the negative side you go well you know i'll just take a minute to rest here oh no no no no because once that butt is in the chair right once something gets in motion it tends to stay in motion once something Stops it tends to stay there right so you can't let that happen i'll just watch one tv program oh no no no no then you'll watch the next inane thing because you need completion don't you because you get in state momentum is a powerful way to overcome rationalization momentum and chunking so you got to

start looking at things in a different way instead of saying well i just need my freedom right now i need my space right Now i need to rest right now i need to get out of stress let me tell you something the fastest way out of stress is to work out think about it most of us say oh stress oh because we're so hyped up what you need to do is get rid of the stress that's in your body and the only way to do this push through your comfort zone change your focus push your

comfort zone and watch how great you feel The stress will disappear so most people are avoiding the very thing that would free them they're avoiding the very thing that would free them also from the feelings that they have that they have a huge project to deal with just do it and in the context of your hour of power there's no excuse you should wake up and move throw on your clothes and go throw in your attention go don't even Take time to think make it a habit when you roll out of bed into your shoes

you roll out of bed into your gear if you'll do that you'll have momentum you won't have time to rationalize you'll be busy rationalizing while you're walking and by that time it'll be too late okay so setting up systems is a great way but the first step is identifying what you're doing a good job of here What is the story you're telling yourself about why you can't do this it'll be better tomorrow i don't have time i'm too tired it's too late it's too far it might not work or it might work and then i'll

be even more successful and it'll be even more busy to have no time whatever story you're telling yourself drop the story because what i've learned is that most people lie to themselves And that those lies are sucking the juice out of your life honesty even if it's a little uncomfortable creates freedom and so the real freedom is when you can tell yourself the truth and you can act upon it quickly and not sit there and think about it forever i remember i met general schwarzkopf for the first time many years ago and he was a

good friend when i first met him i was talking about What is it that a leader must do and he said tell the truth tell the truth to himself tell the truth to the troops and that's what leaders got to do get people to tell the truth to each other he said because i got to tell you something no organization whether it be the army whether it be a business or whether it be an individual nothing gets better until you admit something's wrong And no one wants to admit that because it sounds so horrible no

one wants to be wrong but you know what if it's not at the level you want it it's wrong if it's not the level you be proud of it's wrong because you deserve to have it right have it at the level you deserve living on the edge of what is possible living at the peak living life at that level of fulfillment and that only happens when you stop Telling the story you stop rationalizing you tell yourself the truth now some people say well i'm not lying to myself but what they're doing is they're using softeners

you know what i mean by that like you know someone says well it's not that bad it's a month or summer i mean i'm only a few pounds overweight or they compare to something else they say things like well You know i'm much better than i used to be but it makes myself feel good because if you feel bad you got to do something to change and if you feel good you don't have to change you lose the drive you don't want to lose your drive most people are constantly trying to make themselves feel good

without actually changing anything when you do that you train yourself to accept mediocrity and mediocrity by the way doesn't mean Compared to other people mediocrity is anytime you settle for less than who you really are because even though you may be doing much better everybody around you maybe you'll be hanging around whether the wrong people hang around with and you just do it because it makes you feel good you know the only thing that makes us feel good long term is living life at our level I remember i met years ago john wooden the ucla

basketball coach the winningest coach of all time in college basketball history won 11 out of 12 national championships ncaa championships and he won seven in a row i mean the most anybody else's one in a row is three in a row of national championships now this guy was a genius and i'll tell you he won more than anybody but he didn't focus on winning He focused on getting guys to tell the truth he focused on eliminating rationalization and the way he did it is he said here's a real simple thing i want you men to

know at the end of every game only you will know whether you really want or lost and it will not be based on the points on the board because there are some times when you play nowhere near your potential and you beat The other team just because they're terrible or because you got lucky and if you got more points on the board but you didn't give your all you're a loser because in life what you give you get to keep what you fail to give you lose forever he said if at the end of the

day you got fewer points on the board but you gave every ounce of your soul on that court you know you walk away the winner Because they may have been lucky they may have had more skill they may have had a better team but they didn't get more out of themselves winning and losing a life is an internal game and it comes from telling yourself the truth and if you do that if every day you demand more from yourself than other people would expect you give your all You're gonna most often with more points on

the board than the other team so we got to tell ourselves the truth and we can't use softeners you can't say well i'm a little overweight you know i'm a bit robust no your butt is bigger than chicago you're fat tell yourself the truth because until you do that you have no reason to change so the reason people don't change number one they're out of practice number two They rationalize they tell stories they use softeners they lie to themselves third reason is they got an ineffective strategy some people they're willing to go for it they're

not even rationalizing but you know they're running east looking for a sunset and i don't care how positive you are i don't care how committed you are how your standards are if you've got a strategy that doesn't work You got a problem and let me tell you the number one thing that doesn't work for people since our first focus here to get an extraordinary life and extraordinary psychology is getting extraordinary body right and if you're gonna have that extraordinary body you gotta have this time to make it strong every day increase that metabolism feel that

feeling of power and passion in your body But you know what most people do they want to look good and so their primary strategy is change their diet they do that alone diet alone is never going to give you the level of health you deserve it's a critical component but diet alone is not enough because what happens when you diet well the very simple thing occurs as soon as you start the diet what are you doing you're depriving Yourself well as soon as you deprive yourself guess what happens the body's not getting as much so

it starts to use some of the fat built inside of you and sure enough you start to lose weight step two but after you deprive yourself and lose weight for a while there's a point when you get sick and depriving yourself so what do you do you binge step three and when you binge what happens you gain Back the same weight usually a few pounds more because when you go on a diet where you're limiting your calories one simple thing occurs the body knows it has to conserve its energy so what it does is it

gets better at storing fat so when you finally go to eat your metabolism is dropped it takes less foods for you to gain fat faster that's why five days out of the Week you gotta have your hour of power you're out there moving exercise and sweating at least to level seven so you get that energy up that's why you want to build some muscle in your body that's why it's critical but i'll give you an example of an ineffective strategy somebody who didn't rationalize for the most part right was willing to discipline herself as well

do almost anything was not using softeners and was On the public stage an amazing lady oprah winfrey let's take a look at oprah for a second here's a woman who is totally determined strong successful an achiever making a difference but she also has incredibly high standards for herself this woman really cares about people this is not just some story she's not just out to make some money She is out there every single day of her life trying to connect with people on the raw edge of human emotion and she's out there giving her all being

her all and also wanting to be the best always she's always raising her standards she doesn't compete with anybody else she's always trying to do better than she did the year before that creates stress that's just natural now oprah's way of dealing with that Stress started a long time ago when she got her first job back in baltimore working for the news there as an anchor she was 140 pounds but you know what when she got that great opportunity without additional stress that demand on herself am i doing well enough am i good enough am

i strong enough am i achieving enough and maybe even the fear about will i be loved some of those unconscious drives Make us stress remember stress equals fear and sure enough she dealt with that and she slowed herself down and comforted herself through food she'd stop by the mall and she'd go by all those little stalls they have you know a little potato stall with a put lots of cheese all over a big potato with everything else on earth in it there was another stall for pizza you know that deep dish stuff And there was

another stall where they make her an 18 inch chocolate chip cookie or they put one in with macadamia nuts and she could really go and she'd go stop at all three places you know and guess what she felt good she was certain she could be comfortable right she was connecting with herself she was rewarding herself for a job well done allowing her stress to disappear well as A result you might guess her weight started to grow and start expanding pretty rapidly so much so that at one point she was invited to chicago to try out

for a coveted morning spot on a talk show a show that later would become the oprah winfrey show but all the way there she had incredible anxiety thinking when they see me it's over they Want a little skinny white blonde and i'm this heavyset african-american woman there's just no way and sure enough the man who saw her there saw her talent above all else and he said i want to give you the job she said don't you see don't you notice that i'm black don't you notice that i'm not blonde don't you notice that i'm

fat he said maybe he didn't notice me and he lifted up his shirt and showed his big Belly to her for him it didn't matter so guess what oprah winfrey got herself this morning talk show and the interesting thing happened was there was no demands on her so she ate some more and pretty soon she was out of control it got to the point where literally at one stage only a year later she was described in time or newsweek as the big mama of the south And she hated reading that it made her decide she's

going to do something she don't want to be known as that kind of person do you want to be known as fat she was more than that so she went on the atkins diet sure enough you know the diet where you eat all the fat you can possibly consume and try and convince yourself you're being healthy right eat nothing alive no fruit no vegetables nothing else And then you pee on a stick as she says just to see whether or not you're breaking down too fast creating too much acid in your system you lose weight

on it all right your body figures out how to get rid of every ounce of water in the system to try and get rid of the acid there an incredibly unhealthy way to live your body starts breaking down and boy do you smell like it you better make sure you got plenty of Breath mitts when you're on that diet and oprah attests to it whenever she talks about those days but you know what she lost herself 10 12 14 pounds of course she gained it back within three or four weeks then it was the scarsdale

diet lose the weight gained it then it was the beverly hills diet wow 17 pounds eating nothing but fruit a different fruit every day but sure enough four weeks later all That weight and then some more it got so bad that at one point she went to a fight for mike tyson and she's sitting in the audience at 218 pounds she heard the announcer call out to the audience in this corner the heavyweight champion of the world weighing in at 218 pounds mike tyson and she thought oh my god i'm as happy as the heavyweight

champion of the World well guess what she's driven again to go on another diet finally she went on something called optifast you know you know what you do here you eat nothing for basically four months she was up to 237 pounds she was so frustrated she do almost anything to change it so sure enough the first three or four days you're starving but after that You're not even hungry you drink this little drink you don't eat anything and your body adjusts and sure enough over a period of four months she was obsessed her whole focus

was to get in some size 10 jeans she had when she was in baltimore at 140 pounds and sure enough she got there at 141 pounds she fit in those jeans and she ended her fast that day was the only day she was 141 pounds the next day she was 145. within two Weeks she was 155 and was embarrassed to go back out because on the two-week anniversary of doing a show where she demonstrated people all the weight she'd lost she was already getting fat again she was so miserable that she finally told people magazine

i'm done i've had it no more i absolutely i'm just going to enjoy being fat i'm just made to be this way this is just my life i got to become fulfilled with it and people Have to accept me this way she copped out she didn't know what else to do she felt she tried everything of course she hadn't tried everything she found herself one day sitting waiting for the emmy announcement to see who had the best daytime talk show and she was hoping like crazy praying to god that phil donahue would win because she

didn't want to get up in front of this crowd In a dress that stretched across her huge bottom where everyone would be staring at her of course she did win and she felt humiliated which drove her again to go on another diet it wasn't until she finally got clear that she had to exercise the life began to change when she finally met a great trainer named bob green and she wrote a book called making the connection She and green wrote it together what it's about it's real simple he said to her i don't care what

you do you got to exercise at least five days a week and for oprah it was seven you gotta do it first thing in the morning also same as i teach and you gotta make sure that you work on a scale from zero to ten where you're at least seven in your level of intensity and effort for at least 45 minutes each day He said that's it there's no way around it you've got to build your metabolism now today oprah's managed to stay close to her prime on a consistent basis she's gotten herself to develop

the ritual of working out five times a week or more it's her time for herself she lives the same everything i'm teaching you she's lived it and as she's lived it she's gotten lasting results because she isn't just dieting she is moving her body her Metabolism is strong but more importantly for a woman who's already so powerful in so many areas she's taken the one area of her life that was a wound and put it to bed don't you deserve to have the same don't you deserve to create the rituals that for a lifetime will

give you the health the vitality the energy you deserve you won't get it by rationalizing you Won't get it by softening you get it by telling yourself the truth and getting your butt in gear but also making a strategy that works now by the way let me tell you why most people don't make the change besides the rationalization they get hooked in another pattern and that pattern is they get in what i call the pressure cooker the pressure cooker is here's what Occurs people don't change don't change don't change so things get worse worse worse

worse until finally gets so bad you gotta change and what makes it so bad you get so much pain one day you can't pick up your own telephone calls because you're afraid it's going to be a bill collector you know you get to the point where you can't get your butt to squeeze in the regular class seat on the Airplane without having your ability to breathe impaired you know something occurs that finally pushes you over the edge you go not another day another moment you get so much pain step one that you take step two

you take action now when you take action you go to step three you get results you start to lose weight as an example when you start to lose weight step four happens the pain reduces When the pain reduces step five happens you lose your drive when you lose your drive step six happens you stop taking action at the same level and when you stop taking actions the same level the final step occurs step seven you go right back to where you started from this is the pressure cooker and then people do it again and again

and again the way to avoid the pressure cooker is to walk yourself through the seven Steps of conscious change and these seven steps we want to use right now so that you really implement your hour of power so you keep that advantage to your life you keep that edge but also so you get that extraordinary experience of connection with yourself that time with yourself also these would be the same seven steps you'll go through to make a dietary change so let's get to them real fast here they Are they're really simple number one get disturbed

they might say get the stir that doesn't sound like a very sweet first step tony well it isn't sweet but it works because we can't possibly change unless we get ourselves disturbed enough that we're gonna do something about it what it really means is get honest with yourself don't use any softeners don't use any rationalizations don't compare yourself to other people so you can feel Okay don't compare how you used to be and say look i used to be worse so it's not that bad all those things will steal away your drive see if you

really want to get disturbed and you feel like you're overweight then rip off your clothes right now and look in a full-length mirror and then turn around and look at the parts that you never want to see you know the Parts that are scaring the family come on let's be honest here you know you've got to see this stuff and you've got to be truthful don't you because if you're not truthful with yourself you can never have the energy to change you've got to get disturbed you're finally saying no more not another minute none of

the day if you're not want to go for the full naked approach you could put on some clothes that you used to wear and look In the mirror and feel the tightness see anything that can make you move now you say well my problem is not overweight tony then look at what you're missing out on because you haven't followed through because you haven't made the decision because you haven't spent the time with your kids because you haven't been there having some date nights or some special time the person you love get associated to the problem

before it Gets out of control make it worse than it even is if you need to to get disturbed because you need to get yourself to take action don't you you wouldn't have thought of something you wanted to change unless there was something about it that wasn't good enough and the challenge is just getting yourself to get something visceral something that will move you maybe you need to go do a blood test and see what your blood looks like after Having all these big fatty meals and watching all the red blood cells sticking together they

stick together they move more slowly so you get less oxygen you get less oxygen you got less energy cells get weak they die maybe seeing that makes it more visceral for you but if you're not disturbed you're not going to change it's that simple and most of us when we get disturbed what do we do immediately We immediately placate ourselves immediately try and get rid of the pain pain is your friend if you don't just live there if you use it for drive see there's a reason you begin this pain it's a signal to your

nervous system saying this isn't working you must do something but what we do is we pop an aspirin or a drug or smoke a cigarette or eat some more food or distract ourselves with t We find some drug of choice that's acceptable in society or in our peer group and we kill the pain therefore we kill the drive drive is your friend you will only have drive if you are disturbed get disturbed by getting really clear with yourself when you have hunger you'll move forward i don't mean physical hunger i need a hunger for something

deeper and richer Hunger only happens by getting disturbed now here's another way to disturb not just look at how bad it is get around where it's better get around people are playing life at a higher level where they are really physically fit they're strong they're energetic they're passionate they're fun they got a great relationship because seeing that will also disturb you because you won't be able to Separate the fact that your life is not like that you can try to rationalize all you want but the more you're around people who are playing life at the

highest level the more disturbed you'll get you'll either run back to your friends so you can feel good about your life compared to them or you'll join a new peer group like i said earlier you want to be good at tennis you got to play somebody better Than you are which is disturbing and it creates drive it makes you have to get better play somebody is worse than you are there's nothing disturbing about that it's boring it's not disturbing and staying where you are is boring so you gotta get disturbed now if all you do

is get disturbed and get all stirred up that's not going to be really good and After a while you're going to want to escape that so you got to turn that feeling of being disturbed into drive and the way you do that is while you're disturbed step 2 you make a real decision and that decision requires that you decide just what to do some people get disturbed about let's say their bodies think okay i'm going to run 22 miles they make a decision but that's not what they want they don't Want to run 22 miles

that's the game plan see everyone who's successful has what i call an rpm plan this is part of what we teach in the time of your life an rpm plan means a plan that has three answers to three questions number one they know what result they're after that's what the r is they know what they want the result the specific result they're committed to i've never met a successful Person who doesn't know what they want because your chances of suddenly bumping into what you want without knowing what it is are slim and none number two

they know their purpose which means they know why they want it if you want something i want a million dollars i want you know 12 body fat i want you know this great relationship well that's wonderful but that's a should what makes it a must is when you Have enough reasons enough reasons to make it happen no matter what enough purpose behind it purpose has power you can't just know what it is you want you don't know why you want it the purpose for it and the end is you need a massive action plan and

the massive action plan means lots of ways to get the job done because if you say we'll run 20 miles and then you get to about three and you Can't go another step and then all sudden you're tight as heck now you're gonna go well i can't run well your purpose your outcome was not to run the result you're after wasn't running it was to lose 20 pounds it was to be energetic it was to have your energy increased so you're focusing on something you can't do instead of saying i can lose the weight still

because i must here's why and here's my plan Okay i'll swim the running didn't work i'll swim i'll walk i'll do this there are a million ways you need a massive action plan so get disturbed and then make a decision about what you want and why you want it what's your ultimate vision what's your ultimate purpose so let's try this with you right now let's get honest let's take a moment right now what is it in your life that is not good Enough and if you're honest is really disgusting you go tony i'm really glad

i came to this positive tape today what's disgusting in my life thank you very much nothing my life is perfect bull nobody's life is perfect if they're healthy i mean think about anybody who's honest has a gap in their life between where they are and where they want to be in some area If your body's perfect then you don't have enough time if your time is perfect then you don't know your children if your children are perfect then your finances are screwed up come on it's part of being human so honest people can look at

the gap and because they look at it and close the gap between where they are and where they want to be quickly but you know what as soon as you close It you'll just create another one because you'll raise your standards that's what life's about right so let's get honest right now what's disturbing i want you to turn this disc off cd or tape whatever you're listening to and i want you two things i want you to write down number one what if you're honest are you unhappy about in your career in your business in

yourself in your Rationalizations is it a habit of eating is it emotion is it not taking time for yourself what's something that's disturbing and then step number two what do you want don't just stay disturbed you're right that won't feel good get disturbed so you have the energy to make change a must and not a should write it down what is it you're really tired of you're sick of you're gonna Change now and then step two make a decision write down what you really want now what are you gonna do instead the result i'm committed

to doing instead is this i'm gonna feel this way i'm gonna change my state i'm gonna stop telling my story i'm gonna schedule this time with my kids or with myself i'm gonna work out i'm gonna hire a trainer tomorrow make a decision that's where all the Power is don't just say something i want to make more money fine here's a dollar get out of here don't say i want to lose some weight fine lose a pound and get out of here you've got to be specific about what it is that's disturbing you why it's

disturbing you and then secondly write down what are you committed to now and why then turn me back on go go go do it right now Don't you keep listening to me turn this off i don't care if you're in the car you can still do this come on turn it off this is about taking action you don't get the edge by talking and listen you get the edge by doing let's do it come back to me when you're done bye okay welcome back now what did you learn and what did you experience i had

some people here in the studio while we're doing this tape i asked them To do the homework and see what experience that they've had they said it was a bit painful i hope it was for you because you know two things drive us in life pain and pleasure and what you're really doing in this process is by discovering what disturbs you is you're tapping into the power of pain when it's used intelligently when it's used with your capacity to create drive Remember if you don't get disturbed by anything something that's undisturbed is not going to

move it's certainly not going to make it through the obstacles that are necessary to achieve something of significant value for your life so once you do that though you don't want to just be disturbed as i said you've got to now focus on okay this is not good enough that's good that creates energy Now that it's not good enough what do you want because if you stay focused on what you don't do what you're not following through on what you're unhappy about then all you'll do is continue to rotate through the emotion that makes you

disempowered so you got to get clear on the result and get as specific as possible and then know why you're going to follow through why it's a must now let's take a couple of Examples typical things that i hear and some things that we actually heard here in the studio as well one person here said there were actually two things that were disturbing him he said the first one is that he's got this great workout equipment he spent all the money all the energy to make sure he got the very best stuff he configured it

organized it so that was ready to go But it just doesn't work out the reason is he goes through all those things we talked about earlier right all the stories about it doesn't have time i'll get to it tomorrow i said but what's really disturbing about it so what's disturbing is that it's inconsistent with me as a person because i'm an achiever i make things happen and he said you know i'm not following Through and he said what's really disturbing honestly is i know i'm not doing it because i'm getting older and i realize i

don't have the same capacity as i used to have and i refuse to grow old so rather than face the fact that maybe i'm lifting a little less or i have a little less aerobic capacity than i had before i just kind of say i'll do this tomorrow now the truth of the matter is to educate him or anybody else They've been doing research over the last 10 years at several universities here in the united states or they're taking people who are in their mid 60s people have never worked out in their life and trained

the lift weights as an example and they're developing within these men and women in their 60s the same level of muscular strength as men and women in their twenties and thirties in fact The latest research and how you can work out in a few minutes a session twice a week is on your videotape this process called static contraction sounds like a mouthful of language but i'll tell you what it'll show you how to maximize the amount of strength you can generate in your body in the shortest period of time so be sure to check out

that video tape because it's going to walk you through That process so it may not be that you're getting old as much as as you've gotten older you've made less of a priority to use these muscles in a way that puts a significant demand on them it's like osteoporosis you know research now all the doctors now see that if you don't make demands on your bones they get weaker they don't get stronger but the point of the matter is that's what was bothering him and he said that What he really decided is he really is

committed to working out on a consistent basis and of course he could make that more specific three times a week two times a week because if he makes it general he still won't achieve it you won't have a way to measure whether you're making it or not and then he said the why for him is he really truly wants that sense of passion that energy that sense of vitality back in his life In the sense that he's able to conquer things now he said another thing that disturbed him he was on a roll he went

for two he said the other thing was that he's he's been a songwriter for years and he said 20 years ago johnny mercer the guy that wrote moon river and some of those classic songs of the person who told him you write for the wastebasket this is What made him successful that instead of writing and trying to be perfect which no one can be and that keeps you from actually writing you write just for the sake of writing getting it out and knowing that whatever you get out you're not going to judge it it's designed

for the wastebasket and what that does it gets momentum going and then pretty soon you start to actually get results so when he heard that he said he acted Upon it but he did it for six weeks it was the best song writing his career and for 20 years he's been trying to get back to that he said it's disturbing to think something so simple i've not followed through on and i said well what do you want he says i want to make sure and again he said i want to write more songs but he

wasn't specific so the reason i'm bringing this up is as you're looking at what you wrote down Remember the reason we say not only do what you want but we call it an rpm plan is what is the specific result the measurable result how many times a week how many pages something that you can actually measure otherwise it's a vague dream that you won't follow through on by the way he said throughout the day he said i have this vague feeling that like songs are ready to be born but he said i don't pick up

the pen and paper and he said i never even get Pregnant so this is a process and i said why do you want this he said because i am a songwriter that's my purpose that's what i'm about as human being and not to do this is not to be fully alive so what have we got within this man we've got two areas of his life that he's disturbed about he said it was painful to do this but that's good because even though he said it's painful it's interesting his energy increased as He talked about it

and you can see as i'm talking right now i can see him through the glasses kind of nodding his head and you know you can see him he's like getting more committed because commitment comes because there's something sizeable on the line both pain if you don't fall through and pleasure if you do now we've got to refine it he's got an r and a p to his rpm plan he knows the Result he knows the why that'll give him drive now he's got to come up with a map what's the massive action plan what are

the little and big things he can do immediately to get results because that's the third step we're going to go through in these seven steps to get yourself to create lasting change lasting improvement whether it's getting you to your hour of power or make a dietary change You're gonna have to get disturbed with what you're doing and you're not gonna change your diet you're gonna have to get yourself to make a decision about what you really want specifically and why you want it so once you decide the why will get you to follow through and

then step three is you've got to come up with a real plan and that's what an rpm plan is a very specific result a very specific purpose That moves you it doesn't matter how it sounds does it move you to action does it give you enough reasons for positive negative to move and you got a map a plan to make that occur but before you do your map let's look at some other examples another person here in the studio is a gentleman owns this studio and he's a very successful man he said what's really disturbing

him is that he doesn't have enough time in his life He said you know i'm so busy working all the time because in my business it's money and time are connected together either a lot of time and no money or a lot of money in no time and i think a lot of people can relate to this and he said so he realized this a long time ago and he came up with a solution which was to create some products so he could make money while he slept he said he's got four of those products

That are 95 percent done he said it would be so easy to just get him done and get him on the web but he hasn't done it that disturbs him i said what really disturbs you about not having time because i want to find a deeper level of pain something to move him he said really that my kids are growing up and that i'm so busy i'm not really there to experience and enjoy them and you can hear his whole tone change They go robin why are you making him feel it's kind of pain what

are you trying to depress him or something no we're trying to get to what's real we're so busy covering up the things we're unhappy about or stuffing them down with food or alcohol or television set or more work that we never get to what matters to us see the only way you get real lasting changes get down to what really matters To you personally and that's okay if it's painful you're not going to live there you're just going to go there to find what's real does that make sense i hope it does for you because

if that self-honesty that makes all change possible so i said okay great what do you want he said well i want to complete these four products i said okay great so now he's got a Specific result now he's going to decide by when right because he got to be a specific result a specific result is what and by when otherwise there's no way to measure it and you can't manage something you can't measure right if it's too general there's no way to get it so he said okay i'm going to get these done by x

time and i said why is it so important to you He said why because the status quo is driving me crazy so there's a positive reason he said but also because it'll be fun it'll be fulfilling to get it done and it'll give me my time and what's great about what he gave is he gave reasons that are painful and pleasurable listen we're all creatures that need to avoid pain and we desire pleasure using those is being intelligent running Around and pretending like there's nothing wrong or you're totally fulfilled and happy when you're not it's

called lying to yourself deceiving yourself and it eventually will bite you it may look good for a while on the surface but it will not fulfill you does that make sense i've said this a couple times haven't i but that's because i want you to get i want you to think about it i want you to hear me rant i want you to own it If it makes sense to you if it doesn't then throw it out but i think if you look at it from your own life experience you'll find this is true so

let's go to step number three step number three is you've got to create a real plan now we've already begun that because an rpm plan by the way we call it rpm because rpm stands for the rapid planning method this is what i teach in the time of your Life when we teach it in companies and we show people how to immediately bam produce a quick plan that people really fall through on because most people when they do a plan they think the job's over but the truth is we gotta plan the jobs to be

good and the only way you're gonna follow through is if you have absolute clarity of what you're after because along the way a lot of actions you take aren't going to work So if you think the action is the goal like we said earlier if you think running 20 miles is the goal rather than losing 20 pounds well then if something interferes with your ability to run then you can't achieve the goal you've got to make sure you know what you're after and you can change your approach to get there and you've got to know

why you're after it because when the going gets tough The difference in falling through or not is having enough reasons reasons come first answers come second if you get a big enough why to do something big enough reasons you can figure out how to do it so you might want to juice up the result you wrote down like this is what i'm after maybe be more specific buy when and you might want to write a few more reasons but then i want you to step three i want you to draw out a map and When

i say a map i want it to be very simple and specific just write down anything first that you could do to achieve that goal instead of trying to be perfect again and saying well i go to this first and then this and then this that makes it hard just brainstorm anything you could do when you're done with that map you're going to asterisk the things that you think are musts meaning you might come up with 10 or 15 Things you could do to achieve that outcome it's 10 or 15 steps you might need to

do them all but i want you to asterisk the two three four five of them that you must do and that you can do that are within your control that would absolutely get you the result you're after so you can have that sense of certainty that this is really going to happen so i want you to do that right Now you can refine your result put a deadline on it add a few reasons so you got a good strong purpose and then do the m and rpm the massive action plan what specific actions are you

going to take immediately to get this done and by the way i'll give you a clue write down little things you can do immediately because one of the beliefs i have is Never ever leave the site of setting a goal without doing something towards its achievement this is how you get momentum if you get all excited and you start to create this plan and you don't actually do something immediately you'll get back caught up you'll get distracted by your other work commitments or someone else have a demand from you or something at home will get

You you get caught up in the normal grind so i never leave the side of setting a goal without doing something towards entertainment send an email make a phone call book a meeting buy a tape go get a book right do something specific that moves you towards this immediately so you want to make write some things you can do immediately and write some little things and some big Things one of the ways to get a really great plan is do something that really commits you in that action so maybe if you're overweight again using that

same example maybe what you do is as soon as you turn off the cd or tape you go in the kitchen and you rip out everything in that kitchen everything in the refrigerator that you know doesn't belong there it's not good for you and then you carry it under your Arms delicately and you head for the bathroom you bring a cd player an audio tape and you lift up that porcelain goddess and you play the music in the background as you dump the stuff down the toilet and you flush it away forever maybe the music

you play is we are the champions of the world i don't know what you do do something crazy committed act do something that commits yourself write down your massive action plan and Make it very specific things you're going to do maybe instead of saying well i'll do some research on the internet maybe this week say on thursday i'm going to do one hour of research on the internet i'm going to compare three companies to look at to decide where to invest or you know what i'm going to do exercise for 25 minutes five times a

week be as specific as possible i don't know What the specific thing is for you but do it and if you can get yourself to not only write something down but today go do something that commits you you're going to get momentum you're going to find yourself saying this is easy and everybody around you including yourself is going to know you mean it so when we say we're going to do something and then we don't do anything it tells your brain you don't mean it so Let's start right now by coming up with that plan

okay write down your massive action plan and you can come up with all kinds of things you can always shorten it later come up with a brainstorm a whole list of things that you can shorten if you want to all the possibilities so you got a lot of choices okay all right go go go do it right now pause the taper cd and let's do it okay i'm assuming that you really turn This tape off and that you're now back with me because you've completed your map in fact you've got an rpm plan by the

way what does rpm stand for besides rapid planning method well it's a results focused purpose driven massive action plan and that's how you get life results you don't get it by thinking about it or talking about it or rationalizing it you get it by getting incredibly focused on the result you get in the sense of Drive from your purpose and you create a map a massive action plan that'll get you going to get the result and to make that result a reality now this rpm by also as a metaphor obviously it's like in a car

when you increase the rpms increase the energy the power to actually produce results that's what this does as well so i'll give you a couple examples and let's see how these relate to yours if there's anything you can learn from These one of the people here earlier who said that they really want to do these songs but haven't done 20 years at the same level anyway so it's actually very simple they decided they're going to make sure that they're working on songs every single week and the action plan is number one within this next week

he's gonna put a clipboard by his bed Step two when he opens his eyes every single day five days a week he's going to spend the first 30 minutes just writing as if he's going to write stuff that's going to go in the trash so there's no limitation he's totally in a creative flow because once you get in that flow more comes through you now by the way does this sound almost like a part of his hour of power you bet he's starting out with the first Half hour for himself for his greatest passion by

the way how do you think that'll affect the rest of his day no matter what else he does so he said then the next thing he's going to do is on the weekends he's going to commit one hour to review those notes and edit them and actually put them into something that's real see if he can take from these great ideas and actually produce something of real Value now if he does that every single week his chances of his songwriting exploding are absolutely you know i can't say guaranteed nothing life is guaranteed but the opportunity

for that to happen it's going to occur you know why he's no longer talking about it he's no longer just envisioning it he's begun to plan it which makes it possible it's not possible when you're just talking about it And now he's scheduling it so it's real that's going to get in the results he wants and by the way he has the same thing for his workout schedule he's got his outcome of what he wants to do he's going to work out three times a week aerobically twice anaerobically he's got the days and most importantly

he's got starting with today is his first action item and he's got the time during the day And he gives himself a little bit of flex factor between one and three because he knows his schedule flexes so he's not setting himself up for failure which we're going to talk about later on he's setting himself up to win another person here the person who owns the studio said that he's actually decided his result is he's locked in to complete his first product online by march 1st what's great about that it's very specific And it's got a

deadline so i said how you going to do it he said simple i have 50 email responses i should have sent out a long time ago from people that already want this kind of product and i'm going to send it out this week number two i'm going to send out 100 new emails to potential clients number three i'm going to take out some banner ads with at least two different publications and then on march 5th he'll have a Second product online and on april 1st is third so he's very specific and by the way is

this something achievable now see it's really hard even when you get yourself motivated then unless you got something very specific to focus on and you know the reasons you know exactly what to do you won't do it because you'll get caught up that's why having this rpm planning process this rapid planning method is so valuable In the beginning you're kind of weak at it but after you do it for a while you'll get really specific you'll come up with great purposes and you'll come up with great plans it's like anything it's a little muscle use

a little bit it's going to grow another person here describe the fact that they were unhappy what disturbed them we didn't talk about their example earlier was being overweight and not being able to Change it they lost weight like 15 pounds a year ago they gained it all back and they've not been able to get rid of it and so this person said now the result is really clear i'm going to produce this result i'm going to lose these 15 pounds and most importantly because i deserve to i deserve that the energy the feeling the

sexiness et cetera et cetera et cetera they described all things to Disturb them to get the energy but then this person focused on the result specifically by when and he had a powerful purpose but what's interesting was what they learned when they did their action plan this person said you know what they realized what was missing is in the past when they lost weight they had a buddy they had someone to share the experience with and she became totally certain she wrote down who her Buddy would be that she could then do this the second

step was to pull out that down stairmaster and actually plug it in a unique concept what does that do again convenience clarity so many things we don't do just because they're not convenient because they're not immediate what's immediate gets our attention so she's taking that up making that happen and then she has a date by which she's going to make this all Happen for each of these specific aspects but i want to point something out here we're going to talk about this later on when i talk about really setting yourself up to win which is

one of our principles but as long as it's being said here i'll tell you this both of these people found something that they know will work because they modeled their successes from the past you see for this woman she was able to Lose the weight when she had a buddy and i'll explain a little more why that worked later on other than the obvious the gentleman with the songwriting wrote a song that was on a tv show more than 20 years ago but he stopped doing this and he hasn't had that kind of result in

his songwriting since then so what you really got to be able to look at is there are times in your life Which you've already succeeded and you go back and model what you did and putting together your action plan because then you'll have certainty it will work one thing i do in one of my seminars is i have people write down everything in their life that's here today that once was a dream once was a goal things you may now take for granted like you know the person who's now in your Life that you hoped

at one point would go out with you or the job you now take for granted that one point you were wishing for or the business that you now own and you're complaining about that one time in your life you would have prayed for and then i have people write all these things down and then i say okay now circle one or two that really seemed impossible now write down how you made that happen And what you begin to see is that there's a pattern and the pattern is similar to what we talked about something disturbed

them they may have been upset disturbed sometimes as they saw something that disturbed their status quo instead of being comfortable they wanted more it didn't have to be painful you know sometimes you're disturbed because you see something great and you want it that's disturbing too What's disturbing is you don't have it that's a good thing so someone said you know i really want my own studio i don't want to work for somebody else you know this is what i want this is the kind of life i want to have it on my terms but then

what happens is you get disturbed you get specific about what you want you get enough reasons to follow through you come up with a plan of action You may do it consciously or unconsciously and you get the psychology together make it happen you take massive action you get results but then we forget how we did this stuff and then what happens is pretty soon there's a big gap between where we are where we want to be because it's natural that once you achieve something you want more so you want to make sure you get your

plan here create a little map hopefully these ideas have triggered You a bit and remember if you want to take some action on something like you want to master your health then get a coach we got coaches here get the living health product look at something that will guide you step by step day by day the more specific the coaching the more powerful you're going to be to follow through and if there's someone physically there to follow up with you Then you can't make excuses because there's somebody else you're talking to other than yourself it's

so easy to talk yourself out of anything but when you have a result there you gotta make happen it changes one of my clients pays me more than a million dollars a year and i coach him and after five years or six years of working with him at one point i said you know what i know what you're going to do when You're going to do it you're so predictable now and you know it too i don't think you need me anymore i mean i'm your friend and i appreciate it and i'm certainly earning my

money from the time i'm putting in but honestly i don't think you need me he said are you crazy he said don't you understand just knowing you're going to call makes me fall through on those things that i talked about so if you don't get a professional coach In order to make your plan work get a buddy get some leverage make sure that someone else knows your plan so you can't just create a plan and not follow through okay i know i'm a little nuts on this tape but i really want you to get results

because guess what happens as soon as you come up with a plan opponents show up don't they yes there's three kinds of opponents if you read any good story you watch any good movie As soon as the main protagonist has this desire and they get excited about it they come up with a plan then sure enough opponents come to oppose it that's what creates drama in your life and there's three opponents number one is the external opponents that's gonna be all the other people they're gonna call you in the morning or by the way if

you want to do this in the evening obviously you can do this evening or your lunch break you can do This hour of power at whatever time works for your schedule or for your body but the ideal time again is in the morning but the point is the minute you try to do this the opponent show up the phone starts ringing first thing in the morning there's all these other projects all these are the demands that all want your time and attention instead of giving it to yourself when you come up with a plan the

same Thing happens all kinds of resistance will show up and if it's not from the external opponents it'll be from the intimate opponents the people close to you who love you dearly but they don't understand you gotta have time for yourself your kids want this and want that but if you don't take time for yourself there's not as much of you to give them is there same thing for your spouse you know the People around you your friends who don't understand why you can't talk to him right now take those friends on a run with

you on a walk with you get them to do the hour of power i love to do this with my lady it's one of the great things we share together we do it side by side and then after end we share our celebration but also there's the internal opponent You know the parts inside of you that are conflicted saying yeah i really want to do this but i also want to do that you've got to put the opponents at bay and the only way to do that is discover what are the beliefs which is going

to be our next step what are the beliefs that are conflicting you what are the beliefs that are stopping you see whenever you're upset about something it's because of the beliefs You have beliefs control behavior whatever you do you do it because of your beliefs and you may not know what those beliefs are because often they're unconscious so we're going to discover the beliefs that may be holding you back and the beliefs that will move you forward but i have to say this to you you've been extraordinary you've listened to me babble and dump the

whole load on you at Incredibly intense pace something that most people go through a seminar for you've been doing in this results workshop so i want to give you a chance to have a victory right now if you want to limit your time today remember this is one of only two days of the seven days where you have a double session in one day or a workshop in one day so if you want to stop now just for today and start tomorrow with beliefs you're welcome to Do so and it'll be a 10-day program for

you if you do it in that format which is fine but let's remind you here's what you've done today you've gotten clear you've got to get disturbed you can't accept things you can't make it it's okay you got to say never again this is done not even a minute another day this is changing step two you got to make a decision about what you do want You don't just be upset you want to be sure what you're after something will get you stay up late get up early and really go for it something that drives

you and then thirdly you got to come up with your initial plan that massive action plan we don't get excited we don't change things by a little action here or there trying something we do it by just going full force at something and taking some massive action right now So today if you want to take some action right now review what you've done in your journal take an action today turn the cd off come join me tomorrow for beliefs or if you're one of those people that just can't stop that wants to complete this workshop

right now that's as insane and crazy as i am then continue to listen to this tape or grab the next cd And we'll go to step number four finding out the beliefs that control your [Music] behavior [Music] for me [Music] so [Music] so [Music] [Music] Thank you [Music] [Music] so [Music] [Music] so [Music] [Laughter] you