[Music] thank you creating Unstoppable self-confidence self-confidence it's something people talk about all the time when they say why they're not succeeding over and over I hear people say I just don't have enough confidence listen confidence is not something you have it's something you create and you can create it at any moment in time a sense of confidence is nothing but a sense of power within yourself a sense of certainty that you can pull something off and you can create that feeling literally in a moment it's not something that you live with there's no one that
I've ever met that no matter what situation they're in is always confident everybody gets knocked off kilter at times the key is can you turn the confidence on when you need it so you can get the most out of yourself does that make sense so far so you gotta remember that feeling confident is nothing but a state of mind and you can change and create any state you want at any moment in time no matter what's going on around you let me give you some specific examples there are three primary ways that you can create
self-confidence at any moment in time to get the most out of yourself and produce the results you really want approach number one you're familiar with it's called physiology you've got to remember that any feeling you've ever had in your body whether it be fear anxiety concern depression frustration or ecstasy power unstoppability confidence success those emotions any emotion you feel comes from the way you use your physical body the only way you can feel anything is by the way you move the way you breathe your facial expressions so if you're not feeling confident you don't have
to intellectually try and pump yourself up because it doesn't always work I'm sure you've tried it times to go well I need to be confident I know I should be confident but you're still not there well let me tell you the quickest way to get confident is to change your physiology radically listen in our seminars around the country those Unleash the Power Within programs we take people through a first evening we call fear into power and it's an experience we get you to change your conditioning and feel totally confident in an area you normally you're
totally afraid of so at the broadcast site we use a firewalk experience where everyone walks across the fire between twelve hundred and two thousand degrees burning hot coals and in the theaters we have people actually learn how to break through wood karate style and they do it in about 15 minutes and it requires not only confidence as you might guess but competence to do something that most people take two or three years to learn how to do in a few minutes now the purpose of this is to get people in a state of being totally
strong and confident even though they were totally afraid lacking confidence only moments before let me tell you something to get yourself across a bed of burning hot coals or to smashed through some wood even though you might be tiny and small or what is much bigger than you've ever done before I got to tell you something to do that you got to make a major change in your state major now let me tell you how we do that the number one way we do this is we get people to move their bodies with a level
of intensity and power that they probably never experienced before remember earlier in these tapes I said to you that emotion is created by motion the way you move your body physically the way you breathe your facial expressions instantly affects your emotional state the way you feel and the way you think so if you need confidence you must move in a confident way you must literally put yourself at level 10 or above remember those conversations so what I do with people is literally I'll take somebody who's comes up to the fire and they go oh gosh
I really don't think I could do this and I say and I couldn't do it either if I talk like you right now stand up breathe strong take a huge deep breath in blow it out hard what I want you to say the word yes and then go yes I said no no yes and I have him yell they go yes say it again yes and pretty soon they feel incredibly strong and I say walk and they go okay and it's like instantly a moment ago they were totally afraid now they have the confidence to
do it the only difference was changing their state of mind and Emotion by changing the way they're using their body but I do it radically major explosive changes in other words if I was going to make a gesture I wouldn't just like reach my hand out towards you I'd snap it out there that's the kind of state of confidence I'm talking about are you following me in other words you've got to move deliberately as if you are absolutely totally in control you know you can create any result you want if you meet someone who's confident
you know it before they open their mouth don't you can't you tell by the way they move by the way they speak listen what if when you turn these tapes on I said um well um I want to thank you for listening um I'm um Tony Robbins and um I want to share with you over the next um 30 days um how you could have um well you know uh Absolute Total um self-confidence you can go get rid of this guy what am I doing what's going on here who is this guys are you on
drugs what's the deal see the bottom line is I communicate rapidly because I'm confident is that I'm confident no confident that's what I'm talking about hopefully I'm competent too but the bottom line is I'm just letting it go out of that state of confidence though ideas pop up this whole set of tapes have been designed to help you get results Without Limits I didn't sit here and say okay no I'm going to say this and then I'll say that and then I'll put it in this order I want you and I have a relationship that
moves you this whole set of programs comes from my ability to say I'm confident I know I can reach this person if I didn't believe that you and I couldn't have this conversation right now but sometimes I don't feel confident sometimes I don't feel like I know what I'm going to say next have you ever been there what I do at that time is act as if I know what I'm doing which is a useful approach now you might say well you're teaching people to be confident but not confident I got news for you if
you're confident enough you can develop the competence but if you're competent and you don't have confidence you'll never succeed there are many competent people who could accomplish incredible results but they're missing the confidence am I suggesting to you to be foolhardy know what I'm suggesting to you is learn how to turn on the confidence rapidly use enough of it to learn what you need to know to be competent and effective and produce the results but you'd be surprised how much more you know than you realize if you really get yourself in the right State of
Mind does that make sense try it try moving your body in a confident way in fact try it right now please stand up again if you're in the car it'll be a little bit more difficult but oh no no no don't sit back down some of you started to stand up and you sat back now don't do that I'm there I'm watching I'm telling you stand up and what I want you to do is just try something stand the way you be standing if you felt unstoppably confident breathe the way be breathing if you felt
unstoppably confident really go for it put the kind of expression on your face like you'd have if you were unstoppably confident and make some gestures actually move your hands out with some Powers if you're trying to make a point with real power and when you know that what you're going to say is going to be effective and just notice how that feels say something say yes and the tone of voice is somebody who is totally confident don't go yes with some power and just feel how the feels in your body get a sense of it
turn on more intensity than you would normally use with another person just feel it in your body so you feel what it's like you want to be able to turn it on just by turning your body on this is critical with this as a power you can go from being afraid to strong in a matter of moments now try something really stupid and silly while you're standing there I'd like you to walk around your room and the way I'd like you to do that is I want you to imagine there's a cape shooting off the
back of your back I'm gonna have this call we call this a cape walk now if nothing else has felt stupid up until now this one is guaranteed to assist you in this process what I want you to do is stand up pretend there's a cape back there shoulders are back and I want you to walk around just walk around a circle but like you got this cape flowing back there with a sense of Pride and power they go I'm not going to do this listen only those who are truly secure can participate in this
exercise all right go for it try it come on walk around and just notice what it feels like seriously walk around and knows how it feels to have a cape on your back and from that state even though it seems humorous try it right now while you're listening to me walk around and feel what it feels like there's this cape flowing off your back there and notice what happens in terms of your confidence even though you may be laughing do you feel a little stronger are you more upright do you feel more alive just know
this you can sit back down now don't sit on your cape bottom line is this if you are making gestures with certainty if you're moving with certainty with some acceleration with some power if you speak with that kind of tempo you will feel confident no matter how you're feeling a few moments ago if you want to feel like you have a lack of confidence move not only slowly because slowly could still be confident move slowly let's move with hesitation speak with uh uh hesitation and within a short period of time you can cause yourself to
not only feel bored with yourself but also to actually feel like you can't accomplish anything in essence remember this using your physical body effectively can put you in a state of confidence no matter what was happening around you no matter how intense the situation no matter how scary no matter how difficult you always have that resource don't ever say to yourself again of confidence break out of that gel if you don't feel like you have confidence create it right now it's not a thing that somebody gave you years ago it's not something you missed out
on it's something you create by the way you speak by the way you move by the way you gesture that's one here's number two control your mental focus remember what you focus on is going to determine how you feel so if you focus constantly on how things might not work out and you look at in your brain all the possibilities of well what this doesn't work or what if that doesn't happen if that's your mental focus of course you're going to lack confidence remember we experience whatever we focus on so if you're focusing on how
things won't work you're going to feel the pain that you associate to that you're going to create a tremendous amount of doubt and then it usually becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy you don't get what you want let me give you a kind of a simple example I'd like you to try something please listen and please do this what I want you to do is think of something you really want to have happen in your future something like to have or do or be and what I'd like you to do is hope hope that you'll get this
to happen in your life okay try it think of something you really want in your life something you really want to have happen and hope it'll happen notice how it feels when you hope it'll happen you may even notice what you say to yourself and you hope something will happen now what I want you to do is get out of that state completely get out of state for a second and now let's have you think about the same thing you want to have happen in your life but this time I want you to expect that
it will happen absolutely totally expected know it okay and when you know it's going to happen I want you to notice what happens to the pictures in your mind as you think about it what's different I want you to notice the difference in your body absolutely expect it will happen you expect this will occur you absolutely know it now I got a question for you is there a difference in how you feel in your body first of all and I think you'll find the answer is yes in addition is there a difference in even how
you visualize these two things in your mind there are several distinctions that I make usually when I ask people what the difference is between their hoping and they're expecting invariably a number one distinction is people tell me things like well I noticed that when I was hoping that the picture was dim or it was dark or it was gray or as black and white or or it was two pictures I saw myself succeeding but I also saw the possibility of failing versus when I expected I saw just one picture I saw it happening interesting when
you focus on it just happening you feel confident when you focus on it might happen or it might not happen you don't feel so confident is that fair to say also when people focus on things that they're expecting many times they put it in color the other thing that commonly comes up is people say things like well when I was hoping I felt kind of passive and what I was expecting I felt active I felt like I needed to do something interesting was that true for you the reason is whatever we focus on we get
so if you're focusing on two possibilities your brain is getting different neural associations it's going could be painful could be pleasurable your brain doesn't know what to do it doesn't feel confident but when you expect and focus on one result and you say this is what it is I'm going to accomplish this I expect it immediately your level of self-confidence goes up and you feel active immediately because your brain says hey if I do this I can get some pleasure in my life does that make sense that's the process we're talking about we must control
our focus and one way to do it of course is to control our focus by controlling the questions we ask ourselves invariably people who have a lot of Doubt ask questions are created they say things like well could I really get this done I wonder or God I wonder if this will get screwed up too versus coming from the place of saying how can I get this done or better what's the best way I can get this done see when something comes up for me if I want to be confident I don't say gosh do
you think I can really pull this off ask myself what's the best way to get this done and enjoy the process Now by doing that listen to the previous supposition there the presupposition is my mind's going to focus on how to get it done I'm going to start expecting it's going to get done I'm going to feel confident versus saying will it work or will it not in which case I start focusing on two different possibilities and I lose my confidence are you following me good now third way that we can control our focus is
just to change our core beliefs and we've already talked about how to do this over and over again if you walk around in life believing that the only way you can feel confident is if you've already accomplished something you got a problem you're limiting yourself to the number of things you can ever feel confident about and succeed in other words some people say well how can I be confident when I've never done it before listen I feel confident all kinds of things I've never done before you say well that's because you're screwed up no that's
not why it is it's because I come from a belief system that says this that if I can imagine it I can achieve it so if I can even imagine it I know I can achieve it and that allows me to be confident plus I have a belief system that says if I'm committed there's always a way to make it work and no matter how tough the situation is if I don't know how to make it work somebody else does and I can get their help so I come from that place and that allows me
to be confident I know I can get help I know if I'm committed there's a way to do it and I know that anything in the past I've really been able to imagine accomplishing and finding a role model for I can accomplish Hey listen everything you do now you once weren't good at everything you do now there was a time when you had not done it why wait to get confident besides that I know I can be confident about what I'm about to begin because I know look if it doesn't work out I'll learn something
and that makes me feel confident because that learning will allow me to be better in the future in other words set yourself up to be able to be confident again I'm not suggesting to be foolhardy I'm just telling you how to turn confidence on when you need it and most of the time you do need it so key question a lot of people ask me is well how can I create that level of belief I understand I can change my body but how can I create that belief so I wouldn't have to work at it
well there's a simple process that I teach people I call it my success cycle and it's for me is my way of explaining why people who succeed seem to continue to succeed and get even stronger and people who fail seem to go down a downward spiral why do the rich get richer and the poor get poorer not just turn in terms of rich or poor financially but Rich meaning mental emotional social spiritual intellectual physiological and financial I put a copy of the drawing of My Success cycle there on your summary now if you take a
look at it you'll see that there are four elements that I think affect the quality of our lives and I've got them represented there by those four boxes up in the top left hand corner there you should see the word potential what's the potential of any human being I personally believe it absolutely is unlimited none of us even come close to scratching our real potential the second element that affects human performance is our actions up there in the Box in the right hand corner third element that affects performance are the actual results that we've gotten
in other words what's the impact of our present actions and potential being utilized and finally the fourth element that affects performance is our beliefs and you'll see that down in the left hand corner in that box and you notice that all these boxes have arrows that connect them and they're all pointing in a particular direction going clockwise as if this was a continuous cycle how does it work well number one what's the potential of any human being again unlimited but do most people's results in life that bottom right hand corner box to most people's results
reflect that level of potential I would say no way what's the problem you might say I see what it is Tony it's that second box at the top they don't take enough what action I think that's true in many cases but that's not the only problem there are a lot of people who go out there and take a lot of action and still get lousy results why action by itself is great but it is not enough hey if you're in sales and you go out and make a hundred cold calls because you're doing lousy but
you go out in a state of mind where you don't expect anyone's going to buy and you turn to people and say things like you wouldn't want to buy anything from me would you maybe you don't say that verbally but maybe your face says that because you don't expect them to is that going to affect your results you better believe it's going to you're going to get lousy results in other words success starts with our beliefs if you look at that bottom left-hand box that is the core of your performance think about it see the
potential is there but if for some reason you start out with some limiting beliefs like well I don't have that much self-confidence anyway or I don't have the background or I've never done this before so I probably won't succeed anyway if you have that belief are you likely to tap a lot of your potential highly unlikely now if you don't think you're going to succeed you're not using much potential are you likely to take Massive Action hardly now when you tap a little bit of potential and you only take a little bit of action what
kind of results do you get a little bit of results if any now what does that do to your brain and your beliefs your brain goes see I told you so now you have this reinforcing belief pattern because it points back to that experience so what happens you have even less belief you have even less potential you take even less action if that's possible you get even worse results and now you're truly locked into the downward spiral to the point where now you start looking at how can you do the very least to get by
that's called death rattle to personal success the opposite is also true too sometimes people have an experience in life where for some reason they get a result or something happens and they begin to absolutely believe not just hope but know that they can accomplish something when that happens whether because you changed your body or you had a new experience you're going to tap a lot more potential when you know you're going to succeed aren't you and therefore you're going to probably take a lot more action knowing you're going to succeed you're inspired you're going to
go for it when you take a lot of action and use a lot of your potential what kind of results do you get usually great results when you get great results what does that do to your belief your brain goes see I told you you would succeed and sure enough now your beliefs are even stronger so what do you do you tap even more potential you take Massive Action and you get even greater results what happens your beliefs even stronger and now you're in that success cycle you're in that place where you literally have momentum
that drives you to a whole new level that's how beliefs are formed you might say well how can I get results though what do I do if I'm on the downward spiral well you don't change your potential that's always there you don't just take action although that's a great first step you've got to change your beliefs and one of the easiest ways to do that is change your results in advance you might say what do you mean well let me give you an example would you please stop what you're doing right now and do this
exercise with me change your focus and pay a hundred percent attention you're going to like this here's what I want you to do please stand up just for a moment come on stand up there come on and what I'd like you to do is put your feet together so they're pointing straight ahead then what I want you to do is just take your right arm and bring it straight out in front of you and point your right index finger directly in front of you so you're pointing straight ahead when I say now what I'd like
you to do is turn clockwise as far as you can comfortably without stretching yourself or pushing yourself or really hurting yourself okay ready go ahead and turn clockwise now as far as you can and just notice where you end up good now come back again okay drop your right arm close your eyes and when I want you to do something really simple some simple neurosociative conditioning now it's going to be simpler than anything we've done so far all I want you to do is imagine that you're bringing your right arm back up again and I
want you to imagine it so vividly that you actually feel as if and see your hand coming up in front of you straight out pointing in front of you again in other words don't actually do it but make it so real that it feels as if it's happening and you can see it occurring then in your mind's eye see and feel yourself turning clockwise again only this time going twice as far and make it effortless and expect to enjoy it good and then come back around in your mind and again in your mind see and
feel your arm coming up in front of you with your finger pointing straight ahead and when I say now turn clockwise and see and feel now don't actually do it but make it so real it feels like it's happening see and feel yourself again turning and this time going three times as far as you did the first time excellent and now do it a third time do it very rapidly and feel and expect yourself to go almost four times as far when you turn almost all the way around very good now open your eyes bring
your right arm back up physically this time with your finger pointing straight ahead and when I say now turn clockwise and go as far as you can without hurting yourself and watch how much further you go this time go for it if you're like most people you've gone much further in fact the average person goes at least a third further than they did before so I got a question for you go ahead and have a seat question is this what happened here did your potential change no you always had the potential to turn that far
did you like make major changes in your actions no way you didn't make major changes in your actions but your results did change why because by rehearsing in your mind over and over again you conditioned your mind to believe to feel certain that it could go much further you created an association in your nervous system that said this will feel good and I can go further and now you've gone much further in fact if you did it again you could go even further again so this is a perfect metaphor for what has to happen in
life if you want to succeed you need to rehearse over and over succeeding until it's so real for you your brain begins to believe it now you'll tap more potential you'll take better action in real life you'll get better results then it'll reinforce your belief and now you're off and running does this make sense this is the way to create lifelong Unstoppable self-confidence this is what I did for myself because I was on the downward spiral all I did was create the results in my head so vividly I began to believe them when I believe
them I tap more potential I took more action I started to get those real results in my life emotionally economically in my relationships and virtually every area of my life and let me leave you with two more things on confidence one if you really want to be confident know what causes people to lack in it focusing too much on yourself and not enough on other people will guarantee that you'll lack confidence what do I mean I mean some people lack confidence because they pick themselves apart they spend all day every day analyzing themselves why did
I do this why don't I do that how come I never accomplish these things they ask lousy questions they get lousy answers and they create a tremendous amount of self-doubt do you want to have more confidence stop analyzing yourself so much and focus on other people and how you can contribute to them and as you start giving to other people you'll feel more confident about what you can even do for yourself does that make sense and finally this you can feel confident if all you do is remember some of the things you've accomplished in your
life you are a successful competent person you've done a lot of things in your life extremely well no matter who you are what your background is there are things in this world that you are really good at things you've really accomplished in your life that you've got to be proud of every human being I meet I know is my Superior because I know all of us in life have focused our attention on various things and whatever you focused on a lot you're good at and every human being I meet in my life I know that
I'm superior to in some way as well and that makes me feel confident as well knowing I can learn from other people and that I can give too so in order to help yourself really have reasons to feel confident not just put yourself in state but to feel like you got reasons all you've got to do is manage your memories better pull out some of your memories of tough situations in your life well you didn't think you could pull it off but you turned it around you have some of those don't you situations where you
think I can never figure a way to pull this off and yet you did you need to remember more of those and less of the times when you felt overwhelmed what I want you to do is take out your success journal and your assignment for day is simple I want you to come up with five of your greatest successes in life things where you've really turned it on maybe some situations where it looked really dark looked really difficult and you didn't know how you're going to pull it off but you did and all I want
you to do is write down a paragraph or so about each one of those in other words pull out of your memory files some of the references that can show you that you deserve to be confident that you're confident and confident that you can make things happen even in the toughest of times and use those examples to remind yourself in the future that whatever's going on you can find a way do that today and have some fun filtering through your memories and picking five of your favorites till tomorrow live with passion [Music]
